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Hei r/oslo,

Hadde en dusjtanke jeg ville dele med mine medborgere og kanskje komme nærmere mulige forklaringer og hypoteser.

Mann, som nylig fylte 31. Har aldri vært typen som rutinemessig møter kvinner på byen og dansegulv, eller har et stort nettverk hvor jeg naturlig møter venner-av-venner og det utvikler seg derfra.

Tinder har alltid vært den arenaen som har fungert best for meg. Både for kortvarige relasjoner, men også to av mine tre lengste og mest seriøse forhold har startet der. Tinder får mye hate, men den har historisk sett gitt meg mange fine opplevelser.

Jeg elsker å reise, og var for en måned siden på tur i Sør-Europa. Det tikket inn likes, matches og meldinger – i den grad at jeg måtte skru av notifications for å faktisk få ferie. Jeg dro på et par gode dates med vakre, hyggelige og intelligente kvinner og reiste hjem med gode minner.

Her i Oslo kan kontrasten knapt være større. Markant færre likes/matches, og ofte av en litt annen kaliber. Mange som bruker Passport mode og er fysisk i helt andre land og kontinenter.

Dette kan jo ha flere ulike forklaringer.

Jeg anser det som temmelig usannsynlig at kvinner i aldersgruppen 25–35 har gått bort fra apper, eller at andre apper (f.eks. Hinge) har tatt fullstendig over.

Kanskje en mer plausibel forklaring kan være at jeg har blondt hår og er litt på den lave ende, og norske kvinner er i snitt høyere enn kvinner i eksempelvis Sør-Europa og Sør-Amerika. Dette er jo en viktig variabel for enkelte.

Eller at vi mennesker er tiltrukket av det eksotiske. En etnisk norsk, blond mann er jo ikke akkurat mangelvare her eller spesielt spennende i seg selv.

Jeg har nok også en litt unorsk personlighetstype generelt, men dette kunne vært en bedere forklaring om det skjærte seg lengre i prosessen (f.eks. på date) – ikke helt i starten.

Dette ble en lang formulering av en shower thought. Er det noen her som har opplevd samme trend, eller har noen teorier på hva som kan forklare en slik tendens? :)

For ordens skyld i tilfellet noe er tvetydig: Dette er definisjonen på et førsteverdensproblem, og er i det store bildet fullstendig uviktig. Jeg er på ingen måte en incel som krever dates eller oppmerksomhet fra kvinner. Kvinner er topp – tenkte bare at dette var en interessant observasjon og ble nysgjerrig.

Good afternoon Cardiff!

I'm heading to Cardiff tomorrow for what will hopefully be a glorious battle for three points at Cardiff City Stadium.

I've already gotten goosebumps watching Dafydd Iwan belting out Yma o Hyd on Youtube.

It got me thinking: I've only ever visited Wales once on a daytrip whilst studying in England - visiting Llandudno and Conwy Castle. Barely met anyone, so I have a few side quests.

1. Tomorrow, I have a mission to grab a drink or three with a beautiful local woman. Must be Welsh, feminine and have a bit of banter in her.

I have a spare match ticket to the away end, if she knows how to row she can even join me!

2. Not planning on spending pre-match with my fellow countrymen. My impression of the Welsh is that you're a great time. Where should I go to soak in the pre-match atmosphere with the locals?

Any tips - or any other recommendations to side quests in Cardiff - are greatly appreciated. Peace out!

God aften r/oslo,

Gjennom en ganske fin jobbforsikring har jeg tilgang til kiropraktor og fysio. Elsker førstnevnte, som både har blitt kvitt sporadiske låsninger og en aggressiv spenningshodepine.

Men den siste måneden har jeg hatt meget spente skuldre, og tenker det hadde vært helt prima med en massasje - som ikke (fair enough) dekkes av Vertikal Helse.

Derfor undersøker jeg alternativene. Jeg har forsåvidt innsett at Oslo-beboere har et masochistisk forhold til prisnivået på alt her i Hovedstaden, men jeg synes eksempelvis at 1.500kr for 60 minutters massasje på Daikai er i det absolutt drøyeste laget - det blir hvertfall fryktelig dyrt i lengden.

