u/Hefty_Special2487

I live in Jharkhand, but my family is originally from Bihar. We moved to Jharkhand because my father is in the Indian Army.

My mother was under 18 when she married her first husband, who was my father's elder brother. He was also in the Army. Unfortunately, he died in an accident while he was on leave. My mother was still a teenager, uneducated, and suddenly became a widow.

After his death, my father, who was his younger brother, was made to marry my mother. My father also got a job because of his brother's death, supposedly so that my mother could have a secure life. But instead, our lives became extremely difficult.

I don't remember everything from my childhood, but I remember enough to know that my father has been abusive towards my mother for years. He has beaten her, called her horrible names like "slut," insulted her parents, and constantly accused her of things without reason.

I remember one incident during COVID when my father wanted my mother to prepare food for him. When she refused, he hit her on the head with a Milton bottle, causing her to collapse. My sister and I were terrified and helpless.

There have been many other incidents like this.

I am now 19 years old, and recently I finally started speaking up when he abused my mother. He became angry with me and said that he would not pay my college fees. He told me to go beg and earn money myself. When I confronted him about his behaviour, he threatened to throw me from the floor, kill me with a knife, and told me that I should commit suicide. My mother and sister had to stop him from attacking me.

My father also regularly threatens to stop paying our expenses. My mother receives around ₹14,000 per month as a pension from her first husband's service. We survive mainly on that money, while also paying for tuition, milk, gas, and other household expenses. My father pays the rent but often threatens to stop doing so as well.

He recently spent money on a new phone for himself using money that was meant for my college admission.

My father is currently on leave, and whenever he is home, there are frequent fights and abuse. I feel like he deliberately creates problems before leaving so that he can avoid giving us money.

I have tried to convince my mother to consider divorce and seek legal help, but she does not want to leave him. I feel frustrated because I believe she deserves a peaceful life after everything she has suffered.

My father also claims that he will eventually give us his property and ancestral property. However, I have seen documents showing that some property he purchased is in my mother's name. I don't know exactly what our legal rights are and would need proper legal advice.

I am extremely angry and frustrated. I feel that the people who arranged my mother's remarriage after she became a young widow believed they were helping her, but the result has been years of suffering for my mother, my sister, and me.

I respect the many Army personnel who genuinely serve the country and behave honorably, but I don't believe anyone should be excused for domestic violence or abuse simply because they serve in the Army.

I am now 19 and feel completely trapped. I want to protect my mother and sister, but I also need to build my own future and continue my education. Because of the financial situation, I am considering taking a drop year and later taking an education loan to complete my graduation.

I desperately need guidance on what I should do next.

I live in Jharkhand, but my family is originally from Bihar. We moved to Jharkhand because my father is in the Indian Army.

My mother was under 18 when she married her first husband, who was my father's elder brother. He was also in the Army. Unfortunately, he died in an accident while he was on leave. My mother was still a teenager, uneducated, and suddenly became a widow.

After his death, my father, who was his younger brother, was made to marry my mother. My father also got a job because of his brother's death, supposedly so that my mother could have a secure life. But instead, our lives became extremely difficult.

I don't remember everything from my childhood, but I remember enough to know that my father has been abusive towards my mother for years. He has beaten her, called her horrible names like "slut," insulted her parents, and constantly accused her of things without reason.

I remember one incident during COVID when my father wanted my mother to prepare food for him. When she refused, he hit her on the head with a Milton bottle, causing her to collapse. My sister and I were terrified and helpless.

There have been many other incidents like this.

I am now 19 years old, and recently I finally started speaking up when he abused my mother. He became angry with me and said that he would not pay my college fees. He told me to go beg and earn money myself. When I confronted him about his behaviour, he threatened to throw me from the floor, kill me with a knife, and told me that I should commit suicide. My mother and sister had to stop him from attacking me.

