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Zanima me, kakšen je vaš okvir oz. kaj se vam zdi razumno glede odstotka same plače (torej brez dodatkov za prevoz, malico ipd.), ki ga namenite za mesečni obrok kredita za nepremičnino. Vem, da je to zelo individualno, vsak ima svoje stroške, nekateri imate otroke, drugi ne, eni več zapravljajo za sprotne stvari, drugi manj. Zato me ne zanima "pravilo", ki velja za vse, ampak bolj kaj je za vas osebno občutek "normalno" oz. obvladljivo in kaj se vam zdi že preveč tvegano.

Zanima me tudi, če bi se še enkrat odločali bi vzeli večji ali manjši kredit, kot ste ga dejansko? In zakaj?

Kako danes gledate na to, da moški pristopi do dekleta, ki ga ne pozna, ker mu je simpatično? Recimo nekje v mestu, trgovini, kavarni, klubu, na kakšnem dogodku itd. Ne mislim nekega vsiljivega osvajanja ali teženja, ampak normalen pristop par besed in če vidiš da ni interesa greš dalje.

Par mesecev sem bral precej tujih Reddit postov na to temo in se mi je zdelo zanimivo, kako zelo različni so bili odzivi. Ene so pisale, da jim je čisto ok oziroma celo všeč, če normalno pristopi. Druge pa, da jih že sam pristop neznanca spravi v neprijeten položaj oziroma da tega sploh ne želijo in da naj tega niti ne poskušajo.

Seveda razumem, da je precej odvisno tudi od situacije. Če ima nekdo slušalke, očitno hiti, dela oz. je sam nekje ponoči itd., verjetno ni ravno primeren trenutek. Prav tako se mi zdi samoumevno da če dekle pokaže da ni zainteresirano to sprejmeš in ne vztrajaš.

Ampak ravno zato me zanima, kje je danes neka meja. Se vam zdi normalen, spoštljiv pristop v živo še vedno čisto ok ali bi raje, da sploh ne pristopi, če se prej ne poznata oziroma ni že nekega jasnega signala z njene strani?

Dekleta: kako se ve počutite, ko do vas pristopi neznan moški? Je pomembno predvsem, kako pristopi, ali vas že sam pristop moti?

Moški pa: ali danes sploh še pristopate do deklet v živo ali imate občutek, da jih je bolje pustiti pri miru?

A ima še kdo občutek, da je spoznavanje novih prijateljev vedno težje?

Z ljudmi se sicer normalno pogovarjam, ampak največji problem je, da sploh ne vem, kje spoznati nove ljudi. Zdi se mi, da ima večina že svojo družbo, službo, partnerja in ustaljeno življenje, zato je težko kar nekam priti in se vključiti.

Ne iščem nujno neke ogromne skupine prijateljev, bolj ljudi za kakšno kavo, sprehod, pijačo, izlet ali čisto navaden pogovor. Zanima me, kako ste vi kot odrasli spoznali nove prijatelje. Prek hobijev, službe, interneta, kakšnih dogodkov?

Dobrodošel je vsak nasvet ali pa samo potrditev, da nisem edini, ki se mu to zdi težko. 😅

Živjo,

ima kdo izkušnje s strokovnim izpitom za inšpektorja? Zanima me predvsem, kako težek je v primerjavi z ZUP izpitom oz. prekrškovnim izpitom.

Je inšpektorski izpit bistveno težji, ker vključuje še inšpekcijski in prekrškovni del, ali je razlika v praksi manjša?

Vsepovsod na drugih “forumih” sem našel samo da je ali izjemni lahek (kar sicer dvomim) ali izjemno težek.

že v naprej hvala za odgovore :)

Hi everyone,

I’m currently looking to buy a Garmin watch and I’m having a hard time deciding between these three models:

Garmin Venu 4 – €439.99

Garmin Forerunner 970 – €639.99

Garmin Fenix 8 – €699.99

I would use the watch for everyday wear, health tracking, sleep, stress, Body Battery, workouts, running and hiking. I like a nice AMOLED display and I would like the watch to look good enough for daily use, not only for sports.

I run occasionally and would like to improve, but I’m not a competitive runner. I like training data and analysis, but I don’t want to buy something just because it is technically “the best” if I won’t realistically use it fully.

I also go hiking, so navigation or maps would occasionally be useful, especially on longer hikes. However, I’m not sure how often I would actually use full maps on the watch. I don’t need the most rugged outdoor watch, but I also don’t want to buy something too basic and regret it later.

