u/Hell0There2005

I genuinely believe my dx girlfriend loves and has told me she wants me as a husband.

I just dont understand why. Yes, I am incredibly reliable, kind, supportive and encouraging to her and I take care of her.

But those are just acts of service. What about me? The person. She doesn't ask about my inner world or why I believe what I believe. We could spend the whole day never talking about myself as long as i ask her abkut her.

Why does she want to marry someone she doesnt try to understand. And yes it fucking hurts not feeling like your partner actually knows you for you

My dx girlfriend seems to always have something to complain about. Her job is stressing her out, her family is fighting, the weather is cloudy, she can't sleep etc

It never ends. Whats worse is after enduring her vents she gets happy and expexts me to be happy and even in the mood for sex after I wasted my mental and emotional energy enduring all that.

How to make this less of a problem?

The BSIT degree is updating to new classes and I need to pass them before 2028 according to my counselor.

Anyone have any info on whether its a good or bad idea to updatw?

After yet another serious conversation/fight with my dx girlfriend she has started to text me how my day is, how my hobbies are, what i think some niche interest i mentioned. Its nice and what I always wanted.

But not like this. It feels fake. Why did we have to fight constantly about this to get it?

Or am I just to traumatized and should enjoy and accept this new change?

Certain things have been making me angry and seeing it through an angry lens to act on feel good.

I'm mindful that I am angry, I am mindful that I like the feeling if acting angry but that's considered unwise?

Why? If we are speaking and acting when we know we are angry isnt that okay?

Because my girlfriend has mental health issues ive essentially felt responsible for managing her emotions. Yes that's bad I know.

She told me to stop and that she'd fix them herself. Before she can even try though I have to catch myself from asking "how are you feeling today? Anything you wanna talk about?" Im basically trying to fix problems she may have because I got used to doing that so I am the problem but idk what to do

My dx girlfriend and i have serious conversations that I have to initiate about our relationship and hows not going well.

I noticed she repeats what I say that I need "You want me to do X and Y, right?" In a distant almost disassociative trance.

Like she's processing the information but refusing to feel them. I am literally telling her we might break up and she recites the reason i gave her in what sounds like a monotone voice.

Dont know how to connect at this point

My dx girlfriend has a habit of finding something to complain about. Whether its her family, the economy, her job or aging or whatever it is and I realized how much I dont want to talk to her when she calls or I am around her because its just goijg to be complaining.

Is there a way to fix this?

Almost 3 years in with dx girlfriend and I wake up stressed realizing all the problems I have with the relationship:

Walking on eggshells. Feeling like a hostage to her monologues. no curiosity about my inner world. Avoidance about issues she only reveals after exploding. Mean comments. Lacking skills in emotional validation.

And she wants marriage and kids (she of course didnt have a serious sit down but rather made off hand comments because sit downs trigger her anxiety)

I just asked myself "is this the same person I fell in love with?" Like i dont remember being this stressed early on so did she get more comfortable hence these behaviors became less hidden?

My (DX - non-medicated) girlfriend of 3 years has ADHD and hyper focuses on her interests. She rarely asks me what I think or like and if she does its met with "That's nice. That's good you like that" no curiosity at all.

I told her i felt alone and unseen and like a pet she takes around to places rather than a human partner.

Well now for the last two weeks she is asking me a bunch of questions about what I like, why i like it, what makes me think this why? It feels amazing. I feel like i am seen!

But...i have read of this before where they change briefly before going back to old habits. How true is this?

She was on her period last week and moody. All of a sudden this week....its been none stop and I cant keep up. How to tell her I am not in the mood without offending?