u/Echoing_mind

Would you date someone who had homosexual relationships in the past and is now confused and questioning themselves over their past choices and is open to try dating with the opposite gender?

Hi, I have been an architectural designer in practice for the past 6 years. Over the years I got exhausted from an irregular schedule of working (which I have no complaints about because of my love for the field), what is really concerning is that it doesn't financially make sense. By the end of last year I quit my job due to severe health concerns all because of 1 year of restlessness and micro-management which has physically, mentally and emotionally drained the best part of me. I was a bright student in college and an intuitive employee in all my workspaces, but the last job made me feel like a puppet who would barely think and perform myself. This affected me deeply, not to mention the client experience I had in the past year got me to the edge of hating my own field that I once thrived and loved. I always made passive income through freelancing, I was addicted to making extra income. Now that I'm unemployed for the past 5 months, I feel all drained and broke and lost my path in life and career. I lost all my interest in money making and freelancing. Now I'm looking for a career change and I don't know if that is what I really want, then again I don't know where to start from as I have completely lost my path.

How can I do better? Is this a serious concern that needs psychiatry attention? I would really like to get advice or direction here. Thank you in advance!

Hi, I have been an architectural designer in practice for the past 6 years. Over the years I got exhausted from an irregular schedule of working (which I have no complaints about because of my love for the field), what is really concerning is that it doesn't financially make sense. By the end of last year I quit my job due to severe health concerns all because of 1 year of restlessness and micro-management which has physically, mentally and emotionally drained the best part of me. I was a bright student in college and an intuitive employee in all my workspaces, but the last job made me feel like a puppet who would barely think and perform myself. This affected me deeply, not to mention the client experience I had in the past year got me to the edge of hating my own field that I once thrived and loved. I always made passive income through freelancing, I was addicted to making extra income. Now that I'm unemployed for the past 5 months, I feel all drained and broke and lost my path in life and career. I lost all my interest in money making and freelancing. Now I'm looking for a career change and I don't know if that is what I really want, then again I don't know where to start from as I have completely lost my path.

How can I do better? Is this a serious concern that needs psychiatry attention? I would really like to get advice or direction here. Thank you in advance!

When I say this era, I'm talking about the years after lockdown. Ever since then the world seems to have turned upside down. The major change has reflected in the field of career path. Looking at the main part, it all comes down to what we make in terms of money at the end of the day is all that really matters. It always felt like people have had purpose before that on money making. Now it all seems to have gotten really simple. If you have a camera (mobile/ other) and how to use and utilise it properly, you've got yourself rich, with little or no effort. So where exactly does the role of people with real skills stand? This has become so normal that people with real skills who are not interested in doing reels or stuff suffer silently due to lack of opportunity or lack of payment. This leads some people to lose interest in their passion or skills which slowly turns to lacking interest in oneself, and the result of depression and mental health issues.

Here is where I want to talk about this era's problem. While some of them are still struggling to pull themselves together from the traumas they have carried all along and got stuck with the current economical situation, others talk about how they feel down because their videos are not getting enough reach. I don't know whether to laugh at it or to feel sorry for them. And while 90's born and pulled into a dilemma of having a good relationship at this time, 2K kids have already found their soulmates and got married and have kids and they talk about hurdles and struggles? I don't know what we are up to and how the world is functioning anymore. And on a serious note, would the coming generation even survive at this rate?

I was in a relationship about 6 years back. We were both financially unstable back then, my partner seemed to be so fond of me during the first couple of months, eventually as life can be unpredictable I noticed shifts in the person's approach both towards the situation and me. Their were time when I was employed and the person was unemployed, at those times he completely act as if I was some enemy shooting words like "What is in it for you to worry about, you have a job." , it gets me worried makind me feel guilty over having a job ,their were many circumstances where I was blamed for almost nothing, beaten up sometimes too. I always thought of it as the persons current situation making them do it and I always wanted to believe that it's not who they are. After 6 months of putting up with all this, I decided to move out (all I wanted was some space because by that point I was loosing myself). Just when I decided to move out, the person got hospitalized with some minor health issue. I wasn't able to leave at that stage so I decided to stay untill the person get cured. But those time and closeness made me stay further, I thought everything was back to normal. As soon as the person recovered, it started again, this time I made up my mind that my partner is a narcissist and toxic, and I got to leave(which was pretty hard since we were already living together for 1 year then). I took the decision soon after the person got an offer letter from a big company, I was relieved that the person will be financially fine hence forth and since they already have a good set of friends they will figure the rest. As for me, I have no friends it was just me and the traumas the person gave me, I knew it was my own fight, so I isolated myself from the outside world in order to recover.

I started my own business and was leading a successful life myself. After 2 years from that, some feelings shifted so I decided to give the person another chance (since the person was constantly trying to get in touch with me every now and then). All I wanted was to talk to the person and spend some quality time. But things got physical, the way they presented it I trusted that the person still loves me and that's why they want me, it was out of mutual consent. The day after, it hit me that the person has not changed a tiny bit in these 2 years and all they wanted was to satisfy their loneliness. I was left heartbroken. Months from then, I met with some of their friends who were also my mutual friends and from them I came to know what was told to be kept as secret, the person spread it among all his friends, they didn't stop there, they even portrait me as a gold digger in front of them(which I wouldn't agree with even if I was offered a million dollars). This event left a permanent scar in me. I went totally numb. Now after all these years I'm still numb, emotionless, feeling less and I don't feel the feeling of love anymore, I feel completely lost.