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Where can I buy clean hygenic Indian food ? Mostly idly and dosa.

I recently tried valai.lk, it was terrible! Pls recommend

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Hi everyone

Im 30.. female. For the past 8 to 10 years I have struggled with binge eating alot. I had a normal happy childhood with no food restrictions and I never had any food noise. I had alot of family issues starting slowly in my 20s , I dont know when my food noises and binging started but I have been struggling to loose weight for almost 10 years! I was quite thin growing up and for the past 10 years Ive only been putting on.

The beginning of this whole food noise I was addicted to fast food and chocolates plus junk.i would literally be eating all day long. I went to therapy for other reason , I have depression but not in a way it shows..if u what I mean.. so during therapy she really tried to work on my binging and food addiction. She gave me outside activites to do to calm my mind and told me to not restrict anything and just write down each days food nd how I felt at that time to be aware . It really did help..and then covid hit. I couldnt afford therapy anymore and my personal life was getting worse so I obviously dived dowm to binge eating bad! I would eat alottt even if I felt sick. Especially sweets.

One day in 2021 , Ive had enough. I just felt like I cant live lile this anymore. Nothing fit me and I couldnt just go to a store and easily buy anything! So I started my weightloss jourey , suprisingly I was so good at it. I ate healthy , I did IF and I countrd my calories. Slowly gave up sweets. But after around 45 days my dearest pet.. my first pet ever suddenly died! I was devastated. First thing I reached out to was pizza and pudding..then slowly started buying and eating more nd more junk coz I couldnt bare the pain. I started gaining the little weight I lost and more. Every week I would say Ill start tmrw or Monday but it never came.

Since then every single week or Monday Im promising myself Ill start , but I dont ! Monday I say wedneaday and then it becomes thursday and then Im lke y diet on weekend so again Monday.

So I dont know if its the age or whatever but for thr past 2 years I have slowly developed some intolerance to fast food. I cannot digest it well so I have started to slowly go away from it. Last year I was diagnosed with disc issues , pretty bad and the doctor told me loosing weight would make it much better for my recovery. Guess what!? Being unable to do things and all that made me even more depressrd and I have only gained weight. Peoplr around me judge me alot. My issue right now is , thank god Im no longer addicted or into fast food..eventhough occasionally I have. I cant stop eating chocolates and sweets! Especially chocolates and cake. I love cakes sooo much. I have started a diet every single week almost for the past year only to fail and then binge like crazy. If i discover a new chocolate bar , I get obsessed. I feel like Im crazy till I buy a bulk of it. I eat it till I feel sick. And the next time I crave it i buy double.. till I get so fedup of it , nd then a new chocolate bar or cake obsession starts.

I have missed on several trips and many things this past year due to my condition. I do PT but I know loosing weight will help immensely. And theres a trip coming up in 3 months. I vouched and challenged myself I would loose weight. Ive been trying hard for 3 months with several diets but failed. I have been watching alot of videos and reading here that restriction leads to bad binges. So sincr Last monday , I started soft. I workout atleast 30 mins . I write down all I eat and count calories ..I didnt restrict myself with anything. I am obsessively having sugsr free sodas now to get rid of the sweet itch. I have been having chocolate bars within my calorie deficit. I have stopped buying stuff that I will binge on and quantity will be more , eg. Biscuits and cakes. So chocolate bars I cn have some control. Its only been 3 days , eventhough my food noise isnt reduced , I feel somewhat in control. But nights, every single night after dinner till which I finish by 8pm.. i have extreme bad food noises telling me lets just have this and that , start tmrw fresh. Its getting bad the noises. I almost ordered stuff today to binge after 8 but stopped myself. I need your support. What do I do ? Does this get better ? How can I get through this..!?

Please help

Thank you so much

Hi everyone

Im 30.. female. For the past 8 to 10 years I have struggled with binge eating alot. I had a normal happy childhood with no food restrictions and I never had any food noise. I had alot of family issues starting slowly in my 20s , I dont know when my food noises and binging started but I have been struggling to loose weight for almost 10 years! I was quite thin growing up and for the past 10 years Ive only been putting on.

The beginning of this whole food noise I was addicted to fast food and chocolates plus junk.i would literally be eating all day long. I went to therapy for other reason , I have depression but not in a way it shows..if u what I mean.. so during therapy she really tried to work on my binging and food addiction. She gave me outside activites to do to calm my mind and told me to not restrict anything and just write down each days food nd how I felt at that time to be aware . It really did help..and then covid hit. I couldnt afford therapy anymore and my personal life was getting worse so I obviously dived dowm to binge eating bad! I would eat alottt even if I felt sick. Especially sweets.

