u/Illustrious-Grape471

Hi I wanted to write a very detailed explanation to our situation right now because I live in pretty much a 3rd world country and our vets even though they’re great people are not able to give us the good care.

So my dog used to be a stray dog. I’ve adopted her just over a year ago and she’s now around 4 years old.

She has always been a very lazy dog so it took me a long while to notice any issues. 2 months ago after exercises I noticed extreme fatigue and panting but when I talked to the vet, they said it’s summer now it’s normal. We did a blood test anyways and her liver values were not normal (ALT- 300) (AST- 56) also (WBC- 4.7). They decided to treat the liver by giving shots and medication so for the past 20 days we’ve been doing that.

So we did blood tests again and it became (ALT- 296) (AST- 44) (WBC- 4.7) The vet decided maybe there’s another problem so they sent us to another vet that does ultrasounds for liver and it was clean. That vet took her fever and said he’s worried about blood parasites. So we did a test for that but that kit also tests for heart worms apparently.

So we got negative for blood parasites and positive for heart worms. And there’s a few problems with that first is the medication for the fast kill method isn’t found here and we’re stuck with the slow kill method. I may try to obtain this medication from another country if it makes a bug difference.

The other problem is my vet said come back for another blood test but we’ll get the results in about 2 weeks. Waiting all this time without doing anything else is making me anxious, is this normal protocol. They said they send the test and results take time to come back.

My problem is that around 9 months ago my dog had jaundice and they did a bunch of things like xray and ended up just giving her iv and saying we good now even though i’m assuming around that time the heart worm maybe was the problem too… because there was one vet that said she wanted to test for blood parasites then too but the male doctor claimed it was something else and they just did iv fluids.

So I believe my dog has had heart worms for a very long time. I’m very scared for her because she has lost a lot of her energy.

how would a classic approach to this kinda case look? with antibiotics etc. I also saw some people recommend xrays online but my vet never mentioned that… so i don’t even know what to do where to start. any kinda info is appreciated.

My boyfriend is a really nice person and generally a good boyfriend. As a partner he’s great, he gives gifts, takes me out, prioritizes me etc. The problem is I don’t think we’re that compatible?

Sexually i’m kinda kinky and he’s just vanilla so every time we have sex I end up feeling bad. It’s just ok very mediocre. Without the kinks i’m not sure if I’m able to get much pleasure… I’ve tried talking to him about it but maybe he just doesn’t have it within him to act like that I’m not sure.

Also intellectually i don’t think we work, I love questioning things and brain storming and talking about ideas whereas he finds it overwhelming to do this. He’s the type of person to just categorize something as “bad” and then never even wants to think about that ever again. He says it’s because he only wants positivity. Even recently he put sexuality in this box and doesn’t want to think about it because it’s “bad”… Or when I want to talk about some spiritual experiences it makes him stressed and then he shuts me down.

Also I’m very care free when we go out and he’s very stressed so he makes a lot of judgmental comments about me sitting on stairs, me dancing around etc. like he just wants me to be robotic and I’m a very expressive person so it immediately ruins my mood. This is mostly due to his mental health but still it’s hard to deal with.

The last one has improved a little but the first two are still the same. I used to feel in love but rn i’m not even capable of feeling much towards him. I’ve been with really abusive men in the past so for the first time i’m in a “healthier” relationship so it feels wrong to just let it go for these reasons. I want to improve these things but maybe it’s not even possible idk.

So my boyfriend is a very social person and has many girl friends. I was trying to be cool with it but one of these friends and him would talk on the phone multiple times a week. This wasn’t much of a problem until she broke up with her boyfriend and she started calling every day crying to him. At this point I got super uncomfortable and asked him to put some space between them. He said ok but even though the calls became like a few times a week again, the texts were paragraphs every day still. I started feeling so bad and jealous so told him again put some space. He agreed and actually did it, he also offered to cut her off fully if it will make me feel better. I said no space is good enough for me even though now I feel so anxious for the day we’ll hang out with the girl again. I feel like I can’t be fake nice towards her but it would be so weird if I randomly was rude too. So idk what to do… She keeps texting him asking to hang out (with both of us) she also has bpd btw.

Today another girl friend of his texted him asking to hang out and finally meet me. I’m so scared i froze up because I know this girl and him used to be so close and he would always sleepover at her house (lt’s a family home with her mom and sister too) They were always just friends and my boyfriend would never make me meet anyone he used to have feelings for or had any kind of romantic history with but my mind is going there. I can’t help it… I feel so anxious about some of these girl friends.

There’s also 2 that i’m super comfortable with and don’t trigger me at all though so it’s not like all girls but yeah… Also my bf offered to cut off both of them and block them. He said anything that makes me uncomfortable isn’t worth it. I’m trying to be healthy but idk…