Ét annet alternativ er de ulike thai massasje-stedene i byen, men min (dog begrenset) erfaring både i- og utenfor vårt langstrakte land er at dette er glorifiserte ENK-runkebuler hvor fokuset ikke er på massasjen.

Er det noen her som kan anbefale en value-for-money massasjested rundt sentrum?

For min del kan det gjerne være 'sort', med kanskje en massør som tar mot noen kunder hjemme etter arbeidstiden - eksempelvis.

Good morning r/atletico,

Hope you are all well!

I'm somewhat of a groundhopper, and will be in Madrid around 10th-15th of October.

Due to this, I'd love to attend the Atlético Madrid vs. Manchester United match.

I understand your enormous stadium has a 70.000 capacity, and tickets are generally available for the smaller matches - but this is a big one!

Is it likely this match will go on general sale? As a Non-member, what is my best shot?
If a membership is required, anyone here who would be able to buy a ticket for me? :)

Good morning r/couchsurfing,

Going straight into lion's den here!

I have used Couchsurfing on-and-off for many years, mostly as a host.
I met my girlfriend in my uni years through Couchsurfing, and I recently returned a little under a year ago to the platform.

I am a 33-year old male. I have no interest in hosting males or unattractive females - and don't see why I would and what I would get out of it.

I see Couchsurfing as a perfect platform to meet young, beautiful women who are adventurous and fun. I have hosted and hooked up with a Ukranian woman, a Polish woman, a Colombian woman.

The only challenge is Couchsurfing's policy that basically flirting is not allowed. I move the conversation over the Instagram quickly, but have to be careful about flirting or proposing bed-share or something as one single complaint from a naive traveller could get be banned.

Why would I be interested in having some male hippie or a boring chick crashing on my sofa, if I get nothing in return?

I wish it was acceptable and allowed on Couchsurfing to write 'I only host fun female travellers.' without getting into trouble. Or that Couchsurfing had more of a overtly hookup vibe.

Then women who are open for that kinda thing could contact me - and the others could stay way.

Bom dia,

A Norwegian coming in peace here. I am currently planning making the trip to Cardiff and Porto for our away fixtures against Wales and Portugal in October.

As Norway's away ticket allocation is minuscule, I might be looking to buy a ticket from Portugal's federation as a 'neutral'.

Do you know when the tickets will be made available?
Will the tickets be sold very quickly before general sale, or do I have a chance?

In Wales they seem relaxed with opposing teams' fans watching from the main stand. Will I be allowed into the stadium easily, or will they ID check if I am not Portuguese etc.?

And if someone here has early access to tickets, can I buy a ticket from you? :)

Obrigada!

Good evening r/WelshFootball

A Norwegian coming in peace. Our beautiful nations are facing each other in start-October in Nations League, and I'm thinking of revisiting your country for the first time since wandering around Colwyn Bay and Llandudno almost ten years ago.

I expect Norway's away allocation will go quickly, even though I am a 'gold member' of their supporter's club.

So my plan B currently is to get hold of a ticket through Welsh' site and enjoy the match as a pseudo-neutral.

Is this match likely to sell out quickly?
Will my ID be checked at the stadium? I expect my Norwegian passport might be difficult to explain away if checked.

And if anyone here will get early access to tickets but can't go themselves (or want company from a Norwegian), are you able to buy a ticket from me?

Peace out!

Hei r/NorskFotball

Jeg er gullmedlem hos NFF, og har billetter til Danmark og Portugal på Ullevaal.

Men jeg ønsker å få tak i billetter til bortekampene norge skal på i høst og vinter.

Vet vi noe om når billettene blir lagt ut for salg?
Er det generelt rift om bortekamp-billetter?

Bør jeg vurdere å bli medlem i Oljeberget, om dette øker sjansene for å få tak i billetter?

God morgen kjære r/Oslo,

Som innflytter både i Oslo og Norge etter mange år i Danmark, har jeg det siste halve året fokusert på å klimatisere meg til prisnivået på alkohol her i Kristiania.

Samtidig har jeg funnet noen nasjonale stjerner i eksempelvis Los Tacos som selger billig øl frem til et visst tidspunkt. Ære Være Los Tacos.

