u/Electronic-Tear1363

Hey dads, I'm (26M, living off of savings with a roommate) going to graduate from my associate's program next year and I think I'm going to start running low on money towards the end of my program. I'm not really sure how to approach getting part time work when that happens.

We work on the quarter system - In winter quarter, I'll be going to school part time, and in spring, I'll be taking a part time internship. I expect to have a job by the end of the summer (I'm in a career training program that has an excellent placement rate).

I'm not working right now, and can't feasibly work due to the extent of my course load until Dec-Jan. I don't have any experience with customer facing jobs, food service, or labor jobs, but I think I could do that kind of work. I'm scared of working with kids. I'm working on my driver's license right now and should have access to a car by Dec.

What kinds of jobs should I look for? How do I present myself to employers knowing that I'll leave in a matter of months?

edit: I already supplement my diet from a food pantry, I'm on full scholarship for school (whew!) and I'm trying to apply for direct paid apprenticeships that can replace my internship.

Asking here because y'all will understand the placement better than I'm willing to explain on tattoo subs. I've got my appointment in a week and a half. I've been head over heels for the way this artist does twisting, gnarled thorns and I really want them on my chest forever, but I've been made aware recently of the Christian symbolism of thorns. Is putting thorns across my scars too Jesus-y? Will people assume I'm Christian? I have a lot of tattoos fwiw and a thoroughly unchristian vibe, if that changes anything.

26M, USA. I think I'm seeking some sympathy and reassurance. I went to a very privileged high school that held everyone to really high standards. To get into our big state school (an internationally recognized university) was considered a backup plan.

Long story short, my mom was on a lot of drugs and hurt me, and so I fell behind from the stress and was exhausted and down all the time. As a result I was removed from school clubs for being a "poor example" and finished my high school credits in a community college after almost flunking out.

It's been another few years of working, I'm back in community college now that I'm recovered from depression, sober from my own addictions, and figured out what it is I actually want to do, which is to fix broken electronics. I'm pretty smart now that I'm not scared all the time. My high school classmates are doctors, engineers, PhDs, AI startup millionaires, nuclear physicists, and more like that. And I just feel kind of shit about myself in comparison.

I'm out here wanting the kind of work my teachers warned me I'd do if I was a bad student. And *I* don't think it's bad work, I think it's very worthy and technical, but I feel like I had every opportunity to be a prominent/famous Whoever and wasted it on what, feeling sleepy? Feeling sad? How can I flip my mindset on this for good?

Hello! 26M, undiagnosed and not seeking diagnosis, and not really using labels per preference either.

I was "trained" to socialize "better" as a kid, and only now am I starting to question what I'm "really like," so to speak. Learning a lot! For instance, I'm very skilled at conversations and body language, but it turns out that doing all of that (on manual, too) really stresses me out. So, I've been pulling back on those strategies when it's safe. I was also trained to be very outgoing, and I'm beginning to recognize situations where that isn't necessary and I can choose to participate quietly or passively.

My current thing to unpack is touch. I was taught to want touch and that I should enjoy it, but I've noticed that I find a lot of touch to be very intense in an unpleasant way. My boyfriend is also neurodivergent and has a much lower threshold for touch than I do, but I also find that his touch (limited and very intentional) never stresses me out. We're big on handholding and leaning on each other, and turns out I'm also asexual now that I don't demand myself to want sex.

When learning that my boyfriend doesn't like constant/intense physical contact, I realized it was actually not a problem for me as long as I knew he still wanted me around, which I'm confident about. Now I'm questioning other parts of my life - Do I even want to be touched as often as I let myself?

Anyways, this is nuts. Anyone else gone through this? Any other things I should question in this category?

26M. I've been snoring all my life and my family has OSA + everyone's died from cardiac events. I've been struggling to get a referral (at first because I was told to just lose weight, and then there was a 3 year waitlist). After losing 50lbs with no improvement, I finally had the right financial windfall to go see a provider out of pocket. I had to advocate pretty hard for my care but I got diagnosed officially today. Huge relief. I can't wait to pick up my CPAP.

A little bored this morning and thought this could be fun. I won't be able to tell anyone how to make medical/identity decisions, but I can talk a bit about my experience and retrospective. My transition has been easy in some ways and unfair in others - also happy to answer questions less related to transition lmao.

edit: 26, USA

26, 8yrs T, USA, full time stealth. Hoping to hear from experience. I want to review an interaction that happened today and figure out how to factor it into my expectations of the setting.

What I know of using the men's room is to not interact. So far, treating it like a kind of separate room from reality where everyone's a stranger has worked pretty well.

Today, I was washing my hands, and my classmate (slightly older than me, international student from Central America) walked in, patted my shoulder (normal+welcome from him) and started talking to me about class while using the urinal.

I tried to spend as much time washing my hands as I could while trying to wrap the conversation. I didn't look at him at all. Overall, I think the interaction went well, but I want to make sure I'm prepared for that possibility again. Do guys actually talk in the men's room? What do I do with my face?

I'm back in school for a trade right now. I'm enjoying it and I'm good at it when I put the work in. While school is good, I've noticed that I genuinely don't believe I'll be able to safely or correctly do my job once I'm out in the workforce. I have never had an accident in my training, and I have good grades and work as many extra hours as I can to build my skills and intuition.

I know about myself that if I don't believe I can do something, I'll never do it. I'll think to myself "I won't be able to do that." and then it will never happen.

How do I flip this? I am interested in the job and I want to do well, but I just don't believe I can do it.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to keep hair that may otherwise fall out, taking medical precautions or reactions to it, or feeling strongly about having hair or not.

I just want to lean in and say hey, I chose not to intervene when my hair started to go. There were a lot of reasons. I buzzed my head and it looked bad at first. Then I got better sense about it and now I look great - I'm also 26 and started losing hair at 23, earlier than the men in my family.

I see a lot of panic about hair loss here and while I do empathize (really! my hair was awesome!), I want to offer that it doesn't have to be the end of the world. Sometimes it's just another part of being alive.

I looked good and masculine with and without hair, and I accept both times in my life as my truth. It's okay to lose your hair, it's okay to feel okay with it, and it's okay to not feel okay even if there's nothing you can do about it. Some people see losing hair as a mens' right of passage - I didn't, but radically accepted where I was at anyways.

Anyways, would love to see some more positivity on this thread.