u/Dry_Pattern3564

Situation:

1:New relationship starting. Suddenly women got promoted with higher pay.

2:Arrange marriage match --

I'm a 32M. I worked with my manager for about 3 years. She is older than me, divorced, and had gone through a difficult past, which she gradually opened up to me about. She didn't share these things with many people, so I felt there was a strong level of trust between us.

She would often call me to her desk, sometimes even for random reasons, and ask why I hadn't come to see her. We talked a lot about both work and personal life. She knew I had fears about relationships and marriage, and she would often encourage me to get married. She once told me she was looking for the right person to marry and would joke that she wanted to attend my wedding and have the best biryani there.

Professionally, she was very supportive. She helped me grow, and I genuinely believe she played a role in my promotion. There were situations where I was struggling at work and never even asked her for help, but somehow she understood what I was going through and stepped in to support me. She helped me get through some difficult situations.

My entire team didn't really like her, but she always stood by me. Because of that, I developed a lot of trust in her. Everyone in the team knew she would support me if needed, and nobody really wanted to mess with me because they knew she had my back.

As for me, I'm the funny and easygoing guy in the team. I joke around, make people laugh, and generally get along with everyone. She always seemed to enjoy my company and our conversations.

One thing that always confused me was that she never directly expressed any feelings. She never texted or called me outside work. But during conversations she would sometimes say things like, "If I ever change companies, I'll take you with me." Whenever she saw me on the floor, she would come over and talk to me, even if she was busy.

The thing is, after her promotion, things changed. She became much busier with calls, meetings, and responsibilities. I understand that comes with the role. She still talks to me whenever she gets time and sees me on the floor, but it's not the same as before. Earlier, she would call me over to sit beside her and we'd talk a lot more.

Lately, I feel like some of that magic or connection we used to have isn't there anymore. Maybe it's because of her new role, maybe it's not. I honestly don't know.

I also know she had trauma from her past marriage, and she knew about my fears regarding relationships and marriage. We both knew each other's weak points. Part of me feels that maybe we liked each other at some point, but neither of us ever took a step forward.

I don't want to create problems or lose the connection we still have. I've decided to just go with the flow. If she ever genuinely wanted something more, I feel she would have told me or at least given a clear sign.

So I'm curious what others think. Was this simply a very supportive manager who trusted and cared about me, or do you think there may have been feelings involved at some point and neither of us acted on them?

I'm a 32M. I worked with my manager for about 3 years. She is older than me, divorced, and had gone through a difficult past, which she gradually opened up to me about. She didn't share these things with many people, so I felt there was a strong level of trust between us.

She would often call me to her desk, sometimes even for random reasons, and ask why I hadn't come to see her. We talked a lot about both work and personal life. She knew I had fears about relationships and marriage, and she would often encourage me to get married. She once told me she was looking for the right person to marry and would joke that she wanted to attend my wedding and have the best biryani there.

Professionally, she was very supportive. She helped me grow, and I genuinely believe she played a role in my promotion. There were situations where I was struggling at work and never even asked her for help, but somehow she understood what I was going through and stepped in to support me. She helped me get through some difficult situations.

My entire team didn't really like her, but she always stood by me. Because of that, I developed a lot of trust in her. Everyone in the team knew she would support me if needed, and nobody really wanted to mess with me because they knew she had my back.

As for me, I'm the funny and easygoing guy in the team. I joke around, make people laugh, and generally get along with everyone. She always seemed to enjoy my company and our conversations.

One thing that always confused me was that she never directly expressed any feelings. She never texted or called me outside work. But during conversations she would sometimes say things like, "If I ever change companies, I'll take you with me." Whenever she saw me on the floor, she would come over and talk to me, even if she was busy.

The thing is, after her promotion, things changed. She became much busier with calls, meetings, and responsibilities. I understand that comes with the role. She still talks to me whenever she gets time and sees me on the floor, but it's not the same as before. Earlier, she would call me over to sit beside her and we'd talk a lot more.

Lately, I feel like some of that magic or connection we used to have isn't there anymore. Maybe it's because of her new role, maybe it's not. I honestly don't know.

I also know she had trauma from her past marriage, and she knew about my fears regarding relationships and marriage. We both knew each other's weak points. Part of me feels that maybe we liked each other at some point, but neither of us ever took a step forward.

I don't want to create problems or lose the connection we still have. I've decided to just go with the flow. If she ever genuinely wanted something more, I feel she would have told me or at least given a clear sign.