So my question is:

Which watch would you choose for my use case: Venu 4, Forerunner 970 or Fenix 8?

And the more important question:

Would I realistically regret saving money and getting the Venu 4, or would I regret spending too much on the Forerunner/Fenix if I don’t end up using them fully?

Zanima me, kako se drugi spopadate s samskostjo, predvsem v obdobju po koncu šole, ko si že zaposlen in počasi vstopaš v neko bolj “odraslo” življenje.

Star sem 25 let. S samskostjo načeloma nimam večjih težav. Imam veliko hobijev, ni mi dolgčas in znam biti sam s sabo. So pa dnevi, ko sem zaradi tega, da sem sam, precej slabe volje. Potem pa so tudi dnevi, ko na to čisto pozabim in mi je povsem v redu.

Trenutno sem v fazi, ko sem končal faks in sem slabo leto zaposlen, zato vedno bolj razmišljam o tem, kako naprej. Ena izmed stvari, ki me malo teži, je bivanje (trenutno živim doma). Ne bi nujno rad živel sam oziroma bi mogoče tudi, ampak glede na trenutno stanje na nepremičninskega trgu je to precej težko.

Po drugi strani se mi zdi, da je življenje v paru v marsičem lažje, ne samo finančno, ampak tudi zaradi vseh stvari, ki pridejo zraven: izleti, skupno načrtovanje, vsakdan, družba, skupno preživanje časa, gledanje filmov itd.

Zanima me tudi, kako se ne sekirate preveč zaradi tega, da ste samski, in kako se s tem sprijaznite. Sam imam namreč včasih občutek, da malo izgubljam upanje, da bom “kar nekje” srečal pravo osebo, kot ljudje pogosto radi rečejo. Saj vem, da se lahko zgodi, ampak mi je včasih težko verjeti v to.

Ne gre za to, da bi bil obupan ali da bi mi bilo neznosno biti samski. Bolj me zanima, kako drugi gledate na to obdobje in kako ste se s tem soočali, sploh če ste bili v podobni situaciji oz. ste.

Živjo,

trenutno že delam v javnem sektorju, ampak ne na ministrstvu, zato me zanima, kako je v praksi z delom na ministrstvih.

Plačni razredi so mi jasni, ker so itak javni, bolj me zanima, kako dejansko funkcionirajo stvari v praksi. Predvsem:

• ali obstajajo kakšna pospešena napredovanja oziroma hitrejše možnosti napredovanja,
• kako realno je napredovanje na zahtevnejše delovno mesto znotraj ministrstva (če nimaš vez npr. iz višjega svetovalca v podsekretarja ali pa tudi navsezadnje iz svetovalca v višjega svetovalca),
• koliko % delovne uspešnosti se v povprečju dobiva (trenutno jo dobivam 6%),
• koliko je možnosti za delo od doma (kolikokrat na teden),
• kakšno je splošno vzdušje.

Vem, da se stvari verjetno precej razlikujejo med ministrstvi in notranjimi enotami, zato me zanimajo predvsem izkušnje iz prve roke.

Hvala!

Hi everyone,

I’m 23M and I have an exam at the end of the month. Over the past few days, I’ve been having an almost panicky feeling that I won’t be able to learn all the material. Rationally, I know I still have enough time, and even if I don’t pass the exam, it objectively wouldn’t be the end of the world. The problem is that my body doesn’t seem to understand that.

During the day, I keep thinking about the exam a lot. I feel tightness in my chest, I wake up during the night, I have nightmares, and sometimes I get a mild feeling like I can’t breathe normally or take a full breath. Basically, it feels like I’m constantly stuck in a stress response.

I also recently ended a kind of situationship that lasted a little over half a year, and I feel like that might be the final straw on top of everything else.

Sleep might also be contributing to it, because lately I’ve been sleeping a little less than 7 hours, sometimes closer to 6.5 hours. The problem is that during the week I can’t really sleep much longer, because I usually go to bed around 9:30 PM and wake up at 4:25 AM. On weekends I can sleep as long as I want, but during the week my schedule is pretty fixed.

I am trying to do things to calm myself down: I meditate every day, take magnesium before bed, and during these more stressful days I’ve also been taking L-theanine. I also try to work out every day, and if I don’t work out, I at least go for a walk.

I want to study normally, but the physical tension and constant rumination are really bothering me. Has anyone had a similar experience? How did you calm your body down when your rational mind already knew there was no real danger? What actually helped you a better study plan, exercise, breathing exercises, therapy, improving sleep quality even when sleep duration is limited, something else?

