We are Best friends for 20 years. The exaggerating/telling lies/ embellishing stories hasnt been directly harmful to me(that i know of) but I still want to end the friendship. We all know people who do this sort of thing so I'm just wondering if its a deal breaker for everyone else too? I can be very black and white about things sometimes so looking to get a balanced view.
Im trying to set up some targets for June but when I do that it seems to remove that category's May target. Is this normal or am I doing something wrong? Money is very tight so im just trying to plan ahead a bit.
So i have a good friend (the friendship isnt in a great place at the moment) that I suspect has tried to set fire to her house and is trying to lose custody of her kids. Now obviously lots of little things have happened that make me have these thoughts but I dont have anything close to hard evidence....its just a hunch.
Has anybody had these thoughts about someone close before? How did it work out in the end? Im interested to here stories of being right or wrong because I hope I'm wrong.
FOR CLARITY: I have nowhere near the evidence to warrant reporting this to any authorities. This is just a suspicion at this stage.
So we are currently "on a break" and she's had a big overreaction about something and is cooling off. Im trying to decide whether to take this moment to move on.
In short, We have been friends for 20 years and looking over the years there has been some stories that don't add up or can't be proven. There is also always a drama of some sort in her daily life. A common repeating example would be that every time she visits doctors or professionals there is a story about them being crazy, unprofessional or insulting her.....every single time. Recently as I've been reflecting (before this break) the pattern seems really obvious to me.
How do I know if shes a pathological liar or if I've gotten this wrong?
So we are currently "on a break" and she's had a big overreaction about something and is cooling off. Im trying to decide whether to take this moment to move on.
In short, We have been friends for 20 years and looking over the years there has been some stories that don't add up or can't be proven. There is also always a drama of some sort in her daily life. A common repeating example would be that every time she visits doctors or professionals there is a story about them being crazy, unprofessional or insulting her.....every single time. Recently as I've been reflecting (before this break) the pattern seems really obvious to me.
How do I know if shes a pathological liar or if I've gotten this wrong?
My sister has decided to separate from her husband. She would like sort out custody arrangements with the children amicably and not go through a whole court process on this if possible. Is the first step to go to a mediator? If not what is the procedure, the wait time to meet a mediator and how long that process takes? Also would my sister be allowed bring anyone else with her to the mediation meetings?
Apologies for all the questions but nobody close to us has been through this before so it's all new to us.
Im looking for parenting books or a programme that goes from birth up and covers everything from age appropriate behaviour management, what toys/books for what age....basically a comprehensive guide. There is just an overload of information and so called gurus on places like youtube so I want to find a trusted source.
Im not completely against an online source rather than a book but I want a reputable source.
So my friend is going through some stuff at the moment and is currently distancing herself from me and others. There was no fight leading to this but it would be her pattern of behaviour to go off in a huff for a week or 2 when she doesnt want to deal with something.
What I'm trying to decide is whether to return to being best friends when she comes out of her mood. I had noticed for a good while now that there is always a drama going on with her and she is full of tales of woe whenever we speak. Ive also suspected some lies were getting told for sympathy. During this time apart I have been reflecting on the past and I have realised the sheer volume of drama and stories over our whole adulthood is just unbelievable.
Obviously I could be wrong and then im just a bitch for even thinking this about her so I'm wondering has anyone any advice for how to detect whether someone really is this kind of person or not? What should I be looking for specifically?
So she has some stuff going on in her own life at the moment and has decided to take an awkward situation out on me. Shes not doing anything terrible but is refusing to talk to me because shes in a mood....this is the crossroads I mention. Before all of this there has been some behaviours and traits of hers that I'm not liking so im questioning whether to just go with this enforced break or try save the friendship.
