u/Far_Influence9185

So, in senior year I identified as bisexual and I had this like flirting thing with a guy. He was an arrogant dick who was also kinda transphobic and stuff. Well we never did anything more than flirt because I'm non-binary and he only saw me as a girl. Then two days later he asked to see my tits. So, yea.

Well, then I dated a guy for like four months and broke up with him for several reasons. But mainly because I realized I'm a lesbian.

Well two years later, out of nowhere the first guy messaged me and we've talked for a few times since (messaging). But some of the things he's said makes me think he's still into me. And I'm definitely not into him. It says I'm a lesbian on my insta profile, I've posted at least a couple stories on insta that mention I'm a lesbian. All of which he's had to have seen. But haven't actually said to him that I'm gay.

Granted I'm only assuming he's still into me but like what should I do? I'm definitely not into him like that anymore but I'm kind of naturally a flirtatious person and I don't have much of a social circle so like it's been nice talking to someone who isn't family, coworkers, customers or my one friend.

I don't know if he's still as arrogant and bigoted as he was, two years ago but still, if he is then I don't even wanna be friends with him. But I don't want to stop messaging him completely if he is an alright guy now. Like I'd like to be friends but I do not have feelings for him. So, again I'm still just assuming he still likes me, but if he does, what should I do? Should I just tell him outright? I'm not really hiding it and he had to have seen it on my profile and I know he view my insta story but still. What should I say/do?

So, I'm trying to diy patches for a pair of pants. I didn't want anything too obvious, I'm out (mainly as a lesbian, but a few people know I'm enby irl) but still closeted in some places/with some people. I'm making the pants specifically for a music festival but I'd like to wear them regularly as well.

But I wanted to make a patch/patches with something referencing my identity.

For lesbian, I know like I could do lavender. But I literally despise lavender. Like I can't stand the smell of it, so even though it's a little dramatic, I don't really wanna wear it either.

But like I do like the idea of a flower, plant, or just some random object representing it. Is there anything like that works for lesbian or non-binary? I couldn't really think of anything for non-binary.

If it helps I'm mainly trying to stick with a purple and black/grayscale theme but am open to using other colors on the patches. (Black pants and purple patches).

Idk why I felt the need to post this but like I am so fucking happy I got a pretzel. I had a dream where I was at a basketball game (I like to go with my grandma) and usually I get one of those pretzels and some other dream like stuff happened. But I woke up really wanting one of those fuck ass pretzels. Obviously I don't have any at my house but the place I work at is next to a Walmart that has a Subway in it. So I got one on my break and jfc this thing was fresh and good.

Ig this sounds kinda weird but like I think I'm relieved I got it. When I crave a food, I crave it bad. Like pregnancy craving bad even though I'm definitely not pregnant. And aside from Subway, the closest place I can think of that has them would be at the mall, and even though I need to go anyways, I don't drive. My dad probably wouldn't take me out to the mall just for a pretzel. I mean we have a couple other subways near where I live but I'm just glad I don't have to wait who knows how long. Only problem is I don't think I'll finish before my break is over and I doubt it'll still be good when I get off.

I'm 19 and I do have a job, but plan to get a second one at some point, just don't know how long it'll take. I honestly don't know what I'm gonna do. I'm not in an unsafe environment but living here is draining me, to the point where I should probably talk to my therapist about it. My checks aren't really that big. I think the most I've gotten for two weeks is 350, maybe, idk.

Starting with my paycheck tommorow I plan to start saving but I legit suck at it. Usually what happens is I get paid, and make sure everything that needs to be paid is paid and then essentially blow the rest of my check on things. Or I take money out early in order to order food or buy something that I usually don't actual need.

As of right now I pay for the internet, my dog's medicine, anything else concerning the pets (two cats and a dog), and have 6 subscriptions, but I think I might delete one of them since I don't really use it anymore. I do use all of the other ones very frequently, so I'd really prefer not to cancel those. However half come out of one check and half come out of the other. I also sometimes pay my phone bill. Usually me an day dad switch on who pays it, but usually I do. It's about 34 I think, so it's not super expensive.

I have a couple things I've bought and am currently paying off, not with credit cards, payment plans. I was hoping to get a tattoo this summer, but I'm fairly certain I should be able to save for both the tattoo and moving out.

I was planning on saving money and letting it grow interest but I don't really know how that works. Do I have to pay it back? How do I claim it on my taxes? I usually just load the W-2 file number into hr block and fix what needs to be fixed and then I'm done.

So I bleach and dye my hair a lot but this has never happened before. My friend dyed my hair for me (usually I do it myself) and I used a dye that I've used before and have never had an issue with it. However, it was in my hair for way longer than what I usually let it sit for.

Now I typically let it sit for about 30 min and I think I've left it in for like an hour before once but it was a different brand of dye. This time it ended up sitting for like two hours because my dad needed to shower.

So, she rinsed my hair out and I decided to use a moisturizing mask even though I didn't really need it as I use semi-permanent color but my hair was a little dry. So, she shampooed, did the mask , and then conditioner. I've used the mask before and we used the same shampoo and conditioner I always use. Well, she did not rinse the conditioner all out like at all. I've missed a couple spots before but it was as if I hadn't even attempted to rinse it out.

So, I tried to rinse out as much as I could in the bathroom sink and then we shampooed my hair the nest morning. Well, I didn't want to risk her not rinsing all of the conditioner out again so I used a leave-in conditioner which I have used before, and again this hasn't happened before. But she did put like way too much in my hair. So, yesterday I shampooed my hair and fully rinsed everything out. I did use a color sealing spray but it has never made my hair feel like this.

It feels almost greasy but it isn't greasy, like when I touch it my fingers don't feel greasy like they normally would. I think it could've been where the dye was because a) I left it for like 2 hours and b) I used two colors for my hair. They're different brands and the one on my roots was the one that I've let sit for longer in the past and it doesn't feel waxy. Just where the other brand was. I can't stand my hair feeling like this. What should I do?

I don't really want to use a clarifying shampoo because I really like the color but if I have to do it to get rid of this feeling in my hair I will.

I have two cats and a dog. I'd love to get it for my dog but she is 16 with two pre-existing conditions so I'd only be able to get it for the cats. They're both boys, one is 3 and the other is 9, almost 10 months. I'd like to have flea/tick prevention covered as well. They're strictly indoor but I wanna be safer than sorry. I like being outdoors and I'm trying to get over my fear of bugs, but I'm genuinely terrified when it comes to parasites, ticks and fleas included. Plus the tick population is higher this year where I live due to the weather. I'm going to figure out another prevention method for my dog as well.

I was looking at Spot but in order to get flea/tick prevention it'd end up being like $70-80 a month, which I really can't afford right now. So what are some other good but not super expensive pet insurance plans?