Listening to Michael Greenberg. Some of what he says makes sense to me, but a lot doesn't.
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Listening to Michael Greenberg. Some of what he says makes sense to me, but a lot doesn't.

I've seen a lot of people on Reddit talking about Michael Greenberg's "rumination-focused ERP." I think the point of rumination being a compulsion is very good, because it's something that sufferers (including myself) might not have realized is a compulsion that we can choose not to engage in. I like that he wants OCD sufferers to realize they have agency.

Where he lost me though, in this video specifically (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PcFTi7HJYnk&t) is toward the end where he says if you're experiencing anxiety, it means you're ruminating. And that to actually be doing ERP "properly," you should be experiencing no anxiety. Um...what? In my experience, anxiety has absolutely been the driving force of my OCD. Compulsions have always been an attempt for me to reduce anxiety. I also have successfully applied ERP to many obsessions/compulsions over the years, and "breaking" the obsession/compulsion always required me to go through anxiety. Maybe Dr. Greenberg's advice is better suited to people who have what has often been called online "pure O"?

To sum up...yes, rumination should be recognized more as a compulsion. But to say ERP does not or should not cause anxiety, that sort of blows my mind. Avoidance of anxiety has always been the reason I've performed compulsions. In this video he also says he doesn't think OCD sufferers have a problem with uncertainty tolerance. Ok, I see his point - but we do have a problem with uncertainty tolerance in regard to our current theme. We want to know the answer to THAT question for sure. His page on stopping ruminating (https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/how-to-stop-ruminating/) I would argue broadly acknowledges that, as he says to stop engaging with "the problem" posed by OCD. In many cases, engaging with "the problem" means answering a question such as "am I gay?" in a way that feels safe and certain. The problem is OCD can never be "satisfied," so the solution is to just stop engaging with it.

Even Jonathan Grayson's book Freedom From OCD, which is the first book I read that really highlighted the intolerance of uncertainty aspect, makes it clear that OCD sufferers tolerate uncertainty in other areas of their lives - it's just that they want certainty about their current theme.

If his ideas work for you, great, I do not want to discourage. I just was so bewildered by him saying ERP done "properly" should not evoke anxiety.

u/ExtensionFeeling — 24 hours ago

Glad to see this subreddit exists

I've had OCD for a long time...the main OCD subreddit is not very recovery focused at all, it seemed in the past to me to be mostly memes. I wanted actual tips about how to deal with OCD lol...anyway, this subreddit is probably more what I'm looking for. Keep up the good fight, everyone.

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 8 days ago
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Could you provide examples of the world einzelnen?

Wiktionary gives the translation for this word as single; lone...only, unique...separate; discrete...individual...and sporadic; occasional

For some reason, this word confuses me.

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 14 days ago
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Is Vorurteil the word you would use for "stereotype"?

My iTalki teacher translated Vorurteil as Stereotype. But it looks more like it's prejudice, preconceived notion? Also, there are some other words like Klischee or Stereotyp. After starting this post I see that on Wiktionary it does give stereotype as a possible translation for Vorurteil. Are Vorurteil, Klischee, and Sterotyp all interchangeable? Would you use über for all three words? Like...Das ist ein Vorurteil/Klischee/Stereotyp über Amerikaner?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 14 days ago
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What the heck is ICBT?

Encountering this term for the first time, someone brought it up in one of my threads. How does it work? How is it different from ERP?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 19 days ago
▲ 2 r/OCD

How do you guys resist compulsions?

Say the anxiety is still there like a day or two later. How do you keep resisting? How do you get through the first hour or two even?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 23 days ago
▲ 1 r/German

Can I say "durch meinen Tag gehen"?

What I want to say is I should go through my day and try to translate my thoughts and things I want to say into German. To basically figure out what I don't know how to say.

I thought this, and realized I don't know how to say "go through my day" in this sense.

Ich sollte durch meinen Tag gehen, und meine Gedaechte und Dinge, die ich sage oder sagen will, auf Deutsch uebersetzen (ins Deutsche uebersetzen??), um herauszufinden, was ich nicht sagen kann. Genauer gesagt, herasufinden, wo mein Vokabeln fehlt.

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 24 days ago
▲ 8 r/swtor

Is this game still worth playing?

I never played it much when it came out like 15 years ago but was/am a huge fan of KOTOR. Is the original content still in the game or it totally different now?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 27 days ago

Why is there no public Internet in the FAM timeline?

It's an interesting change. I mean, our world would be hugely different without the Internet. I imagine that's why the writers wanted to do it, but what are the steps that don't occur in the FAM timeline that do occur in ours?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 30 days ago

Can I send an e-mail through Microsoft Teams? I'm not sure what he's asking me to do.

I thought maybe I was supposed to set up an outlook with the same e-mail address as my Teams.

I did that then e-mailed him. He then said that didn't work, and:

"Through Teams send an e-mail to [outlook email address] and I will add you to my contact list"

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 1 month ago
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How do you all understand the acceptance approach?

I do think acceptance is the way out of DP/DR. Sort of not giving an eff about it. Has any recovered that way? How would you explain acceptance?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 2 months ago

Could someone simply explain to me the difference between a normal homeowner's insurance policy and an actual cash value policy?

Why can't I get a replacement cost estimator on an ACV policy?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 2 months ago

What do I get my mom for mother's day

She likes watching TV shows (like Hallmark or K-Dramas) and drinking coffee. She's tough to get a gift for. She said she wants nothing but I have to get her something

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 2 months ago

I'm a processor. Say I move into sales. Our bank uses hot leads. They buy a list of people who have expressed interest in a refinance. It's largely VA/FHA loans.

My friend says I'd be on the phone all day. What am I actually doing? Call up these people and pitch them with rates and terms and all?

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u/ExtensionFeeling — 2 months ago