u/Ill-Green8678

I've recently been trying to make more friends - but find it hard because I have really limited energy and time due to work and chronic illness.

But I do have some current somewhat distant friends, or people who I catch up with every once in a while - once every couple of months or so.

It doesn't bother me a huge amount but I'd really like to make new friends and I know I need to put more time into meeting up and texting etc. to be able to do this.

What I've faced a fair bit is late invitations to things like birthdays and housewarmings. The latest one was today - I always make an effort to send a happy birthday to friends when it's their birthday - I did this today and my friend sent me a last minute invite to their birthday celebration today.

It feels more insulting to me? Like it's fair enough if you didn't invite me in the first place, I'm ok with that, I accept that by not reaching out or hanging out very frequently it's understandable to be forgotten. But a last-minute same-day invite?

I'm definitely not free as I have finals coming up on Monday, so I won't be going, but it feels almost insulting to me! I would rather not have been invited at all!

Hi everyone!

For my whole life I've had physical responses to certain sounds, where they're felt at a particular part of my body.

I don't know if I need to put a trigger warning on this description, because if you're like me, even reading it will be enough to trigger it.

But basically, I was watching this video of this hippo eating lettuce heads and omg I was overcome with the most uncomfortable sensation in my cheeks and bridge of my nose! I've had it before with 'squeaky' sounds, while the classic nails on a chalkboard I feel more in my ear canals/in my skull above my ears.

The sensation is not *painful* exactly but highly highly unpleasant and I reflexively grab my nose to stop the tingling. It works a little but not completely. Does anyone else have this form of auditory-tactile synesthesia?

Unfortunately it continues to torture me, even writing this post, because when I imagine the sounds, the sensations arise and then I can't stop thinking about them and feeling the sensations again!!!! So I'm going to stop writing 😅

I'm looking for help sorting through something that happened to me recently. I was fired by a therapist after being told that to continue therapy she would need to speak with my ex or my ex's therapist (she has never met/spoken to either) to find out more about the power dynamics in our relationship (we are now not speaking but technically not on bad terms) and what my "blind spots" are.

This felt like a massive violation to me so I said not when she first raised it. Yesterday in a session after disagreeing with her that my ex was groomed by a colleague (and therefore about whether I could hold them accountable for emotional infidelity), she said we could only continue working together if she spoke with my ex and their therapist (with my ex's consent of course). I feel this was a big violation of trust and ethics and kinda coercive?

Which is ironic and brings me to my second point.

When I started therapy with her 2+ years ago she had a neuroaffirming approach and was social-justice minded and trauma-informed. Our therapeutic relationship was solid. Our relationship broke down earlier this year when she seemed to be integrating more formal models of consent, power and sociopolitical justice into her practice.

She assessed me as having more power than my ex based on age (31/26), maturity and finances – an assumption that was incorrect when I challenged it; and despite significant domestic and emotional labour imbalance. She interpreted my anger at broken agreements as entitlement under the consent framework while not applying the same framework to my ex's repeated failure to honour mutual commitments with absolutely 0 communication. She positioned my ex in a fixed victim role and me in a fixed perpetrator role despite the dynamic genuinely shifting all the time.

Here's the irony. I, like my ex, am AuDHD and queer. Her stated client base is explicitly neurodivergent and queer people who have been told they are too sensitive/too much. It seemed as though her neuroaffirming approach was applied to my ex's ADHD presentation, but not to my need for predictability and dysregulation when agreements were broken. I feel that I was pathologised while my ex was not seen to be accountable for most of their actions.

I asked for specific examples when she made general claims, and she was never able to give me an actual explicit example of something I'd said or done, just that it was true.

Now, don't get me wrong, I did act harmfully in my relationship with my ex and I was in therapy to work through my feelings of anger, resentment and learn concrete strategies and scripts so that I could reduce my reactivity and dysregulation. But my ex harmed me as well, quite often (emotional infidelity, silent treatment, splitting when angry, blaming me for suicidal urges etc.), and it seems as though she was only willing to acknowledge the harm I had done. I'm not here to bad mouth my ex – they were going through a lot and I know they never MEANT the harm.

But I AM here to question my therapist's rigid interpretation and complete deflection of my experience? It feels retraumatising to be honest.

I always thought it would be helpful to work with a therapist with similar values to me, sociopolitically, but I've learned from this that it can REALLY backfire when they don't have enough training, flexibility or ability to see nuance and complexity to apply it.

Having said this I still feel weird. This was a super weird situation and I don't really know what to think. I suppose I'm wondering whether my therapist's ultimatum was ethical, and whether others have had similar experiences with sociopolitically-aligned therapists?

I was in therapy for over two years with my most recent therapist. Over that time, she witnessed me process a highly traumatic relationship, one where there was honestly emotional harm on both sides. Therapy really helped me find the courage and insight to leave what was, in retrospect, something of a trauma bond. I've come a long way.

