u/Due_Firefighter_5655

I live in the upper Midwest and winter is coming. For half the year, my life is busy and fun, full of golf and time at my club. But the other half of the year is too quiet for me. Many of my retired friends are a bit older and live elsewhere in the winter. My husband is happily still working. There are only so many coffee dates with friends and volunteer hours I can drum up. I’d love ideas to fill the time - things I can do that don’t require year-round commitment. Anyone else in the same boat, or have ideas to offer?

I usually use matte neutrals. I’d love to try something with a little “glow”- not glittery or wet looking. Just a subtle pretty shimmer I can use day or night. Can y’all give this basic lady some beginner-friendly ideas? I don’t want to buy a huge pallet.

It’s cooling down here in the upper Midwest. Talk to me about flexible bottom layers for when the temperature starts off cool but warms up during the round.
(I’m all good on top layers)

I have tried Uniqlo leggings under golf skorts, which works well if it’s going to warm up and I want to layer down. Does anyone wear those quilted skirts with leggings underneath? Any other favorite strategies for fall weather?

I bought a 7 wood in May. After 5 months and four lessons, I am still struggling to hit it consistently. What clubs could I try as an alternative? I have a 5 hybrid, and nothing above that besides my driver.

Help me get out of the deep bunkers on my course! This is my second year golfing and I struggle to get out of the bunkers. My home course has really gnarly, deep greenside bunkers- so deep that when I’m standing in them, the green is over my head. Lots of women struggle to get out (it’s like a man designed them or something 🤨)

I bought a special sand wedge, keep my stance wide with my weight on my lead leg, do a full swing… I’ve had several bunker lessons. I either skull it or simply can’t get enough loft. Something isn’t clicking. Any tips that helped you ladies get out?

I bought a 7 wood in May. It is now July and I still can’t hit it. I’ve had 3 lessons on that thing. I even gave him a name in an attempt to bond. He is consistently adding 5+ shots to each round because of his refusal to cooperate.

I am having buyers remorse.

Have you ever purchased a brand new club, only to fail at using it?!? When should I give up? This leaves me with my longest distance being a 6 hybrid at 130 yards, so not optimal.

I feel like a failure!

Wise older women, my daughter has an eating disorder. She’s 22 and sought help this spring, entering a day program that did a good job. She was in college at the time and managed to work the program and stay in school. She graduated last spring and has now moved home with us. She starts a new day program Monday.

It’s really hard to see her like this. I underestimated how emotional it would be, living with her while she’s still struggling. And yet of course I am so very proud of her and all the work and dedication she’s doing to get better.

What advice do you have about living with an adult child with an eating disorder? Thanks for any wisdom, resources and support.

I got a new bag with fewer dividers than my old one. When I put 3-4 clubs in one large section, I have trouble getting them out easily. The grips catch on the club heads and stick- I’m afraid I’m going to create more wear and tear on the grips. Is there a product out there that prevents this? I’ve tried searching for a golf bag divider but haven’t come up with anything. How do you stave off bag chaos?

Hi- can anyone give me a review of this sunscreen? I use the oil control version on my face because I find it less greasy. I’d love to find a very protective outdoor sport sunscreen. Is this going to slide right off? Any other sport level sunscreens with high protection (for UVA- not interested in US sunscreens- looking for broader protection). Thanks!

Hi all, there was a good discussion about the bump and run on here- I need to practice that more. I play with someone who uses her rangefinder to get the distance, and switches the club she chooses but always takes the same size swing.

My pro suggested practicing using the same club (PW) and varying the swing size based on how far the pin is without using the rangefinder, so my eyes/brain get used to estimating.

Which method do you use? Do you eyeball it? Measure it? Use varying clubs or one? Thanks for any advice.

The r/golf sub is occasionally interesting and helpful but I have to read through a lot of sexist screed, and posters constantly assuming they are talking to all bros. Are there any other golf subs you follow?

Anyone tried it? Any thoughts on how much glitter/sparkle it has, and what the color is like? Bonus if you can show a swatch!

Looking for Sarah Creal “Jungle” vs Victoria Beckham “Sequin Green” eyeliners! Or even a swatch of either of them. Thank you!

I recently started taking Xyzal for allergies (active ingredient Levocetirizine dihydrochloride)****. It’s been great for allergies but bonus- I’ve been sleeping better on it! Anyone else? I’m hoping this antihistamine doesn’t come with the possible long term risks as older generations of antihistamines.

I saw someone rock an olive green eyeliner that had a subtle shimmer. She had green eyes though. Would green work on my blue eyes or would it clash? I am loving the Sarah Creal liner in Everyday Taupe. Anyone tried her Jungle color?

EDIT: she must not have been too bummed at my golf game, because she asked me to be her partner again in an October tournament! You all were right- having fun is more important than winning to her. My kind of partner.

Relatively new golfer here. Yesterday I played in my first tournament. A pretty good golfer asked me to be her partner, and I was flattered. I know she didn’t pick me for my savage golfs skills- I have a 25 handicap. But I’m fun and sunny and we have a good time together.

I played ok the first day and we ended up in first place. Yesterday was day 2, and I think I crumbled under the pressure. All I could think about was not letting her down. She ended up carrying us - I think I contributed 1 or 2 points. I wasn’t expecting us to win, but I was so disappointed in myself that I didn’t contribute more.

Any advice for handling myself in future tournaments? I’m at a club and we have several partner events every summer, so I need to put my big girl pants on!

I am a golfer and would like to self tan my feet and left hand- the areas covered by my socks and golf glove. Any advice on how to pull this off? I’m reading to exfoliate beforehand, moisturize first, use a tiny amount, and perhaps a fluffy brush to blend it down towards fingers and toes. But how do I bring it up to that darn sock line so it looks natural? Any other advice for a newbie? Thank you!

Hi all! What are your best moisturizing shampoos and conditioners for *thick* hair (not fine)? I’m set on masques. I use one by Le Labo that is divine. Thank you!