The main behaviour is that with her its always "woe is me". There is always a drama going on in her life. Some catastrophe is always occuring. If she goes to a doctor there is always some story about how the doctor was crazy or horrible to her, same with other people she comes across in general. This has been the case for years but its only when Ive stopped and reviewed the last 10-15 years that I see such a pattern. I find it hard to believe all of this actually happens to her so it does make me think shes inventing stories too. One big example is she has 3 times claimed to have early miscarriages but never went to the doctor about them and on a subsequent successful pregnancy wasn't with the early pregnancy team (criteria here is 2 or more previous miscarriages) nor did she look to be with them.
Anybody dealt with the woe is me type and advice for where to go from here?
So ive just come back to Ynab after break (been using it since 2015) and we are very much in firefighting mode financially. Even though I can't afford to fund every category right now I still have included them along with savings goals in my plan. I've done this because I want to see what I need to be funding as well seeing our future goals regularly. What do you all do?
So i think this is relevant to Ireland because im questioning how the older generation handle illness.
I have a relative who has been in poor health for years and had a few hospital stays. She went into hospital about 6 weeks ago for a week with a lung infection. She ended up back in hospital about 2 weeks ago and all of a sudden she had lung cancer which had spread around the body. Today she passed away.
My question is did this really go undetected despite all the doctor and hospital monitoring she received or did she know and choose not to tell? Ive heard stories like this several times with the older generation where its hard to believe it just got discovered a few weeks before they died because they'd been under medical care.
Hi everyone. Ive been using Ynab since 2015 but took a break the last 8 months. The first few years I was pretty good with it but the last few years not as good.....other life stresses just had me burnt out and unable to keep up with stuff. To newbies though I just want to say that even when I wasnt doing ynab "properly" I still had much more control and oversight over my money than without Ynab.
So why am I back? So during the break I did have some system but much more casual. Worked out what I thought we needed monthly and put that much in a current account. Did the same for bills in a bill account and sinking fund in a sinking fund account......it didn't work. Never had enough. So I am back haha
Started back a few days ago and already I feel so much better about money. Its amazing. Hooked on Budget Nerds with Ben and Ernie and got some great ideas from it so far. Im going with the large amount of categories route. Haha.
Relevant info: 2 adults , soon to be 4 kids. Tight budget with no room for error. No credit card but 2 car loans about 14k total.
Looking forward to chatting with you all.
Hi guys, glad to have found you. Just a couple of questions. Is this an official community or is there even one? Im addicted to the budget nerds podcast with Ben and Ernie and wondering if theres a way to connect with them and other YNABers.
I will start this by saying yes I absolutely am jealous.
My best friend and I both have a couple of kids ( some with additional needs) and are stay at home moms. She has always had a lot more family support than I do. She gets 1-2 days a week child free, help with bringing kids to activities and always has free babysitters available for the regular shows and spa days she goes for. Of course I've always been a bit jealous but recently its been grating on me a lot. I think I know why though- she is always ranting and complaining about the kids driving her mad and all the parenting she does. Other friends we have who arent aware of the level of help she gets are always like "poor ****, she never gets a break. Shes great. How does she do it". This is making me so angry because here i am sitting here with life problems of my own and very little support. I had to go to my 12 week pregnancy appointment alone recently because we had nobody to watch the kids.
My question is is it me with the problem for getting annoyed or does she need to read the room better and consider her audience when constantly complaining about parenting her kids?
So we moved our child at the start of this school year (primary school) and we are in a dilemma whether to persist. The new school is better than the old one is regards teaching standards and additional supports but socially my child just isn't bonding with her classmates. Shes complaining of being alone at lunch, no birthday party invites and no playdate invites. We have hosted a birthday party and some playdates but none reciprocated. Personally I've found getting to know other parents very difficult too.....this is all complete opposite to the old school. I expected a level of this but not this bad.
Has anyone ever had to go back tail between the legs to the old school and move back? Going into 3rd class next year so I feel like we need to get settled ASAP. Can't decide whether we persist with this school into next year or go back before losing connections with the old class even more. The problems havent gone away in the old school but maybe we have to accept them and navigate them. Any advice or experience?