One day in 2021 , Ive had enough. I just felt like I cant live lile this anymore. Nothing fit me and I couldnt just go to a store and easily buy anything! So I started my weightloss jourey , suprisingly I was so good at it. I ate healthy , I did IF and I countrd my calories. Slowly gave up sweets. But after around 45 days my dearest pet.. my first pet ever suddenly died! I was devastated. First thing I reached out to was pizza and pudding..then slowly started buying and eating more nd more junk coz I couldnt bare the pain. I started gaining the little weight I lost and more. Every week I would say Ill start tmrw or Monday but it never came.

Since then every single week or Monday Im promising myself Ill start , but I dont ! Monday I say wedneaday and then it becomes thursday and then Im lke y diet on weekend so again Monday.

So I dont know if its the age or whatever but for thr past 2 years I have slowly developed some intolerance to fast food. I cannot digest it well so I have started to slowly go away from it. Last year I was diagnosed with disc issues , pretty bad and the doctor told me loosing weight would make it much better for my recovery. Guess what!? Being unable to do things and all that made me even more depressrd and I have only gained weight. Peoplr around me judge me alot. My issue right now is , thank god Im no longer addicted or into fast food..eventhough occasionally I have. I cant stop eating chocolates and sweets! Especially chocolates and cake. I love cakes sooo much. I have started a diet every single week almost for the past year only to fail and then binge like crazy. If i discover a new chocolate bar , I get obsessed. I feel like Im crazy till I buy a bulk of it. I eat it till I feel sick. And the next time I crave it i buy double.. till I get so fedup of it , nd then a new chocolate bar or cake obsession starts.

I have missed on several trips and many things this past year due to my condition. I do PT but I know loosing weight will help immensely. And theres a trip coming up in 3 months. I vouched and challenged myself I would loose weight. Ive been trying hard for 3 months with several diets but failed. I have been watching alot of videos and reading here that restriction leads to bad binges. So sincr Last monday , I started soft. I workout atleast 30 mins . I write down all I eat and count calories ..I didnt restrict myself with anything. I am obsessively having sugsr free sodas now to get rid of the sweet itch. I have been having chocolate bars within my calorie deficit. I have stopped buying stuff that I will binge on and quantity will be more , eg. Biscuits and cakes. So chocolate bars I cn have some control. Its only been 3 days , eventhough my food noise isnt reduced , I feel somewhat in control. But nights, every single night after dinner till which I finish by 8pm.. i have extreme bad food noises telling me lets just have this and that , start tmrw fresh. Its getting bad the noises. I almost ordered stuff today to binge after 8 but stopped myself. I need your support. What do I do ? Does this get better ? How can I get through this..!?

Please help

Thank you so much

Hi guys

Any good cat groomers in kandy? Bathing not needed.

A clean, hygenic place .

Thank you

I cannot believe for the life of me that was the finale of this season!!! Now from family who just wants to come defened saying its a mystery blah blah.. we got 4 seasons of only mysteries for god sake!

This whole season was such a waste! Utter useless season. All we got was mostly fillers and last 10 mins of some action. And what kind of a stupid cliffhanger is that!? It was pretty obvious fathima was becoming a monster and this was the cliffhanger!?

Im a hugeee die hard fan of FROM and I have never been so dissapointed in a season of a show ever! What was even actually answered !? Nothing. 0 answers for god sake.

If u compare widows bay to FROM. It was on another level having only 1 season itself. Almost everything was answered and the cliffhanger was so good , people actually wants to tune in for season 2.

I hope these FROM writers know that giving us answers will only make us more engaged in the show. What a waste of 1 whole season! Even if season 5 is gna have all the answers , this season could have been on another level.

Im dissapointed to say FROM doesnt deserve the same love anymore.

Hi

Due to a health issues Im supposed to swim everyday. Is there any pool in Kandy , a heated pool where I can pay and go everyday ? Somewhere clean ..

Please suggest

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Salams

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This is going to be a long post.

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In this fathers day weekend , Im utterly heartbroken. Im 30 , I have 2 small kids. I have an older brother and a younger sister. Im living with my parents at the moment since my husband isnt in the country and we cannot afford to get a rented place since we r figuring out many things atm.

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I have done everything to my father since I was a teenager. I have care well for him and he has been somewhat loving too but it is crystal clear he loves my brother the most.