I’m not just looking for reassurance, but for concrete experiences or advice.

EDIT: I forgot to mention that I’m studying for my master’s degree while working, which is why I get up so early every day.

Hi everyone,

I’m 23M and I have an exam at the end of the month. Over the past few days, I’ve been having an almost panicky feeling that I won’t be able to learn all the material. Rationally, I know I still have enough time, and even if I don’t pass the exam, it objectively wouldn’t be the end of the world. The problem is that my body doesn’t seem to understand that.

During the day, I keep thinking about the exam a lot. I feel tightness in my chest, I wake up during the night, I have nightmares, and sometimes I get a mild feeling like I can’t breathe normally or take a full breath. Basically, it feels like I’m constantly stuck in a stress response.

I also recently ended a kind of situationship that lasted a little over half a year, and I feel like that might be the final straw on top of everything else.

Sleep might also be contributing to it, because lately I’ve been sleeping a little less than 7 hours, sometimes closer to 6.5 hours. The problem is that during the week I can’t really sleep much longer, because I usually go to bed around 9:30 PM and wake up at 4:25 AM. On weekends I can sleep as long as I want, but during the week my schedule is pretty fixed.

I am trying to do things to calm myself down: I meditate every day, take magnesium before bed, and during these more stressful days I’ve also been taking L-theanine. I also try to work out every day, and if I don’t work out, I at least go for a walk.

I want to study normally, but the physical tension and constant rumination are really bothering me. Has anyone had a similar experience? How did you calm your body down when your rational mind already knew there was no real danger? What actually helped you — a better study plan, exercise, breathing exercises, therapy, improving sleep quality even when sleep duration is limited, something else?

I’m not just looking for reassurance, but for concrete experiences or advice.

EDIT: I forgot to mention that I’m studying for my master’s degree while working, which is why I get up so early every day.

Hi everyone,

I’m 23M and I have an exam at the end of the month. Over the past few days, I’ve been having an almost panicky feeling that I won’t be able to learn all the material. Rationally, I know I still have enough time, and even if I don’t pass the exam, it objectively wouldn’t be the end of the world. The problem is that my body doesn’t seem to understand that.

During the day, I keep thinking about the exam a lot. I feel tightness in my chest, I wake up during the night, I have nightmares, and sometimes I get a mild feeling like I can’t breathe normally or take a full breath. Basically, it feels like I’m constantly stuck in a stress response.

I also recently ended a kind of situationship that lasted a little over half a year, and I feel like that might be the final straw on top of everything else.

Sleep might also be contributing to it, because lately I’ve been sleeping a little less than 7 hours, sometimes closer to 6.5 hours. The problem is that during the week I can’t really sleep much longer, because I usually go to bed around 9:30 PM and wake up at 4:25 AM. On weekends I can sleep as long as I want, but during the week my schedule is pretty fixed.

I am trying to do things to calm myself down: I meditate every day, take magnesium before bed, and during these more stressful days I’ve also been taking L-theanine. I also try to work out every day, and if I don’t work out, I at least go for a walk.

I want to study normally, but the physical tension and constant rumination are really bothering me. Has anyone had a similar experience? How did you calm your body down when your rational mind already knew there was no real danger? What actually helped you better study plan, exercise, breathing exercises, therapy, improving sleep quality even when sleep duration is limited, something else?

EDIT: I forgot to mention that I’m studying for my master’s degree while working, which is why I get up so early every day.

Razmišljam, da bi šel na Castle Festival, me py zanima, če se dejansko splača it. Bral sem že nek star post in je kar veliko kritik. Zanima me če se je lani kaj spremenilo je bilo boljše oz. slabše. Prav tako pa me zanimajo plusi in minusi, ter morebiti tudi kakšen nasvet.

hvala že v naprej 😄

Hi everyone,

I 23M was in a kind of situationship with a 27F. We were seeing each other for about half a year, and when we met, we usually had a really nice time together. The problem was that because of her current job, she has very little time, and she can’t just leave that job right now, so we couldn’t see each other often enough for the relationship to develop normally.

She told me that she doesn’t want to enter a relationship right now because she doesn’t have enough time because of this job. She also said that she can’t really get attached if we see each other so rarely. When she changes jobs and has more time, she said we could actually try to start building a relationship. That job change should happen in a little less than a year.

At first, I felt like maybe she was just making excuses and didn’t really want to keep seeing me, rather than actually not having enough time. But when I told her that this was a problem for me and that I didn’t know how to move forward, she got really teary-eyed and said that she also doesn’t feel good about the situation, but that she can’t change it right now.