So I'm curious what others think. Was this simply a very supportive manager who trusted and cared about me, or do you think there may have been feelings involved at some point and neither of us acted on them?

I'm a 32M. I've worked with my manager for about 3 years. During that time, she often called me to sit with her, asked why I didn't come to her desk, and seemed more expressive and interested in talking to me than with others.

Recently, both of us got promoted, and I believe she played a role in supporting my growth. I'm not sure if her behavior was just that of a supportive manager or if there were signs of personal interest.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Am I reading too much into normal workplace behavior, or could there have been genuine interest?

M32.

​

I worked with a woman for the last three years. She was my manager, and she had been with the company for over 10 years. Recently, both of us got promoted, and I genuinely believe she played a big role in helping me reach that point.

​

Before our promotions, she seemed very warm and caring toward me. She would call me to her desk, ask why I hadn't come to see her, invite me to sit and talk, and always stood by me when others in the team were against me. Over time, we slowly built a connection.

​

One day she opened up about her personal life and told me she was divorced. Hearing her story made me respect her even more. She had been through a lot, and I didn't want to add any pressure or complications to her life. Even after that conversation, she continued checking on me and supporting me.

​

After her promotion, things changed. Naturally, she became much busier, and the affection and attention I felt before seemed to fade. She still helped me with my own promotion and went far beyond what I expected. I'll always be grateful for that.

​

The complicated part is that I've always had a fear of relationships and marriage. She knew this because we had talked about it before. At the same time, she once mentioned that she was waiting for the right person. I often wonder if our timing was simply wrong.

​

Today, the "magic" that I felt between us seems gone, but I still miss talking to her. I don't necessarily want a relationship with her, but I want to be in her life want to be her part of life.I admire her strength and the way she rebuilt herself after a difficult divorce.

​

Part of me feels she may have liked me at some point. Another part of me thinks her past may make it difficult for her to trust again. I don't know the answer, and I don't want to assume.

​

For now, I've chosen not to push anything. I don't want to trigger painful memories from her past or create pressure where there doesn't need to be any. If she ever needs a friend, I'll be there.

​

My question is: should I wait for her or should I love her and tell her my part of the story.. genuinely i love her so much now..

but my mind stops me . don't disturbed her and yourself.

M32.

​

I worked with a woman for the last three years. She was my manager, and she had been with the company for over 10 years. Recently, both of us got promoted, and I genuinely believe she played a big role in helping me reach that point.

​

Before our promotions, she seemed very warm and caring toward me. She would call me to her desk, ask why I hadn't come to see her, invite me to sit and talk, and always stood by me when others in the team were against me. Over time, we slowly built a connection.

​

One day she opened up about her personal life and told me she was divorced. Hearing her story made me respect her even more. She had been through a lot, and I didn't want to add any pressure or complications to her life. Even after that conversation, she continued checking on me and supporting me.

​

After her promotion, things changed. Naturally, she became much busier, and the affection and attention I felt before seemed to fade. She still helped me with my own promotion and went far beyond what I expected. I'll always be grateful for that.

​

The complicated part is that I've always had a fear of relationships and marriage. She knew this because we had talked about it before. At the same time, she once mentioned that she was waiting for the right person. I often wonder if our timing was simply wrong.

​

Today, the "magic" that I felt between us seems gone, but I still miss talking to her. I don't necessarily want a relationship with her, but I want to be in her life want to be her part of life.I admire her strength and the way she rebuilt herself after a difficult divorce.

​

Part of me feels she may have liked me at some point. Another part of me thinks her past may make it difficult for her to trust again. I don't know the answer, and I don't want to assume.

​

For now, I've chosen not to push anything. I don't want to trigger painful memories from her past or create pressure where there doesn't need to be any. If she ever needs a friend, I'll be there.

​

My question is: should I wait for her or should I love her and tell her my part of the story.. genuinely i love her so much now..

but my mind stops me . don't disturbed her and yourself.

Hi everyone,

​

M32, from Hyderabad, India. I work in banking operations and enjoy traveling, and exploring different cultures.

​

I'm a vegetarian, family-oriented, and looking to connect with genuine people for friendship first. If we get along well, I'm open to seeing where things lead.

​

I enjoy meaningful conversations about life, travel, personal growth, movies, and different cultures. I would love to meet people who are kind, respectful, and open-minded.

​

Have a great day! 😊

​

​