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My brother is unmarried as of yet. He is overweight but he looks good since he is tall. Im slightly overweight especially coz I had to deal with so many hormonal issues after kids. And my main concern was dealing with my mental health as I was going through depression ..Im okay now alhamdulliah.. and also trying to figure lots of things out. My problem is .. my father treats me badly since becoming fat. He doesnt treat me like a human being and make me feel like so bad about myself all the time for becoming fat. I didnt become fat by choice , I went through alot. He is more loving and caring towards my younger sis since she is thin. Eventhough she doesnt lift a finger to help them and is selfish , he appreciates her and values her more. In my opinion and many others , I look prettier than my sister and also Im more attractive .. also many say I look like my sisters younger sibling. Im not comparing here.. Im giving context. Dad makes fun of me , or if someone says ( like aunties ) for me to loose weight , he makes sure to bring it up again the next day or another time .. he makes me feel like loosing weight is the most important thing in the world... when I tell him my brother eats super unhealthy and is also fat , dad says it doesnt matter and he is a boy.. he also says Im sure u eat more than him.. even if I say wallahi I dont.. he wont believe me.. he often says u hide and eat slowly all the junk inside ur room.. that has never happened and even if I say no , he said I know what u do.

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When I tell my husband, he says try to ignore as much as possible since we will anyway be moving and planning In sha Allah. So I try to be patient. But today I hit rock bottom.

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My brother said he doesnt like the dinner today and he was going to buy some junk. I told him , not to eat junk and eat home made food. Then my brother got mad and said u eat chips and all the junk all the time so why r u telling me. Then I asked him have u seen me eating.. he said no, dad always says. Then my father stepped in and told my brother eat homemade food but didnt force him. Then my father told me I opened ur fridge and saw.. u have cream soda , etc in mega bottles and also ice cream. I was shocked! Its my fridge that I bought thats next to my room that I keep my stuff in.. idk how he can snoop like that.. then I told him no , the 3 mega bottlea of soft drinks were my sisters that her friends brought when they came. My sister kept in my fridge. And my dad started laughing saying u r lieing and mocking me..my brother was laughing too.. I looked like an idiot trying to defend myself.. my sister wasnt there to tell its hers. And also I said yes I felt like ice cream after a very long time and bought myself a cone! Just 1 cone.. and to be honest , I eat relatively very healthy.. dad and brother didnt believe me that the sodas werent mine so I came to my room and almost broke down.. but didnt coz of my kids. I walk alot around the house everyday , but my father laughs and says thats not exercise. Go to gym.

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Same kind of mocking and conversation happened few weeks ago also.

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I feel really upset. Is my worth just my weight !? Once my father called me a barrel.. what about everything else thats about me ? Does none of it matter.

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My mother doesnt mock me or anything but she supports my father quietly. If my father encourages me or helps me out to loose weight for health alone I would happily do it.. why mock..!? And I have lost weight alhamdulliah.. but he doesnt agree till u r paper thin.

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I see all these fathers day posts , and my heart aches , burns..:( why cant he love me as a girl dad.. I used to love him so much but I hate looking at his face anymore. I hate him so much!

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Same as above.

Is my husband cheating again ?

Salams everyone

I have been married for a few years, no kids yet due to health issues but Im alright now alhamdulliah. We were going to try soon In sha Allah.

For context , my husband is a very nice and kind man. He provides for me well. And I have a very toxic family so he is the only family I have. He is very religious and also has always been there for me during thick and thin.

Few years ago, around 2021 my husband , my husband had to travel for work quite alot. So he would come home once a week. And he was quite distant and weird with me. And he was very protective of his phone. One night he had fallen asleep so I went through his phone. I found out he had downloaded telegram and he was sex-ting multiple men. But with those men , he was describing about me. And those men about there wives. And he took an underwear of mine and sent a pic. Also they spoke very filthy of each others wives in a very sexual manner. No gay stuff btw. My heart sank, he cried and apologised and somewhow long story short , after a long time I forgave him.

He deleted everything and he was normal, we had to move cities 2 years later due to his work.

After we moved , after a month or so , he was again suddenly acting weird . I gave it sometime and went through his phone , to see this time he was directing messaging women and sex-ting. Multiple women only sexting , no emotional affair. There was one woman where he had told her to come on video call that night , wearing what he tells her to wear and also to do what he says. I confronted him and told him I need divorce. He cried his eyes out and begged me. I said no, i need a divorce. Then he said he doesnt feel any satisfaction after we r intimate and he really needs to do ruqaya etc, coz he doesnt know whats happening to him..We did Ruqaya for him and actually got to know someone had done black magic on him for him to behave this way. This was proven , I was present. Obviously I instantly forgave him and we hugged each other and cried.

