u/Extreme-Grade-3623

I had a beloved quilt that got destroyed of Grateful Dead t-shirts and unfortunately most of them were rare lot ones so there's no way I'm ever going to find them again. I didn't know if anyone knew a place where I could get high quality reprinted t-shirts, preferably heat or screen printed. I tried to get one shirt reprinted but it was digital and the details made it super blurry. Does anyone know where I can go? Please message me or comment

Does anyone know of digital Detox retreats that aren't "quiet" retreats? I'd love to find an environment where there's no phones or social media or influencers or anything but instead of meditating we're actually socializing, face-to-face, like how humans did it until about 12 years ago. I miss the days when people lived in the moment instead of having to constantly be plugged in. And, yes, I'm online now but I'm not on my phone 24/7

I'm from Maine, one of the snowiest places in the USA. I'm tired of snow. I'd like to escape next winter and spend it traveling through Asia. I know January and February are peak months in Thailand for tourism but I didn't know some hidden gems that have lots of activities (especially jungle/beach) that won't be packed? I'm also autistic so I prefer quieter scenes anyway.

Do you guys prefer watching programs where the characters or at least one of the characters is openly Autistic or do you prefer programs and movies where the character is obviously autistic but it's never outwardly stated?

Personally I connect far more with media featuring coded autistic characters. Usually movies and shows that have open autistic characters have the autism be the bulk of the character's identity and storyline. Also I find that the majority of the characters are either precocious children or extremely awkward 30-something virgins. Neither of these describe my life so when I watch "Parenthood" or "The Good Doctor" I can appreciate that they're trying to really write them well but ultimately I would prefer watching a coded autistic film or show like "Curb Your Enthusiasm" or "Amelie" or pretty much any Wes Anderson film. The characters on these stories are, at least in my perspective and many others, autistic yet it doesn't define them or limit them and it doesn't turn into a cheesy "very special episode" PSA. It's also kind of cool because by keeping them coded it's almost like a special secret that only certain people are going to understand, the same way that people in the queer community recognize coded queer characters.

I was just curious whether February was overly packed like at Christmas time or whether it's easy to find an escape from the crowds even in places like Krabi or Phuket

I'm trying to find a case but I only know a few details about it It occurred in Asia, either China/Taiwan or South Korea. A woman either went missing or was murdered and while they were interviewing her...husband, I think, there was a whiteboard in the background written in whatever language they speak warning whoever reads it not to trust a particular woman. This was in the victim's handwriting and, sure enough, there is a woman with this name that's close to the couple. Does this ring a bell with anyone?

For some reason I can't upload a photo but I'm a 31 M who's been living with and taking care of my grandmother for 14 years. My father has been living here for the past 6 years and he has a girlfriend. Last year, my family is beloved cat ran away and after trying so hard to find him because my grandmother has been hurting so much I ended up adopting one who looks, feels, and acts just like him.

Anyway, we have two other cats and their litter box is in the laundry room. We used to have a lot more space in the laundry room but my dad's girlfriend moved in last winter and has been forced to occupy that space for her dresser and a small three-drawer nightstand with all her clothes in it. The reason it's in the laundry room instead of her bedroom is because my father has so much crap that there's no space. When you walk into their bedroom, you wouldn't think that a woman lives in there. It's covered top to bottom with sports memorabilia, video game posters, theme park merch, etc. She has a little shelf next to her bed. I have a friend in prison who has more space than her. Their closet is full to the max of junk that my father hasn't seen in at least 15 years. He could downsize or he could move that stuff to boxes in the basement but he chooses not to. So now because of his selfishness she has to continue using the laundry room for her clothes and there's no space with the litter box in there which means I have to put it in my room or try to find some other spot. It's ridiculous. She is such a f****** doormat it drives me nuts. I don't know about her past and maybe she was abused or maybe there's some sort of trauma and I'm trying to be sensitive about that but at the same time it's just frustrating seeing people be so weak and not even try to stick up for themselves.

My father has always been a selfish a****** his whole life. He will always prioritize his wants and his convenience over anyone else's. If the roles were reversed and he was asked to put his clothes in the laundry room he would throw a fit. I don't know what the hell she sees in him. Oh here's another one.... My father has to have the TV blaring and talking in order to go to sleep. He works third shift, she has to get up early in the morning. He doesn't care. She just laughs it off and says oh I guess I have to learn to get used to it hehehe and don't even get me started about how lazy those two are. They're like the grandparents and Willy Wonka they just spend all their time in bed whereas I spend way too much time trying to take care of my grandmother. It's just exhausting and I cannot wait for the day where I can finally move out but I can't do it for now because I want someone to take care of my grandmother properly and those two are just useless. I don't want to put her in a home either because she'll be deprived from her cats. 🤦🏻‍♂️ I don't know if there's any thing that can be done but I just needed to get it off my chest.

edit: So typically clear this only happens with actors who are primarily known for one performance and one look and even one accent. My favorite actors are all very versatile (Dustin Hoffman, Gary Oldman, Cate Blanchett, Tilda Swinton, etc.) and usually look and sound very different in each role they take on so it's a lot easier to believe the character whereas someone like Carol Burnett who's so iconic and has such a distinctive face that you instantly see it's Carol Burnett it's very hard for me to not see anything else.

