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Been wanting to start fishing. Never done it in my life, I know nothing about it in terms of the rules, places, etiquette, unwritten expectations, etc.

Any experienced anglers willing to share wisdom? I live in Bellevue if that matters. Thanks!

Edit: I’m super grateful to the folks who offer detailed descriptions their techniques for the actual fishing part but I was actually hoping for things like your favorite locations, where to buy licenses/passes, etiquette dos and donts, that sort of thing.

I’m not in the hobby but I’ve seen some vendor videos and the prices of everything is mind blowing to me. This stuff makes Warhammer look cheap.

Especially now with cost of living going up everywhere, stagnant wages, and terrible job market how are people casually dropping $100 on a single piece of cardboard? Let alone the ones that go for thousands??

Edit: to clarify I’m referring to collecting cards not the actual playing of the game / deck building

Anybody a member of Rental Housing Association of WA? Are their resources worth the fee?

I inherited a rental unit recently and have no previous experience managing. Heard of RHAWA a few times in passing as a good place to start but the annual fee is almost $300.

I’m a guy, straight. Once in a while I’ll get a random person in my chat wanting to discuss my posts in further detail. They’ve mostly been just that. Talk about the subject and then done.

I recently had one of these chats but when the discussion (about dating exp) was over he asks if I’m only into women or do I like men too. I said women only and he said same. Immediately after that he asks if he can send me some dic pics. I’m like wtf dude why?!?! He said “I dunno sometimes it’s just good to check them out”
That was enough internet for one day.

Fellow men, please help me understand this.
Dic pics for women or gay men sure I can sort out see the logic. But another straight man??? What is there to gain? Is it a kink?

Hello friends. I’m 34m, ethnically Chinese, born and raised in the US. I speak a tiny bit of Cantonese but at the level of a 6 year old. This is gonna be part asking for thoughts and opinions and part me simply getting out some lingering emotions.

Walk with me if you dare.

About 3ish years ago I briefly dated a Chinese girl (let’s call her Daisy) who came to the states for school around 18yo but then stayed in the states after graduating. I met her through a mutual friend’s wife when Daisy was 28 and I was 31. It was the strangest 8 months of my life with another human being I had ever experienced in the realm of dating. Lots of highs and lots of lows, and I guess I’m wondering how much of the strangeness was due to cultural differences and how much of it was her being…her.

First off. She was married. I know, not my finest hour. I was lonely, she was lonely, but strangest part was that my friend and his wife were the ones who pushed for us to get together and they pushed HARD. They’re both also international students who stayed in the states after graduating, we’re all around the same age (28-35). Apparently her husband was a real scumbag and they all hated him. I never met him. He had a place with Daisy but moved out under the pretense of mental health. He was actually seeing another woman, they had concrete proof. It was an open secret but they continued to play dumb when he was around.

Daisy had plans to divorce him but was waiting on some immigration docs to go through so that the process would be easier. I wanted to wait until all that was done before dating but our mutual friends were absolutely feral for us to get together immediately. I gave in one night and went for it. BEST goddamn sex in my life.

After some weeks of barely leaving the bedroom I got to know other sides to her personality. She was the most spoiled out of touch girl I’ve ever met. She couldn’t even look at people she thought was too poor and hated any length of walking. She drives to the gas station 1 block from her place. It was amazing to me how she was able to hide that part of herself for months. Her parents are upper level government officials in China. She never wanted for anything ever.

The first few times we hung out she kept saying how she likes simple things and mostly just stayed at home watching shows and reading. 3 months later she does a complete 180 and literally said she lied about all the simple stuff she said before and that she’s actually “accustomed to a high standard of life” the subtext being “if you’re poor, I can’t be with you”. Now I’m not poor but I also don’t believe in going out to expensive restaurants 3 times per week dropping $200-400 per person each time which she fully expected me to pay every time. We fought a lot over her (what I considered to be) ridiculous views about money. She also thinks any talk of money or budgets is too cringe to have. She’s never worked a day in her life. She said she “deserves” all the things people spend on her.
She laughed in my face when I said relationships aren’t solely about spending money. I could go on but it’s just more of the same theme and this post is already massive.

One day I had enough and I broke up with her and she proceeds to drag me through the mud with every cheap shot and personal trauma I told her in confidence she could think of for 30 long minutes. I didn’t fight back, I just took it. Ripping apart her personality would have been too easy and classless of me. When she was done I told her to leave. Never saw her again or the mutual friends. I could only imagine the things she said about me which I have no doubt they took completely at face value.