Since then everything has been great. Alhamdulliah. Our intimate life got sooo much better and we were dng so well.. I forgave and forgot about all that.

Now the problem is , since May 1st this year , he again started to act weird. He was extra protective of his phone. I sometimes felt he quickly closed something when I went close. He hasnt been super intimate or close to me like before. My gut kept saying something is wrong , and usually always my gut is right. But this time he is not hiding away in another room or living room like he used to before. But he has been different. My gut kept saying that. So without checking his phone , I confronted him. He said wallahi nothing like that etc. And all that. I thought ok.. Ill accept. But still I felt something was wrong. I kept asking Allah to show me a sign if something is wrong.

Last night he fell asleep early. I slowly took his phone to check , i couldnt find anything. He is also extremely tech savy and he knows how to hide apps etc. So I tried my best but couldnt find anything. But right before I kept the phone back , I quickly went through his email. Here we go , he had downloaded telegram app premium on May 5th , and paid for 1 week. Nd he had deleted , this email was in his bin folder. I wokeup him up immediately and confronted. He acted confused and he immediately said I dont remember. I kept telling him to be honest.. he said wallahi I dont remeber and cried. I said if he downloaded this for some work or whatever ( which is not needed ).. why did he have to delete the email. The whole bin had 3 emails deleted. 2 spams and this one , so it was intentional.

He kept saying I cant remember and I said how cn u not.. its only been 1 week since u paid for it. So I told him, we will talk once u remember and I waited for a long time and he said he actually cant rmbr. And I eventually fell asleep.

He had left home when I wokeup, so Im waiting till he comes back.

Am I right or wrong in this situation? Do u think Im overthinking coz of the past trauma or am I correct ?

Please dont tell me gng through the phone is wrong , its my husbands phone plus its not a suspicion out of nowhere.

Please advice.

Jzk khair.

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Salams everyone

I have been married for a few years, no kids yet due to health issues but Im alright now alhamdulliah. We were going to try soon In sha Allah.

For context , my husband is a very nice and kind man. He provides for me well. And I have a very toxic family so he is the only family I have. He is very religious and also has always been there for me during thick and thin.

Few years ago, around 2021 my husband , my husband had to travel for work quite alot. So he would come home once a week. And he was quite distant and weird with me. And he was very protective of his phone. One night he had fallen asleep so I went through his phone. I found out he had downloaded telegram and he was sex-ting multiple men. But with those men , he was describing about me. And those men about there wives. And he took an underwear of mine and sent a pic. Also they spoke very filthy of each others wives in a very sexual manner. No gay stuff btw. My heart sank, he cried and apologised and somewhow long story short , after a long time I forgave him.

He deleted everything and he was normal, we had to move cities 2 years later due to his work.

After we moved , after a month or so , he was again suddenly acting weird . I gave it sometime and went through his phone , to see this time he was directing messaging women and sex-ting. Multiple women only sexting , no emotional affair. There was one woman where he had told her to come on video call that night , wearing what he tells her to wear and also to do what he says. I confronted him and told him I need divorce. He cried his eyes out and begged me. I said no, i need a divorce. Then he said he doesnt feel any satisfaction after we r intimate and he really needs to do ruqaya etc, coz he doesnt know whats happening to him..We did Ruqaya for him and actually got to know someone had done black magic on him for him to behave this way. This was proven , I was present. Obviously I instantly forgave him and we hugged each other and cried.

Since then everything has been great. Alhamdulliah. Our intimate life got sooo much better and we were dng so well.. I forgave and forgot about all that.

Now the problem is , since May 1st this year , he again started to act weird. He was extra protective of his phone. I sometimes felt he quickly closed something when I went close. He hasnt been super intimate or close to me like before. My gut kept saying something is wrong , and usually always my gut is right. But this time he is not hiding away in another room or living room like he used to before. But he has been different. My gut kept saying that. So without checking his phone , I confronted him. He said wallahi nothing like that etc. And all that. I thought ok.. Ill accept. But still I felt something was wrong. I kept asking Allah to show me a sign if something is wrong.

