u/Honest-Chocolate-535

I’m planing to move to Dehradun with my dog. I have a car and looking for houses that’s pet friendly and has parking and in a safe location. My husband works in a different city close by but can’t move. I have to move for better work exposure. This way I can still remain close to my husband and not compromise on career. Which area should I look for? I prefer gyms and swimming pool close by and maybe walking path to walk my dog.

My husband denies that he’s addicted to his iPad and idk how I can get him to choose another hobby/habit.

My husband takes his iPad into the washroom Asa he wakes up. Brushes, poops, bathes with the iPad on. He watches basketball, gaming podcasts and a show called updating. He goes to the gym, goes to work then comes home for lunch and Asa he reaches, he picks his iPad again and watches while eating. Once he’s done eating his lunch, he plays battleground on his iPad until his lunch time is over. He goes back to work and once he’s back again, it’s the same thing until midnight. Sometimes, the iPad is on and he falls asleep.
I have been asking him to stop doing this and rather set aside a time. Maybe even 3 hrs a day and stop using it asa he wakes up or atleast half hr before sleeping. I’ve been explaining this to him for the past 5yrs.
I’m frustrated now. He doesn’t even wash his face and feet after returning from work and before going to sleep. He doesn’t fold his clothes and his shoes are strewn everywhere.
He asks me to tell him if there’s any work and I don’t want to keep telling him all the time.
I’m unable to handle this anymore and thinking of moving out for sometime.
No, I don’t want to divorce him because he’s genuinely caring but this habit is taking me away from him. Idk if there’s any other solution. Idk if I’m overthinking this or wrong about this.

When I was in school, my father lost his business due to a family feud. From owning a huge factory and many people working under him, to becoming an electrician going to people’s houses and working menial jobs, crying and completely giving up on life. My mom supporting him, working with him and taking care of 4 children. I’ve seen it all.

There was a time when I would think if I would have food today. My school fees was always late and I was called many times to principals office, my clothes were faded, socks elastic gone and I grew up feeling insecure and with low confidence. My school friends chipped in money and took me out for a school excursion. I saw my dad break down that day.

As I got into 11/12th, I had to use public transportation and walk home from bus stops. You know how bad these are especially for women. Men oggled, harassed, touched inappropriately, groped, slapped, pinched. My confidence kept getting low everytime.

I used to use cloth as pads and they would harden and create bruises on the edges of my skin and it was painful to even walk with that.
As I got into my graduation (I’m a reservation student so all my and my sibling’s fees was paid through reservation), I could only choose the college close to my house because I didn’t want to pay hostel fees as it was an extra expense. I would get only Rs. 30 for lunch and a pass for a bus. I didn’t have a great experience with college as well, as I hardly had friends and everyone were in hostel and I had to rush back to catch the next bus to reach home. Thankfully my elder siblings started earning by this time (they had their own issues but helped a lot financially)

Once I graduated, I got a job in another city. I was earning mere 12k a month with 6k going to rent of my pg which was walking distance from my office. As I kept working and earning. I started spending on myself. From buying clothes from the street to earning over 1L a month and buying from brands like Zara and M&S. I bought a scooty, then learnt to drive and never used public transport again. I use menstrual cups now.

I’m still learning to build more confidence and I’m much better mentally and financially than I was before. I drive a car now and very independent. I went solo tripping and completed my dream of diving in many countries. All my siblings are working at senior levels in big corporate companies. Reservation helped us study but we will never use it for our kids because we don’t need it anymore. We own 3 houses now. We are all over 40yrs now. Life has drastically changed for good.

I came across a reel where a doctor was asking men to go for vasectomy and stop making the women do it as it is simpler, shorter and less invasive procedure than female sterilisation. So I did some research and found that according to NFHS data 2023-24, female sterilization happens 126 times more than male sterilization. Only 0.5% of male do it. Imagine if they had to get pregnant, I don’t think men would do it.

Another data on organ donation and who gets the organs: as per NOTTO data 2023, living organ donors were 63% women while only 37% were men. Whereas deceased organ donors, 77% were men and 23% were women. Women sacrificed while they were still living. I even saw a reel of another female doctor in a government hospital who said that the husband or his family do not even donate blood to the wife who just delivered. Moreover, 70% of organ recipients are men while only 30% women were organ recipients.

Yet, there are many men and some women who still prefer a boy child and have been illegally finding the gender and aborting girl babies. The ideal ratio between a girl to boy birth is about** 950–952 girls to be born for every 1,000 boys.** Ratio lower than that could be a sign of sex selection and abortion. These states have the lowest girls to boys ratio. Some are at 813 to every 1000 boys.
Goa, Chandigarh, Himachal Pradesh, Telangana, Jharkhand, Bihar, Delhi, Uttarakhand, Rajasthan, Haryana, Punjab, Uttar Pradesh.

I wish there was more latest data though. I’ll continue to research more. The ground reality of how India treats its women is seen in Tier 2, 3 towns and villages. And this is exactly why feminism is still necessary to challenge gender inequality, educate, create awareness, and advocate for equal rights and bodily autonomy.

