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I never had a shopping addiction before. I always wore clothes that was old and the same. I decided to purchase more clothes that would make me feel pretty this summer since I couldn’t wear shorts to work and was tired of my cycling 3 pairs of pants that lost their button over the past year. First it was a shitty online retailer, but then none of it looked good and it was all a failure. Because of my depression I didn’t return anything because that was too much work so I just wasted $100. Then I googled where to get good quality clothes and found a website. Honestly it looked so good on me when it arrived but I didn’t have anything I could wear with the skirts. So I went onto a rack when had dresses. Okay, I have never worn a dress. I’ve been seeing so many people (I work in Fidi) wear dresses and thinking “I wish I looked like them. They look confident and happy.” So I ended up buying dresses. Then it didn’t arrive and I kept feeling more and more desperate so I ordered more and more. Now some of the packages arrived and I have more to come and I feel guilty and shitty. I guess I could pack up and return some of it. But I don’t want to be in the same loop where I wear the same clothes and cycle between 5 outfits for the entire summer. I feel like such a failure spending so much money though. I spent 200-350 4 times. I also bought myself a cute purse and a cute backpack and a cute bracelet and then 3 new pairs of sneakers since the sneakers I’ve been wearing for the past 3 years have holes in them.

I blocked it off my computer even though I was really just enjoying scrolling it’s too hard to say no and not buy a new dress when I do. What else can I do to make sure I don’t purchase anything for the rest of the year?

I don’t understand how this is fair. Oil prices / fuel prices are through the roof because of the war in Iran. The hentaivirus epidemic means traveling by train is extra dangerous, since the train is infested with giant boobed rats 🐀. My private jet pilot wants an extra 10k a year in salary to keep up for inflation of victoria secret prices for his mistress. And now Mandami is taxing my jet? This is ridiculous. Why can’t we just increase the price of the subway fair to encourage these poor and broke people to purchase private jets?

My hr is 151 rn and I wanna breath 😭 tryna work but feel so shaky and dead

Most people in NYC rely on public transportation to get to work. Sometimes, like for the past 3 days with the 7 train, the trains just shut down unexpectedly for 2 hours. Even if you leave an hour early to get to work in these instances, and spend an hour killing time near your office on most days due to the earliness, in these instances you will likely still be late. If these instances are anticipated and expected I believe that Mamdani should collaborate with the MTA to create a law where, provided valid documentation of the impact of the transit delay on your commute, you are not allowed to be penalized at your job for lateness due to these unavoidable issues.

I recently got written up because over the past 9 months I was late 6 times totaling 45 minutes at my job (6-12 minute latenesses). This is a form of prima facie discrimination as the write up of the insignificant documented and marked as excused latenesses occurred post my FMLA. Living in NYC, there are some instances where it is genuinely impossible to be on time, probably averaging out to more than or about 6 times being late in a 9 month period. I believe that there should be a law protecting against this from being an issue irregardless of the prima facie discrimination allegations.

Sometimes, people jump infront of trains. Sometimes, the trains stop working for an hour due to a switch issue and you are stranded away from any other trains or buses waiting for the train to work (or stranded in the train without the ability to leave the train. These things are occurrences that occur due to using NYC transit so NYC, to encourage usage of NYC transit, should facilitate laws to protect people from being penalized for a contractually defined “reasonable” transit-related delay.

Thoughts?

I read that if you get HIV while on prep the virus will be resistant to typical treatments. This makes me super anxious to start PREP. Does anyone have insight on this?

Idk maybe I’d like to practice esthetics in the future but really I’m just interested in it. It’s something that will happen a few years out if I go through with it. Thoughts?

How a Couple Makes Things Work on $40,000 a Year and a $1 Billion Trust Fund
When Olivia and Grant moved to New York City from Champaign, Ill., last year, they agreed on one thing: they would try to live, as much as possible, on Grant’s $40,000 nonprofit salary.
“We wanted to stay grounded,” Olivia, 28, said recently, seated at the marble kitchen island in their two-bedroom apartment in SoHo. “It’s easy to lose perspective here.”
Perspective, however, can be difficult to maintain when the fallback option is a $1 billion trust fund.
The fund, established by Olivia’s family generations ago, yields more than enough to cover the couple’s expenses many times over. Still, they insist their goal has been restraint.
“It’s about discipline,” said Grant, 30. “Anyone can just dip into a trust fund. We didn’t want that to be our story.”
Instead, they have worked to build a life around Grant’s modest income—at least in theory.
In practice, that has required what Olivia describes as “selective supplementation.” Rent for their apartment, which they found after “weeks of exhausting searching,” is $16,000 a month, a figure that exceeds Grant’s annual salary several times over. The difference, she acknowledged, is covered by the trust.
Other necessities—furniture, travel, “baseline wellness,” and their golden retriever’s specialized diet—are also funded this way.
“We try to keep it to essentials,” Olivia said.
Defining “essential,” however, has been an evolving process.
Early in their move, the couple committed to cooking most meals at home. That plan has held, though their definition of cooking includes a private chef who comes three nights a week “to keep things efficient.” Dining out, meanwhile, is reserved for what Grant calls “lower-cost options,” like tasting menus under $300 per person.
“It’s about being mindful,” he said.
Their efforts extend to transportation. While they primarily rely on rideshares, they have begun experimenting with the subway during “off-peak emotional hours.”
“It’s intense,” Olivia said. “But it reminds you why you’re working so hard.”
Back in Illinois, where both grew up, friends have expressed confusion about the couple’s approach to budgeting.
“They’ll say, ‘Why not just use the trust fund?’” Grant said. “But then what’s the point of earning anything?”
Financial advisers say the couple’s strategy—anchoring their identity to earned income while quietly relying on inherited wealth—is not uncommon among the ultrawealthy.
“There’s a desire to feel self-made,” said one adviser who works with high-net-worth families. “Even when the numbers suggest otherwise.”
For Olivia and Grant, that balance remains a work in progress.
They recently debated whether to cut back on discretionary spending after a particularly expensive month that included a short stay at a wellness resort in Switzerland.
“In the end, we decided not to overcorrect,” Olivia said. “You don’t want to swing too far.”
As they look ahead, the couple says they remain committed to their original goal: making it in New York on a modest salary, even if that requires occasional support from the trust.
“It’s not easy,” Grant said. “But we’re figuring it out.”
Olivia agreed.
“At the end of the day,” she said, “we’re just trying to live within our means.”

This was on sale for $18 at IPSY. I really really really like the microdermation goop face sample I got from ulta but cannot see myself splurging for it for $40 (even though the tiny sample has lasted me 4 uses and counting). Anyone have insight if the body polish is similar?

The Good Genes Lactic Acid Riley was also on sale and I may or may not have impulsively purchased it .. I use so I’m not even sure if I’ll be able to combine the 2.

I’m going to be starting the virtual Stats Data Science master’s this summer. I saw that there was a class dedicated to assisting in research for other departments. I’m wondering if outside of the course there are research opportunities available, and if we see research we are interested in we can just reach out to professors actively doing the research. I’m really interested in getting into bio medical research and I think there are lots of applications of Stats and CS (I’m a full time programmer and graduated in the top of my class with a bs in cs) within the other departments. What are people’s experience with getting into research projects or working with professors? Obviously, this is primarily for resume building and experience. I’m also not 100% sure if after this master’s I’ll make the spontaneous but not really spontaneous decision to go to med school. So doing research in the biomedical field could help keep that door open.