Last night he fell asleep early. I slowly took his phone to check , i couldnt find anything. He is also extremely tech savy and he knows how to hide apps etc. So I tried my best but couldnt find anything. But right before I kept the phone back , I quickly went through his email. Here we go , he had downloaded telegram app premium on May 5th , and paid for 1 week. Nd he had deleted , this email was in his bin folder. I wokeup him up immediately and confronted. He acted confused and he immediately said I dont remember. I kept telling him to be honest.. he said wallahi I dont remeber and cried. I said if he downloaded this for some work or whatever ( which is not needed ).. why did he have to delete the email. The whole bin had 3 emails deleted. 2 spams and this one , so it was intentional.

He kept saying I cant remember and I said how cn u not.. its only been 1 week since u paid for it. So I told him, we will talk once u remember and I waited for a long time and he said he actually cant rmbr. And I eventually fell asleep.

He had left home when I wokeup, so Im waiting till he comes back.

Am I right or wrong in this situation? Do u think Im overthinking coz of the past trauma or am I correct ?

Please dont tell me gng through the phone is wrong , its my husbands phone plus its not a suspicion out of nowhere.

Please advice.

Jzk khair.

Salams everyone

I have been married for a few years, no kids yet due to health issues but Im alright now alhamdulliah. We were going to try soon In sha Allah.

For context , my husband is a very nice and kind man. He provides for me well. And I have a very toxic family so he is the only family I have. He is very religious and also has always been there for me during thick and thin.

Few years ago, around 2021 my husband , my husband had to travel for work quite alot. So he would come home once a week. And he was quite distant and weird with me. And he was very protective of his phone. One night he had fallen asleep so I went through his phone. I found out he had downloaded telegram and he was sex-ting multiple men. But with those men , he was describing about me. And those men about there wives. And he took an underwear of mine and sent a pic. Also they spoke very filthy of each others wives in a very sexual manner. No gay stuff btw. My heart sank, he cried and apologised and somewhow long story short , after a long time I forgave him.

He deleted everything and he was normal, we had to move cities 2 years later due to his work.

After we moved , after a month or so , he was again suddenly acting weird . I gave it sometime and went through his phone , to see this time he was directing messaging women and sex-ting. Multiple women only sexting , no emotional affair. There was one woman where he had told her to come on video call that night , wearing what he tells her to wear and also to do what he says. I confronted him and told him I need divorce. He cried his eyes out and begged me. I said no, i need a divorce. Then he said he doesnt feel any satisfaction after we r intimate and he really needs to do ruqaya etc, coz he doesnt know whats happening to him..We did Ruqaya for him and actually got to know someone had done black magic on him for him to behave this way. This was proven , I was present. Obviously I instantly forgave him and we hugged each other and cried.

Since then everything has been great. Alhamdulliah. Our intimate life got sooo much better and we were dng so well.. I forgave and forgot about all that.

Now the problem is , since May 1st this year , he again started to act weird. He was extra protective of his phone. I sometimes felt he quickly closed something when I went close. He hasnt been super intimate or close to me like before. My gut kept saying something is wrong , and usually always my gut is right. But this time he is not hiding away in another room or living room like he used to before. But he has been different. My gut kept saying that. So without checking his phone , I confronted him. He said wallahi nothing like that etc. And all that. I thought ok.. Ill accept. But still I felt something was wrong. I kept asking Allah to show me a sign if something is wrong.

Last night he fell asleep early. I slowly took his phone to check , i couldnt find anything. He is also extremely tech savy and he knows how to hide apps etc. So I tried my best but couldnt find anything. But right before I kept the phone back , I quickly went through his email. Here we go , he had downloaded telegram app premium on May 5th , and paid for 1 week. Nd he had deleted , this email was in his bin folder. I wokeup him up immediately and confronted. He acted confused and he immediately said I dont remember. I kept telling him to be honest.. he said wallahi I dont remeber and cried. I said if he downloaded this for some work or whatever ( which is not needed ).. why did he have to delete the email. The whole bin had 3 emails deleted. 2 spams and this one , so it was intentional.

He kept saying I cant remember and I said how cn u not.. its only been 1 week since u paid for it. So I told him, we will talk once u remember and I waited for a long time and he said he actually cant rmbr. And I eventually fell asleep.

He had left home when I wokeup, so Im waiting till he comes back.

Am I right or wrong in this situation? Do u think Im overthinking coz of the past trauma or am I correct ?

Please dont tell me gng through the phone is wrong , its my husbands phone plus its not a suspicion out of nowhere.

Please advice.

Jzk khair.

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Hi everyone

Im from Sri lanka. As Sri lankans we love Vijay. Vijay has been my childhood crush, like Im not into movies much etc but Im a dieheard lover of Vijay. No matter how stupid some of his movies r , Ill always rewatch... also my husband sort of looks like Vijay😂 and to this day he says I said yes to him coz he looks a little like Vijay. I do think so too coz my type of men used to be completely different before I said yes to him. Anyways u cn see how much I love vijay, so does my family and so does alotttt of Sri lankans.