My ex and I have stayed in contact as friends, though we're having some space at the moment.

What's been coming up in recent sessions is significant resentment on my end, particularly because my ex seems to hold resentment toward me for things I genuinely wasn't responsible for, and I've felt there's been a lack of accountability from them for real hurts, including lying and trickle-truthing an emotional betrayal early in the relationship.

I've fully acknowledged the harm I've caused. I told my therapist I want to work on my reactivity, specifically learning to recognise early warning signs of dysregulation so I can walk away and self-regulate before things escalate. This behaviour isn't typical for me; I'm generally pretty level. I want to decentre my ex and focus on my own patterns.

Today my therapist told me she could only continue working with me if she first spoke with my ex or their therapist. Her reasoning is that she believes my ex was groomed by a colleague (which led to the emotional betrayal), and that my continued anger and resentment reflects a lack of understanding on my part.

But the thing is that I really don't agree that what happened was grooming. It's true the colleague was older and persuasive, but my ex still repeatedly lied to me when I asked directly what was going on, only to reveal, to my horror, that what I had suspected was happening had actually been happening months later.

I told my therapist I respect her perspective but that based on my own lived experience of the relationship, I can't honestly adopt that framing.

That's when she said the only way we could continue working together was if she spoke to my ex or their therapist.

This felt deeply intrusive to me, and like I wasn't being believed. I pointed out that speaking with my ex or their therapist wouldn't provide an objective view anyway; it would just be another partial perspective. I said I wasn't comfortable with it. She wasn't willing to continue without it. So we've had to part ways.

This feels... off (?) to me. I had explicit goals to work on and accepted the harm I had caused and really wanted to work on removing reactivity, but it seemed like my therapist was more focused on proving that my ex was groomed than on helping me work through the resentment and practical ways I could avoid reacting.

I'm not here to relitigate who was more wronged. I genuinely want to know if I'm missing something, or if this was a clinical overstep because something just feels really off about it to me.

Like, is this normal because I feel really weird about it?

I was in therapy for over two years with my most recent therapist. Over that time, she witnessed me process a highly traumatic relationship, one where there was honestly emotional harm on both sides. Therapy really helped me find the courage and insight to leave what was, in retrospect, something of a trauma bond. I've come a long way.

My ex and I have stayed in contact as friends, though we're having some space at the moment.

What's been coming up in recent sessions is significant resentment on my end, particularly because my ex seems to hold resentment toward me for things I genuinely wasn't responsible for, and I've felt there's been a lack of accountability from them for real hurts, including lying and trickle-truthing an emotional betrayal early in the relationship.

I've fully acknowledged the harm I've caused. I told my therapist I want to work on my reactivity, specifically learning to recognise early warning signs of dysregulation so I can walk away and self-regulate before things escalate. This behaviour isn't typical for me; I'm generally pretty level. I want to decentre my ex and focus on my own patterns.

Today my therapist told me she could only continue working with me if she first spoke with my ex or their therapist. Her reasoning is that she believes my ex was groomed by a colleague (which led to the emotional betrayal), and that my continued anger and resentment reflects a lack of understanding on my part.

But the thing is that I really don't agree that what happened was grooming. It's true the colleague was older and persuasive, but my ex still repeatedly lied to me when I asked directly what was going on, only to reveal, to my horror, that what I had suspected was happening had actually been happening months later.

I told my therapist I respect her perspective but that based on my own lived experience of the relationship, I can't honestly adopt that framing.

That's when she said the only way we could continue working together was if she spoke to my ex or their therapist.

This felt deeply intrusive to me, and like I wasn't being believed. I pointed out that speaking with my ex or their therapist wouldn't provide an objective view anyway; it would just be another partial perspective. I said I wasn't comfortable with it. She wasn't willing to continue without it. So we've had to part ways.

This feels... off (?) to me. I had explicit goals to work on and accepted the harm I had caused and really wanted to work on removing reactivity, but it seemed like my therapist was more focused on proving that my ex was groomed than on helping me work through the resentment and practical ways I could avoid reacting.

I'm not here to relitigate who was more wronged. I genuinely want to know if I'm missing something, or if this was a clinical overstep because something just feels really off about it to me.

Like, is this normal because I feel really weird about it?

I've been a reddit user for many years - like all of us here. I post somewhat frequently and comment a fair bit. Some subs are great and supportive, but then there are other subs where I question whether the people: a) have eyes, b) can read, c) have theory of mind/perspective taking ability of a pre-adolescent or d) are reactive beyond a reasonable degree.

I've kinda just meh-d to it for a while, but it seems to be getting worse. Often, if I'm correcting misinformation with ACTUAL evidence, people will ask for the evidence, not read it or deliberately misread it just to say my claim is wrong. This happened to me yesterday, someone actively denied the study involved what was verbatim in the study just to prove their point.