I started worrying that I would subconsciously wait for her for almost a year without any real clarity about whether this would ever turn into a relationship. I was also afraid that I would keep seeing her for almost a year and then it still wouldn’t become anything. So I pulled away because I got too attached and it was hard for me to stay in that uncertainty.

When I ended contact, I told her that it was killing me that we saw each other so rarely because she had so little time. I also told her to contact me when she changes jobs and has more time, and that I would be really happy if she did. The problem is that I don’t think I explained well enough why I pulled away, so now I’m worried she may have understood it as me not caring anymore or not wanting her.

I do care, because I think she is a really great, and it would be a shame if, because of unclear communication or a poor explanation, all possibilities of something developing between us were completely cut off.

Recently, I messaged her and asked if she wanted to go for a drink, because I wanted to explain in person why I pulled away. At first, she said she had thought about it and that she thinks I probably made the right decision at the time, because I had my reasons, and that maybe it’s best for now if things stay the way they are.

I then explained that I don’t want to force her to go for a drink, and that going for a drink doesn’t mean we have to start seeing each other again. I just wanted to explain why I pulled away. In the end, she wrote that we would find some time to talk. I replied and told her to let me know when she knows what works for her.

Now I don’t know what to do if she doesn’t let me know a time herself. I don’t want to pressure her or come across like I’m chasing her, but at the same time this conversation is important to me. I would like to explain why I pulled away, and if she resents me too much or doesn’t want to talk anymore, that would also help me get some closure.

What would you do? Would you wait for her to suggest a time herself, ask again calmly after a few days, or leave it alone and take it as a sign that it isn’t important enough to her?

Hi everyone,

I was in a kind of situationship with a women. We were seeing each other for about half a year, and when we met, we usually had a really nice time together. The problem was that because of her current job, she has very little time, and she can’t just leave that job right now, so we couldn’t see each other often enough for the relationship to develop normally.

She told me that she doesn’t want to enter a relationship right now because she doesn’t have enough time because of this job. She also said that she can’t really get attached if we see each other so rarely. When she changes jobs and has more time, she said we could actually try to start building a relationship. That job change should happen in a little less than a year.

At first, I felt like maybe she was just making excuses and didn’t really want to keep seeing me, rather than actually not having enough time. But when I told her that this was a problem for me and that I didn’t know how to move forward, she got really teary-eyed and said that she also doesn’t feel good about the situation, but that she can’t change it right now.

I started worrying that I would subconsciously wait for her for almost a year without any real clarity about whether this would ever turn into a relationship. I was also afraid that I would keep seeing her for almost a year and then it still wouldn’t become anything. So I pulled away because I got too attached and it was hard for me to stay in that uncertainty.

When I ended contact, I told her that it was killing me that we saw each other so rarely because she had so little time. I also told her to contact me when she changes jobs and has more time, and that I would be really happy if she did. The problem is that I don’t think I explained well enough why I pulled away, so now I’m worried she may have understood it as me not caring anymore or not wanting her.

I do care, because I think she is a really great, and it would be a shame if, because of unclear communication or a poor explanation, all possibilities of something developing between us were completely cut off.

Recently, I messaged her and asked if she wanted to go for a drink, because I wanted to explain in person why I pulled away. At first, she said she had thought about it and that she thinks I probably made the right decision at the time, because I had my reasons, and that maybe it’s best for now if things stay the way they are.

I then explained that I don’t want to force her to go for a drink, and that going for a drink doesn’t mean we have to start seeing each other again. I just wanted to explain why I pulled away. In the end, she wrote that we would find some time to talk. I replied and told her to let me know when she knows what works for her.

Now I don’t know what to do if she doesn’t let me know a time herself. I don’t want to pressure her or come across like I’m chasing her, but at the same time this conversation is important to me. I would like to explain why I pulled away, and if she resents me too much or doesn’t want to talk anymore, that would also help me get some closure.

What would you do? Would you wait for her to suggest a time herself, ask again calmly after a few days, or leave it alone and take it as a sign that it isn’t important enough to her?

Hi everyone,

I’m 23 years old and I’m in a pretty unclear situation with a 27-year-old woman I met on Tinder in August 2025.

