u/Fair-Canary4118

anyone else in bullsh*t recovery? i had it extremely severe from ages 16-25, AN-P. i was in residential 4 times, hospitalized multiple and went into cardiac arrest once when i was around 20 at my lw of >!65 lbs!< so i obviously am very educated and have personally lived through all the risks to having an ED. the thing is i’m no longer at a point where i want to endanger my own life anymore, i just want to be thin and pretty and have no desire to be average or overweight. i’ve been weight restored and maintaining at >!BMI 17-18!< for a few years now, (im currently 30 and stopped purging/heavy restricting at 25) but never eat above maintenance. i’m perfectly happy staying at my bmi as long as i do not gain. i have no desire to be completely emaciated or on deaths door again. i feel in control of it, but my family and therapist disagree and want me to work with a dietician on “full recovery” since im still extremely distressed with the thoughts and calorie counting. i have a hard time wanting to “fully recover” because i feel like im getting by just fine, and have been so much worse, so me eating enough calories and maintaining doesn’t seem like an issue to me as long as im healthy. just venting i guess, but also wondering if anyone else can relate to never wanting to fully give up their ED.

has anyone 30 or older suffering with this gone through with botox/fillers? my fear with BDD is being like one of those horror stories where people are never satisfied, and keep getting endless procedures/surgeries. (i don’t have infinite money anyways) but i also want to do a couple things to touch up and feel more confident in my looks. is there a way to do this safely? is it possible to do a healthy amount and trust yourself/the doctors to not let you spiral and go crazy? thanks!

My fiance is a brand new Christian, and I’ve always been saved since childhood but now trying to deepen my faith. After living together and sleeping together for 5 years I finally got him on the same page, and since we got engaged he was open to re-waiting for marriage. It means so much to me, but I’m dealing with a lot of guilt about depriving him all of a sudden. He also caused betrayal trauma early in the relationship with adult content use, but since repented and changed as a person, and has been completely and totally accountable. However I’m still struggling with anxiety, an eating disorder and body image issues even years later and nightmares about him cheating, (I’m in therapy for it)

It’s a struggle for me right now between thinking we are doing the right thing by re-waiting for the remainder of time until we are married, but also the fear of just pushing him to do something again by feeling like I’m forcing my religious beliefs onto him, or worse ruining things by driving a wedge between us, when we have done so much work to heal and have been doing great. He promises he is ok with it and it’s not being forced, and he is just as interested in having a better relationship with each other and God. But the anxiety is still bothering me. Has anyone else dealt with something similar, and how did you cope?

if you had a tight budget and had to pick ONE perfume for a signature scent, which would you pick?

for context, i have a medical condition that is currently flaring up. my job is only a 2 minute drive away, but my car is in the shop being repaired and i don’t think i have the energy today to walk the 10 mins to and from work. would it be considered rude?? i’m happy to give a nice tip for the trouble. i’m also just worried about judgment from the driver, and feeling extremely embarassed 😅

im training a new hire, and was wondering if anyone had any cheat sheets that are as up to-date and have as much info as possible i can give to her! i’ve tried searching, but most i’ve found are rather old or don’t include that much