Men i går fikk jeg enda et sjokk. På en standup event på Dattera til Hagen gikk jeg i baren og bestilte en 0.4l med Frydenlund Juicy Ipa - helt uvitende om at jeg var i ferd med å bli økonomisk forgrepet på.

152kr - etthundre og femti-to kroner! 😱

Jeg stivnet, og i sjokk-tilstand tæppet jeg og gikk tilbake til bordet - og måtte bekrefte med mine sidemenn at dette var null komma fire og ikke en britisk pint.

I dusjen i morges kom jeg så på tanken: Hvor finner man hovedstadens dyreste halvliter? Både blant tradisjonelle barer og de mer fancy takterasser og Tjuvholmen / Bjørvika-adressen.

Er der en bartender i Oslo som helt uten skam sier 'Ja, det blir 259kr' når kunden ber om en halvliter IPA?

En annen lokalkulturell ting som jeg tenker må utryddes hurtigst mulig, er mange utesteders tendens til å selge 0.4 liter by default. Ingen kameratgjeng spør hverandre 'Venner, skal vi ikke gå og ta noen null firere'?

En øl (på fat) skal være en halvliter, ferdig snakket. Om vi én dag blir invadert av England, kan jeg naturligvis akseptere 0,568 liter.

Alkoholisert førsteverdensproblem-rant over. God formiddag videre til folket.

Hei r/norske

Jeg kom først over saken i VG. Først og fremst en fryktelig og unødvendig skjebne.

Jeg ble naturligvis nysgjerrig på hvem det er som kan stå bak noe så grusomt, og ble mistenkelig med en gang mediet nekter å skrive noe om gjerningsmannen.

Det er trist å måtte besøke lugubre nettsider for å finne sannheten, men sånn er det. Document (link: https://www.document.no/2026/07/28/nawid-bayan-utvist-i-2021-na-er-han-drapssiktet-ingen-ble-overrasket/ ) skriver at gjerningsmannen er en 35-år gammel afghaner som ble utvist fra Norge i 2021 etter en voldsdom.

Jeg er omtrent null prosent overrasket. Man hører hele tiden om kvinnelig intuisjon og at kvinner overhodet ikke ønsker slemme gutter, men de blir støtt og stadig offer for elendig partnervalg.

En nydelig, ung kvinne som garantert kunne velge og vrake av suitors - men gikk altså for Nawid - som ikke bare ser ut som han styrer gatekiosken men som altså er en voldelig kriminell, selv før dette drapet.

Jeg har så mange spørsmål. Ikke bare 'hvorfor faller så mange unge kvinner for slike menn igjen og igjen' - men også om vi skal snart innse at det ikke gagner Norge å importere slike ukultiverte menn inn i landet.

Men tilbake til hovedspørsmålet: Er det tiltrekningen av 'det eksotiske'? Er det adrenalinet som strømer når man er sammen med en kriminell? Ønsket om å redde vedkommende?

Hei r/oslo,

Jeg følger perifert med på diverse events for single i Oslo, når de markedsføres / annonseres for på sosiale medier. I helgen var det eksempelvis Pitch-a-Friend, hvor jeg har lagt merke til flere ganger tidligere at billetter for kvinner er utsolgt mange uker før - mens de jobber hardt for å få menn til å komme.

Helt anekdotisk, har jeg hørt fra flere at det kan være opp mot 70-80% kvinner på disse events.
Om dette stemmer, er jeg nysgjerrig på hva det er som gjør at menn ikke kommer?

En god artikkel om kanskje det dårligste arrangementet jeg har vært på i mitt liv....

Hi r/Vilnius,

What are your favourite wine bars in Vilnius?

And more generally, what are your go-to places for a good club or rave? :)

r/SaaS,

I'm reflecting over my turbulent SaaS career as a BDM, and wanted to hear thoughts of other people in the industry.

I have been a Business Development Manager (mostly Ecommerce) for almost a decade. In Europe, not US where I can imagine corporate culture in and out of SaaS is quite different overall.

