u/Hell0There2005

there is an emotional disconnect when I talk about my inner world. When she calls I know I am going to hear about every thought and tea at her work. I can literally say not a single word for 10 minutes until she asks "hello? Are you there?" Though I usually engage and show interest in her topics.

I get talked at. And my interest feel unimportant as I usually get a "that is cool.....nice...." no follow up. No digging deeper. I might as well be talking to a coworker who doesnt care about me. Then I really dont know want to bring up my inner world

Foe the record, I KNOW she loves me and doesnt want to hurt me. I just feel its one sided.

Please help, what to say to her?

My GF forgot her doctor's appointment and was very upset about missing it. I was about to hug her and say the usual "im sorry, this must be tough" talk when I realized I had reminded her of the appointment the day before, I had told her not to go to bed late (she did anyway), and didn't write reminders herself.

I did those things to be supportive and a good boyfriend but the idea of "am I being a parent to a child?" Popped in my head.

I want to help my gf in life but not parent her, how do I find the balance?

I am a very excited person and I worry practicing mindfulness will change my personality. Is this something that will happen?

GF and I passed the 2 year mark. She mentioned marriage and kids as a joke. Now I feel she is ready for marriage.

And im scared. My first thought was "again. First grad school took over my life. Then working internships 10+ hours a day and now that I have some breathing room; marriage and kids"

I basically FEEL just as i am about to have less responsibilities now I am going to have more..it scares me. Is this normal?

Sometimes I get told things that hurt my feelings but I dont know if its just typical mean comments or abusive ones

My GF and I have been together for 2 years but its only now I realize she doesn't ask about my hobbies.

In fact she mostly ever asks "so how is x y and z going?" And x y and z are about my financial or living situation; she asks bc she has anxiety about security for our future.

So basically I feel zero interest from her regarding stuff I like and if I do get asked a question it's about money, job, adult stuff.

I dont feel seen, how to go aboit this?

My GF bottles things that bother her up until she explodes. I tried to get ahead of it and and eventually she starts to say "yeah this thing you did bothered me" which was good to know.

But she doesn't initiate this conversation. Like ever. She has NEVER said "hey can we talk about X and Y?"

Idk how to get her to do that

When she called I felt "ugh, im gonna get mentally drained talking to her"

She talks about her day and her work and coworkers and health and anything except me. And if I do get a "so how was your day" and I answer and mention something that excites me about my hobby she simply replies "thats good. Im happy for you." Then nothing. No follow up. No digging deeper.

Rinse and repeat. For you guys who say "who cares bruh, just say what you want and move on" you can't build emotional intimacy if you dont FEEL seen or heard.

If i do something she doesnt like she wont tell me. I figured this out and practically had to beg her to tell me what's wrong and then she does

Makes me. Feel like im her parent. What to do