Majority of the Sri lankans r disgusted by Vijay now and also heartbroken. No one is perfect but we really thought Vijay was a decent human being, but we r disgusted by his cheating scandal with Trisha and also how he treated his wife who stood by him for soooo many years. If he didnt have a supportive wife , he would have never reached to where he is now.

If Vijay had divorced Sangeetha , and then got into a relationship with Trisha , we woukd have all accepted it. But he treated a woman who was there for him, raised his kids and someone who he has known for years like shit - why!? Coz of Trisha. So its so inhumane of him and Im really really dissapointed and disgusted with him so r many many people here. We lost all respect and love for him. We dont admire him anymore. I love my husband but now I hate the fact that he looks a little like Vijay. - yes thats how angry I am.

Eg. No one cared much when Ar rahman or any big actor got divorced , coz they did it so cordially and also like a human. And we respected that gave them privacy. And even if they got married like 2 months later , we didnt care coz they divorced. But this is totally different.

I know villans always win in this lifetime but Im really dissapointed with people for choosing him. Why would u treat someone like god and respect soo much for a piece of s h i t . In Sri lanka we stand our ground. Im really angry and sad coz Vijay was a big and hugeee part of my life.

No matter how many people say Sangeetha left him years ago and doesnt care anymore , do u really think even a small part of her didnt get hurt today ? And his kids omg I cant imagine what it must be for them.

He took away grandkids from his parents. He is literally showing openly to the world what a human he is. Doesnt love , care and respect start from home ? And I cannot for the life of me belive he allowed trisha to come so openly to his house and today , flaunting her. She defintely is a shameless woman , so is her mother. But even if she approched him first , If Vijay was a decent man , he wouldnt have left his family.

I hope somewhere down the line Vijay becomes a loser and he regrets leaving his family, and yearns for his family !!!

Thanks for reading my rant

Salams

I dont know how to explain what Im feeling but Ill try my best. Im female , 30 yrs. Married but no kids yet due to my health issues.

I want to openly tell everyone that I try my level best to be a good person. I have always been very kind to people and helped my family and everyone around me emotionally and physically however I cn. When I went through my health issue 2 years ago, my parents nor my siblings took care of me the way I have taken care of them . Not even close. Especially my brother and sister who r adults always got annoyed and insulted me when I asked for help. ( my health issue is a spinal issue that turned into an injury where I was bed ridden for months.) My husband helped however he could alhamdulliah but he couldnt stay with me due to work. I moved back to my parents house post injury coz I needed help in every way. My 2 maids ( at my parents house ) helped me however they could. They never made a face, they always made sure I was okay and did sooo much to me compared to my family. I was almost on depression because I have done sooo much for my parents and siblings ( who r unmarried ) .. and have always put them before myself , yet I didnt receive 10% of that when I needed them the most. I spent months crying in thahajjad , sometimes prayed on bed also coz I couldnt sit. Alhamdulliah Im recovering slowly but I dont know if I should say this or not Im so angry at Allah. Thats what I feel. There r many wishes and duas Ive made the past year and I feel like nothing has come true yet. I also feel so angry that my sister who was beyond cruel to me and a very selfish person by nature is married now to such a wonderful guy and living such a happy life now. I have gone through soooo many tests and trials the past 10 years , beyond what some people cn imagine. Yet my life hasnt gotten better. It got briefly okay when I moved away with my husband and then this injury happened so I had to move back to my parents. I feel like its one thing after another and I cant catch a break. I dont feel like praying anymore. I sincerely devoted myself during this ramadhan as well and cried and made sooo many duas . But it feel useless now. Nothings changing. Im having more issues at home now due to my father having early stages of dementia and blaming me ( only me ) for certatin things. I still am unable to move away as the visa will again take a while. I feel like I have lost all hope. How is life so easy and blissful to some people who r cruel yet for me who has not even hurt a fly , is going through so many trials. Im so lost. I cant breathe sometimes. Therapy is not an option at the mlment as I cannot afford it. I have lost great friendships , many relationships etc due to no reason at all.