People also misread and pick and choose information to reply to from comments. The number of people who have reactively read a portion of a comment I've made (like half of the first line) only to call me an 'idiot' or some other pejorative when if they'd read the comment they'd realise I'm actually *agreeing* with them but with nuance. The black and white, and frankly, child-like thinking has absolutely exploded!

Then there's the weird and needless aggression simply in response to someone disagreeing. If I disagree I use factual language and actual evidence where it makes sense to do so, but a lot of others just are completely blinded by emotion and are set on calling me a terrible human for pointing out *actual facts* that their emotional viewpoint does not agree with. Don't get me wrong, I respect people's emotions but when presented with actual evidence, you'd hope someone would at least read it and stop insulting the other person simply for having a divergent opinion.

Then you've got the disgusting manosphere or pedophile-y or goony comments. I see it everywhere on subreddits that are supposed to be about other things. And if you disagree or call it out, bam, the person is insulting you or trolling you and then commenting before blocking you so you can't even reply.

There are many many amazing redditors but my God these other ones are frustrating the hell out of me. If they are adults (and some are probably not), I am genuinely worried about what this represents in terms of how actual adults are behaving in ways that would actually put them at a below-adolescent level of cognitive and moral development (as per observed developmental stages).

Hi there!

I'm around 1.5 years into using mounjaro. I went from 102kg -> 67kg in the space of about 1 year. I wasn't eating much for a while due to stress, so I then gained a kilo or so when I started eating normally again taking me to about 68kg. My goal weight was 62kg, but I was pretty happy with 66-68kg and decided to focus on maintenance.

But over the last 3-4 months I have started gaining weight back again – I am now back to around 72kg. I don't mind my weight where it is, but I'm really worried, as the gain seems to be speeding up again.

It is true that I'm eating more calories now and getting less exercise due to work-related factors and stress. But I feel really afraid because this is a fair bit of weight in only 3-4 months.

I'm wondering, has anyone else gained weight after taking mounjaro in the long-term? What did you do to lose weight again?

I know I can increase my dose to 15mg, but it is really expensive in my country (Australia) and not covered by insurance, so it's beyond my means to pay about $700 per month for this.

Hi everyone!

I'm heading up to the Whitsundays in early June and am so so excited as it's been on my bucket list for a long time.

I'm a solo traveler looking for a peaceful and hassle-free stay. I'd like to snorkel somewhere in the outer reef and enjoy being able to switch off for a while.

I'm on a modest but not tiny budget - so would prefer my own room/bathroom and maybe some amenities at the places I stay.

I'm looking for recommendations for great tours and things to do up around Airlie. And wondering whether it's worth staying a night on at a fancier place like a resort on Hamilton Island or whether it may not be worth it.

Thanks in advance!

I'm genuinely curious. I see a lot of people thinking she's the mole or something is up with her and I just don't see it.

So, people who think this, why do you think this?

I'm open to changing my mind (I did with Tillie), genuinely curious.

Sophia said: and the darkness *shall not* but the actual verse says *has not*. That's an interesting change...

It reminds me of the talismans - two hemispheres. One with lines like the sun and one without. Others have theorised they are boats, but I think it's related to the hemispherical worlds in the snow dome or the upside down region in Victor's map.

I'm curious to see whether the changed verse/quote has any different meaning.

But I think Donna is the mole. And the monsters are the crows. And Ethan, Victor and Randall are all the MIY. Oh and that the talismans aren't real and the whole world is a simulation experiment.

Also, I wonder what would happen if people plowed through the tree instead of turning around... Maybe they could avoid it?

Also Acosta, Fatima, Ellis, Dale, Jim, Tabitha, Ethan and Randall are so annoying. But Jade and Kenny are cool.

Edit to add: and fuck Kristi's haircut! It's so ugly and ruined the show for me honestly to the point that I now can't and won't focus on anything else because I'm not personally attracted to one of the female characters. How dare they do this to me personally! Weren't the writers and casting and hair and makeup thinking of my own personal sexual preferences when they made these decisions? I'm disgusted.

The monsters are part of a big corporation that runs on the fear of humans. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1dY9yVnbpv/

I think Jade was trying to see what the roots looked like based on his previous vision in the caves. But when he was trying to recreate this, he tied cloths around the room and it looked like a spider web.

I wonder whether the roots are the spiders web? What if roots run all over the town and the trees have some kind of way of bringing messages back to the caves or the entity. Maybe even trees vs crows. Idk... All my theories are half baked, but nothing is unintentional on this show. And later in the episode Boyd mentions to avoid the spiders when they're heading out on the excursion.

Any ideas or interpretations about this?

Basically what the title asks? Mounjaro is becoming too expensive for me so I am thinking about switching.

I'm keen to know whether you stayed the same weight, gained weight or noticed/didn't notice any differences?