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A US national alleged she was raped at a homestay in Kodagu district's Kutta last week, in an incident that has cast a shadow over the popular hill station.

The survivor said she was served a drink spiked with intoxicants and then assaulted, adding that she could not seek help immediately as the property's Wi-Fi remained disconnected for three days.

A cook, identified as Brijeshkumar from Jharkhand, working at the homestay was arrested over rape charges, while his employer and homestay owner Vishal Ponnana was held for allegedly trying to suppress the crime. Both were remanded in judicial custody till May 3.

A top police officer in Bengaluru said medical examination has confirmed rape.

In her complaint, the survivor, a Washington-based solo traveller, alleged she was raped after she slipped into a semi-conscious state upon consuming the spiked drink.

She had checked into the homestay on April 12 for her second visit, having stayed there the previous month as well.

The incident surfaced after she contacted the US Embassy in New Delhi on April 17. The information was passed on to the Indian govt, which alerted the Karnataka home department, leading to a case being registered on April 19.

The survivor alleged the homestay's Wi-Fi remained disconnected for three days after the incident, preventing her from reaching out for help. She stayed at the property until April 17 before travelling to Mysuru, where she was admitted to a private hospital.

"She was not comfortable reporting the incident immediately and approached the police only after leaving Kodagu," a police officer said.

Karnataka home minister G Parameshwara said police acted on communication from the Union home ministry and arrested the accused. "We will check whether the homestay has a licence and follows SOPs. If violations are found, legal action will be taken," he added.

Virajpet MLA and chief minister Siddaramaiah's legal adviser A S Ponnanna said details were being withheld to protect the survivor's identity and confirmed she had sought privacy until her return to the US.

Kodagu district in-charge minister N S Boseraju said he had directed police to conduct a thorough probe.

Police said forensic analysis and collection of digital evidence were under way. "We are ensuring a thorough and impartial probe. All angles, including possible complicity, are being examined," a police officer said.

The homestay management said CCTV footage had been shared with the investigators and that bookings had been temporarily put on hold.

"The victim alleged she was administered a drink laced with intoxicants, following which, she was assaulted. Based on her complaint and supporting evidence, we have registered a case and taken the accused into custody," a police officer added.

Reacting to the incident, BJP MLC C T Ravi posted on X: "The assault on a foreign woman is deeply shameful and unacceptable. Such incidents strike at the very soul of India's ethos of ‘Atithi Devo Bhava'. This is not just a crime against an individual, but a blot on our nation's image and values."

He urged the state govt to ensure justice without any delay.

Source:

The Times of India news article

I’m a 24 year old man living in India, and I would choose death over an arranged marriage! To most Indians reading this post, it will definitely be an extreme opinion. I was born Catholic, but I lean more toward being agnostic/atheist. Even if God appeared before me and said, "I created this universe and can destroy it. Accept an arranged marriage or face an excruciatingly painful, slow death," I would still choose death!

In India, there's a ceremony called "cow marriage," where a cow and a bull are dragged and "wed" to bring good luck, ensure agricultural prosperity, or foster good rain. I view arranged human marriages exactly the same way, two unconsenting beings dragged and forced into a union. If cows and bulls had free will, they surely wouldn't consent to it. Yet, in arranged marriages, two humans with the ability to think are basically forced to marry each other due to pressure from parents, extended family, religious and caste based outfits, and ultimately, the fear of being rejected by society.

In a society that preaches contact with the opposite gender should be discouraged, gender based segregation in educational institutions is the norm. Love is treated as a taboo and a "sin," casual relationships and sex are shamed, and "purity" is valued above all else. Here, a love marriage is considered the ultimate taboo and I am going to commit it!

Arranged marriage is an endless cycle of regression, and I'm going to break that cycle. Most Indians grow up oppressed and repressed in terms of personal and sexual freedoms. Some "lucky" ones find love in college, but most of those relationships never see the light of day. People are forced into arranged marriages and ultimately give in due to the aforementioned reasons. But the common thread among them all is a lack of spine, not having the guts to choose the life they want!

If you search for "people who had to give up their love due to arranged marriages" or "I'm being forced into an arranged marriage," you'll find countless posts. The previous generation (millennials) seems too complacent, often supporting arranged marriages and opposing love marriages. The generation gap between Gen Z and millennials in India feels more like 60 years than a single generation, you can even find millennials online claiming "love marriage is not compatible with India."

I've come across heartbreaking stories of people separated from the ones they loved because of this regressive practice. Once, a misdelivered final love letter arrived at my house due to a dispatch error by India Post. The final lines were devastating: "All the best for your arranged marriage. Good luck to your future." Imagine the sheer pain of writing those words, knowing you can never be with the person you love and to make it worse, the letter never even reached them.