My previous employers before joining the SaaS world was quite positive:
Sales is meant to be consultative, based on honest communication and long-term thinking both for employer and client.
We are - first and foremost - people, not just numbers or robots.
Monthly chats are as much about 'how are you doing' as a human, not just how the pipeline is lining up. If you have a bad month or quarter, that's just normal.

The sales team was a team - collaborative, social and full of jokes.

My experience is that I'd never been worried about my job security, I could have honest chats with my managers who actually care about the people they were managing.

I then started in this SaaS company. On paper quite successful, on a growth journey with recent funding from private equity firm. In hindsight, I think maybe this is a crucial point.

Already in my first week, my spider senses were tingling and I felt something was off.
The various BDMs barely spoke to each other. No one greeted me in a positive way, or seemed to have any interest in getting to know me or include me in anything. They saw each other not as buddies or team mates, but competitors also trying to outswim the shark.

The company hired foreigners for the more administrative / non-glamorous jobs. They had limited health insurance, paid leave and seriously garbage salaries. The company had no qualms letting them go, leaving them in a foreign country with no safety net or anything.

Generally, the company was a revolving door. Ridiculous churn. Hire-and-fire.

New sales hires were given similar budget as the senior salespeople, but were given few opportunities. All the high-potential leads and opportunities went to the same three people.

Focus was not on creating value, but 'take the money and run'. If it was a bad product-to-client match that was Customer Success' future issue, for us it was all about boosting the monthly newbizz number on the screen.

Of course, client churn was well into the double-digits.

The sales department trash talked the Customer Success department, and vice versa. Most people were on survival mode.

I have never felt so out of place ever in my life - in or outside of an office.

As I was in the middle of this, reaching maybe 30-40% of my unrealistic €50k ARR monthly target with dummy leads, I started losing my appetite. I went to bed anxious about having to the same thing again tomorrow and the day after. I fantasised about not waking up next morning, and when I did I caught myself thinking 'f*ck'.

Long story short: I was let go on the last day of my probation, but was given the chance to work through the notice period (30 days) - if I reached my budget maybe I could stay.

Having no choice, I worked day, evening, night, the weekend in what was the worst month and period of my life. Miraculously I actually pulled it off, and was allowed to stay. But at what cost?

After I pulled off the greatest comeback of my life, I felt like a wreck. The last period had made me lose 15-20 kilos, I couldn't recognise myself physically or emotionally.

When returning to work and trying to re-create the success, my manager never asked my how I was doing. If I was okay after the period I'd been through. Only thing communicated to me, was the expectation that I must hit the same ARR every month.

Two months later, I went on a legitimate sick leave (first and hopefully last time in my life). Two weeks into this sick leave I was finally let go, to my great relief. It was the best feeling ever.

Now I'm back in my old, non-SaaS industry, and I'm healthy again. My managers are empathetic, my colleagues collaborative and warm, and I regained balance in my nervous system.

But the question I can't escape is: Is my previous employer simply the norm within SaaS, or within private equity-backed companies?

Or even worse: Is this just the norm within employers today, and I have just been lucky before and since?

Anyone here with similar experiences, or managers / owners of SaaS companies with similar culture?

Good evening Vilnians,

Next week I am returning to your cute capital for a weekend getaway with an old friend. I have fond memories of Vilnius and Lithuanian people:

Apart from having a conversion rate of 100% with Lithuanian women (5 dates, 5 conversions), I remember vividly your incredible Champagne bar (Champagneria?) and a nearby nightclub designed like an apartment with bed, wardrobe, a bathtub in the basement and one hell of a DJ performance on the second floor 🔉

Shoutout to the amazing E who joined me back to my hotel after that DJ set five years ago. I hope all your career dreams came true 🇱🇹

I suppose my questions are simple: Anything great happening in town these dates, 16th to 21st?
I am considering going to the Zalgiris Conference League qualifying match (European football is fun), but keen to hear any big cultural event or parties going on.

Bonus if said parties or cultural events are popular amongst beautiful, young Lithuanian women! Why not make it 6/6 or 7/7 right? 🙋‍♂️

Lastly, as a foodie: Any local with a quick review of either Dziaugsmas, Augustin, Le Travi or El Gato Negro? 😋