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Hi everyone. I'm just venting here. We bedshare, almost exclusively contact nap and have nursed to sleep as of last week. I say as of last week begrudgingly.

LO has suddenly become very frustrated at the breast when falling asleep, and at this point I'm certain it's because she's become annoyed by having milk in her mouth once she's done with the feeding.

She's started 'fixing' that problem by sucking on her middle and ring finger. She does that a lot when awake too, but once she's asleep the fingers immediately fall out, which wakes her up. We're stuck in a cycle of unnecessary wake-ups now. Sometimes she's ok with accepting the pacifier, but she's becoming adamant on sucking fingers alone.

There's also the issue of constantly turning onto her tummy if we nurse to sleep in bed. She wakes up and immediately flips, then starts sucking on the fingers. Sometimes she goes back to sleep, sometimes she doesn't, but it's reeeealy frustrating because nursing to sleep worked so well until this point.

Now I have both a baby that wants to sleep on her tummy, which scares me, and one that wants to self-soothe and wakes herself up with that mechanism.

Again, just venting. Please share stories of how your babies try to usurp good sleep if you have them.

I've been battling with a lot of hip pain, so last night I figured what the hell, I might as well try sleeping on my back with my 4.5mo beside me. I had my leg raised and my arm above her head in some sort of a bastardised C-curl, figuring there's no way to hurt her. I was wrong.

I woke up in the middle of the night to find my arm pressed against the baby's outer side, basically hugging the baby and holding her little hand by her hip, which would've been cute and all had I not also squeezed her whole face into my body under my pit.

She was fine, it was the small fuss she made about it that woke me up, and our Owlet recorded no dip in O2 saturation, but I feel angry, stupid, and I'm never doing that again.

Now, I know that this is a controversial device and that people generally have two experiences with it. Either it amps up their anxiety because they become overfocused on the numbers, or it eases their anxiety. I fall into the second group.

I had the beginnings of terrible PPA happening. I remember waking up one night three times with absolute certainty that my daughter was gone, and even after I'd realised she was breathing, still believing that she was going, if you know what I mean. I hate to even write the actual word. I thought, I'll get an Owlet, and if that doesn't help me, I'll have to seek professional help, because it wasn't a way to live.

Since getting the device, I've been sleeping completely peacefully. We did have two or three alarms because of bad placement, but I really didn't mind those, since all the rest of the nights were peaceful for me.

I admit that around once a week, I still wake up completely forgetting that I have it, and then being sure that the baby is gone. But then I see the pulsing light on my walls, and I calmly go back to sleep, so I'm grateful for that massive, massive drop in such wakings.

Anyway, I just wanted to post this because I always find posts from people debating whether they should get one, as I did, especially since it's an expensive device. And if you're like me and more data and control lessens your anxiety, it's an absolutely brilliant purchase, and I have zero regrets.

Just curious. A mum asked about infant sleep in another sub and the answers went from ST to cosleeping suggestions. I checked the ratio on my comment about trying to ask in this sub and it was pretty low.

He is an amazing father, and he loves our children so much, but he just doesn't notice things that a parent must notice. So, I have a three-month-old baby, and I haven't strapped in our older 3.5-year-old daughter into the car seat in months. Today I did it for the first time, and I was having a very hard time getting the straps over her shoulders. I didn't understand what was happening until I noticed that she'd had a massive growth spurt and the bit of the car seat that goes around the head and above the shoulders was literally under her shoulders, so the whole thing needed to be raised. God knows for how long she's been riding the car like that.

Then there's other issues, such as him being in charge of bath time, and he does a great job with her hair, with her teeth and everything. But the guy never notices that her toenails are growing, so by the time I notice, the child has embarrassingly long toenails.

Then there's stuff like the handyman from the neighboring flat asking us not to flush our toilets or run any water because he needs to do a fix on the pipes. And we agree, for the hour, not to do that. Not a half an hour goes by, I have to run after my husband with a sleeping baby on my arms into the bathroom so that he doesn't run foul water down the pipes, which are open, and the handyman downstairs is currently working on.

It's like I'm the only person with a brain between us. What can be done to help him do better and notice things sooner?

