u/Dehydrated-Broccoli

FTM (34F) here. Had my first OB appointment today, she told me not to:

1. Have sex
2. Lift weights or do strenuous exercise

..for the first 3 months. She said only walks for now. I want to know if this is a slightly outdated approach?

I’m not preparing for a Hyrox or anything, but I do regular strength training three times a week. Will I have to stop?

Also no sex for 3 months?!

Are we being overly cautious (nothing wrong with that but just wondering) or is this normal?

Ps: I have no history of losses or any medical conditions.

Edit: Thanks for your reassurance. I'm definitely going to get second opinions and continue with my lifestyle and light workouts till I'm told otherwise.

I've seen a few of these posts on Reddit but they've been more specific to the States, hence asking here too. Found out yesterday that I'm pregnant. My guess would be I'm about 4 weeks in. It was planned, our 2nd month of trying - but I'd got a false negative last I checked, so my delayed (or no) period was a surprise.

I've recently moved to Bangalore and I don't have an OBGYN yet. I'm also not taking any supplements or prenatals, or haven't had any tests done.

1. I want to know what my next steps should be. Should I just walk into a standard maternity hospital like Cloud9 and ask them what to do? I will be planning a visit end of this week.

2. When does the first ultrasound happen?

3. Any recommendations of good OBGYNs around the Indiranagar area in Bangalore would be hugely helpful too.

Context: I wanted to be a mom of 2 by 35. I'm already 34, and we just started trying for our first. It was somewhat a mutual decision. Life got in the way. We prioritised moving cities for a better life, I didn't push hard enough to do it sooner, etc.

Anyway we're trying now and that's what matters.

Cut to now: We're 3 months into TTC, which I know is soon, but I still get impatient and disheartened at every negative result. I can't help it, though I try.

However, every time my husband wants to have sex which is not around my ovulation cycle, I get a bit annoyed. Sex to me has become a means to an end. I really couldn't care less about sexual pleasure or satisfaction right now.

And I know it's unreasonable to expect my husband to be on the same page. I also know that’s not exactly the healthiest state of mind for a happy relationship. But as someone who has wanted to be a mom so so bad, I’m just locked in right now.

I really do wish that we had started sooner. I partly blame myself for not pushing harder. And partly mad at my husband for not wanting it as bad as me. I would’ve dropped everything and said “let’s do it”, if he said he was ready a year or two ago.

My concern is, as we get deeper into our TTC journey, I don’t want to become bitter about this.

We didn’t prioritise it together as a couple, and now I don’t want to play blame games. I hope I never have to reach that stage.

Hello Ladies. My pelvic floor is weak and I pee a little when I sneeze or skip (no kids), but I didn't know there were pelvic floor therapists who can help with the issue.

Any recommendations near Indiranagar?

We've all enjoyed queefs but I was just sitting leaning full forward and my fart travelled up my entire buttcrack and out my undies. What do we call those?!

First time TTC and this was our 3rd month of trying. I've noticed exaggerated mood swings around my periods, and about 70% of them stem from not being successful at conception.

I'd become too focused on getting pregnant, and too disappointed when I wasn't. So recently, I listed down things I wouldn't be able to do if I did conceive / had a kid (mostly drugs, travel and long naps), and I've been focusing on enjoying those more in these months, while I can.

This has made my failed attempts a little less miserable and honestly, even given me something to look forward to. I know I'm early in the journey and this won't work for everyone, but I just wanted to share what has helped me.

Since the last 1-2 years, my (34F) mood swings before, during and even slightly after my periods have become absolutely intolerable. My lows have become extreme, where even thoughts of su*cide have briefly entered my mind. Not that it's something I've considered for myself, just that it's something I kind of understand now. There are days of crying followed by days of numbness.

While my periods are short and relatively less painful, I've started dreading them for the mood swings.

I've wanted kids for a while now (wanted to have my first before I turned 32) but life got in the way and husband and I just started trying. I don't know, it feels like my body is pushing and punishing me for letting those eggs go waste.

I don't know why it's become so bad or how it'll become better. I wish there was an explanation.