u/Equal-Strategy6782

How is my married life going to be and how will my spouse be nature wise?

After years of having failed relationships, i found a guy who was charming, consistent with efforts, always treating me the best, obsessed with me. The only problem was that it was a long distance relationship, but he made sure to never make me feel the distance. He told his parents about me right after our first date that I’m the girl he wants to marry and his family adored me. I literally have a special place in my heart for his parents. For 1.5 years of my life, i was being treated way better than I deserved to be treated.
He was always extra with showing his feelings. Buying me expensive stuff, taking me out on fancy dates, always buying me flowers ( like never missing out on that ever) pushing me to do well in my career. Showing me off on social media ( like making super cute reels of us)
But one thing which was always super off about this guy was that he never used to apologise to me, he would disrespect me, say horrible things to me comment on my flaws, often lie to me over unnecessary things and situations, argue with me whenever I used to catch his lies saying he wouldn’t have to lie if I wasn’t so nosy about his life would even cuss at me. He would disappear after every disagreement or argument for days only for me to beg him and promising him to not bring stuff that matters to me. He was very clear that he doesn’t want to have discussions since discussions means having disagreements and I should never disagree with him on anything he says or does. So I stopped doing that but i guess even that wasn’t enough. I started finding distractions around me ( I’ll paint or just play the music too loud and dance) while I used to get upset or sad just for me to not open up to him to avoid arguments. But then he somehow starting fighting with me over the things that should never matter, and i used to over explain myself give him logical explanations but that just meant talking back and “having answers to every excuse” which again led to us having ugly fights and somehow I was the one not bringing him peace and always the one arguing.
People used to see us and talk about how perfect we are as a couple but no one knew what’s going on really. It was really perfect up until 1.5 years but these past 6 months, it just kept getting ugly and nothing I did to make things right between us worked. Its funny how our families one day were sitting together and talking about when we should get married to him taking a “break” literally the very next day because apparently I’m a burden to him and this relationship is becoming a nightmare for him . Its been a month today and we have been in no contact. He hasn’t removed our post or told anyone that we are practically done - probably because he treated me like a trophy. Its funny how i have been having sleepless nights, not eating right, losing unhealthy amounts of weight, while he’s chilling in his life.
I know the most obvious solution is to run away and start working on myself and make my life better and become a better person but such things are easier to say because i have given my whole heart and soul to this person and its just so difficult to get over it. My heart says to stay and wait for him a little longer while my mind says there’s nothing really to hold on to.

I 23F and my bf 26M have been in a relationship since 2 years. It started off with him love bombing me. I really believed i hit the jackpot for the first 6 months of my relationship. It’s a long distance relationship and he makes the effort of seeing me once every month. Since our first date I knew I’ll marry him and he even told his parents about me right after the first date however i took some time to tell my mom. My dad died during covid and he knows how emotionally attached i am to him. So during our first 6 months he gave me the princess treatment and he used to make sure to mention this every once in a week at least that my dad sent him to me. And after some time i was convinced.
The emotional abuse started on a soft tone initially. There were always some comments about my imperfections ( how one of my tooth is slightly bigger than the other or how i missed a small portion of body hair on my arm after shaving or my eyebrows are undone ) and i got my teeth fixed started getting waxing even though I’m highly sensitive to wax and then came the argument phase. After 6 months we had a major argument on how has drastically changed and now he spends less time with me, i was giving him logical points showing him our call logs and time and he simply didn’t want to listen so he called me crazy ignored me for 7 days. And that’s the thing with him, after every argument he will disappear. He would never block me but he will make sure that i am aware that he won’t be contacting me and that I should be prepared to beg him. He would keep things to himself. He won’t involve his family or his friends. He would keep all my pictures on his social media but make it very clear with me that we have pretty much broken up. P.S. He has never apologised to me ever in these 2 years and never taken accountability for his words.
I’m madly in love with him so I call him and convince him to come back. He makes sure to check my phone when we are together and orders me to screen share just to see I’m not talking to any guy. He would lie about literally anything could be harmless lies like telling me he had pancakes for breakfast instead he’d be having eggs or sometimes blocking me from viewing his stories. However I’m sure that he’s not talking to other girls or cheating on me that’s where he actually draws a line.

