u/Extramippo877

We have been together for about 8 years, 4 of them married. I work from home, so obviously I spend a lot of time at home, while he drives to the city almost every day. We do not have kids because he says he is not really ready yet.

About a year ago, I noticed he started spending more and more time in the city. Sometimes he would stay overnight because it is far to drive and he works late. I trust my husband, but about a month ago I saw a story on Reddit about the dotheyswipe website that lets you check if someone is on Tinder. So I decided to check my husband. I found his account.

Of course, I felt suspicious about the website and how accurate the information was. So I double checked by creating my own Tinder account, and some Dotheyswipe web found me using the same pictures from my new account. That made me 100% sure he was cheating, so I confronted him.

He got very defensive and told me it was just a stupid website. He said I need to find more hobbies and stop believing everything I see on the internet. I kind of believed him, but I felt really bad about how he reacted and called me stupid.

Anyway, on Valentine’s Day he told me he had another late meeting and that he would stay in the city overnight.

I don’t know. My friends tell me he is 100% cheating. I want to believe him, but come on, who has a late meeting on Valentine’s Day?

The thing is, my ex and I were together for about 1 year. It all ended when I found his profile on Tinder (using some website dotheyswipe), and then he got angry and pushed me against the wall.

After that, I stopped all contact with him and have just been trying to focus on myself and a new life.

But he keeps finding ways to contact me. He even texts me through my bank account. He texts my mom, comes to her house…

My friends told me I can call the police and get a restraining order, but I don’t want to involve the police because it’s a long and very unpleasant process.

Any advice here?

Urgent advice needed!

My wife and I have been together for over 15 years. We have kids, loans, and so on. Of course, after so many years together, our sexual life has slowed down, and sometimes I feel like she just doesn’t want me at all anymore. I feel unwanted and lonely in our marriage. I offered her to go to couples counseling, but she denied and said that she is happy with our marriage and that we have everything we even wanted. When I tell her that I want to have sex and have passion in our lives, she tells me that we are not 20 anymore and that I should stop being naive..

I know this is not an excuse, but my friend from work suggested I get myself on Tinder and see what happens. I never wanted to cheat on my wife, but of course I got Tinder and started to chat with some women. I never met any of them, but to be honest, I like talking to new women and feeling that I am wanted and needed.

Anyway, yesterday I came home from work, and my wife was shouting at me and threatening divorce because she saw my Tinder page on some Dotheyswipe website.

Now I don’t know how to prove to her that I did not cheat and did not even meet anyone. I really want to work things out between us and she knows I tried, but now she tells me she will never be able to trust me again and still refuses to go to couples counseling.

What should I do? Any advice on how to save our marriage and our sex life?

Like, why don’t you just get some balls and tell me the truth? Don’t I deserve at least some honesty after 6 years of marriage?

So coming back to my story. I’m 31 years old and my husband is 34. We have one son, he is 3.

And what do you think? Such a classic story. I got a bit fat after my pregnancy and of course my focus moved to my son more than to him, and he started to come home later and later. And now this. DotheySwipe found his page on Tinder! Facking asshoole!! And he is not telling me anything! I’m not even sure how long it’s been going on!

So now I need advice. How can I push him the most? Somehow confront him so he will get as hurt as I am, before I file for divorce! Maybe confront him in his office so all his colleagues know what a piece of shit he is??

I’m open to any ideas here!

I’m 19 years old and my girlfriend just turned 18 last month. I know we’re very young and probably still immature, but we’ve been together for 2 years already and I really love her. I honestly can see a long future with her and having a family one day.

The situation I need some more mature advice on is her recent behavior. She’s gotten very into Instagram lately. She does a lot of makeup, takes tons of pictures, and posts pretty often. Sometimes I’m not fully comfortable with the kind of pictures she posts, but I still try to support her if that’s what she wants to show the world.

The real issue started when she brought up OnlyFans. At first it was kind of a joke, saying she wouldn’t mind making a page because it’s easy money and better than college and loans. I was shocked, but I didn’t take it too seriously at the time.

After that, I noticed she started spending a lot more time at her friend Jess’s place. I’ve never liked Jess. Back in school she was known for dating a lot of guys and had a certain reputation. When I asked my girlfriend what they do together, she just laughed and said they have a lot in common.

Later on, I found Jess’s OnlyFans page. That made me even more suspicious. A lot of things started adding up, but every time I brought something up, my girlfriend would tell me I’m overthinking and laugh it off.

Then about three days ago, my friend found my girlfriend’s Tinder profile using that DotheySwipe. We got together when we were both underage, so this can’t be some old account. When I confronted her about it, she again laughed and said that Jess made the account for her just for fun.

I love my girlfriend and I want to trust her, but all these recent situations feel very suspicious. My friends keep telling me I should leave her.

I’m really looking for advice from someone older and more experienced. From an outside perspective, if I truly love her, is this something that can be solved? Is it possible I’m genuinely overthinking and she’s just young and having some innocent fun with Jess? Or is this something serious and I’m being naive?

We been together from 14 years, married 12, and our marriage kinda suck to be honest. I mean, we have 2 beautiful kids, jobs, house.. but we live like neighbours. Our sex is soooo boring that i don't even want to have it.

What to do in order to keep our love alive? How to bring this spark back? Looking for any kid of advice. 🙂

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Im 31F and I don’t want to get married!! I just don’t! I want to enjoy my life ALONE! No kids, no husbands or wives, just ALONE! But its soo hard to explain to my relatives, especially my granny.. its so emotionally exhausting.