u/GoodDesign01

I have talked to women. And definitely, I remember small things they did, which was definitely cute and mature

1. Reacting to my good morning and good night messages. A small heart, the same way I did for them.

2. Did texted first and never made me feel, I was the only one who wished to have a conversation and know them more.

3. Would video call, and show me their nails, cute stuff they bought, and wished the same for me too, to see how I was looking for my day ahead, felt recognised.

4. They were honest about the times they will be unavailable, due to family, friends, and or work, but never made me feel I was left out. Sometimes they used to send random snaps during parties, or when they were out. Especially the cute selfies lol, they all looked beautiful, smiling.

5. They were confident, in their speech, skills and their work, and were motivated for their careers. It all showed how much they actually loved themselves, more the love, more the care, more enjoying the freedom they all worked hard for. I respected them for it.

6. And the same women, were so soft in their voice when they were interested to know you more, a gentle 'Aap, kya kar rahe?' with a feminine touch, made me smile, internally more than my face.

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Agreed, while during the process of talking, we realised we were different, or not exactly what we were looking for, so yeah, we parted ways respectfully.

But I also encountered some, who never bothered to reply back. Acted like it was ok to say you are cute and ghost. Also just waiting for the person to stop communicating from their end instead of saying I am not interested.

Hey I understand, and I totally get it, if you guys say let's be friends instead the moment you see our photos, you are scared of what the guy can do, a potential harm maybe, and a direct no, feels heavy.

But, it's fine, and completely ok to be rejected. And it's completely ok too, if after a while of talking they say they didn't felt the feelings growing or didn't like you enough.

The road is tough. But the path to love wasn't easy, it takes strength, after all the saying of, it goes through you, the love of yourself, the teachings, before you are capable to love someone else without hurting you.

All the best.

I have talked to women. And definitely, I remember small things they did, which was definitely cute and mature

1. Reacting to my good morning and good night messages. A small heart, the same way I did for them.

2. Did texted first and never made me feel, I was the only one who wished to have a conversation and know them more.

3. Would video call, and show me their nails, cute stuff they bought, and wished the same for me too, to see how I was looking for my day ahead, felt recognised.

4. They were honest about the times they will be unavailable, due to family, friends, and or work, but never made me feel I was left out. Sometimes they used to send random snaps during parties, or when they were out. Especially the cute selfies lol, they all looked beautiful, smiling.

5. They were confident, in their speech, skills and their work, and were motivated for their careers. It all showed how much they actually loved themselves, more the love, more the care, more enjoying the freedom they all worked hard for. I respected them for it.

6. And the same women, were so soft in their voice when they were interested to know you more, a gentle 'Aap, kya kar rahe?' with a feminine touch, made me smile, internally more than my face.

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Agreed, while during the process of talking, we realised we were different, or not exactly what we were looking for, so yeah, we parted ways respectfully.

But I also encountered some, who never bothered to reply back. Acted like it was ok to say you are cute and ghost. Also just waiting for the person to stop communicating from their end instead of saying I am not interested.

Hey I understand, and I totally get it, if you guys say let's be friends instead the moment you see our photos, you are scared of what the guy can do, a potential harm maybe, and a direct no, feels heavy.

But, it's fine, and completely ok to be rejected. And it's completely ok too, if after a while of talking they say they didn't felt the feelings growing or didn't like you enough.

The road is tough. But the path to love wasn't easy, it takes strength, after all the saying of, it goes through you, the love of yourself, the teachings, before you are capable to love someone else without hurting you.

All the best.

I have talked to women. And definitely, I remember small things they did, which was definitely cute and mature

1. Reacting to my good morning and good night messages. A small heart, the same way I did for them.

2. Did texted first and never made me feel, I was the only one who wished to have a conversation and know them more.

3. Would video call, and show me their nails, cute stuff they bought, and wished the same for me too, to see how I was looking for my day ahead, felt recognised.

4. They were honest about the times they will be unavailable, due to family, friends, and or work, but never made me feel I was left out. Sometimes they used to send random snaps during parties, or when they were out. Especially the cute selfies lol, they all looked beautiful, smiling.

5. They were confident, in their speech, skills and their work, and were motivated for their careers. It all showed how much they actually loved themselves, more the love, more the care, more enjoying the freedom they all worked hard for. I respected them for it.

6. And the same women, were so soft in their voice when they were interested to know you more, a gentle 'Aap, kya kar rahe?' with a feminine touch, made me smile, internally more than my face.

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Agreed, while during the process of talking, we realised we were different, or not exactly what we were looking for, so yeah, we parted ways respectfully.

But I also encountered some, who never bothered to reply back. Acted like it was ok to say you are cute and ghost. Also just waiting for the person to stop communicating from their end instead of saying I am not interested.

Hey I understand, and I totally get it, if you guys say let's be friends instead the moment you see our photos, you are scared of what the guy can do, a potential harm maybe, and a direct no, feels heavy.

But, it's fine, and completely ok to be rejected. And it's completely ok too, if after a while of talking they say they didn't felt the feelings growing or didn't like you enough.

The road is tough. But the path to love wasn't easy, it takes strength, after all the saying of, it goes through you, the love of yourself, the teachings, before you are capable to love someone else without hurting you.

All the best.

While I am working on myself, I am trying my best to socialise and if fate happens, find someone who..

1. Is working on her career, with the intent to earn and live the best life for herself.

2. I found to be cute. Someone who brings peace to my world, who enjoys my thoughts, and agrees with my mindset of growth and calmness.

3. Wishes to have a family of her own, kids of her own one day, the intent of that is more than enough. I will do everything in my power, as a partner, be there for her, but her consent will be the final decision here.

