u/Honest-Chocolate-535

I want to read about major religious teachings.

Today is Janmasthami and everyone on social media has been posting videos and photos of the God Krishna. Their elaborate food preparation and decoration which is very beautiful to see. I did nothing today. Honestly, I’m not a stern believer. I’ve read about major religions but nothing makes me as dedicated towards God as I see my own mother or other women doing it.

Even when I was a child, I never understood what to say or do when going to a temple. I just say thank you. I don’t like going to crowded places so I don’t go to temples but when I do, I just like to sit in a corner and feel the energy.

I never decorate or prepare elaborate meals . It never comes from within me. Idk if this is weird. Can anybody relate to this?

I’m planing to move to Dehradun with my dog. I have a car and looking for houses that’s pet friendly and has parking and in a safe location. My husband works in a different city close by but can’t move. I have to move for better work exposure. This way I can still remain close to my husband and not compromise on career. Which area should I look for? I prefer gyms and swimming pool close by and maybe walking path to walk my dog.

My husband denies that he’s addicted to his iPad and idk how I can get him to choose another hobby/habit.

My husband takes his iPad into the washroom Asa he wakes up. Brushes, poops, bathes with the iPad on. He watches basketball, gaming podcasts and a show called updating. He goes to the gym, goes to work then comes home for lunch and Asa he reaches, he picks his iPad again and watches while eating. Once he’s done eating his lunch, he plays battleground on his iPad until his lunch time is over. He goes back to work and once he’s back again, it’s the same thing until midnight. Sometimes, the iPad is on and he falls asleep.
I have been asking him to stop doing this and rather set aside a time. Maybe even 3 hrs a day and stop using it asa he wakes up or atleast half hr before sleeping. I’ve been explaining this to him for the past 5yrs.
I’m frustrated now. He doesn’t even wash his face and feet after returning from work and before going to sleep. He doesn’t fold his clothes and his shoes are strewn everywhere.
He asks me to tell him if there’s any work and I don’t want to keep telling him all the time.
I’m unable to handle this anymore and thinking of moving out for sometime.
No, I don’t want to divorce him because he’s genuinely caring but this habit is taking me away from him. Idk if there’s any other solution. Idk if I’m overthinking this or wrong about this.

When I was in school, my father lost his business due to a family feud. From owning a huge factory and many people working under him, to becoming an electrician going to people’s houses and working menial jobs, crying and completely giving up on life. My mom supporting him, working with him and taking care of 4 children. I’ve seen it all.

There was a time when I would think if I would have food today. My school fees was always late and I was called many times to principals office, my clothes were faded, socks elastic gone and I grew up feeling insecure and with low confidence. My school friends chipped in money and took me out for a school excursion. I saw my dad break down that day.

As I got into 11/12th, I had to use public transportation and walk home from bus stops. You know how bad these are especially for women. Men oggled, harassed, touched inappropriately, groped, slapped, pinched. My confidence kept getting low everytime.

I used to use cloth as pads and they would harden and create bruises on the edges of my skin and it was painful to even walk with that.
As I got into my graduation (I’m a reservation student so all my and my sibling’s fees was paid through reservation), I could only choose the college close to my house because I didn’t want to pay hostel fees as it was an extra expense. I would get only Rs. 30 for lunch and a pass for a bus. I didn’t have a great experience with college as well, as I hardly had friends and everyone were in hostel and I had to rush back to catch the next bus to reach home. Thankfully my elder siblings started earning by this time (they had their own issues but helped a lot financially)

Once I graduated, I got a job in another city. I was earning mere 12k a month with 6k going to rent of my pg which was walking distance from my office. As I kept working and earning. I started spending on myself. From buying clothes from the street to earning over 1L a month and buying from brands like Zara and M&S. I bought a scooty, then learnt to drive and never used public transport again. I use menstrual cups now.

I’m still learning to build more confidence and I’m much better mentally and financially than I was before. I drive a car now and very independent. I went solo tripping and completed my dream of diving in many countries. All my siblings are working at senior levels in big corporate companies. Reservation helped us study but we will never use it for our kids because we don’t need it anymore. We own 3 houses now. We are all over 40yrs now. Life has drastically changed for good.

I came across a reel where a doctor was asking men to go for vasectomy and stop making the women do it as it is simpler, shorter and less invasive procedure than female sterilisation. So I did some research and found that according to NFHS data 2023-24, female sterilization happens 126 times more than male sterilization. Only 0.5% of male do it. Imagine if they had to get pregnant, I don’t think men would do it.

Another data on organ donation and who gets the organs: as per NOTTO data 2023, living organ donors were 63% women while only 37% were men. Whereas deceased organ donors, 77% were men and 23% were women. Women sacrificed while they were still living. I even saw a reel of another female doctor in a government hospital who said that the husband or his family do not even donate blood to the wife who just delivered. Moreover, 70% of organ recipients are men while only 30% women were organ recipients.

Yet, there are many men and some women who still prefer a boy child and have been illegally finding the gender and aborting girl babies. The ideal ratio between a girl to boy birth is about** 950–952 girls to be born for every 1,000 boys.** Ratio lower than that could be a sign of sex selection and abortion. These states have the lowest girls to boys ratio. Some are at 813 to every 1000 boys.
Goa, Chandigarh, Himachal Pradesh, Telangana, Jharkhand, Bihar, Delhi, Uttarakhand, Rajasthan, Haryana, Punjab, Uttar Pradesh.

I wish there was more latest data though. I’ll continue to research more. The ground reality of how India treats its women is seen in Tier 2, 3 towns and villages. And this is exactly why feminism is still necessary to challenge gender inequality, educate, create awareness, and advocate for equal rights and bodily autonomy.

Really pissed with this now. Unable to work/study, the loud music is super annoying. I’m unwell and can’t even leave the house to go anywhere. When will these hooligans go back to their state?

I moved from a Tier 1 city to a tourist Tier 3 town post my wedding 5yrs ago. Everyone said I’m so lucky to be going to this beautiful mountain place but I feel I’m extremely spoiled and I miss living in a tier 1 city.
I miss my friends as I can’t relate to any locals here (most of them only talk about life with kids, what food they’ve prepared etc). I crave intellectual stimulation.
I’m an online fitness trainer. I get out of my house only for an hr to a very basic gym that doesn’t even have a treadmill.
I’ve pushed myself to live here for 5yrs now and it’s just getting depressing. I miss the big roads, easy access to amazing food, I miss swimming a lot (I used to swim a lot but this town has no pools). I sometimes feel I made a wrong decision of moving here but my hu*band is the best man I’ve ever met and he is extremely caring and has always supported me.
I keep going back to my city whenever I feel low and stay for a month and come back but I can’t do that anymore as I have to take care of my dog who is ill.
I’m getting so depressed living here, I don’t know what to do. Since it’s a tourist town, it’s always crowded, extremely noisy and dusty. There are too many people everywhere and it’s just overwhelming me.
Sorry for such a long msg. I just wanted to share as I was just feeling super low today.

Hi!
Your experience of pregnancy and delivery after 35yrs of age. Was it difficult? What was your experience? Did you love the process? Did you have a wonderful or a traumatic birth? What is something that you would change if you could?

The doctor says it’s most likely iron deficiency. I’m going to get my tests done tomorrow. Did any women go through the same?
What are some of the best iron rich foods that I can have?