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For context i had already paid for everyone to go to an escape room since he likes that kinda stuff and it was abt 35 per person for a group of 6. Money was alr kinda tight before the escape room but i genuinely couldn’t afford to take anyone out to eat. Everyone else loved it and even grabbed seconds but I could tell he was disappointed by it. I feel bad abt it so maybe i could make it up to him by taking him out when i have the money.

he loves thai food so i made red curry over rice + spring rolls and cucumber salad but eb ate those before i could get a pic

edit: for everyone asking me if he ever said he was mad he didn’t explicitly say so but all this happened yesterday and he hasn’t talked to me since then which is highly unusual ( for eb telling me to text him i took a ss it’s in the comments )

I am livid writing this, so please excuse any typos. This girl (20F) and I (23F) have been close for the last 3 years. We met through my boyfriend (26M) who worked at a gas station at the time and told me about a young girl who was a regular and looked like she needed a friend. She had been through a big tragedy (not my story to tell), so I introduced myself and we hit it off. My bf and I considered her like a daughter, and even call her “Sissy” to our baby per her request.

Now my bf and I like to think of ourselves as kind people, and we helped her through so much. Many times we’ve opened our home to her, despite not being supposed to due to our lease; we’ve helped her with money, personal disputes, and even housed her and her friends whenever they wound up without a place to go. A mess would usually follow, but nothing she shouldn’t pick up. Now fast forward to this past week.

My bf and I went on a trip 4 hours away from our home so he could celebrate his birthday with his mom who lives in another state. We have 5 cats. We can’t bring them with us since we also have a beautiful 10 month old daughter. We’ve taken this trip before, and asked her to watch the house and cats and she did an amazing job! So we thought what could go wrong if we ask her again right? Well…

We left at 6:30pm on July 1st. I fed and watered the cats before we did so, and changed the cat pans. There are 4 feedings bowls total, two large bowls and two personal bowls, two water dishes and four cat pans. I asked three simple things of her.

•Feed and water the cats everyday
•Clean the cat pans as needed
•Keep our door locked whenever you leave

I got a call from her the next morning (July 2nd) and she sounded pissy. She explained that she couldn’t get into our house and she was running late for her shift. I forgot to leave the spare key out for her, that was my fault. However it wasn’t an unsolvable problem because I have an amazing landlord who I reached out to explaining the situation and he unlocked our door on his break for her.

So I texted her later that day and asked if she got in okay, and she said she was at work all night and would check on them when they got out. I got a text at 11:35pm saying she wasn’t going to stop by because her ride’s legs hurt and she didn’t want to walk to our house from her apartment. Mind you it’s now been over 24 hours since my cats ate the day prior. I didn’t see this text until 6:30am the morning of the 3rd.

So now I’m pissed, because not only have my cats not eaten anything in a day but my door was UNLOCKED ALL DAY AND NIGHT. With absolutely NO ONE HOME!! I would also like to make it known that our friend literally lives 10 minutes down the street from us WALKING. It’s maybe a 2-3 minute drive. HER RIDES DRIVE BY OUR HOUSE TO TAKE HER HOME.

I got another text around 9:30am saying she was going to our house to feed the cats and then another around 6pm asking if we had any clean towels. After I told her that, I didn’t hear anything from her. Did I think I would have to stock towels? No, because I didn’t know she would be staying at our house. But again, I wanted to trust her so I didn’t say anything.

Fast forward to Sunday (yesterday as of writing this post) and we got home around 1:30pm. Our friend was at work and I was busy getting my daughter out of the car when my bf whips the front door open (unlocked) and goes in first. He’s gone for a few minutes, and then suddenly he throws the door open again and I can see the steam coming from his ears.

Our house was trashed. Cat pans untouched, dirty clothes on the floor of the bathroom, dirty towels on our couch, half full food bins ON OUR BED, one of our cats locked in the bedroom, our daughters clothes in the nasty cat pans covered in cat shit, food all over the floor and not in bowls, our clean clothes strewn on the ground and EVERYTHING WAS COVERED IN CAT PISS.

So my bf has said that she’s no longer allowed in our home if she can’t respect us, and honestly I agree. It feels like a slap in the face. We’ve done so much for her and never asked for anything but honesty and respect in return. My bf has given her thousands of dollars worth of tattoos for free, we’ve housed her, paid her bills, fed her when she needed it, brought her on family trips.

I told her we were home, and she tried to play it like nothing was wrong and I barely answered her. I collected her things (also covered in cat piss btw) put them in a garbage bag and left them by the door for her to take. I haven’t heard from her since.

I don’t plan on reaching out. If she doesn’t come get her stuff, i’m gonna toss it with the trash in a few days. She doesn’t respect me, why should I respect her?

I added pictures of the texts along with some of the many pictures of the state my house was left in.

TLDR: my “friend” was supposed to take care of my cats and instead neglected them and trashed my house.

I just wanted to share this idea I had for decorating some of my ballpoint pens because I think it turned out really cute :) these are nail stickers stuck to the ink chamber/refill thing, so they won't peel off when the pens are rolling around in a pencil or being touched. The pens are two zebra sarasa clips and a pilot juice