The saddest story I’ve heard in real life was from a 40 year old man. Twenty years ago, he was beaten up at a railway station by his college girlfriend's parents. He watched the love of his life get dragged away right in front of his eyes, and he never saw her again. He was on the verge of tears sharing this with me. There are millions of people in India who would be happily living with the love of their life if it weren't for arranged marriages. Millions separated from their dreams of their love succeeding. Nothing is more depressing than this.

I mapped out two generations of my ancestors, and none of them had love marriages. I'm going to change that! My own father once told me, "I never believed I would be able to get married. I only got married at the age of 35." He had an arranged marriage. I am not going to say the same thing to my children. I'm going to recite my own "How I Met Your Mother" story! I refuse to sit idly by and wait for my parents to find me "my wife." Love is a normal human emotion, but in countries like India, it's treated as a sin. This regressive cycle ends here, and it ends with me!

I'm probably going to get a lot of hate for this post from people in my country, but I don't care. This sub is for anonymously confessing our feelings. The last time I posted about a horrific rape involving a 3 year old in New Delhi, India I received a lot of death threats. I'll probably get even more for this post, since people here seem to believe that interfering in two consenting adults' love lives is more important than preventing actual atrocities.

Thank you so much for reading until the end!

I’m a 24 year old man living in India, and I would choose death over an arranged marriage! To most Indians reading this post, it will definitely be an extreme opinion. I was born Catholic, but I lean more toward being agnostic/atheist. Even if God appeared before me and said, "I created this universe and can destroy it. Accept an arranged marriage or face an excruciatingly painful, slow death," I would still choose death!

In India, there's a ceremony called "cow marriage," where a cow and a bull are dragged and "wed" to bring good luck, ensure agricultural prosperity, or foster good rain. I view arranged human marriages exactly the same way, two unconsenting beings dragged and forced into a union. If cows and bulls had free will, they surely wouldn't consent to it. Yet, in arranged marriages, two humans with the ability to think are basically forced to marry each other due to pressure from parents, extended family, religious and caste based outfits, and ultimately, the fear of being rejected by society.

In a society that preaches contact with the opposite gender should be discouraged, gender based segregation in educational institutions is the norm. Love is treated as a taboo and a "sin," casual relationships and sex are shamed, and "purity" is valued above all else. Here, a love marriage is considered the ultimate taboo and I am going to commit it!

Arranged marriage is an endless cycle of regression, and I'm going to break that cycle. Most Indians grow up oppressed and repressed in terms of personal and sexual freedoms. Some "lucky" ones find love in college, but most of those relationships never see the light of day. People are forced into arranged marriages and ultimately give in due to the aforementioned reasons. But the common thread among them all is a lack of spine, not having the guts to choose the life they want!

If you search for "people who had to give up their love due to arranged marriages" or "I'm being forced into an arranged marriage," you'll find countless posts. The previous generation (millennials) seems too complacent, often supporting arranged marriages and opposing love marriages. The generation gap between Gen Z and millennials in India feels more like 60 years than a single generation, you can even find millennials online claiming "love marriage is not compatible with India."

I've come across heartbreaking stories of people separated from the ones they loved because of this regressive practice. Once, a misdelivered final love letter arrived at my house due to a dispatch error by India Post. The final lines were devastating: "All the best for your arranged marriage. Good luck to your future." Imagine the sheer pain of writing those words, knowing you can never be with the person you love and to make it worse, the letter never even reached them.

The saddest story I’ve heard in real life was from a 40 year old man. Twenty years ago, he was beaten up at a railway station by his college girlfriend's parents. He watched the love of his life get dragged away right in front of his eyes, and he never saw her again. He was on the verge of tears sharing this with me. There are millions of people in India who would be happily living with the love of their life if it weren't for arranged marriages. Millions separated from their dreams of their love succeeding. Nothing is more depressing than this.

I mapped out two generations of my ancestors, and none of them had love marriages. I'm going to change that! My own father once told me, "I never believed I would be able to get married. I only got married at the age of 35." He had an arranged marriage. I am not going to say the same thing to my children. I'm going to recite my own "How I Met Your Mother" story! I refuse to sit idly by and wait for my parents to find me "my wife." Love is a normal human emotion, but in countries like India, it's treated as a sin. This regressive cycle ends here, and it ends with me!

I'm probably going to get a lot of hate for this post from people in my country, but I don't care. This sub is for anonymously posting about ourself. The last time I posted about a horrific rape involving a 3 year old in New Delhi, India I received death threats. I'll probably get even more for this post, since people here seem to believe that interfering in two consenting adults' love lives is more important than preventing actual atrocities.