Slowly he started saying horrible things to me. He even cussed at me said fuck off to me after I told him that its embarrassing that my mom asked me why my bf is liking naked women’s pictures in Instagram, continued to not talk to me for 11 days, and when I called him to talk to him since i was unable to focus on my exams and I really wanted him to sort things with me, he told me that I’m an idiot if I didn’t understand that the reason he didn’t contact me was because he has nothing to do with me and we have broken up ( mind you the pictures were still there and his parents were actively messaging me). His argument to not be with me was that I’m controlling and not career oriented ( while he failed during his graduation and I am currently pursuing my masters degree so there’s no way I can have a career rn). Things got so ugly our parents had to get involved for the first time and it was his dad who put some sense into his mind and that’s when we patched things up.
These whole 2 years I convinced myself that he is not a horrible person and that he’s acting out just because we are in a long distance relationship. Because we never fought whenever we are together and the dates are just out of a fairytale. Last month i stayed in his city for a whole month since I intentionally started an internship in a hospital in his city just to be close to him. And just like imagined he was absolutely charming. I enjoyed spending time with him just like a normal couple.
But the minute I stepped back into my city, he started having an argument with me on how I wasn’t helping his mom enough in the kitchen yesterday. His family is a sweetheart and there’s no way his mom would have even thought about it so it was purely made up by him just to start an argument this time too i gave him logical explanation even had a panic attack over call but he was just being ugly with his words, telling me how this relationship is turning into a nightmare for him, how I don’t bring any positivity into his life, that I’m evil and all I do is fight and don’t bring peace. He said that this relationship is becoming a burden to him and he needs some time off and now we’re back with the break. I am in no contact with him since a week now.
He controls every aspect of my life and i let him because im a submissive idiot and we lack intimacy there’s no sexual conversation between us and when we meet we just go out on dates and fancy restaurants but physical intimacy just barely exists.
As much as I sound like an idiot, I’m in love with a narcissist and I’m suffering everyday I don’t eat well and I don’t sleep well while he’s chilling. I’m trying to leave him but its getting difficult.

I 23F and my bf 26M have been in a relationship since 2 years. It started off with him love bombing me. I really believed i hit the jackpot for the first 6 months of my relationship. It’s a long distance relationship and he makes the effort of seeing me once every month. Since our first date I knew I’ll marry him and he even told his parents about me right after the first date however i took some time to tell my mom. My dad died during covid and he knows how emotionally attached i am to him. So during our first 6 months he gave me the princess treatment and he used to make sure to mention this every once in a week at least that my dad sent him to me. And after some time i was convinced.
The emotional abuse started on a soft tone initially. There were always some comments about my imperfections ( how one of my tooth is slightly bigger than the other or how i missed a small portion of body hair on my arm after shaving or my eyebrows are undone ) and i got my teeth fixed started getting waxing even though I’m highly sensitive to wax and then came the argument phase. After 6 months we had a major argument on how has drastically changed and now he spends less time with me, i was giving him logical points showing him our call logs and time and he simply didn’t want to listen so he called me crazy ignored me for 7 days. And that’s the thing with him, after every argument he will disappear. He would never block me but he will make sure that i am aware that he won’t be contacting me and that I should be prepared to beg him. He would keep things to himself. He won’t involve his family or his friends. He would keep all my pictures on his social media but make it very clear with me that we have pretty much broken up. P.S. He has never apologised to me ever in these 2 years and never taken accountability for his words.
I’m madly in love with him so I call him and convince him to come back. He makes sure to check my phone when we are together and orders me to screen share just to see I’m not talking to any guy. He would lie about literally anything could be harmless lies like telling me he had pancakes for breakfast instead he’d be having eggs or sometimes blocking me from viewing his stories. However I’m sure that he’s not talking to other girls or cheating on me that’s where he actually draws a line.

Slowly he started saying horrible things to me. He even cussed at me said fuck off to me after I told him that its embarrassing that my mom asked me why my bf is liking naked women’s pictures in Instagram, continued to not talk to me for 11 days, and when I called him to talk to him since i was unable to focus on my exams and I really wanted him to sort things with me, he told me that I’m an idiot if I didn’t understand that the reason he didn’t contact me was because he has nothing to do with me and we have broken up ( mind you the pictures were still there and his parents were actively messaging me). His argument to not be with me was that I’m controlling and not career oriented ( while he failed during his graduation and I am currently pursuing my masters degree so there’s no way I can have a career rn). Things got so ugly our parents had to get involved for the first time and it was his dad who put some sense into his mind and that’s when we patched things up.
These whole 2 years I convinced myself that he is not a horrible person and that he’s acting out just because we are in a long distance relationship. Because we never fought whenever we are together and the dates are just out of a fairytale. Last month i stayed in his city for a whole month since I intentionally started an internship in a hospital in his city just to be close to him. And just like imagined he was absolutely charming. I enjoyed spending time with him just like a normal couple.
But the minute I stepped back into my city, he started having an argument with me on how I wasn’t helping his mom enough in the kitchen yesterday. His family is a sweetheart and there’s no way his mom would have even thought about it so it was purely made up by him just to start an argument this time too i gave him logical explanation even had a panic attack over call but he was just being ugly with his words, telling me how this relationship is turning into a nightmare for him, how I don’t bring any positivity into his life, that I’m evil and all I do is fight and don’t bring peace. He said that this relationship is becoming a burden to him and he needs some time off and now we’re back with the break. I am in no contact with him since a week now.
He controls every aspect of my life and i let him because im a submissive idiot and we lack intimacy there’s no sexual conversation between us and when we meet we just go out on dates and fancy restaurants but physical intimacy just barely exists.
As much as I sound like an idiot, I’m in love with a narcissist and I’m suffering everyday I don’t eat well and I don’t sleep well while he’s chilling.

