u/Diamonds-pearls7 — reddlx

Is my Oscar fish sleeping or extremely stressed during a water change? I’m really worried.

Hi everyone,
I’m really worried about my Oscar and could use some advice.
I’ve had him for about a month, and this morning was the first time I actually took him out of the aquarium during a water change. Normally, I just siphon out the old water and add fresh water without removing him. Today, I thought it would be better to keep him in a bucket while I cleaned the tank so he wouldn’t have to sit in dirty water.
After I put him back, he started lying in an unusual position. At first, I genuinely thought he had died, and I started crying. Then I read that Oscars can sometimes lie still when they’re sleeping or when they’re extremely stressed, so now I’m not sure what’s going on.
For some context, my aquarium is very basic. It doesn’t have any plants, driftwood, rocks, or other decorations—just water and the filter/pump. I’m wondering if the lack of hiding places could be making him feel even more stressed.
I’m attaching a photo. Does this look like normal resting/sleeping behavior, or does he seem severely stressed or sick? Is there anything I can do right now to help him calm down and recover?
I really love this fish, and I’m honestly scared of losing him. Any advice would mean a lot. Thank you.

u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 1 day ago

▲ 2 r/Posture

Does this look like a buffalo hump or just normal neck posture?

Hi everyone,
I’m 22F, and while trying on my saree for my brother’s wedding, I noticed something at the base of my neck in side-profile photos. I had never paid attention to it before, but once I saw it, I couldn’t stop focusing on it.
I don’t feel a hard lump or a distinct mass when I touch it. It’s not painful, and I don’t have any other symptoms. It just looks like there’s a slight bump where my neck meets my upper back in certain angles.
Now I’m wondering if this is:
A buffalo hump?
Just bad posture/forward head posture?
Or simply a normal neck contour that I’ve never noticed before?
I know this might sound silly, but I think seeing myself in photos has triggered a bit of body-image anxiety. I was trying to look my best for the wedding, and now I can’t stop staring at this area. 😅
I’ve attached a few side-profile pictures. I’d really appreciate honest opinions—does this look concerning, or am I overanalyzing something that’s actually normal?
Thank you so much. ❤️

u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 1 day ago

▲ 1 r/ChristUniversity

Is Christ University a good choice for an MBA?

I haven’t applied yet, but I’m seriously considering it. I’d love to hear from current students, alumni, or anyone who knows about the program.
How are the placements, faculty, campus life, and overall ROI? Would you recommend it? Seeking advice only from MBA students (current students or alumni)
Thanks in advance!

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u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 2 days ago

▲ 2 r/clat

23, B.Sc. Aviation Management Graduate, Considering 3-Year LL.B. – What Should I Do?

I’m 23 years old and have completed a B.Sc. in Aviation Management (non-engineering background). I have an interest in working in the aviation regulatory sector and was considering a career path that could eventually help me work with the DGCA in a legal or regulatory capacity.
Recently, I found out that I am eligible for a 3-year LL.B. program. I’m also preparing for UPSC, so law seems like a useful degree for both my career interests and my preparation.
The problem is that I learned about the CUET PG Law admissions process too late this year, which means I would have to wait until next year to apply to many government law universities. I was considering joining UPES for its 3-year LL.B. program, but I’ve come across a lot of negative reviews regarding placements, fees, and overall value for money.
I’m feeling quite confused because I don’t want to waste another year. Should I:
• Join UPES this year and start my LL.B. immediately?
• Take a drop year and prepare for CUET PG Law for better government law colleges?
• Appear for CLAT at 23 and explore that route? (Should I opt for 5 years law path) I am very confused and juggled between two options.
• Consider any other alternatives that I may not be aware of?
I would really appreciate advice from law students, lawyers, UPSC aspirants, or anyone familiar with legal careers in the aviation/regulatory sector. What would be the most practical option in my situation?
Thank you.

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u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 11 days ago

▲ 51 r/asktransgender

Would it be disrespectful for a non-trans person to use the trans flag heart?

Hi everyone,
I’m from India, and while creating my Reddit profile, I noticed the heart-shaped flag accessories for avatars. I know what the different flags represent, including the transgender flag.
I’m a straight woman and do not identify as LGBTQ+, but I genuinely respect and support the community. The reason I’m asking is that I really love the look of the trans flag heart, especially the soft blue, pink, and white colors.
I understand that pride flags have a deeper meaning and represent real struggles, identities, and communities. Because of that, I don’t want to use something in a way that could come across as disrespectful or offensive.
Would it be okay for someone like me to use the trans flag heart on my profile if it’s coming from a place of support and appreciation, rather than because I personally identify as trans? Or would that be seen as inappropriate or misleading?

Sorry if this comes across as ignorant, insensitive, or if this question has been asked before. That’s not my intention I just wanted to ask respectfully and hear your perspectives. Thank you. 🤍

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u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 12 days ago

▲ 89 r/AmIOverreacting

AIO for blocking my boyfriend after he secretly took photos of my mom’s old Miss India pictures and then texted me about how “sexy” she was?

I (22F from India) have been dating my boyfriend (25M) for about 3 months. I live alone and recently invited him over to my place for the first time.
For some background, I have a few framed photos of my mom around the house including some from when she was younger. In her 20s she participated in Miss India and I have a few of those photos displayed on my wall.

While he was visiting, I noticed him staring at those pictures. He kept saying things like my mom was a bombshell and how sexy she was. I felt uncomfortable immediately and told him multiple times to stop making comments like that. Instead of stopping he kept bringing it up throughout the visit.