Thank you so much for reading until the end!

I’m so sick of this, honestly. instagram is trying so damn hard to rebrand itself as this secure, “private” messenger for Gen Z to date and flirt on, but it's a complete joke.
their new "Instants" feature is the biggest disaster I’ve seen. It was obviously rushed out just to copy Snapchat’s disappearing messages, and the UI is straight up garbage! If you've been on TikTok recently, you would have seen the horror stories. People, mostly women, tried to send intimate pics to their partners and the app ended up blasting the photo to their ENTIRE followers list because of a glitch! It got so bad that there’s a “Lessons in Meme Culture” video on the Instants feature now!This isn't just a funny, embarrassing glitch. For women living in oppressive countries or super strict, conservative households where relationships and sex are deeply taboo and are discouraged and considered a “sin”, a leaked nude from an Instants misclick isn't just "awkward", it can literally ruin and endanger their lives.
And the absolute nerve of Meta to push this "private dating space" vibe when they literally killed off their end-to-end encryption on Instagram just last week. It’s pathetic and laughable. Your DMs are just sitting there unencrypted on their servers. And for anyone in the comments about to say "This is why I use snapchat!”, please do yourself a favor and search "SnapLion" on the privacy subreddit. SnapLion is an internal tool for their staff, and there are multiple documented reports of snapchat employees abusing it to snoop on users' saved nudes and personal data. Your pics aren't disappearing into thin air, they're sitting in a database that corporate creeps have the key to. That disappearing message feature gives you a massive false sense of security! Please stop trusting these massive Ad companies with your intimate shit. If you really want to send nudes, just use Signal.

I’m so sick of this, honestly. instagram is trying so damn hard to rebrand itself as this secure, “private” messenger for Gen Z to date and flirt on, but it's a complete joke.
their new "Instants" feature is the biggest disaster I’ve seen. It was obviously rushed out just to copy Snapchat’s disappearing messages, and the UI is straight up garbage! If you've been on TikTok recently, you would have seen the horror stories. People, mostly women, tried to send intimate pics to their partners and the app ended up blasting the photo to their ENTIRE followers list because of a glitch! It got so bad that there’s a “Lessons in Meme Culture” video on the Instants feature now!This isn't just a funny, embarrassing glitch. For women living in oppressive countries or super strict, conservative households where relationships and sex are deeply taboo and are discouraged and considered a “sin”, a leaked nude from an Instants misclick isn't just "awkward", it can literally ruin and endanger their lives.
And the absolute nerve of Meta to push this "private dating space" vibe when they literally killed off their end-to-end encryption on Instagram just last week. It’s pathetic and laughable. Your DMs are just sitting there unencrypted on their servers. And for anyone in the comments about to say "This is why I use snapchat!”, please do yourself a favor and search "SnapLion" on the privacy subreddit. SnapLion is an internal tool for their staff, and there are multiple documented reports of snapchat employees abusing it to snoop on users' saved nudes and personal data. Your pics aren't disappearing into thin air, they're sitting in a database that corporate creeps have the key to. That disappearing message feature gives you a massive false sense of security! Please stop trusting these massive Ad companies with your intimate shit. If you really want to send nudes, just use Signal.

I’m so sick of this, honestly. instagram is trying so damn hard to rebrand itself as this secure, “private” messenger for Gen Z to date and flirt on, but it's a complete joke.
their new "Instants" feature is the biggest disaster I’ve seen. It was obviously rushed out just to copy Snapchat’s disappearing messages, and the UI is straight up garbage! If you've been on TikTok recently, you would have seen the horror stories. People, mostly women, tried to send intimate pics to their partners and the app ended up blasting the photo to their ENTIRE followers list because of a glitch! It got so bad that there’s a “Lessons in Meme Culture” video on the Instants feature now!This isn't just a funny, embarrassing glitch. For women living in oppressive countries or super strict, conservative households where relationships and sex are deeply taboo and are discouraged and considered a “sin”, a leaked nude from an Instants misclick isn't just "awkward", it can literally ruin and endanger their lives.
And the absolute nerve of Meta to push this "private dating space" vibe when they literally killed off their end-to-end encryption on Instagram just last week. It’s pathetic and laughable. Your DMs are just sitting there unencrypted on their servers. And for anyone in the comments about to say "This is why I use snapchat!”, please do yourself a favor and search "SnapLion" on the privacy subreddit. SnapLion is an internal tool for their staff, and there are multiple documented reports of snapchat employees abusing it to snoop on users' saved nudes and personal data. Your pics aren't disappearing into thin air, they're sitting in a database that corporate creeps have the key to. That disappearing message feature gives you a massive false sense of security! Please stop trusting these massive Ad companies with your intimate shit. If you really want to send nudes, just use Signal.

