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Update:

Well, I was worried about the potential for an annulment to not be granted, so I went ahead and filed divorce papers this afternoon at the court. I’m thinking about asking my housing resource if it’s possible to relocate me and putting his stuff in storage as a lot of people suggested. That way he can get his key and papers at the same time. But it’s just an idea. I’m really uncertain about how to proceed. Any advice is welcome. Also, as suggested, I unblocked his number just in case communications end up being needed as evidence.

Original Post:

My husband is working out of state right now. He’s been gone one week. Our second anniversary is coming up. Regrettably, I married him before getting to know him, and it has been extremely difficult the majority of the time. We have good times, but they require ignorance.

I consider myself to be a peace loving woman. I want all to be safe, have what they need, and consider the world to be cruel and scary and violent. Anybody who perpetuates those negative qualities contradicts my principles and I have walked away from decades long friends for things such as this.

My husband is an immigrant with pending court dates and check-ins. Yet, his hunger for the red pill has started seeping through. I have long felt that his true existence has remained secretive. He doesn’t share media with me, we don’t discuss world events, and we don’t have any mutual friends. His family is all in his home country. I will now list some glaringly red flags that have appeared over the last two years:

- told me he couldn’t make confession because we “fornicate”
- never claimed to be Catholic before then
- prejudice against other Latin immigrants, whole countries
- asked me if I would force gender reassignment surgery on our baby, if we had one
- told me children were being forcefully injected with hormones for the purpose of gender reassignment by “the system”
- preempted the last two statements by doubting my belief in Jesus
- has repeatedly suggested I pray about being bipolar
- suggested he should incite liberal violence (?) in order to obtain some kind of victim visa
- today I found Facebook comments on a Donald Trump fan group, calling for deportation of Ilhan Omar and fear-mongering/perpetuating claims that communism will destroy the US

Ladies and lurkers, I have been back and forth with this man so many times. I don’t have any family of my own, and I’ve tried to maintain this relationship. But now I can see how deeply this goes against my personal values of just minding your own goddam business and trying not to be a total piece of shit.

Like I said, I’ve blocked him. He’s going to be gone for probably another month. A few weeks back I received approval to file annulment and have already completed the paperwork. But I’m scared. What do I do now? Do I wait for him to return? Or should I change my locks? Do I take a break from communicating and then unblock him? I’m at a loss of how to proceed. Please, tell me your ideas.

This is the little complex next to mine. This area has gotten so terrible.