I'm watching "Trials" and I can't help but laugh throughout because Julie Bowen and Sara Gilbert guest star and all I see are Claire Dunphy and Darlene Conner. It was the same way with Carol Burnett. I just couldn't take her seriously. This happens quite often with famous actors. It's very hard to see them as the everyday people that they're portraying rather than their celebrity. I saw the episode the other day of the boy raping his classmates and Rhea Perlman was his attorney and again all I can think of was Carla LOL or Matilda's mother. Hell, even Leslie Caron was someone I had an issue with because despite the fact that her heyday was 70 years ago her physical features are so striking that all I see is Gigi LOL Oddly enough, though, even though Whoopi Goldberg is one of the most iconic actresses alive she did such a phenomenal job with her monologue while being cross-examined that I just completely bought her character hook, line, and sinker.

Does anyone else struggle to get past the celebrity to see the character? I think one reason this show works is because Mariska Hargitay isn't famous for anything else so at this point she's 100% Olivia but if the show ever wrapped or if she ever left she'd always be Olivia unless she does a role with a lot of makeup.

I love to travel. My favorite place on Earth is Japan. I love every inch of it. As an Aspie, it's heaven on Earth to visit because the culture itself is basically if all the eccentric autistic people of the world got together and decided to create a society. Everything is clean, organized, punctual, predictable, safe, quiet, etc. even the crowds are mostly manageable because there aren't any pushing or shoving or people screaming in your ear.

Worst place? I would say that the worst place on Earth to visit would be Bangladesh or India. It's pure hell for autistic people. I've never been to this part of the world and I have zero desire to but the worst place that I have ever been is Egypt. It's basically the India of the Middle East. You can't even get through customs without people harassing you. While I didn't mind a middle-school class stopping me to ask me questions, get selfies, and even a group photo, in general I did not like constantly being touched (I'm a male, btw. It's not just women) and people shouting at me all day to buy things and then shouting even more when I wouldn't. I couldn't even enjoy the pyramids of Giza because people were just harassing me so much. It's an awful country.

Hello, everyone! I hope you're doing well! I am 31 and I'm autistic I have done extensive traveling but my only experience in Southeast Asia is Malaysia which was reasonably calm. I'm very hypersensitive to excessive noise so I definitely won't be visiting the nightclubs of Pattaya or Bangkok but I didn't know if Thailand was noisy everywhere like the Philippines or if it's easy to find a more relaxing place to unwind? A stunning beach or a tranquil forest? Also I can handle a little bit of noise but it's mainly just constant constant noise and outrageously loud nightclub noise that I'm most affected by.

also are there parts of Bangkok that are less noisy? I can handle general city noise and because Thailand isn't really a honking culture that helps a lot.

Does anyone know the actor(s) who plays Ygor? They are so talented!

Hello! I have autism and as a result I get over stimulated easily and I really hate excessively loud environments. I always wanted to travel to Bali and then covid happened and then the freaking Russian Ukrainian War happened prompting all these people to flee to Bali and wreak havoc on the poor island and turn it from a unique culturally stunning country into Majorca part 2. Are there places to just relax and enjoy and escape the stress? I wanted to go to Ubud but I heard that that's been ruined. Are there places in Ubud that AREN'T completely packed and full of drunk, disrespectful bules or self-absorbed influencers?

Also due to a disability I cannot drive. Not even a motorbike. Is it easy to get chauffeured everywhere?

Does anyone know the general walkaround actor for Ygor? He's incredible!

I have no plans of committing suicide but I truly cannot wait to be dead. the worst part about being in my early 30s is that I am already beyond burnt out and statistically I'm not even halfway to death. there are many things that I'm fortunate to have in my life but at the end of the day you can't escape your brain and I am just beyond exhausted and I don't want to deal with this for another 50 years.

i know this is a dark topic but it's also true that autistic people are at a higher risk than non-autistic people to commit suicide. I personally have felt suicidal ideation on and off for about 25 years almost. I know it's a major issue. What are the best resources to tackle it? Does anyone know an autistic person who did this?

I have a friend who I've met through true crime shows so knowing someone in the system and trying to understand prison culture is intriguing but confusing. She's at the women's prison in Grants, New Mexico so if there's anybody reading this who knows someone in there or who was incarcerated in there that would be very helpful. I plan on meeting her in-person for the first time soon and I'd like a photo of us together for an album/scrapbook. How does this work? What kinds of cameras do prisoners typically use? I'm assuming an employee of the prison will be taking the photos? Is it like a Polaroid or something? I'm hoping it is, frankly. They're a lot cooler.