i’m jealous of my boyfriend’s girl friends
So my boyfriend is a very social person and has many girl friends. I was trying to be cool with it but one of these friends and him would talk on the phone multiple times a week. This wasn’t much of a problem until she broke up with her boyfriend and she started calling every day crying to him. At this point I got super uncomfortable and asked him to put some space between them. He said ok but even though the calls became like a few times a week again, the texts were paragraphs every day still. I started feeling so bad and jealous so told him again put some space. He agreed and actually did it, he also offered to cut her off fully if it will make me feel better. I said no space is good enough for me even though now I feel so anxious for the day we’ll hang out with the girl again. I feel like I can’t be fake nice towards her but it would be so weird if I randomly was rude too. So idk what to do… She keeps texting him asking to hang out (with both of us) she also has bpd btw.
Today another girl friend of his texted him asking to hang out and finally meet me. I’m so scared i froze up because I know this girl and him used to be so close and he would always sleepover at her house (lt’s a family home with her mom and sister too) They were always just friends and my boyfriend would never make me meet anyone he used to have feelings for or had any kind of romantic history with but my mind is going there. I can’t help it… I feel so anxious about some of these girl friends.
There’s also 2 that i’m super comfortable with and don’t trigger me at all though so it’s not like all girls but yeah… Also my bf offered to cut off both of them and block them. He said anything that makes me uncomfortable isn’t worth it. I’m trying to be healthy but idk…