u/Gravitys_Bitch

If ONE MORE person tells me I shouldn’t be doing something simply because I’m pregnant I’m going to lose my mind. Strangers, friends, even my parents are always making the dumbest comments on how I need to be doing less and taking it easy. Examples of things I’m doing when these comments come up:

- Carrying the groceries
- Working out
- Picking up literally anything that weighs more than 5lbs
- Doing my job (I pack parachutes for skydivers)
- Drinking a beer (completely joking 😂)

But you get the idea. I was very fit and active before the pregnancy and I plan to continue that lifestyle as normal until my doctor tells me otherwise or I stop feel good. We are not fragile little birds just because we are pregnant and I know it’s from a place of care but it makes me so mad when people tell me what I should/shouldn’t do and go out of their way to make sure I get the least amount of work or chores or whatever.

My planning brain is overloaded in my early stages of pregnancy (16+3 weeks) and I have some questions when it comes to buying diapers.

1. When did you start stocking up on diapers to prepare for birth? My mom says I should be buying a box every time I go to the store but it feels WAY too early for this.

2. What is your preferred diaper brand? It seems like people are very loyal to their diaper brand. How am I supposed to stock up on diapers if I don’t know what kind I will like?

3. Is there a recommended amount if diapers to have in the house to prepare for the new born? Is there such thing as too many?

4. Diaper size… how do I stock up if I don’t know what size baby I will have? How quickly do they change diaper sizes?

I am probably way overthinking this but my brain won’t stop trying to plan 😂 I appreciate any guidance given!

Super random question 😂 and I’m reallly just curious! We are trying to establish a few songs the baby will recognize once they are born with our own voices.

Would love to hear what you guys are currently singing to your little babies.

Our top two right now:
- “Three Little Birds” by Bob Marley
- “Will Ye Go, Lassie Go” from the Sinners soundtrack

I thought 2nd trimester was supposed to be the energetic phase of the pregnancy 😭 I am 16 weeks today and the last 3ish weeks I had TONS of energy and now all of a sudden around 1-3pm I just have this massive energy crash to where I can hardly keep my eyes open and I feel like I get winded really easily. I’m a natural busy body and not being able to keep up with projects and chores is killingggg me!

I’m use to having 12-14 hours in the day to complete things and now I’m down to like 6 useful hours.

I’m just venting though. Absolutely loving the pregnancy journey overall and can’t wait to see what challenges come when the baby is here!

What are your pregnancy frustrations of the day?

I am a home inspector and need to have professional looking pants that are also tear resistant (like 5:11 pants or something they would sell at tractor supply). I can’t seem to find any “working pants” meant for pregnant people and I can only upsize so much with my short legs it starts to look ridiculous, plus the waist is always very lower and uncomfortable.

Anyone here work in construction or an outdoor job find any professional and functional pants that are comfortable to wear with a belly?

I am pregnant with our first kid and really just thinking ahead.

TLDR: I know a SAHM is a hard and important job. My guilt comes more from just wishing my husband had more free time to spend at home and inevitably with our baby, for his own experiences and love.

I never wanted the role of a stay at home mom. I had always intended to have a job and contribute to the family financially. After getting out of the military 2 years ago I tried a couple different career paths and nothing has stuck. Trying to build my own company but it’s very slow.

My husband makes enough for us to live comfortably. The guilt comes from me being able to stay home all day and he has to work 40-60 hours a week and is always tired and drained. I can already imagine him feeling like he’s missing out once the baby comes. I don’t want him to suffer because “it’s traditional the man makes the money” which is what he tells himself to feel better about it. But I KNOW he wishes he would be able to be home more.

I just wish I was able to make money too so he could work less and also get a chance to be home.

It really weighs on me… he insists I’m adding value in other ways, and I believe him, but I just feel so guilty spending my time at home while all has time for is work and sleep.

Maybe this is a weird question. I have seen conversations on instagram and Reddit about moms who ran a lot during pregnancy ended up with babies that seem to need constant motion to fall asleep once born.

I have been very active during my pregnancy with lots of running and general working out. I am just curious if anyone has found this to be true.

It makes sense to me that if the baby is used to lots of rocking/movement in the womb then they might expect that once born too.

First time mom and only 15+2 but thinking ahead. I have a large group of friends from work and an even bigger family. It definitely feels expected to have a baby shower (maybe even 2 with my family and friends separately). I don’t like being the center of attention and I feel weird inviting people to a party that is literally just designed so people can buy me things.

I know people want to contribute and celebrate and I’m really excited for it all! But I’m having trouble with the whole concept of a baby shower.

I wonder has anyone else done something less traditional where people could get you things if they wanted but there wasn’t some weird pressure to attend an official party?

I’m 15 weeks with my first baby and over the last week almost every night I have dreams of losing him/her. Either I’m at the hospital and the ultrasound shows it was lost or I’m at home and just have this horrible feeling that it’s gone. All of the dreams are full of overwhelming emotion of grief and heartache.

It’s traumatic and makes me not want to sleep. Has anyone else had this experience? How do I cope with these nightmares?

The pregnancy is going really great and there’s no reason for me to actually think anything bad will happen. Hoping the dreams will stop soon.