u/Downtown-Oil-3462

Okay okay I’m being a little dramatic but seriously I feel like neurotypical people just hate information sometimes! No matter how gently you try to provide more knowledge, explain, and/or lightly correct they get so annoyed. What you’re saying is wrong or misinformed and you’re irritated with me?! Gah I’ve tried in every way to give facts or whatever and I just give up most of the time now. Fine, be wrong. But also… you’re talking about something you don’t understand and it’s like an intense itch I’m not able to scratch, a compulsion I have to repress or else I’m somehow considered rude. Again, no matter how you say it… which is even more frustrating at times. I hate these arbitrary social rules. 😭

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Thank you for not judging the state of my patio after my kids made a crazy mess. I don’t think you know that I heard you from my bedroom window, but I heard you say to your child, “Wow! Looks like someone had fun! Party time!” In a very sweet voice. I try to give my kids the world but I am disabled so I’m not always able to clean up the wild, artistic messes they make on our patio. I worry that people judge us as they walk by but your kind comment tonight made me feel better after a particularly difficult day.

You never know when your kindness can bring light to someone in need. :)

I was telling my new-ish therapist today about my socializing skills (or lack thereof) and how I am always described as a bitch by strangers, but once they get to know me they end up changing their minds and really liking me. I told her I am genuinely trying to accept (not understand) social rules but there are just some things that I am going to confront people on. I don’t like weird, unspoken dynamics and I don’t think I or anyone else should be forced to be uncomfortable just to make neurotypical people happy.

She smiled out of agreement, as if she completely understood where I was coming from, and cheered me on. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. I felt so seen. For the first time in my life I didn’t feel like the odd one out. It was wonderful. There are people out there who get us. :)

Favorite silver eyeshadow? Like intense shimmer? Liquid, powder, crayon, any is fine! Would be awesome if it had longevity ☺️🩶 thank youuuuuuuu

I got an order on DD today and I’m having troubles with my address in the app so it takes drivers across the street for some reason (so I always wait outside for the driver). I apologized to the dasher for the issue and he said, “I understand. I’m doordash’s biggest hater.” You know what? Same 😭

I have a special interest in the history of liberation/decolonization struggles around the world. I have recently been learning about this lesser known part of global political history and I’m craving a book about it. I would prefer first person account, but I would also love a book written by someone who is empathetic to the people’s and movement’s story. I am not looking for a book that purely depicts Papuans (that is the term I have learned, if that is offensive please let me know!!!!!) in a defamatory light as a means of propaganda, of which there is no shortage, unfortunately. It doesn’t have to be a “feel good empowering” book, I am looking for raw and honest history. Documentaries or any other media welcome as well. Thank you! :)

I knew stimulants help ADHD, I didn’t know they would change my life the way they have. I can actually be the mom I WANT to be. 3 years on them and you couldn’t even pry them away from my cold, dead hands if you tried. These little blue things are MIRACLES! There’s no way neurotypical people just live like this without medication, I can’t comprehend it. They just clean their homes as needed instead of wallowing in filth? They can complete a to do list? They can be make appointments and attend them? They can experience and manage normal intensity emotions? They can be actual functioning humans? All without drugs? No way. I call my stimulants my limitless pills, they literally make me feel like the movie limitless and I have had basically no negative side effects (except I hate having to force myself to eat but that’s ok lol). If anyone thinks pharmaceutical drugs don’t help people they should meet me, I could change anyone’s mind with my story lol.

Hello all, need help with my 6 year old (also has adhd and odd). She has severe insomnia, she sleeps about half as long as her body needs at this age and we are lucky if she is even able to sleep that much. She completely stopped taking naps at 1.5 years on her own, nap time caused insane tantrums every single time. We have tried quite literally everything we can find, even as parents in the field of psychology we cannot find her relief. Can anyone help or give advice? Here’s what we have tried over the years: •Consistent bedtime routine •Bath/shower before bed •Bedtime chamomile tea and/or warm milk •Changing bedtime timing •Plenty of books and a small light for reading (she is an advanced reader) •Deep pressure stimulation via pocket sheets and weighted items •Melatonin •Magnesium •Low temp heating pad for warmth and comfort •Light therapy in multiple different ways •Seeking advice from pediatrician and pediatric therapist (neither were able to help) •Allergy medicine (in case allergies were keeping her awake at night) •Multiple types of beds •Speaker box that plays bedtime stories •Intense exercise/plenty of outdoor time during the day to tire her out •Fidget toys •Cognitive behavioral therapy •Giving her items that have my (I’m mom) smell to comfort her •Room temperature changes •Aromatherapy •Many stuffies •Telling her that she doesn’t have to fall asleep right away, we just ask that she rests and lets herself fall asleep if she needs to but to not worry about it too much •ADHD medication (multiple types) •Letting our cat fall asleep in bed with her (our daughter complains about feeling lonely at night) •Picture books of family members to look thru when she gets lonely overnight •A diary •White noise •A fan

None of these have sustained positive results. I am unable to sleep in bed with her because I am audhd so I become easily overstimulated and my chronic illnesses demand I get up multiple times each night. She does not snore and does not outwardly appear to have sleep apnea, we are unable to afford a sleep study though. She denies pain/anxiety/nightmares symptoms keeping her awake. She is perfectly healthy, with a well balanced diet and we don’t typically serve surgery drinks at home (only one sprite if we go out to eat at a restaurant). She does something I noticed her father doing (he is out of the picture now), which is sneaking sugary snacks at night. To remedy this I’ve been serving her small dessert with her meals and letting her decide when she would like to eat it, but this has not helped. At the advice of multiple professionals we have had to begin locking the kitchen cabinets (ONLY at night, ONLY sugary snack cabinets, she ALWAYS has direct access to water and low sugar snacks at night if need be). We do not use negative food or body talk around her. I am not sure what else to do. My poor baby is miserable and it makes every day miserable as well. I just want to find her some relief :(