u/DullSubject4040

My dad (46 yo) is upset because me (19F) and my siblings didn’t wish him a happy Father’s day.

My parents got divorced when I was 4 and we live in a country where a man gets everything so my dad got full custody. From the age 4 to 13 I didn’t see my mom, not even once. I grew up having no idea how to deal with my period, how to do makeup and make my hair.

When me and my siblings were kids my dad would beat us up whenever he gets angry over anything and nothing. He once choked me because I was too loud playing with my brother. He once broke a broomstick on my back because I spilled water in the backyard. He slapped because I defended my brother when he was beating him up for something he didn’t do.

My dad doesn’t know when my birthday is, he never wished me a happy birthday, never bought me a gift. Not even once he remembered my brothers’ birthday. Also, he never gave us money growing up, never bought clothes even though my dad makes about 13k$ a month. I got bullied at school because I wore the same clothes and my hair was always messy.

When I turned 16 my dad just left the house and moved out with his new wife, he visits once a week for an hour, sends 65$ and thats it.

Yesterday was father’s day at 11pm he texted me and my siblings saying that he expected that we at least wish him a happy father’s day and maybe send him a gift, and that he was so disappointed that we’re not acknowledging his existence. He said that he has a feeling that the moment me and my siblings get married and start families we will disappear from his life, and that we will forget everything he ever did for us.

I don’t know how to feel about this whole situation but my grandparents are so upset with me and my siblings even though they were there when my dad broke that broomstick on my back.

I (19F) and my mom (40yo) used to be so close. My parents are divorced and I only see my mom once a week every Friday. My parents got a divorce when I was 4 and my dad kept me and my siblings from seeing mom for years. When I turned 9 we finally started visiting my mom once a week.

I’m her only daughter with two brothers and my mom has always tried to be close with me and be like my friend and that worked out really good. I used to phone call her every day and I tell her about my friends and hobbies and everything. In the pandemic my dad allowed us to sleepover at my mom’s sometimes and we really grew closer.

Things were great until it slowly started to get weird. When I was in 8th grade I had my first real crush and it was a girl, but I only realized my feelings for that girl in 10th grade. I never came out to my friends but somehow they all know. Some of my friends are queer too. Though I live in a religious country and my mom is also super religious so coming out to her was never a choice to me.

When I was in 10th I had a situationship with the same girl I liked and it really made me hate my life. I know that is not an excuse but grades started slipping and that really upset my mom. Also I was raised religious so I sometimes hare myself and feel weird about my feelings and the more my mom took me to church the more I started hating myself and I felt like a hypocrite.

Over the years my mom was noticing some changes in me, she says I rarely smile and I always seem sad. Even my cousin made a joke about me being depressed. My mom took me to a therapist and I found that my chance to talk but I couldn’t bring myself to tell him about my sexuality or anything else so I just talked about my dad. I stopped seeing that therapist after one session because I just didn’t feel like it.

Two months ago my mom found my tiktok account and started getting suspicious about my sexuality. I don’t post anything there but I just make reposts and she noticed some “gay stuff” and she confronted me. She was so angry and she told me that if I was actually queer then I should start telling people that I don’t have a mom because she would disown me. So I denied everything and swore that I’m straight. Then she said “tell me if you have any weird feelings so we can fix you” but I just denied and she believed me.

I love my mom so much and I hate that we barely talk anymore. When I visit her she talks to my brother most of the time and whenever we talk she just scolds me about my grades or about that I seem so depressed and that’s a bad thing and I should fix it.

I don’t know what my problem is but I just know that I still need my mom and I don’t want to ruin things between us. (Happy pride month by the way)

when I was 14 I had a lot of money saved up from birthdays and holidays, till the point where I saved up abt 554.29$ and i wanted to save that money for myself. my older brother (15 at that time) wanted to buy himself a new phone without my dad knowing because my dad always takes our phones away and my mom also wanted us to buy phones so she can talk to us (my parents are divorced and me and my brothers live with my dad and only see mom once a week)

when we went to the store to buy my brother a phone and my mom and my brother pushed me and my younger brother to buy a phone too even though i wanted to save my money and i didn’t want my mom to pay because she’s still studying and doesn’t have a salary. So I bought the phone and my younger brother bought one too.