My father also regularly threatens to stop paying our expenses. My mother receives around ₹14,000 per month as a pension from her first husband's service. We survive mainly on that money, while also paying for tuition, milk, gas, and other household expenses. My father pays the rent but often threatens to stop doing so as well.

He recently spent money on a new phone for himself using money that was meant for my college admission.

My father is currently on leave, and whenever he is home, there are frequent fights and abuse. I feel like he deliberately creates problems before leaving so that he can avoid giving us money.

I have tried to convince my mother to consider divorce and seek legal help, but she does not want to leave him. I feel frustrated because I believe she deserves a peaceful life after everything she has suffered.

My father also claims that he will eventually give us his property and ancestral property. However, I have seen documents showing that some property he purchased is in my mother's name. I don't know exactly what our legal rights are and would need proper legal advice.

I am extremely angry and frustrated. I feel that the people who arranged my mother's remarriage after she became a young widow believed they were helping her, but the result has been years of suffering for my mother, my sister, and me.

I respect the many Army personnel who genuinely serve the country and behave honorably, but I don't believe anyone should be excused for domestic violence or abuse simply because they serve in the Army.

I am now 19 and feel completely trapped. I want to protect my mother and sister, but I also need to build my own future and continue my education. Because of the financial situation, I am considering taking a drop year and later taking an education loan to complete my graduation.

I desperately need guidance on what I should do next.

I live in Jharkhand, but my family is originally from Bihar. We moved to Jharkhand because my father is in the Indian Army.

My mother was under 18 when she married her first husband, who was my father's elder brother. He was also in the Army. Unfortunately, he died in an accident while he was on leave. My mother was still a teenager, uneducated, and suddenly became a widow.

After his death, my father, who was his younger brother, was made to marry my mother. My father also got a job because of his brother's death, supposedly so that my mother could have a secure life. But instead, our lives became extremely difficult.

I don't remember everything from my childhood, but I remember enough to know that my father has been abusive towards my mother for years. He has beaten her, called her horrible names like "slut," insulted her parents, and constantly accused her of things without reason.

I remember one incident during COVID when my father wanted my mother to prepare food for him. When she refused, he hit her on the head with a Milton bottle, causing her to collapse. My sister and I were terrified and helpless.

There have been many other incidents like this.

I am now 19 years old, and recently I finally started speaking up when he abused my mother. He became angry with me and said that he would not pay my college fees. He told me to go beg and earn money myself. When I confronted him about his behaviour, he threatened to throw me from the floor, kill me with a knife, and told me that I should commit suicide. My mother and sister had to stop him from attacking me.

My father also regularly threatens to stop paying our expenses. My mother receives around ₹14,000 per month as a pension from her first husband's service. We survive mainly on that money, while also paying for tuition, milk, gas, and other household expenses. My father pays the rent but often threatens to stop doing so as well.

He recently spent money on a new phone for himself using money that was meant for my college admission.

My father is currently on leave, and whenever he is home, there are frequent fights and abuse. I feel like he deliberately creates problems before leaving so that he can avoid giving us money.

I have tried to convince my mother to consider divorce and seek legal help, but she does not want to leave him. I feel frustrated because I believe she deserves a peaceful life after everything she has suffered.

My father also claims that he will eventually give us his property and ancestral property. However, I have seen documents showing that some property he purchased is in my mother's name. I don't know exactly what our legal rights are and would need proper legal advice.

I am extremely angry and frustrated. I feel that the people who arranged my mother's remarriage after she became a young widow believed they were helping her, but the result has been years of suffering for my mother, my sister, and me.

I respect the many Army personnel who genuinely serve the country and behave honorably, but I don't believe anyone should be excused for domestic violence or abuse simply because they serve in the Army.

I am now 19 and feel completely trapped. I want to protect my mother and sister, but I also need to build my own future and continue my education. Because of the financial situation, I am considering taking a drop year and later taking an education loan to complete my graduation.

I desperately need guidance on what I should do next.

@lpu