The last straw for me yesterday was , when a good friend of my husband and the wife hosted a bday party for their kid and invited everybody except us. I have hosted them and her family many times at my house. Ive been there for her , cooked for her , always invited her over. We r not besties but we r good friends and the husbands r childhood friends. There have been no misunderstsndings or anything between us yet she didnt bother inviting me. Im no longer bedridden alhamdulliah and she knows that very well yet she didnt invite. She has invited many not so close frirnds of hers also and shes happily posting on social media. I felt so upset and sad.

I have gone above and beyond for people yet Allah has not sent me anyone my way who will treat me like a person. I have only lost..never gained anything. Im so fedup. Im so angry at Allah but I dont know what else to do..

Im sorry for the long post. Jzk khair for reading.

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Salams

Im 30(F) ..my husband is 35 .. we have been married for 8 years. No kids coz of health issues , when we finally started trying I got injured and was bed ridden. Im still recovering. Past 2 days I have been feeling depressed. I feel Im too late to have a kid. I feel like my marriage is falling apart because we r genuinely bored with each other and husband doesnt even talk to much anymore. He is always playing games or going out with buddies. And we cant do mich fun things together coz Im still recovering. I dont know what to do . I feel like Im a failure as a wife becayse everyone else have 2 or 3 kids ( our age couples ) who r like 8 or 9 years .. and they have this routine busy life. Yet here I am just still trying to reover and having a bkring routine.. stuck at my parents house. I m so lost

Salams

Im 30(F) ..my husband is 35 .. we have been married for 8 years. No kids coz of health issues , when we finally started trying I got injured and was bed ridden. Im still recovering. Past 2 days I have been feeling depressed. I feel Im too late to have a kid. I feel like my marriage is falling apart because we r genuinely bored with each other and husband doesnt even talk to much anymore. He is always playing games or going out with buddies. And we cant do mich fun things together coz Im still recovering. I dont know what to do . I feel like Im a failure as a wife becayse everyone else have 2 or 3 kids ( our age couples ) who r like 8 or 9 years .. and they have this routine busy life. Yet here I am just still trying to reover and having a bkring routine.. stuck at my parents house. I m so lost

Issue regarding my sister

Salams brothers and sisters

My sister is 30 years old. Back when she was in her early 20s, she got nikkah-ed to a guy but that nikkah broke after 2 months because of his infidelity and nature . They did not live together . He was a mean , mentally abusive guy .. he had all the bad habits and what not under the sun which we found out only after the nikkah. Alhamdulliah it broke before they lived together. Since then for several years we were finding a good match for her but nothing worked out. Just last year through a family friend we found her now husband. They got married within 6 months of time last year alhamdulliah. My sisters husband is an absolute sweetheart mashaAllah. He is a kind , responsible loving man. She is very happy with him. But I have noticed since she got married , she doesnt take salah or any other important deeds seriously.. when she was going through her previous divorce and then during the years we were finding a guy for her , she prayed thahajjad , prayed on time, and did many other deeds. But now that she is married and what not , she does not even bother to take ghusl for days. I knew they have been intimate 2 days ago, this is coz she asked me a pregnancy related question . And till today she hasnt taken ghusl or taken a bath. This year ramadhan ( she was already married ).. she did not pray all prayer either.. she fasted but she did not touch the quran or recite anything even once. She was watching movies as usual and having fun. Her husband is also not very high on deen , and I always tell her to push him for other deeds etc. He prays all 5 times but now Im more worried about my sister.

I told her a while ago she has to bathe and pray , but she casually said she will mask her hair tmrw and bathe. Shes right now chilling and watching a movie. Im really worried for Allahs anger on her or something like that because she doesnt even feel guilty. May I point out she is not depressed or anything. She is upto date with taking care of herself and her needs and everyday activities like going out for fun , cooking etc.

How much can I interfere in this ? I always advice her and shout at her regarding this but Im fedup of advising. Ive told my mom but she doesnt care about what my mom say either.

Should I let her figure it out itself and not bother about it anymore ?

Salams brothers and sisters

My sister is 30 years old. Back when she was in her early 20s, she got nikkah-ed to a guy but that nikkah broke after 2 months because of his infidelity and nature . They did not live together . He was a mean , mentally abusive guy .. he had all the bad habits and what not under the sun which we found out only after the nikkah. Alhamdulliah it broke before they lived together. Since then for several years we were finding a good match for her but nothing worked out. Just last year through a family friend we found her now husband. They got married within 6 months of time last year alhamdulliah. My sisters husband is an absolute sweetheart mashaAllah. He is a kind , responsible loving man. She is very happy with him. But I have noticed since she got married , she doesnt take salah or any other important deeds seriously.. when she was going through her previous divorce and then during the years we were finding a guy for her , she prayed thahajjad , prayed on time, and did many other deeds. But now that she is married and what not , she does not even bother to take ghusl for days. I knew they have been intimate 2 days ago, this is coz she asked me a pregnancy related question . And till today she hasnt taken ghusl or taken a bath. This year ramadhan ( she was already married ).. she did not pray all prayer either.. she fasted but she did not touch the quran or recite anything even once. She was watching movies as usual and having fun. Her husband is also not very high on deen , and I always tell her to push him for other deeds etc. He prays all 5 times but now Im more worried about my sister.