After that my grandma for some reason checked our safe and saw that we don’t have as much money as we did so she told my dad that we gave the money to my mom and my dad got very angry and asked us where did all that money go so i asked my mom what to say like do i tell him abt the phones or what? But she told my brother to say that i took money from my siblings and my money and bought myself some gold. Even though it was my brother’s idea to buy the phones they still lied and blamed it on me and my dad beat me up so hard and even used a camera stand on me and smacked my head against the wall. And nor my mom, siblings, and grandparents said anything.

My grandparents and dad stopped talking to me for months and that time was finals season and i couldn’t study and I got 94%. My mom for some reason was disappointed in me and even told my friends that i use my mental health as an excuse for not studying. I really hated my life back then and even tried to end everything right there and had pills but my older brother forced me to throw up.

Me (19F) and my mom (40yo) have been arguing a lot lately. See my parents are divorced and I live with my dad. I live in a place where I will always be under my father's guardianship until I get married. My father is genuinely a terrible person who is never there for me or my siblings. And about a month ago my dad moved out and left us under my grandpa’s guardianship.

And me and my siblings are old enough to choose and go live with my mom but honestly I won’t. When my mom married my dad she gave up on her education to start a family. She regrets doing that and now she’s studying again. Her husband who is my stepdad lost his job. So they’re both broke. I don’t wanna go live with my mom because she can barely afford food and books for herself. So I only see her on weekends.

I didn’t know how much broke my mom was until April of last year. There was a play that I really wanted to see but dad refused to take me. (My dad has a very good job and makes a lot of money but he’s stingy). I told my mom that the last show will be on a Friday and she said that she will take me and my brother. I asked her if she had money for the tickets and told her that if she doesn’t I will pay for me and my younger brother (the tickets were about 65$ per person). My mom swore that she had the money and she took us to the play.

After that I noticed that she doesn’t wear her wedding ring anymore. I asked her about it and she told me that she sold it to get me the tickets. I got so upset because I didn’t want my mom to sell her wedding ring for a play that I could’ve paid for. (My dad doesn’t allow me to get a part time job and only gives me 60$ a month) but i save money and I could’ve paid. My mom got angry and said that she’s our mother and she should sacrifice some things for us. She said that she was happy that I got to watch the play.

After I knew that I started saving more money and I stopped mentioning anything because I don’t want her to pay for anything. Just today my younger brother was talking about his childhood play and that he really wants to go. I told him to not mention it to my mother and that I will pay if he wants. My mom heard and got so upset with me. And told me that she’s paying and I have no say in that.

I feel so bad because my mom lives on 500$ a month. And has to pay 130$ for rent. Not only that but she also suffers from Crohn's disease and has to pay hospital bills. I don’t know what to do and my mom is so stubborn.

when I (19F) was 13 and my brother (17 now) was 11, it was Halloween and we were going to a party with my aunts and cousins. Me and my brother were getting ready wearing our costumes and scary makeup.

My brother needed some fake blood for his costume but we were out of it so he went to my grandma to ask her for makeup( she knew we were going to a Halloween party because we go every year and she saw our costumes)and she gave him a red lipstick. He asked her where to put the lipstick after using and she told him to put it on his bed and she’ll take it later.

We went to the party and everything was fine. The next day, when my dad picked us from school he was very quiet, it was unusual for him to be this quiet. When we got back home he told us to go upstairs. Then he came with the lipstick that was on my brother’s bed and asked him what was that (my family is super religious and homophobic) before my brother could even speak and say anything my dad slapped him hard, and he kicked him. I tried to pull him away from my brother but I couldn’t.

After that the housekeeper told me that my grandma called my dad earlier and told him that your son is gay because he had lipstick on his bed, even though she knew that the lipstick was for fake blood in a Halloween party. For me I don’t care if my brother was gay or not (he isn’t) i went to my dad and grandma and told them that my brother did not deserve all that and that she knew why he had that lipstick. And I was crying while talking because i hated how they treated my younger brother. My dad didn’t let me finish and slapped me hard and told me that I’m the reason why my brother is so soft. My dad forced my brother to get a buzz cut.