I 23F and my bf 26M have been in a relationship since 2 years. It started off with him love bombing me. I really believed i hit the jackpot for the first 6 months of my relationship. It’s a long distance relationship and he makes the effort of seeing me once every month. Since our first date I knew I’ll marry him and he even told his parents about me right after the first date however i took some time to tell my mom. My dad died during covid and he knows how emotionally attached i am to him. So during our first 6 months he gave me the princess treatment and he used to make sure to mention this every once in a week at least that my dad sent him to me. And after some time i was convinced.
The emotional abuse started on a soft tone initially. There were always some comments about my imperfections ( how one of my tooth is slightly bigger than the other or how i missed a small portion of body hair on my arm after shaving or my eyebrows are undone ) and i got my teeth fixed started getting waxing even though I’m highly sensitive to wax and then came the argument phase. After 6 months we had a major argument on how has drastically changed and now he spends less time with me, i was giving him logical points showing him our call logs and time and he simply didn’t want to listen so he called me crazy ignored me for 7 days. And that’s the thing with him, after every argument he will disappear. He would never block me but he will make sure that i am aware that he won’t be contacting me and that I should be prepared to beg him. He would keep things to himself. He won’t involve his family or his friends. He would keep all my pictures on his social media but make it very clear with me that we have pretty much broken up. P.S. He has never apologised to me ever in these 2 years and never taken accountability for his words.
I’m madly in love with him so I call him and convince him to come back. He makes sure to check my phone when we are together and orders me to screen share just to see I’m not talking to any guy. He would lie about literally anything could be harmless lies like telling me he had pancakes for breakfast instead he’d be having eggs or sometimes blocking me from viewing his stories. However I’m sure that he’s not talking to other girls or cheating on me that’s where he actually draws a line.

Slowly he started saying horrible things to me.
This one time he even cussed at me said fuck off to me after I told him that its embarrassing that my mom asked me why my bf is liking naked women’s pictures in Instagram, continued to not talk to me for 11 days, and when I called him to talk to him since i was unable to focus on my exams and I really wanted him to sort things with me, he told me that I’m an idiot if I didn’t understand that the reason he didn’t contact me was because he has nothing to do with me and we have broken up ( mind you the pictures were still there and his parents were actively messaging me). His argument to not be with me was that I’m controlling and not career oriented ( while he failed during his graduation and I am currently pursuing my masters degree so there’s no way I can have a career rn). Things got so ugly our parents had to get involved for the first time and it was his dad who had put some sense into his mind and that’s when we patched things up.
These whole 2 years I convinced myself that he is not a horrible person and that he’s acting out just because we are in a long distance relationship. Because we never fought whenever we are together and the dates are just out of a fairytale. Last month i stayed in his city for a whole month since I intentionally started an internship in a hospital in his city just to be close to him. And just like imagined he was absolutely charming. I enjoyed spending time with him just like a normal couple.
But the minute I stepped back into my city, he started having an argument with me on how I wasn’t helping his mom enough in the kitchen the other day. His family is a sweetheart and there’s no way his mom would have even thought about it so it was purely made up by him just to start an argument this time too i gave him logical explanation even had a panic attack over call but he was just being ugly with his words, telling me how this relationship is turning into a nightmare for him, how I don’t bring any positivity into his life, that I’m evil and all I do is fight and don’t bring peace. He said that this relationship is becoming a burden to him and he needs some time off and now we’re back with the break. I am in no contact with him since a week now.
He controls every aspect of my life and i let him because im a submissive idiot and we lack intimacy there’s no sexual conversation between us and when we meet we just go out on dates and fancy restaurants but physical intimacy just barely exists.
As much as I sound like an idiot, I’m in love with a narcissist and I’m suffering everyday I don’t eat well and I don’t sleep well while he’s chilling.