Women in Science by Rachel Ignotofsky, 500 pcs, Potter Puzzles

A very fun and easy puzzle to do. Also learned so much while doing it.

u/ILuvIceCubes — 7 days ago

Can we please stop turning this sub into a "I cant find a CF partner" support group?

I've been part of this sub for quite some time now. Previously there used to be worthwhile discussions and I remember someone even making a wordpress post about how they don't want to have kids and how they would be sharing it with their parents to let them understand their stance (I understand that it's not required to convince ones parents but sharing it with parents & friends would help them knowing where the world is headed).

In the past few months, I've noticed that a significant chunk of the posts here lately are basically variations of "I am CF and I cant find anyone to date/marry", "Why is it so hard to find a CF partner?", or general despair about being unable to find a partner because of being childfree.

Honestly, I get it. Dating as a childfree person in India can be difficult. It sucks when you meet someone you really like and then discover that you're fundamentally incompatible on something as important as having children. But not finding a partner is not the end of the world.

You can have a fulfilling life without a romantic partner by doing various things and there are plenty of ways to build a meaningful life -- friends, family, hobbies, communities, travel, work, pets, volunteering, creative pursuits, whatever.

We already have CF4CF Sundays specifically for people looking for other childfree people to date. Use that space.

The rest of the week could maybe be about being childfree, sharing experiences, discussions, navigating family pressure, relationships, friendships, finances, hobbies, books/movies, dealing with social expectations, etc.

I've also seen someone mentioning that the ones who aren't looking for partners should add a flair saying that they're not looking. I don't really understand why I should change my own flair..

Please don't make finding a partner the central prerequisite for having a happy CF life. You don't need to find "the one" before you're allowed to enjoy the life you chose.

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u/ILuvIceCubes — 10 days ago

Bubble Quack by Jigsaw Nation, 500 pc

Artist: Murtaza M. Bookwala. This is also my first circular puzzle. This is such a beautiful puzzle and it FLOWED. I completed it in one sitting and got into hyperfocus mode.

u/ILuvIceCubes — 1 month ago

Flight Exhibition Illustration by Webby, 252 pieces

A really good and easy puzzle to get into speed puzzling.

u/ILuvIceCubes — 1 month ago

Romb by Rachel Oates (a pro-choice, childfree poem)

There’s a room in my house

That everyone has an opinion about.

Some days, I’ll be sitting at home 

When a gaggle of people barge in, 

uninvited, 

to inspect the room.

They warn me

‘It’s no use sitting empty.’

‘Think of the potential.’

‘Be more grateful.’

‘Some people aren’t lucky enough to have a room like this.’ 

I’m sorry for them, 

of course, 

but why do they get to decide

What I do with my room in my house?

Daily, I’m interrogated

From every angle:

‘How many people have passed through here?’

How long did they stay?’

And then, squinting at me, with hushed voices:

‘Did they leave or did you evict them?’

They look at me like I’m a monster,

a landlord from hell 

to a room that’s always been vacant. 

‘This just won’t do.’ They chastise,

‘And who wants an old, used room anyway?’

Storming out in disgust, 

They don’t hear my sigh of relief.

As the years go by, 

I place a padlock and chain around the room

Only to have men in suits show up with 

Paper bolt cutters to tear it down.

Men, women and children saunter in

With buckets of paint,

ladders, hammers, and a measuring tape 

They legislate to redecorate before, 

In their words, it gets too late. 

They tell me I need a minimum of 3 previous occupants

And to marry a man who who’ll decide for me

Before they trust a silly little woman like me 

To place a lock on her own property 

Without my locks, 

I live in fear that one day I’ll wake up 

And find an unwanted guest in my spare room, 

A plague or pest, or a strange, dark mould will sneak in;

At first so subtle I don’t even notice it, 

But quickly and quietly it will spread through the rest of my home, 

Decaying and degrading as it goes.

The neighbours pop round and tut at me

As I’m furiously scrubbing the walls until I bleed 

To remind me that each life is precious

And that they’d kill for a spore or two of their own. 

They don’t realise that where they see pets and guests, 

I see only pain and pests so unwelcome, 

I’d rather burn my home to the ground than keep them there. 

A friend of mine, has a roommate, 

who keeps her up all night,

And makes a lot of noise, 

and leaves her stuff all over the house,

And she often asks me,

With bags under her eyes 

and pity on her face, 

and just a quiet hint of envy in her voice. 

‘Doesn’t it get quiet? 

Lonely? 

Sad.

Sure, you like the silence now,’ she warns,

‘But what about the future? You’ll change your mind’

I want to remind her that I didn’t comment 

when she painted her walls bright pink 

or spent 3 month’s wages on a new sofa 

or built 2 new extensions before she’d paid off the first. 

but I don’t

Because it’s still

not my business. 

There’s a room in my house

And sometimes it feels like everyone’s voice is louder than mine.

But when I’m alone 

I can sit in that room, 

And enjoy it, 

Appreciate it, 

Really get to know it, 

I run my fingers along it’s smooth walls 

Lay on the thick, soft carpets, 

And stare up at the unblemished ceiling. 

I bask in the calm and the quiet 

and inhale the scent of freedom and home 

And the joy of being alone that is so uniquely me. 

And once I’ve reminded myself 

that empty does not mean it is 

without purpose,

without beauty, 

without joy,

empty is not lonely, 

or cold, 

or wasted potential, 

empty is exactly what I make of it:

My responsibility, my gift and my burden,

And I won’t bend or break or lean or fall 

I’ll maintain my right to close the door 

because I can

I close the door because there’s a room in my house

And it’s all mine. 

(Romb - pronounced 'room' - is a play on the words room / womb.)

Video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a2DQg5pufM0

u/ILuvIceCubes — 2 months ago

Fractured Communities by Umar khalid is free on kindle for limited time

Go, get it for free!!

u/ILuvIceCubes — 2 months ago

Puppy & Rabbits by Frank, 500 pieces

This is such a cute puzzle and I was able to complete it in two sittings. I wish the piece fitting was better.

u/ILuvIceCubes — 2 months ago

Sharing some poetry I read recently

Been reading some poems recently. So sharing it. Please do share the poems you like as well. :)

u/ILuvIceCubes — 2 months ago