I’m so sick of this, honestly. instagram is trying so damn hard to rebrand itself as this secure, “private” messenger for Gen Z to date and flirt on, but it's a complete joke.
their new "Instants" feature is the biggest disaster I’ve seen. It was obviously rushed out just to copy Snapchat’s disappearing messages, and the UI is straight up garbage! If you've been on TikTok recently, you would have seen the horror stories. People, mostly women, tried to send intimate pics to their partners and the app ended up blasting the photo to their ENTIRE followers list because of a glitch! It got so bad that there’s a “Lessons in Meme Culture” video on the Instants feature now!This isn't just a funny, embarrassing glitch. For women living in oppressive countries or super strict, conservative households where relationships and sex are deeply taboo and are discouraged and considered a “sin”, a leaked nude from an Instants misclick isn't just "awkward", it can literally ruin and endanger their lives.
And the absolute nerve of Meta to push this "private dating space" vibe when they literally killed off their end-to-end encryption back in May. It’s pathetic and laughable. Your DMs are just sitting there unencrypted on their servers. And for anyone in the comments about to say "This is why I use snapchat!”, please do yourself a favor and search "SnapLion" on the privacy subreddit. SnapLion is an internal tool for their staff, and there are multiple documented reports of snapchat employees abusing it to snoop on users' saved nudes and personal data. Your pics aren't disappearing into thin air, they're sitting in a database that corporate creeps have the key to. That disappearing message feature gives you a massive false sense of security! Please stop trusting these massive Ad companies with your intimate shit. If you really want to send nudes, just use Signal.

I need to search the web for something I am creating, and the process must be completely private. My biggest concern is plagiarism, especially since AI is now built into most search engines. To prevent this, I plan to use https://noai.duckduckgo.com/. My research involves the clear web rather than the dark web, so I will not be using Tor. Do you have any tips on conducting a completely private web search to ensure my ideas are not scraped and plagiarized? Thanks!

I need to search the web for something I am creating, and the process must be completely private. My biggest concern is plagiarism, especially since AI is now built into most search engines. To prevent this, I plan to use https://noai.duckduckgo.com/. My research involves the clear web rather than the dark web, so I will not be using Tor. Do you have any tips on conducting a completely private web search to ensure my ideas are not scraped and plagiarized? Thanks!

I feel physically sick even typing this. I just need to get this out of my system because I feel like I'm losing my goddamn mind living in this society.

On April 30th, a 3 year old girl in New Delhi, India went to her first day of kindergarten. A 57-year-old school caretaker took her to an isolated area on the premises and raped her. When she got home crying in pain, her mother found out and immediately went to the police.

And what did the police do? They made the traumatized family wait for hours at the station. The Deputy Commissioner of Police literally threatened the parents instead of cooperating with them (which, of course, the corrupt police force is now officially denying in their PR statements, because God forbid they admit they protect monsters).

But wait, it gets so much worse. Despite strong opposition from the prosecution, a court GRANTED THE MONSTER BAIL on May 7th.

A 3-year-old. Raped. Bail. Let that sink in. What an absolute joke of a "justice" system.

But honestly, what fully broke me today wasn't just the corrupt system. It’s my own countrymen.

I shared this news on the indialaw subreddit, hoping for some outrage or at least some legal insight into how such a gross miscarriage of justice could even happen. Instead? I got multiple comments actually defending the rapist. From a sub populated by Indian lawyers! If the very people who are supposed to defend rape victims in the future are defending a man who assaulted a toddler, what hope is left?

I’ve been on Reddit for 8 years. I cycle through accounts a lot for privacy (this is literally my 60th account), and I have never, ever seen the Indian side of Reddit this vile. Ever since the platform started becoming mainstream in India around December 2024, the demographics have completely shifted. It is now completely overrun with this pro-rape, misogynistic, chauvinistic, incelcore, toxic patriarchal garbage. It’s a massive echo chamber of toxic masculinity justifying the most horrific crimes against women and literal children.

I can’t do this anymore. I'm seriously leaving Reddit for good because my mental health can't take it. But the terrifying reality is that it's not just the app, it's the people living around me.

I have lost all hope in the Indian police, who are too busy taking bribes and intimidating the relatives of victims. I have lost all hope in a "justice" system that takes the side of rapists and encourages their actions by letting them walk free.

I am making serious plans to leave this country before 2027. If I can't manage to get out, I'm just going to go off the grid and live completely isolated from this sick, rotting society. I just can't breathe here anymore. Thanks for hearing my rant. Goodbye All of Reddit.