Pozdrav! Imam macu koja ima kroničnu bolest bubrega. Tražim veterinara u Zagrebu koji je upoznat sa praksom potkožnog davanja infuzije mačkama kod kuće. Pun je internet priča izvana kako je to redovan dio održavanja visoke kvalitete života kad se pogorša stadij bolesti, ali niti jedan veterinar s kojim sam dosad pričala nije upoznat s tim.

This isn't ragebait, nor is it about parental comfort, I have a genuine question about my daughter's safety. I understand how good I have it, because my firstborn spent more time screaming than sleeping in the early months. I didn't think having a unicorn would be a cause for concern, but here we are.

My daughter is EBF and cosleeping in my room. She falls asleep by 11pm, often earlier, and sleeps though most nights. Sometimes she wakes for a feed at 4am, sometimes at 6am. I don't wake her up for feeds because she's gaining weight appropriately. So on many nights I get 7+ hours of sleep. Mind, I sleep lightly and I put my hand on her multiple times during the night to check her temperature because it's been very hot in my country for a while. We have a fan in the room.

I've been reading about SIDS and stumbled upon a Reddit thread where folk said that newborns sleeping through the night is a bad thing, because SIDS happens due to babies sleeping too deeply and being unable to wake themselves up, so such behaviour is actually a risk factor.

Now, the main stuff about SIDS online doesn't mention this, so I want to ask it anyone knows anything about it. The internet is stuffed with research papers and I'm wondering if it's is actually backed up anywhere as a risk factor.

And the main question is, should I put nights on some sort of schedule, waking her up for a feed or something so she doesn't spend so long sleeping so deeply?

So, my country is currently an oven simulator and I don't get an AC unit in the bedroom where me and our 7wo sleep until Friday. The room opens to the living room which has the AC on, but doesn't cool our room sufficiently due to the size of the place. I can't get the temperature lower than 24.5C (76F), and the baby feels warmer at night than I like. She's in a short sleeved bodysuit, and there's an additional fan in the room.

The other night the AC decided to take a break or something and the temperature rose to 26C (79F). I know overheating is a SIDS risk, and in very uncomfortable about it.

Anyone else in this situation? How to cope with the anxiety? I woke up last night from the heat and my first thought was that she's gone.

I need some outside perspective please.

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33f, 35m. We have been together for ten years, married for five, have a three-year-old and a six week old baby. We are currently moving house and because of the baby, he has to sort out everything in the old flat. To prepare the bathroom for the cleaning lady, he decided to take a cabinet's worth of my things and throw them all in the trash. We're talking two shelves of cosmetics, some makeup, all of my brushes, unopened packages of hair clips, all of my hygiene products...

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His excuse was that he was in a hurry, that it was all opened anyway, and that I've lived without it at the new house for a few weeks without issue. That it was all replaceable.

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I had to rummage through six bags of trash to try and salvage some of my things. A bunch got contaminated and had to be binned anyway. He threw away our daughter's Lego's because they'd been found under the bed, and even unopened cans of cat food.

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He told me what he'd done and laughed when he realised I was upset, because as he said, it was all trash that he'd thrown. I asked for details about the items, he couldn't name one item. It was only when I started crying over my makeup brush collection at the old house (covered in rotten tomato juice) that he realised he might've actually done a bad thing.

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He apologised, said that he's an idiot, but I could tell that he didn't think it was that big of a deal at all. I asked how he'd feel if I destroyed his favourite sweater. He laughed and said he'd buy another one, that he can't understand my tendency to 'get attached to things'. I pushed, trying to find something that would move him. I asked how he'd feel if I keyed his car. He got upset and said he'd call the cops on me, following it with how he'd really had enough of the conversation, how he'd been patient enough with me already, that I am to order new things without bothering with the expense and that we should move on from the conversation.

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I kept trying to explain that it's not even the things that hurt as much as his actions. Couldn't get the point across. I feel like I can't rely on him anymore at all, and he's just 'eh' about it.

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How do I move forward from this point? He doesn't understand and I am so, so hurt.