I told her a while ago she has to bathe and pray , but she casually said she will mask her hair tmrw and bathe. Shes right now chilling and watching a movie. Im really worried for Allahs anger on her or something like that because she doesnt even feel guilty. May I point out she is not depressed or anything. She is upto date with taking care of herself and her needs and everyday activities like going out for fun , cooking etc.

How much can I interfere in this ? I always advice her and shout at her regarding this but Im fedup of advising. Ive told my mom but she doesnt care about what my mom say either.

Should I let her figure it out itself and not bother about it anymore ?

Hi

This is going to be a long post. I need your advice or support. Thank you soo much

My father is 65 at the moment. Few years ago before covid , when my husband was in SL for a few years my father encouraged my husband to do a business with a family friend. We didnt want to but my dad pushed my husband , and he agreed. So my dad put some capital money and my husband sold his vehicle and also put money into it, the family friend didnt put any money but he had all the contacts. The agreement between my dad hubby was , they will give a small share to the family friend. And rest of the profit dad and hubby will share 50-50 .

The first year was profitable alhamdulliah and dad and hubby shared 50- 50..

Second year it went on loss and eventually both dad and hubby lost some money and closed it down.

My husband is someone who has strong ethics when it comes to business alhamdulliah. He is very strict about earning halal and also profit sharing was done to the dot so that it wasnt wrong... I myself am a witness and all we had was good intentions to my father to have another source of income.

My father didnt lift a finger when hubby was dng the business. He was a silent partner. Hubby did everything including account which was all transparent.

Eventhough my father wanted to do this business with hubby , his intention was to actually have another income and get all work done by my hubby. My marriage was an arranged marriage but from the beginning of my marriage onwards my father has disliked my husband for god knows what reason. My hubby is very sweet and caring towards him but my father is quite cold towards him . I have tried to patch things up several times but my father doesnt bother nor wants to listen to me. I have cried over it many times but eventually over the years grew out of it coz hubby did his own thing and we also moved out.

Today evening , a random conversation ( face to face ) turned into my father saying my husband never gave him any profit from the business my father setup.. I was shocked coz I myself was present when my hubby was talking numbers with dad and did the transfer.. I remember dad feeling very happy about his profit share. I was like he gave this much out of this total as profit for you.. and dad kept denying saying he didnt give any profit. And he was like leave it. I said no , what do u mean leave it.. he did give. And then dad kept denying.. and then he accused my husband of taking some of his capital from the company when the company was closing.. I said no.. u both lost this much of money, and then whatever money was remaining from what u put ( according to precentage ) was given. I said even my husband lost money in that. My dad kept denying and denying and he has 0 memory of getting any profit. He told me for the sake of my daughter I never asked him. I was like thats not true. I also do the accounts and help him with account and for his ethics he will never even touch your money. But my father doesnt believe .. my mother doesnt know any of this ( she doesnt get involved in business stuff ) so this is between only dad and me.

I know and I can guarantee 100% my husband would have never touched even 100 rps from my dads capital. I know what he belives in. And I saw with my own eyes all the accounts coz I uses to help and also the profit sharing done to the dot and everything was transparent back then.

I dont know how to feel right now. Im in shock. I cried when he accused. Hubby isnt home so idk if I should tell him once he is back .. Im so tired sisters, Im just laying in bed in utter shock and I feel like my throat is closing up. Im tired of trying to create a good relationship btween my dad and husband. I feel heartbroken when I see the relationship my dad has with my sisters husband ( they r newly married ). Im more shocked that my dad thinks my husband , who always cares and looks after my father well, helps him in everything , takes him for checkups etc thinks my husband is a fraud like that. Im so tired of trying to repair this relationship. Eventhough my husband still cares and looks after my father after many issues my father created , he has distanced himself alot from my dad now. But I get sooo upset when my dad brings up or makes so many issues like this.. sometimes also mocking my husband.

What should I do ? My heart is broken into pieces and Im mentally exhaused. Please advice.. thank you so much