How common would you guys say this behavior is in China? Or did just roll snake eyes?

If you made it this far, I’m deeply ashamed that I can’t reward you with anything more than a strangers gratitude. Thank you 🙏 may this kind of love never find you my friend

My parents are immigrants from southern China. Until the age of 5 I only spoke Cantonese until I started school in America. I learned English quickly but my Cantonese was frozen at a 5yo level. We lived in an area with no other Asians at all. I didn’t have an Asian friend until probably high school. My parents speak enough English to get by in America but any topic deeper than the weather is off the table.

Growing up they were working sun up to sun down. I mostly only saw them on weekends and true to Chinese cultural norms they didn’t really talk to me with any expectation of me having a response. They never felt the need nor had the ability to develop my Cantonese. They just assumed it was automatic because that’s how it was…in China. They seem to have the idea that culture/language is a genetic phenomenon and my American-ness is my own personal failure which they are not shy in reminding me. As a kid, this made me absolutely hate Chinese culture and destroyed any desire to learn Cantonese or Mandarin (they speak both) on my own. You can imagine how infuriating this was when arguing because of course it’s done in Cantonese and I quite literally can’t say anything even if I wanted.

I’m 34 now and they’ve stopped blaming me for the most part but we’re still not able to really have complex conversations. I haven’t met anyone else in this situation before and wherever I tell my friends or therapist this they get really sad for me.

Any of you in a similar boat?

I, m34 single, not dating, moved back in with my mom. Rent increases, stagnant wages, and general burn out. Nothing new here.
We don’t talk much on the daily, not out of any negative reason we just were never that chatty. Just simple check ins like “You hungry?” “Can you take the trash out?” “Going grocery shopping, want anything?” We don’t usually eat together either, maybe once a week if schedule and hunger line up.

If you’ve also moved back home, I’m curious what your daily life is like with your parent(s). How often do you guys talk? Share personal struggles? Do you eat together? Things like that.

Hi y’all, m34 in Washington here. Fair warning this is a long walk for a glass of water so I appreciate your time in advance!

About 5 years ago I decided to try hand in the dental lab. I attended one year of the dental lab program at my local technical college before getting a job pouring models. The employer there told me that while school can help it’s largely unnecessary for the industry and after talking to other coworkers it seemed like legit advice so I quit to work full time. Lab was ~50 employees, high volume production.

My managers there would try to teach me things here and there but with how busy it was it just very hard to get into any depth with anything. Plus while the experienced staff would say they’ve trained folks before I find that their answers to almost all my questions was “it’s just experience” and they would rarely actually explain things practically (obviously just my perception). They say I have good hands for the work but without more technical knowledge I’m only able to do so much. It’ll get busy and then I’m right back to pouring models. 3 years later and I’m still just doing model work at near minimum wage with no prospect of advancing. I felt pigeon held (hold?) so I decided to quit and join a smaller lab with the hopes of actually learning. Long story short, after a year, same thing.

Now with AI and 3D printers everywhere is there a future for someone like me who’s mostly just done mud work (and a bit of seating zirc crowns)? I feel like theres a bit of the old guard are gate keeping to preserve their job security. I feel like I got in this field 10 years too late. If you were in my shoes what would you do?

Last thought, how do you guys find jobs? I rarely see any postings for dental labs but I keep hearing from the community how short staffed everyone is..?

I’m sure this sort of thing gets posted often but I haven’t found any that quite fits my situation enough to be helpful.

I’m 34m, single, straight, very introverted. Recently I inherited a property that I turned into a rental. The money I receive from rent is enough for all my expenses and then some. It’s not exactly Rolex or Pokémon collecting money but it’s enough to live comfortably and save without working.

Before this I worked jobs here and there but I never found a career that I fell in love with like I see others do. I also never had any all consuming hobby to fill up my time. I’d go hiking or to sports games when the opportunity arises but I don’t seek these things out on my own. I also have no interest in traveling either. I’ve been on some trips with family and friends but I just don’t get the hype. Whatever fulfillment people get from traveling, I just don’t get it myself.

I’m bored. Like really bored. Extremely first world problem I’m painfully aware. I feel like those old folks in retirement homes but 30 years early. I watch too much YouTube. I scroll social media too often. Therapy has never really worked for me. Any and all thoughts are welcomed. Thank you 🙏