ETA: I screwed up when I was writing the post. Our only car is the company car that we get to use 24/7, so I was actually threatening other people's property which would've gotten him in trouble. To clarify, I would never key any car, I was just being mean with trying to get a reaction. I couldn't get him to care about any of his own things in the same context. It was all 'just things', not that it matters which one of us they belong to.

Buy it's his response that matters in the end, and it made this situation much worse than it should've been.

Hi everyone. We recently purchased a Malm 180x200 bed with Leirsund slats and an Abygda mattress. The bed is on a hardwood floor, now with rags under it as a temporary measure.

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We have a 6 week old baby that unfortunately wakes up every time I try to leave the bed. Every single nap so far the bed would make some ungodly noise when I tried to roll away and startle the baby awake.

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Do all Malm beds sound like a haunted house? The rags underneath definitely helped, but nowhere near enough. Any advice on what else we can do?

Hello! My baby is three weeks old. She's my second child and I started bedsharing with my first at about 5-6 weeks after falling asleep with her in an unsafe position. I've been bedsharing with her until the baby was born. I have never, ever woken up on my back with her, but every morning with the new baby I'm on my back, with my hand still extended above her head.

This morning her face was pressed against my side. I wear a shirt with a zipper, so her nose was pressed against the soft material. When I moved away from her, her breathing became louder.

I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. I am petrified of hurting her. Do I keep trying to make myself stay in the safe C curl or does she have to sleep alone because I haven't been able to stay on my side?

LO is 17 days old. She's my second and I've embraced bedsharing from the beginning this time around. It took almost two months of sleep deprivation and dangerous situations with my first for us to bedshare so I'm completely new to how it all works in the very beginning of a baby's life.

She breastfeeds easily if the boob is firm with milk, but as the boob softens the nipple descends towards the mattress, so to speak, and she has a hard time latching onto the softened nipple.

Can anyone tell me when to expect this to stop being an issue? Because I'd really love for us to sleep while she's latched, but as of yet it's been impossible, I have to keep picking her up into the cradle position and wait for her to sleep, often having to do that multiple times because of failed transfers to the mattress. Any help is much appreciated!

I'm freaking out. The day before yesterday, when LO was 9 days old, we visited my mother. Today she called me to say she has a sore throat, a runny nose and a mild fever.

I didn't let anyone see my first for two months, but that was a winter baby. I figured we'd be all right as it was May and my mother doesn't have any kids around and generally isn't around people much.

I understand I'm quite sleep deprived and hormonal, but I've basically already convinced myself that any minute now the baby will develop symptoms and we'll end up hospitalised. If there's any comfort someone could provide to help me get off this downward spiral, I would be extremely grateful.

Pozdrav svima. Kupili smo stan s potkrovljem, pa nas zanima ima li tko iskustva kako se obračunava neto korisna površina tog unutarnjeg prostora? Prema pravilniku o koeficijentima i prema elaboratu etaziranja neto površina se računa s koeficijentima prema visinama stropa, ali na Q&A APNa piše kako je koeficijent 1,00 za unutarnje prostore.

Dakle, dobar dio mojih iskustava sa Boltom je loš. Ima stvarno pristojnih vozača u ok autima, ali najčešće su u pitanju stari auti koji djeluju kao da ih selotejp čuva od raspadanja, vozači koji će pod redovno prigovarati i općenito stvari poput neugodnog mirisa i sl.

Danas je bilo teško dobiti Uber pa sam ipak zvala Bolt. Cijena ista, samo je Bolt brže pronašao vozača, a baš mi se žurilo. Mislila sam da sam se mentalno pripremila na sve, ali da ću doživjeti da me dočeka na krivom mjestu (jer inače kupi mušterije tamo pa si je on automatski...), onda da prigovara k'o baba da ne smijem imati otvoren prozor niti malo jer je njegov već otvoren pa 'propuh', te za kraj vidi da je moje odredište na dnu nizbrdice (ništa dramatično, stalno se vozim taksijem i nitko mi dosad nije progovorio) i odbije završiti rutu do kraja pa nek ja šetam do dolje. Vidno trudna btw.

S Uberom nikad, ali baš nikad problemi. Super vozači, super auti, super iskustva. Zašto je Bolt toliko lošiji?