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i blue balled my bf twice and i don’t know if we need to talk or just move past it?

i wasn’t able to satisfy him orally. frankly my jaw started hurting and i was gagging, it was to the point where i had to stop, even though he said he was close.

then he wanted to have sex w/o a condom (we didn’t have one) but i didn’t feel comfortable doing that.

i don’t feel as bad for the second scenario, as i think im justified in not wanting to have sex without any form of protection and he should understand that. i do feel bad about not being able to perform the oral all the way.

but ultimately, im concerned that his mood kinda changed after those two incidents and he just wanted to take me home without talking about it much. a lot of the affection and physical touches we had leading up to this just stopped.

is it truly that painful for guys to be blueballed? i sometimes don’t feel satisfied (in fact i don’t think i’ve ever had an orgasm) and yet i don’t make a big deal out of it, i just enjoy whatever. and should i talk about this with him? is it expected for a guy to react so strongly to what happened? or should i just move past this night?

i blue balled my bf twice and i don’t know if we need to talk or just move past it?

i wasn’t able to satisfy him orally. frankly my jaw started hurting and i was gagging, it was to the point where i had to stop, even though he said he was close.

then he wanted to have sex w/o a condom (we didn’t have one) but i didn’t feel comfortable doing that.

i don’t feel as bad for the second scenario, as i think im justified in not wanting to have sex without any form of protection and he should understand that. i do feel bad about not being able to perform the oral all the way.

but ultimately, im concerned that his mood kinda changed after those two incidents and he just wanted to take me home without talking about it much. a lot of the affection and physical touches we had leading up to this just stopped.

is it truly that painful for guys to be blueballed? i sometimes don’t feel satisfied (in fact i don’t think i’ve ever had an orgasm) and yet i don’t make a big deal out of it, i just enjoy whatever. and should i talk about this with him? is it expected for a guy to react so strongly to what happened? or should i just move past this night?

i’m the dumper but getting back together is the only thing holding me together

it’s been two days since i broke up with him. i’m still freshly in pain and our good memories keep flashing in my head. there’s a very large part of me that’s just hoping we get back together. i keep imagining him holding me. it’s becoming less and less convincing to myself that i did the right thing by breaking up with him, even though in the week leading up to those final words, i was so sure of myself.

i’m no longer telling myself to get over him, instead i’m making concessions like if i can heal by the end of the summer ill leave him be, otherwise ill crawl back to him. that can’t be healthy right?

is this common with most breakups? i feel especially weird because im the dumper.

i dated someone whose concept of sushi was the rolls with the tiniest amount of fish in it. would refuse to try sashimi or nigiri. we broke up over something else but i’m still curious. i remember my dad telling me he broke up with his high school gf because she was vegetarian lol

i ended it and i’m in so much pain from my own actions. i don’t think ill ever find someone that loves me as much as he does. i don’t think ill ever find someone so easy to talk to, with the same humor, hobbies, music, everything. someone who is willing to change everything so we stay together. i can’t tell if i made the right decision. i’m hurting badly right now

feel like texting is an obvious no, and probably unsharing locations if you have that too. but what about instagram? do you unfollow? airbuds? (if anyone else has that lol). what if you’re in a group chat together? unfortunately we’re the couple that dated in a friend group, and now it’s awkward (luckily we’re in college and now home from the summer, so kinda spread apart)

We've been dating for almost 6 months now. We have disagreements on almost a weekly basis, even when we first started dating. Not fight-level with name-calling or yelling, but long texts, gaps of contact, lots of serious conversations & phone calls.

Not to get into a lot of detail but some of the stuff is small, other stuff is more important/red flag territory. I sometimes feel humiliated/embarrassed being with him because of how he talks to me, especially in front of other people.

A lot of the times it's me bringing up issues, hardly him. The conflict resolution is okay, he's receptive and promises change but I don't see it very much. Also, some of the stuff we argue about feels like I'm fighting for the bare minimum.

We broke up once and got back together, and something recently happened that is very similar to what caused the first breakup. I'm exhausted from having to be put through an emotional rollercoaster every week, especially since it's also a stressful time for me outside of this relationship. We have good times, but the lows are quite low and it happens too often. Considering breaking up because I can't see myself being with someone who can treat me this way, and I think I deserve better, but can't tell if I'm being dramatic/avoidant.

TLDR: I'm really hurt by my bf's actions and emotionally exhausted from dealing w issues every week. Is it supposed to be this difficult early into a relationship or is it a sign to run?

We've been dating for almost 6 months now. We have disagreements on almost a weekly basis, even when we first started dating. Not fight-level with name-calling or yelling, but long texts, gaps of contact, lots of serious conversations & phone calls.

Not to get into a lot of detail but some of the stuff is small, other stuff is more important/red flag territory. I sometimes feel humiliated/embarrassed being with him because of how he talks to me, especially in front of other people.

A lot of the times it's me bringing up issues, hardly him. The conflict resolution is okay, he's receptive and promises change but I don't see it very much. Also, some of the stuff we argue about feels like I'm fighting for the bare minimum.

We broke up once and got back together, and something recently happened that is very similar to what caused the first breakup. I'm exhausted from having to be put through an emotional rollercoaster every week, especially since it's also a stressful time for me outside of this relationship. We have good times, but the lows are quite low and it happens too often. Considering breaking up because I can't see myself being with someone who can treat me this way, and I think I deserve better, but can't tell if I'm being dramatic/avoidant.

We've (me-21F, him-21M) been dating for almost 6 months now. We have disagreements on almost a weekly basis, even when we first started dating. Not fight-level with name-calling or yelling, but long texts, gaps of contact, lots of serious conversations & phone calls.

Not to get into a lot of detail but some of the stuff is small, other stuff is more important/red flag territory. I sometimes feel humiliated/embarrassed being with him because of how he talks to me, especially in front of other people.

A lot of the times it's me bringing up issues, hardly him. The conflict resolution is okay, he's receptive and promises change but I don't see it very much. Also, some of the stuff we argue about feels like I'm fighting for the bare minimum.

We broke up once and got back together, and something recently happened that is very similar to what caused the first breakup. I'm exhausted from having to be put through an emotional rollercoaster every week, especially since it's also a stressful time for me outside of this relationship. We have good times, but the lows are quite low and it happens too often. Considering breaking up because I can't see myself being with someone who can treat me this way, and I think I deserve better, but can't tell if I'm being dramatic/avoidant.