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I’m genuinely curious if there is any science behind it… like I love my partner but there’s little things he does where I’m icked out in the moment. we have talked about this before and we both give each other the ick sometimes which actually felt refreshing to hear that I sometimes give him the ick too because it makes me feel more human. But I’m curious why it happens. Like most of the time I’m not icked out but every now and then he will do something so silly or dumb and it gives me a temporary ick. (Especially in public)

Does anyone else experience this idk if it’s an rocd thing.. I randomly get into moods with him for literally no reason and during which I’ll be questioning if I should be with him and overthinking and then like 20min later and I love him again. Like today, when I saw him it was fine but then maybe an hour later I told him I didn’t feel like doing anything and I do kinda feel like being at home idk why. And then a little later I was feeling like me again and then I kept switching between feeling happy and then being moody and questioning relationship. And then later, a situation happened with a stranger and I didn’t like how he responded to that situation because he tried to fix the situation while I just wanted him to ignore that person. Then I got in my head after that and my brain telling me “see this confirms you should breakup because that was embarrassing for you” anyways he could tell I was off and being really sweet and asking me what was wrong and if I was upset at him and eventually we talked about the situation and at the time I didn’t feel like hanging out anymore and told him to just drive me home but when we approached my house I wanted to keep hanging out with him.. so we did and we talked about the situation more and I told him I wasn’t necessarily mad at him just mad at the situation and that I wanted it to have been handled differently. But we made up and hung out for a few more hours… anyways I’m not sure if this is rocd but I am so flip floppy with my moods around him I hate it. I wish I could just focus on the present and I wish my brain didn’t tell me to just breakup everytime I’m even a bit upset at him

Been dating a few months.. said to him “love you” when I left and he said “love u too” but now I’m like did I say it too early? Or should I have waited more an intimate moment or should I have let him say it first?? Because now that I said it then it’s like I can’t take it back.. I’m just worried maybe I pressured him to say it so soon….

Decided to explore a private construction site late at night (someone’s house being built) and climbed up then walked around inside and then left. It was in the early ish stages and just a wood frame. When we got to the bottom of the hill there was a neighbor on the phone and questioning us and then told us to fuck off. (Fair enough) didn’t touch anything in the site or graffiti anything.. literally just looking around. Also there was no fences or anything to break in to. Not gonna do something like that again but I’m just wondering if police do anything about it or if we’re off the hook.

I have an insane craving for Nigerian food even though I have never tried it before. Are there any places in Vancouver or surrounding areas that have good authentic Nigerian food?

I’m going camping in a couple weeks with my bf. I’m pretty inexperienced as I have never gone camping in a tent before. We are planning on going to a walk in campground but if that doesn’t work out then we will probably just free camp somewhere. He knows how to pitch a tent and like the basics so at least there’s that. I was wondering about general camping knowledge or things to look out for, what I should pack, how to deal with the wildlife..? I’m planning on packing packaged ramen and cup pastas as well as protein bars. Would like to bring eggs and other foods to cook up but idk how to store that.. also unsure of what to do with the bathroom situation.. I’m bringing a swiss army knife but I know next to nothing about camping so pls help a city girl out!

I’m going camping in a couple weeks with my bf. I’m pretty inexperienced as I have never gone camping in a tent before. We are planning on going to a walk in campground but if that doesn’t work out then we will probably just free camp somewhere. He knows how to pitch a tent and like the basics so at least there’s that. I was wondering about general camping knowledge or things to look out for, what I should pack, how to deal with the wildlife..? I’m planning on packing packaged ramen and cup pastas as well as protein bars. Would like to bring eggs and other foods to cook up but idk how to store that.. also unsure of what to do with the bathroom situation.. I’m bringing a swiss army knife but I know next to nothing about camping so pls help a city girl out!

Idk why I just been feeling pretty down all weekend. It was pretty bad yesterday and just about the same today. I think it’s been a build up of a few things including being tired, too much time in the sun, work stress etc. my bf was with his friends all weekend and ig I been feeling neglected, and on top of that we were supposed to game together yesterday which temporarily brought up my mood but after like one game he said he was too tired and logged off. I was pretty upset after that and eventually kinda said something about it. But anyway even today I was in a very good mood this afternoon but felt a bit neglected since he was with friends All day so by the time he called me I didn’t care to talk to him. It wasn’t entirely that it was also stress about figuring out my math course which is the last few credits I need for my degree and a lot of stress from work. On top of that financial stress which ties back into work stress. He could tell I wasn’t my usual talkative self and asked if I was upset but I just said I was tired and going to bed. I don’t know why I’m like this but now my brain is telling me that since I haven’t really wanted to talk to him yesterday and today that we should just break up. It was really only yesterday and this evening that I have felt like this. I feel bad now that he’s gone to sleep and I was in a bad mood but I just really didn’t feel like talking and every attempt he made to talk to me I kinda just didn’t say much or say anything at all. when I started to go into why I was upset I felt like I was going to cry and just kinda gave up and shut hm down. Growing up I never really learned how to regulate my emotions and I’ve always just withdrawn when I’m upset and then eventually opened up later.. It makes me think back to something my ex said about me and makes me wonder if. I should even be in a relationship at all. Idk rn I feel like what if the same thing happens tmr or idk. Now that he’s gone to sleep I feel bad I basically shut him down this evening even when he wanted to watch a show.. Maybe I’m selfish sabotaging maybe this is my hormones or maybe idk. I planned in my head for him to meet my parents this week but idk. Yes I love him but this weekend was so emotionally overwhelming for me and honestly idk where to post this because i definitely have rocd but idk if this is it

