Husband can’t finish unless he watches porn or my friends insta posts
I 20F and husband 23M got married 6 months ago but have been together 5 years. (I was 15 he was 17 and we grew up together and were friends for years before this) I moved into the house he bought for me to go to college, after I graduated high school. We have been struggling with intimacy lately and I need advice.
Edit-he does all the financials other than I send him 300-400 a month for rent and my phone bill out of the 550 my parents give me (during school year). I work 2 part time jobs while going to university full time. Our monthly bills are around 2000 and I am paying some of my student loans off while in college. Yes, now that we’re married I would get half the house if we divorced but collectively we’re in almost 300,000 debt from both of our school, cars, and the house. His sister and her 2 toddlers also lives with us but up until 3 months ago when I brought it up, she was living with us rent free for almost 10 months. But I am expected to pay 300-400 a month.
Whenever I lived with my parents, we never really had sex in a bed. It was in the car or quickies when we could. Now that we live together and are older, we don’t have spontaneous sex at all. I use my toys when we have sex because it’s the only way I can finish. He gets annoyed that I use the toys every time but it feels better to me that way.
In the last 8 months or so, we would watch porn while having sex. In the beginning of the relationship I told him I didn’t like him watching it but even though I told him that, he never stopped. (I’ve asked several times over the years) so I figured if you aren’t going to stop, I’ll join you.
Fast forward to the last 4 months. When dirty talking he ALWAYS talks about bringing another girl. (His body count is 7 and mine is 1) Whenever I talk about bringing another guy he gets upset if I say much. But then he talks about bringing another girl and asks me to pick someone. Not a famous person BUT ONE OF MY FRIENDS. At first I was like ok whatever. But as times went on he asked me to pick a girl to finish to 4 times in a row. So obviously im like oh I’m not good enough for him to finish to. With the combo of that and me gaining about 40lbs since we’ve moved in together, I’m very self conscious. We never have sex with the light in anymore, and 9 times out of 10 he watches porn while we have sex and must to finish to it.
I’ve told him several times that I don’t like him bringing up other girls ESPECIALLY my best friends. It’s weird to me and something that’s actually obtainable unlike a porn star. He still does it occasionally but is less often than in the beginning.
For reference we usually have sex minimum 1 time a week but sometimes 2-3. The longest we’ve ever went without sex was 3 weeks because I had a 5mm cyst on my ovary and had to get it removed a week before our wedding. That way we could have sex on our honeymoon. Other than that 3 week period, it’s atleast once a week.
WHAT DO I DO?? He doesn’t stop when I tell him I don’t like something knowing he never stopped watching porn when we were younger makes me wonder if he finishes to my friends Instagrams behind my back.
TLDR- my husband gets mad I when I bring up other guys but then wants to finish to my friends Instagram pics. I’ve told him I don’t like it but he still asks and has to watch porn almost every time we have sex.