4. Has heart to accept love, through hugs, flowers, chocolates, random touch and gentle kisses.

5. Someone who doesn't smoke. I am not into smoking, so I won't be compatible with someone on line of this. Drinking occasionally is fine, but I don't drink as well.

6. Someone who wishes to grow together, taking a leap of faith, after fully knowing me, so that we grow as individuals and hence forming a stronger couple. A strong family, with both individuals working and being each others support.

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While these are the things are bring to the table, apart from doing the same things above but from my side..

1. I have worked hard on myself, my career, and have delivered results. Although, still improving. Currently working as a SDE and graduated from a tier 2 university, after scoring well in JEE. Working hard to study, socialise and travel. The goal is to improve as a person.

2. I wish to have a family of my own and be enough strong so I can keep my love safe.

3. I will do everything in my power to make sure she feels home, she smiles the way she likes, laugh the way without fear of being judged. I wish to see her smile, the moment she sees me.

4. I am working on my emotional intelligence, although my friends, have complimented me and even the women I talked to earlier with, cited I was mature for my age, and I am grateful that I took this road.

5. I have a height of 5' 11" (180 cm) and although the gym is on and off, it's helping me to feel better about myself.

I have noticed, "Hey let's be friends" is more like "If I say no to him directly on his face, he might act violently, and if I say let's be friends, atleast he will not harm me"

These are the words from my female friend, who rejected someone who approached her. She didn't liked him enough to consider him and thats a very valid reason. But instead of saying the truth, she said let's be friends and she used to just talk with him in hope he wouldn't harm her(in the worst case scenario) and wished the interaction dies slowly.

I approached someone a while back. She was beautiful and cute. A confident women working in Finance. She rejected me saying, "Hey I am currently not looking for something, can we just be friends instead?"

I also understand, this usually means she wants to test me how I am as a person to think about me in that way, but when I asked this

"I guess you don't like me enough, or there was a turn off. Please feel free to reject, if you are thinking that way, I would happily go my way and will never approach you"

"Yeah, thanks for understanding, but I feel bad"

"It's completely ok to reject people, not everyone likes the same flower", I handed her a small painting of a bouquet which I drew in my office garden and we had a decent laugh.

After that day, she was the one who always used to say hi first and shared me the crispiest office gossips in the lunch break lol.

I asked her "I thought you didn't wanted me in your life"

She replied "You accepted rejection, and weren't mad about me, you felt normal and your vibe felt safe"

I felt warm the moment she said this. Although keeping my promise, I will never approach her romantically, unless it comes from her side.

But is this really true?

Do you guys really think this much?

:((

This is just ruining even the genuine people approaching each other and I guess it can't be helped.

So my cousin who is in class 8th, isn't treated well by his family. Let alone love, even basic decency is just not given to him.

He has an elder sister, and trust me, the amount of love, care she gets is just what every child should get. She was given a smartphone the moment she passed her 10th.

While my guy, was just asking for a cycle and his parents are just like, why you need, why can't you walk?

I also got a lot of other info from his sister, because she is quite talkative and exact representation of her parents. Hates her own brother because he is kaala (black) in skin tone, while rest of them are quite fair.

He has a bent nose and crossed eyes.

I generally spend time with him, whenever I happen to visit the place. I get him chocolates, his favourite stuff, even have him my second hand laptop and yeah, this did cause a fight between me and his parents why I was doing this?

My guy, once crying said, I wish I study and I never come back home, they don't need me and I wanna live in peace, away from everyone.

I can't even help, but agree to him.

I am same as him, same skin tone, but I was given resources when I needed them and quite happy with my parents.

I just wish, his heart doesn't get closed when he steps in the real world.

So my cousin who is in class 8th, isn't treated well by his family. Let alone love, even basic decency is just not given to him.

He has an elder sister, and trust me, the amount of love, care she gets is just what every child should get. She was given a smartphone the moment she passed her 10th.

While my guy, was just asking for a cycle and his parents are just like, why you need, why can't you walk?

I also got a lot of other info from his sister, because she is quite talkative and exact representation of her parents. Hates her own brother because he is kaala (black) in skin tone, while rest of them are quite fair.

He has a bent nose and crossed eyes.

I generally spend time with him, whenever I happen to visit the place. I get him chocolates, his favourite stuff, even have him my second hand laptop and yeah, this did cause a fight between me and his parents why I was doing this?

My guy, once crying said, I wish I study and I never come back home, they don't need me and I wanna live in peace, away from everyone.

I can't even help, but agree to him.

I am same as him, same skin tone, but I was given resources when I needed them and quite happy with my parents.

I just wish, his heart doesn't get closed when he steps in the real world.

Feels difficult to write but yeah this is more of a confession.

We overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can do in a year.

I am grateful. First job. First salary.

Sent money home.

Bought a good watch for myself.

And a oneplus too.

Even went to a few trips, solo ones.

Went to therapy

Things I lost.

I entered comfort zone and have literally destroyed myself.

Haven't worked on my health and lost touch of DSA.

Mostly waste time doomscrolling.

Trying to get back in touch.

And yeah, I am not doing okay.

I am already a high age fresher, turning 25 in oct.

Feels difficult to write but yeah this is more of a confession.

We overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can do in a year.

I am grateful. First job. First salary.

Sent money home.

Bought a good watch for myself.

And a oneplus too.

Even went to a few trips, solo ones.

Went to therapy

Things I lost.

I entered comfort zone and have literally destroyed myself.

Haven't worked on my health and lost touch of DSA.

Mostly waste time doomscrolling.

Trying to get back in touch.

And yeah, I am not doing okay.

I am already a high age fresher, turning 25 in oct.