Really pissed with this now. Unable to work/study, the loud music is super annoying. I’m unwell and can’t even leave the house to go anywhere. When will these hooligans go back to their state?

I moved from a Tier 1 city to a tourist Tier 3 town post my wedding 5yrs ago. Everyone said I’m so lucky to be going to this beautiful mountain place but I feel I’m extremely spoiled and I miss living in a tier 1 city.
I miss my friends as I can’t relate to any locals here (most of them only talk about life with kids, what food they’ve prepared etc). I crave intellectual stimulation.
I’m an online fitness trainer. I get out of my house only for an hr to a very basic gym that doesn’t even have a treadmill.
I’ve pushed myself to live here for 5yrs now and it’s just getting depressing. I miss the big roads, easy access to amazing food, I miss swimming a lot (I used to swim a lot but this town has no pools). I sometimes feel I made a wrong decision of moving here but my hu*band is the best man I’ve ever met and he is extremely caring and has always supported me.
I keep going back to my city whenever I feel low and stay for a month and come back but I can’t do that anymore as I have to take care of my dog who is ill.
I’m getting so depressed living here, I don’t know what to do. Since it’s a tourist town, it’s always crowded, extremely noisy and dusty. There are too many people everywhere and it’s just overwhelming me.
Sorry for such a long msg. I just wanted to share as I was just feeling super low today.

Hi!
Your experience of pregnancy and delivery after 35yrs of age. Was it difficult? What was your experience? Did you love the process? Did you have a wonderful or a traumatic birth? What is something that you would change if you could?

The doctor says it’s most likely iron deficiency. I’m going to get my tests done tomorrow. Did any women go through the same?
What are some of the best iron rich foods that I can have?

I secretly like how my husband secretly takes my pics when I’m sleeping and then shows it to me saying “look how much space you take when you’re sleeping” but never moves me when I’m sleeping so as to not disturb me.

I like how my dad makes sure all my favorite food is at home when I go visit them.

I like how my brothers call me and buys gifts for me without me even asking.

I like how my male friends remember my fav food and take me there and some even cook my fav meal.

What’s the little positive beautiful habits of men around you?

I like how my mum remembers every little details, like and dislikes of everyone in the family.

I like how my friend takes me to the most beautiful locations or the most yummiest food.

I like how my househelp smiles when she enters our house.

I like how a gardener adored my dog with her eyes lighting up everytime she saw him and spoke to him like he was a little baby.

I like how my sister brings so much joy with just the way she talks.

I’m skinny but my cup size is big and just unable to find the right size. I only wear sports bra now but it’s super uncomfortable for the whole day.
Any suggestions for a good bra that I can wear in racer back/front tops that can hold them for long without me having to constantly pull them up?

I’m skinny but my cup size is big and just unable to find the right size. I only wear sports bra now but it’s super uncomfortable for the whole day.
Any suggestions for a good bra that I can wear in racer back/front tops that can hold them for long without me having to constantly pull them up.

This is in context with someone I know. A male (X from x religion) is dating a female (Y from Y religion). When I asked the man if his parents are okay with interfaith marriage, he said he will convince them and said that Y’s parents are okay and they know.

Next, I asked if she’s studying or working and he said, none, she doesn’t need to as he will take care of her. I told a woman needs to be financial independent (her earning) because we never know what life situation brings. He ignored.

Next, he asked me why there are restrictions on eating certain things and if you eat it then “paap chadta hai”. I said it’s not about paap, it’s about not hurting other living being. So assuming this paap chadna concept was told by Y meaning Y hasn’t read or understands her own religion but is now reading and trying to practice X’s religion.

Moreover, X has also told me they have restrictions on covering the head post marriage and Y has to be following that.

My question is, I don’t care about interfaith marriages, many in family have done it. What I don’t understand is not learning or knowing about your own faith, ready to quit jobs and completely depend on your partner and change yourself when he has to do nothing.

Why change your entire identity so easily? Am I overthinking this? My parents have always taught me to be financially independent so I’m unable to understand this.

Everytime I open social media or read news, there are so many cases of r*ape, dow*y dea*h, mur*ers, blackmail, kid*aps, moles*ation, and it’s so so normalized.

It’s so triggering and I’m so tired. No one’s even scared of any consequences because they know nothing will happen.

It’s so scary to raise children in this world.

I’m planning to surprise my husband and looking for pet friendly stay with swimming pool. If you have already stayed at a place, please share reviews.

Hi!
I’m an experienced fitness trainer and I take 1:1 online and group sessions.
I charge 1000rs per session (12k for 12 sessions) for personal training and one of my old client (he restarted classes after 2yrs) is not paying me even after repeated reminders.
His wife and he workout alternate days with me. Wife always pays on time but even after reminding him thrice, he hasn’t paid me yet. We have already completed 8 sessions and I haven’t received any money.
Mind you, they are rich, drive high end cars, own bungalows and have multiple businesses.
I’m just frustrated to constantly remind and ask money.
I don’t want the rapport to get spoiled and I need the money right now.
Have any of you been in similar situation? What did you do?