Rest in peace guys, I’m the most fucked I’ve ever been. I failed one of my classes (an 8-week).
I failed all but 1 class last semester during the summer. So, I’m just probably fucked. I’m probably going to get all C’s for the rest of these classes.
Humans, a deeply communal and social creature, have created a culture that literally goes against our entire biology. Comfort is something children receive, exclusively. Adults thar need it are weak, and need to figure out their own issues and toughen up.
Edit: release*
I guess this is something I was thinking about when reading a webcomic that had two sub-species if the same mythological creature. One was solitary, the other was a pack animal.
The story followed the solitary subspecies as they became an adult and slowly started venturing off on their own. The social subspecies was horrified to learn this, because they stayed with their pack their entire life. While the solitary subspecies only co-habituated with their mate and offspring who hadn’t reached maturity yet.
And I realized, humans treat adulthood like solitary animals. Kick out the new adults so they can go form their own isolated family’s. Hell we treat staying with your family as an adult as a moral failing and a show that you aren’t independent enough. When (in general), we are community animals that didn’t tend to venture off on our own. Because it would usually mean death.
It just seemed odd to me. Social animals functioning as solitary ones.
Yes, there are some things you can’t talk to your friends or family about, sure. Some disorders need therapy, sure. But you shouldn’t have to pay somebody several hundred dollars a session just to vent about your life, or to feel like somebody cares enough to listen. You’re paying somebody for the support and connection friends/family used to give.
Putting the expectation that relationships should ALWAYS be positive and free of anything “heavy” or “emotionally taxing“, is ensuring those relationships will either end very fast, or be incredibly shallow. If your friends or family can’t be there through the highs and lows, then they can’t be with you during your life. They can’t be your actual support. You can’t rely on them. You can’t bond with them on. deeper level. Your ensuring their will never be a significant amount of trust or security between you.
And in turn, making it so that the only way you’ll ever get somebody who just LISTENS, is to pay somebody. Somebody who doesn’t know you as a person. Somebody who sees you as a client instead of a friend or family member.
Saw a post where a 20 y/o said their grandparents ghosted them because “they were all grown-up now and while they appreciated them giving them the experience of raising a little girl, that was over now”.
I was wondering how your relationship with your grandkids evolved as they got older?
I suppose this isn’t something I’ve ever really thought about. Since most media portrays grandparents dying when the grandkids are young, teenagers or at the very most, very young adults. But realistically since people live longer now, you’ll probably live to see their 20’s at least.
But with the common motto that being a grandparent is like “being a parent but for the second time and not having ALL the responsibility on you” Alongside a post where a newly 20 y/o was sadly lamenting that their grandparents ghosted them because “they were all grown-up now and while they appreciated them giving them the experience of raising a little girl, that was over now“.
Seems a bit cruel, and I doubt it’s common. So I was wondering how your relationship with your grandkids evolved as they got older? From kids, to teens, to 18-19, to 20’s or beyond if you have any that old?
it’s incredibly easy as an adult to just disappear. You can so easily just go to work, go home, go to the store and do nothing but that. Our society doesn’t really force us to interact all that much.
We have to put so much effort into making outside connections, and oftentimes, even those fail. Because they have to be planned. They don’t feel natural. You don’t tend to just bump into your friends anymore.
Not constantly and nothing life ruining. But some occasional drama and turbulence spices life up a bit. Things can get incredibly mundane and restless without some kind of challenge. And it gives you things to actually remember and talk about later.
It also bonus’s as intractable entertainment.
Im not saying to constantly cause drama yourself, no. That‘s just shitty as hell. But I always see people talking about cutting off every source of drama in their life, and I don’t get it. People who will avoid entire things, like having a friend group, because of the potential drama. It feels overly-cautious.
I don’t know, I always found figuring out conflict resolution to be fun and mentally stimulating. Gives you a chance to learn and bond with other people in the group too.
I didn’t realize how fun people were back then, and how much of their peoples personalities would die as we aged. Mostly talking about ”weird kids” , like therians and people who were really into fandoms. The drama and shit was fun too tbh. Always something going on.
Everybody’s exhausted and busy now. And boring as fuck. Nor is it like, socially acceptable to be heavy into any of that stuff at our big ass age. We got a pass back then.