At the beginning, it took us a few meetings to really click. I didn’t make the first move right away because I didn’t want to rush things. We were seeing each other occasionally, usually about once a week, whenever our schedules allowed it. Over time, we realized that we had a lot of shared interests, values, and similarities. We both like music, especially similar kinds of music, hiking, an active lifestyle, nature, having a drink in a relaxed setting, and similar things. She is smart, ambitious, disciplined, athletic, attractive, honest, and good at explaining her opinions. I also feel that we connect really well in person. She also got along well with my parents, which I liked.

I made the first more obvious move around Christmas, when we went to a Christmas concert together. That was also the first time we both clearly told each other that we liked each other, even though at least to me it had already felt pretty obvious that there was something between us. After that, we continued seeing each other, usually about once a week, sometimes even less.

The problem started mostly after she changed jobs. She became very busy, works a lot, spends a lot of time away from home in a place where she is not happy, and is generally going through a pretty demanding period in her life. Because of that, we couldn’t see each other very often. She also told me that with this kind of rhythm, where we see each other only about once a week or even less, she cannot connect deeply enough to enter a serious relationship or proper dating.

Despite that, our connection in person was often very good. I also slept over at her place several times, although we did not have sex. In practice, it sometimes felt almost like a relationship without a label. When we are together, it is usually really pleasant. We have good chemistry, I can relax around her, time passes quickly with her, and I often feel that we are really similar. That made it even harder for me to understand why the connection outside of those meetings was not more stable.

The main issue is inconsistency. Sometimes she seems very warm, close, and interested, and other times she seems distant, cold, or unavailable. For example, once we fell asleep cuddling, but a few weeks later I tried to hug her and she didn’t want to be hugged. Another time, in the morning when she was leaving for work and I was still sleeping, she gave me a kiss. A few weeks later, I wanted to do something similar and she covered herself with the blanket. These changes confuse me because I don’t know where I stand. I don’t think she is a bad person, but her hot-and-cold behavior makes me anxious.

Over time, I started feeling like I was the one who was more emotionally involved and more willing to make time. She has a lot of obligations, work, friends, family, and many things that are currently her priorities. I often felt like I wanted to see her more than she wanted to see me. At the same time, when we were together, it didn’t feel like she didn’t care. That is exactly what confuses me the most: in person, it is often really nice, but between meetings I often feel like I am waiting, guessing, and not knowing whether I am truly important to her.

Eventually, it became clear that a serious relationship is not her priority right now. There was also a possibility mentioned that things might be different in about a year, when her life situation becomes more stable and when she moves closer to home again. The fact that she will move back seems fairly certain, but there is no guarantee that a relationship will be her priority then. I started feeling that this situation was keeping me stuck in waiting. On one hand, I really enjoyed being with her. On the other hand, I didn’t want to be in a position where I was waiting for someone who currently cannot really choose me.

After about four months of these mixed feelings, I told her that I couldn’t continue like this. I told her that seeing each other once a week or even less, without clarity about where things were going, was not enough for me. I told her that if she wanted to build something in about a year, she should contact me then, if she still had a real interest in building something. I didn’t necessarily want to completely close the door, but I wanted to protect myself because I felt that I was becoming too attached to something unstable.

Now, about a month later, I gave in and invited her for a drink. Part of me wants us to meet one more time in a relaxed way, without pressure and without a heavy conversation. I just want to see how it feels in person. If it feels good, I might say something at the end like: “I had a nice time. If you ever want to meet again, feel free to text me.” After that, I would really stop initiating and let her show whether she actually wants to stay in contact. A big part of the problem was that I always felt like I was the one initiating. But when I told her that I couldn’t continue with this kind of seeing each other and that I didn’t know how to move forward, she was visibly upset and cried.

The hard part is that I still like her. I don’t want to pressure her, and I don’t want to force a relationship. I understand that she has her own life, job, and priorities. At the same time, I don’t want to stay emotionally stuck in a situation where I am waiting, guessing, and hoping that maybe one day she will be ready. This also triggers my fear of ending up alone and not finding someone where the feelings are mutual. I understand that this is my fear and not necessarily reality, but this situation makes that feeling much stronger, and it is honestly my biggest fear in life.

My questions are:

Would it be healthy to give this situation one final relaxed chance, or would that just keep me attached to someone who is currently not available enough?

If I meet her one more time, how should I approach it so I don’t come across as desperate, dramatic, or like I am pressuring her?

Would it be wiser to stick to the boundary I already set and let her show interest if she truly wants to? My current plan is to invite her for a drink once, then let her be the one to initiate next time. If she doesn’t show any initiative within three weeks, I might invite her one last time, and after that I would close this chapter if she still doesn’t initiate anything herself.