Idk why I just been feeling pretty down all weekend. It was pretty bad yesterday and just about the same today. I think it’s been a build up of a few things including being tired, too much time in the sun, my bf was with his friends all weekend and ig I been feeling neglected, and on top of that we were supposed to game together yesterday which temporarily brought up my mood but after like one game he said he was too tired and logged off. I was pretty upset after that and eventually kinda said something about it. But anyway even today I was in a very good mood this afternoon but felt a bit neglected since he was with friends All day so by the time he called me I didn’t care to talk to him. It wasn’t entirely that it was also stress about figuring out my math course which is the last few credits I need for my degree and a lot of stress from work. He could tell I wasn’t my usual talkative self and asked if I was upset but I just said I was tired and going to bed. I don’t know why I’m like this but now my brain is telling me that since I haven’t really wanted to talk to him yesterday and today that we should just break up. It was really only yesterday and this evening that I have felt like this. I feel bad now that he’s gone to sleep and I was in a bad mood but I just really didn’t feel like talking and every attempt he made to talk to me I kinda just didn’t say much or say anything at all. when I started to go into why I was upset I felt like I was going to cry and just kinda gave up and shut hm down. It makes me think back to something my ex said about me and makes me wonder if. I should even be in a relationship at all. Idk rn I feel like what if the same thing happens tmr or idk. Now that he’s gone to sleep I feel bad I basically shut him down this evening even when he wanted to watch a show.. Maybe I’m selfish sabotaging maybe this is my hormones or maybe idk. I planned in my head for him to meet my parents this week but idk. Yes I love him but this weekend was so emotionally overwhelming for me and honestly idk where to post this because i definitely have rocd but idk if this is it

Idk if this is even the right pace to post this but my bf and I live 2hrs apart which Ik is not long distance but it is still a bit of a distance. We do see each other once a week which I am grateful for but sometimes I do hate how I can’t just pop over to his place whenever. Every time I see him it’s a whole planned thing like I can’t just see him randomly. And it sucks because if his friends and their gfs all decide to randomly hangout one day then obviously I don’t get to go because of how far he lives from me. We’re also not at the point of sleeping over at each others places and I’m sure in the future I could spend the occasional weekend in his city. I am happy that we are able to make it work and ik I should be grateful that I get to regularly see him but how do you deal with the fact that there is even some distance. I know 2hrs isn’t much for some people but still I wish he was just a short drive away and I wish i could just spontaneously see him.

I use this account as almost like a personal diary and to seek advice. My bf has full access to my phone (he’s never snooped but he is free to use mine if needed) the thing is I don’t want him to see any of my posts here.. idk if that’s bad. I don’t indulge in any nsfw content or badmouth my relationship but I feel bad that I am not open about this account to him. It just feels like a safe space to discuss and ask for advice on things that aren’t from people who know me

If you’re a parent or if you were a parent, how would you feel about your 21 year old daughter having her 22 year old bf sleeping over once in awhile? Genuinely asking because my bf lives a 2 hour drive from me and it would be a lot more convenient for him and give us more time to hangout if he could sleep over once a week or every other week. Both of us still live with our families and it would be easier for him to sleep here since I don’t drive. My dad in the past has been real iffy about guys coming over but I’m 21 now. my parents were fine with me sleeping over at my exes place but I’ve never had a guy sleep over at mine. Also not sure how I would bring it up to them to ask

Edit: this post is not about sex lol just a genuine sleepover. I wouldn’t have sex while my parents are sleeping across the hallway I think that’s a bit disturbing

Also since people keep asking the reason I still live at home is because I’m a full time student and my part time job only covers my small personal bills.. housing is expensive where I live and most of my friends still live at home as well.

I had a great day with my bf today. This is one of the first times I haven’t had a single ocd thought while we were together. There was a couple times I felt myself begin to wonder but I didn’t let those thoughts creep in and ended up having an amazing day with him. I always love seeing him but this time was different because I didn’t let the thoughts win and in turn I had such a stress free day. I’m in such a good mood and I was so happy seeing him. We spent the whole day laughing together. I love this man so much. I want to marry him. I know at some point the thoughts will come back especially now that he’s dropped me off at home, but for now I am going to enjoy the peace. I want to leave this up as a reminder for the next time I am spiraling or if this helps anyone else with rocd..

My rocd feels so strong in the morning but lessens as the day goes on. In the mornings I feel so trapped with these feelings but by night it’s pretty much nonexistent and I feel in love again.

Once we started dating I have been questioning my bf. I think he’s cute and he’s fit but I can’t help but think that there’s other people I think are more attractive. The same thought replay in my head everyday telling me that I think he’s ugly.. we started going out because he approached me first and I really liked his vibe. I’ve thought he was pretty cute but idk maybe it’s because I have always noticed the more “human” things about him. I constantly think about the fact that when he approached me the night we met,there was another guy I thought was attractive who had approached me after my bf did and I gave him my insta too because I didn’t know if things were going to work out with my now bf. For context that second guy and I never spoke. I think a lot about that night and wonder what things would have been like with that other guy but I never messaged him back because I wanted to pursue my bf. my bf treats me so well and I love his personality I just can’t help these thoughts constantly in my mind.