u/Gullible_Customer790

The title sounds stupid for sure but I need to let this out somewhere. If you think It’s not that deep, maybe you’re right.
I’m relatively tall/average and slim but still a healthy weight, but my fat doesn’t really go to my lower body much, like bum or thighs. I’m not completely flat but nowadays I would be described as someone who ‘has no ass’.
Now, It’s not that I literally hate my butt. I like it, but I hate that It’s not desirable. I hate that I could never achieve what some girls have naturally unless I’d get a bbl, which I’m not trying to do. The gym can only do so much and It’s a bit exhausting to eat so much protein every day to keep up only to get an average sized behind. I hate that if someone would be interested in me I KNOW they don’t find my small ass attractive – rather It’s something to overlook and brush off because yeah, I don’t have a nice fat butt like most girls but “my personality makes up for it.” I hate that I literally can’t change not being perceived as attractive in today’s society, It’s weighing on me real heavy. I don’t want to talk to people who are interested in me because I know I can’t give them what’s good looking and considered the hottest feature of a woman’s body. I feel less of a woman and I hate that I let it affect me so much as well.

Edit: Boy why can’t I see any comments aside from in notifications 💀

relationship flair but I mean this also just in general attraction context. as in liking more than one body type.
I’m aware this question sounds silly, but in my experience guys my age are only vocal about liking one body type (slim thick, fat butt, extremely wide hips) while the only guys vocal about liking full on bigger or slim women, and all various proportions are over 30 years old. I’m just wondering if I can find someone who’ll be genuinely attracted to my slimmer frame and not just settle because of my personality even if that is the most important factor.
Partially why I’m hesitant to approach guys in the wild even if I want to, I look at them and think ‘he doesn’t look like he’d find me attractive in this day and age, I give up.’
Can any guys help provide some insight on the other side?

I’m trying so hard to be confident in myself, and I know I’m not ugly, but I also know that my body is inadequate regarding modern beauty standards. I know I will be never the woman men find ‚hot’ or ‚sexy’ and I have to look for the 5% out of 100% that would nowadays. I wish women who fit the current standard while in their young years would see how lucky they are to be able to feel desired. I wish bodies weren’t trends and I wish people around the world had relatively evened out preferences but that’s not happening anytime soon. I hate that this is genuinely affecting my dating life because I’m having hard time accepting that someone who’s dating me would want to be intimate with me without having to imagine someone else. It sucks.

Full customization would be great too! I don’t really mind but all the girl mcs are described as ‘pocket sized’ in comparison to the ‘big male lead’, so I want to look for something different. Tall or short male lead, both is fine to me btw!

I do want to cold approach guys I find cute in public, but I’m afraid they’d agree to go out of desperation, not genuine attraction. Since they say It’s a 99% success rate, but considering how many men have different preferences, doesn’t sound very genuine lol

Hey! AFAB 21 here, for a few years I have identified as genderfluid, okay with any pronouns and in the last two switched to the non-binary label. But sometimes I feel like I am faking it because I’m very feminine presenting and I’m okay with feminine pronouns more than masculine ones. I don’t mind being called casual terms like ‘girl’, ‘queen’ or ‘girlfriend’, but I still feel like not entirely a woman, but I identify with female struggles entirely. I’m not sure whether I should change how I identify because I don’t feel entirely female but also feel like I’m living the female experience nonetheless. My friends are also very respectful of my identity but I feel like a poser sometimes…
I’m not sure if my identity struggles are because I’m neurodivergent and always felt less a girl, but I’m quite confused and sometimes I don’t think about it, but then again It’s weighing on me on how to explain myself to a potential future partner.
Edit: there’s also the fact that I am more submissive in relationships, and I date both men and women. I hesitate to date women sometimes because I’m afraid of being put in the dominant, masculine role because I don’t feel entirely female.

PipSqueak 2 is so repetitive and bad for me to use. Only Meow is working for me somewhat well right now, since roar and pawly are gone now. And Meow and Soft Launch are getting removed as well... Might leave this app be completely at this point and redownload if it gets fixed