I don’t think ever in my life that I will forgive my dad for what he did and how he treated my brother, and I will bot forgive my grandma for lying and saying that my brother deserved what happened to him.

I (19F) have two brothers, one older (20yo) and one younger (17yo). All three have been living in my grandparents house since we were kids. My parents are divorced and we live in my father’s side of the family and only see our mom once a week. My dad used to live with and seriously he made our lives hell but about a year ago he moved away and left us with his parents.

everyone in my family has a favorite. My grandma, older aunt, and uncle favorite my older brother. My grandpa, younger aunts favorite my younger brother. My mom’s favorite is the younger and my dad’s the oldest. Even though I’m their only daughter I’m no one’s favorite and I know that sounds silly but it kinda hurts. My older brother got a new car the moment he got his license, but when I get my license my dad will give me my brother’s car and buy him a sports car, even though my dad has the money to buy me a new car. I know my much my dad makes a month and he really has a lot of money.

My older brother gets from my dad 600$ a month while I get only 65$ a month. And when I need something they tell me to depend on myself and use my monthly expense. And when my younger brother needs money or anything my aunts just buy him whatever he wants. But when I ask for something on my birthday they just forget it. My brothers birthday is always a big deal. They both get whatever they want and they take them out for dinner while I don’t even get gifts, and last year they completely forgot it, no gifts, no cake, nothing.

When my younger brother asked for a 200$ shoes they gave it to him. And when my older brother wanted 300$ worth perfumes he got it too. But when I asked for a new shoe on my birthday that doesn’t cost more than 60$ my parents said that it was too expensive and that I already have shoes that fit.

And my parents forgive my brother for their mistake no matter what it is but when i make a mistake it’s unforgivable. When my older brother stole about 100$ from my money my parents didn’t punish him they just talked to him but when I raised my voice at him I got grounded.

At the end of every school year I always get better grades than my brothers. My parents punished me for getting 83% in 10th grade but bought my older brother a gift for getting 61% in his senior year.

It’s really been bothering me a lot lately and I tried to talk about it to my mom and she just said that I’m imagining things and that she loves all three of us the same. I can’t talk to my dad because we’ve never been close and he’s not the type to talk and have conversations with.

Me (19F) and my situationship (18F) were talking for about a year. We became close super fast. We talked about everything and we flirted with each other. I really liked her and wanted to ask her out but it was exam season so I wanted to wait until we finish then I ask. One day as we were talking she told me that she’s having problems with her girlfriend. And i was like what do you mean girlfriend? Turns out she had a girlfriend this whole time while talking to me, so I blocked her.

Somehow she found my tiktok account and begged me to unblock her and told me that she loves me a lot and that was about to leave her girlfriend anyway and even threatened to hurt herself so I unblocked her but told her to not talk to me, because I lost all my interest in her and i didn’t trust her anymore, if she would leave her girlfriend for me then she would leave me for someone else.

After a few weeks suddenly she’s friends with my brother (17yo) at first i didn’t really care, they were only playing Roblox and stuff. But then my brother started acting weird. He became less social and stopped going out with friends, like completely. I felt that something is off so i asked him if i could check his phone and told him that i will read his texts and he said okay. I read his texts with her(my ex situationship) and she was talking to him about depression and self harm and 💊.

Also she was telling him about the inappropriate stuff she does with her girlfriend. Not only that, she also told him that I’m a lesbian and told him about my girlfriend. She told him that I am the love of her life and that the reason we’re not together is because I’m manipulative and crazy. (I don’t want my brother to know about my sexuality because my family is super religious and homophobic and my brother is the kind of person who use your secrets against you in an argument)

so I forced my brother to block her. And I texted her and told her to stay away from me and my brother. And she said:
“genuinely get off my ass one mistake makes u suddenly assume the worse in one person n i already stopped talking to u & ur brother + i think im blocked cuz i cant find his acc so genuinely relax . also u think its not a real friendship thats none of my business what u think ik what the boy feels like and im not gonna let someone go through what i did while i js sit n look at a wall. this whole thing is over on my end let it go and dont contact me”

I blocked her number that day.