What really crossed the line was what happened next.
While I was in the kitchen he took photos of my mom’s framed pictures without asking me. I didn’t know he had done it at the time.
After he left he started messaging me saying he couldn’t stop thinking about my mom and how sexy she was. That’s when I realized he had secretly taken photos of the pictures on my wall. He later admitted he took them while I wasn’t in the room.
At that point I felt completely disgusted. It wasn’t just the comments. I had repeatedly told him I was uncomfortable and he ignored me. Then he secretly photographed my mother’s pictures without permission and continued messaging me about her afterward.
I blocked him immediately.

I’ve been feeling anxious, disgusted, and honestly a little creeped out. The fact that someone I trusted would secretly take those photos, ignore my boundaries, and then refuse to delete them is really bothering me. I haven’t told any of my friends or family because I feel embarrassed and don’t even know how to explain it

Now I’m wondering if I overreacted or if this is as creepy and inappropriate as it feels. The fact that he still has those pictures on his phone is what bothers me the most.

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u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 17 days ago

▲ 128 r/hinduism

Visited Banaras and felt a deep connection toward Shiva bhakti looking for guidance on beginning the path properly

I’m a 22-year-old unmarried woman, and I’ve always done regular daily puja at home (aarti and Durga Chalisa). Recently, I visited Banaras, and ever since then I’ve felt deeply drawn toward Shiva bhakti. It’s not about fulfilling desires or asking for material things—I know many people say Shiva bhakti grants wishes, but that honestly isn’t my motivation.
I genuinely feel a strong attraction and devotion toward Lord Shiva and want to follow this path in a sincere and righteous way.

I have a few questions for people who actively follow Shaivism:

-What is the proper way for a woman, especially an unmarried woman, to practice Shiva bhakti?
-Can I keep a small Shivling at home? I have a small round stone Shivling, not one with a stand/base like many people keep.
-I’ve heard many people say that Shivlings should not be kept at home. Is that true? If yes, why?
-How should a small Shivling be cared for and worshipped properly?
-I would like to observe vrats and deepen my devotion. What is the correct way to do so?
-Which mantras should I learn first, and in what order?
-Are there any books you would recommend for someone beginning a serious journey into Shiva bhakti?
-I also feel drawn toward Vishnu bhakti. Is it okay to worship both Shiva and Vishnu together?

One concern I have is that my mother does not support me becoming deeply involved in bhakti. She isn’t against religion, but she worries that if I become too devoted, I might lose interest in worldly responsibilities and detach from normal life. I understand her concern, and I know she means well.
However, I’m a student, and I don’t see devotion as something that would make me abandon my duties. If anything, I want it to help me become a better and more disciplined person.

I would really appreciate guidance from practicing Shaivites or anyone who has walked this path seriously. How did you begin, and what advice would you give to someone starting their journey?

u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 18 days ago

▲ 18 r/OCD

Anyone Else Become Convinced They Have a Disorder Right After Learning About It

I think I might have OCD (self diagnosed not clinically) and I recently read about schizophrenia. Now I keep focusing on whether I hear voices or not and for some reason I am even afraid to search anything about it.

Please dont judge me, I read about this yesterday and now I am scared I keep wondering what if the voice in my head is something else. I dont know if I am making sense but I feel like I am hyper focusing on it.

Let me explain how this started I watched a documentary on YouTube about a large family where out of around 12 brothers 6 or 7 had schizophrenia I dont mean any disrespect at all but after watching it I became really anxious.

I dont see shapes or things that arent there and I am not hearing anything unusual I am just scared After that documentary I even had a dream about it and I think that made me panic even more.
I am 22 and ever since then I keep thinking what if I have schizophrenia What if something is wrong with me What if I end up hurting my family in some way even though I dont want to.
This post is not meant to be disrespectful in any manner. I am just scared and looking for some reassurance or advice from people who may have experienced something similar.

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u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 18 days ago

▲ 2 r/swiggy

Instamart damaged items, no refund, no pickup update

I ordered a parcel from Instamart which had 4 items and the total amount was around ₹1,011. Unfortunately, 2 items from the parcel were damaged.
When I raised a complaint, I was told that someone would come for a reverse pickup and after collecting the damaged products, my money would be refunded. The same night, when I contacted Instamart support through Swiggy chat, the support person assured me that the damaged items would be collected the next day at 10 AM (11th June).
However, nobody came. When I raised the issue again, I was suddenly told that I was not eligible for a pickup or refund. There was no prior disclaimer or information about any such condition. They simply refused to collect the damaged products or refund the amount.

After sending multiple emails to Swiggy, I came to know about NCH and filed a complaint there. Right after that, I sent another email to Swiggy grievance mentioning my NCH docket number. Today, I received an email from Swiggy saying they will collect the product and reverse the payment.

The issue is, I received this email around 3-4 hours ago, and it’s already 7:14 PM on 12th June. I still have no update about when they will actually come for the pickup. There is no contact number, and even after repeatedly emailing them to collect it from my address, I have received no response.

The amount is not the main issue here. It’s the amount of stress and effort a customer has to go through for a simple damaged product complaint.

Has anyone else faced a similar situation with Swiggy Instamart? After receiving such an email, how long did it take for them to actually collect the product and process the refund? Or am I still being dragged around by the company?

u/Diamonds-pearls7 — 24 days ago