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I became friends with a new girl in my class (not using real names so let's call her Chloe) because I didn’t want her to feel alone. We grew close really fast, and I genuinely thought I could trust her because she had shared so much with me. Though, she started getting angry at me over tiny things, and I was constantly apologizing even when I didn’t fully understand what I’d done wrong because I liked having someone to talk to. I ignored all of the red flags, like how she was always surrounded by drama and conflicts with others, but I ignored them because I cared about her and didn’t want to lose the friendship.

Months later, when I opened up about feeling uncomfortable around another girl, (we are going to call her Olivia), Chloe completely blew up on me. She dismissed my feelings, called me names, and made me feel stupid for even sharing how I felt. Even after everything, I still apologized and tried to fix things, hoping it would go back to how it used to be when we first met.

Almost a year later, drama, and rumors had won. Olivia twisted my words to convince Chloe I had been talking bad about her, turning a normal conversation we had into me “talking bad about Chloe, and made it seem like I was some untrustworthy person who had been given “too many chances,” even though that wasn’t true at all. It broke my heart, and it hurt more because I had tried so hard to be understanding. Eventually, I blocked both of them because they and their friends were quite literally harassing and bullying me.

Now they’re telling people I blocked them for no reason. Because Chloe is popular, she’s being treated like she did nothing wrong, while I’m being pushed aside and losing friends. I feel heartbroken, embarrassed, and angry at myself for ignoring the red flags and apologizing for things that weren’t my fault. I’m left trying to pick up the pieces and figure out how to move on from friendships that completely broke my trust. 

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This all happened around late September and October last year. I have absolutely reached my breaking point because it seems everyone I approach knows about the situation. I was on my way to class a few weeks ago they were pushing me around and pulling my hair. I continued walking like I didn't care but it's hard to ignore people who are literally pushing you around. I think it's time that I confront or text Chloe because this can't continue to happen. Let me know what the right choice is. I could use some advice; please point out anything I can work on/ do better in a respectful way!

I became friends with a new girl in my class (not using real names so let's call her Chloe) because I didn’t want her to feel alone. We grew close really fast, and I genuinely thought I could trust her because she had shared so much with me. Though, she started getting angry at me over tiny things, and I was constantly apologizing even when I didn’t fully understand what I’d done wrong because I liked having someone to talk to. I ignored all of the red flags, like how she was always surrounded by drama and conflicts with others, but I ignored them because I cared about her and didn’t want to lose the friendship.

Months later, when I opened up about feeling uncomfortable around another girl, (we are going to call her Olivia), Chloe completely blew up on me. She dismissed my feelings, called me names, and made me feel stupid for even sharing how I felt. Even after everything, I still apologized and tried to fix things, hoping it would go back to how it used to be when we first met.

Almost a year later, drama, and rumors had won. Olivia twisted my words to convince Chloe I had been talking bad about her, turning a normal conversation we had into me “talking bad about Chloe, and made it seem like I was some untrustworthy person who had been given “too many chances,” even though that wasn’t true at all. It broke my heart, and it hurt more because I had tried so hard to be understanding. Eventually, I blocked both of them because they and their friends were quite literally harassing and bullying me.

Now they’re telling people I blocked them for no reason. Because Chloe is popular, she’s being treated like she did nothing wrong, while I’m being pushed aside and losing friends. I feel heartbroken, embarrassed, and angry at myself for ignoring the red flags and apologizing for things that weren’t my fault. I’m left trying to pick up the pieces and figure out how to move on from friendships that completely broke my trust. 

Edit:

This all happened around late September and October last year. I have absolutely reached my breaking point because it seems everyone I approach knows about the situation. I was on my way to class a few weeks ago they were pushing me around and pulling my hair. I continued walking like I didn't care but it's hard to ignore people who are literally pushing you around. I think it's time that I confront or text Chloe because this can't continue to happen. Let me know what the right choice is. I could use some advice; please point out anything I can work on/ do better in a respectful way!

I've had this built up anger about my older brother for way to long to count. I feel almost a bit guilty for hating my own brother but I'm not sure how I couldn't. Why? He's self centered, doesn't care about others feelings, outright rude and narcissistic. He can be somewhat nice from time to time, although it feels like its just to show other people he can be nice if he wants to be. For some context he's 10 years older so it never felt like we were close, he was more of an only child and I was the older one (I also have a younger sibling). He's always not home, out with friends, at work, or in his room. I feel like I never see him but when I do he's trying to prove everyone that he's the smartest person in the room.

Earlier today, I wanted to play a board game with him and I knew how the rules worked so I explained them to him, he insisted that he needed to read the rules because he was sure I was wrong and just brushed me off by saying I didn't explain it well when I was right. When it comes down to personality we are completely different. I'm pretty quite and shy while he's always the loudest one in the room. He doesn't understand how to read the room at all. He always has to be a part of the conversation by saying random facts to prove his smartness.

The reason I've been thinking about this lately is because I've realized that since he spends all his money on collectables and other material things that he has no plans to find himself a apartment. He seems to want to live with our parents till the end of time. I want to move out as soon as I possibly can but that seems pretty far away since he has finished collage not too long ago and I'm 10 years longer as I've mentioned before. Ill be stuck in this house with him for another decade at least so anyone have any suggestions? Am I the a-hole?

I've had this built up anger about my older brother for way to long to count. I feel almost a bit guilty for hating my own brother but I'm not sure how I couldn't. Why? He's self centered, doesn't care about others feelings, outright rude and narcissistic. He can be somewhat nice from time to time, although it feels like its just to show other people he can be nice if he wants to be. For some context he's 10 years older so it never felt like we were close, he was more of an only child and I was the older one (I also have a younger sibling). He's always not home, out with friends, at work, or in his room. I feel like I never see him but when I do he's trying to prove everyone that he's the smartest person in the room.

Earlier today, I wanted to play a board game with him and I knew how the rules worked so I explained them to him, he insisted that he needed to read the rules because he was sure I was wrong and just brushed me off by saying I didn't explain it well when I was right. When it comes down to personality we are completely different. I'm pretty quite and shy while he's always the loudest one in the room. He doesn't understand how to read the room at all. He always has to be a part of the conversation by saying random facts to prove his smartness.

The reason I've been thinking about this lately is because I've realized that since he spends all his money on collectables and other material things that he has no plans to find himself a apartment. He seems to want to live with our parents till the end of time. I want to move out as soon as I possibly can but that seems pretty far away since he has finished collage not too long ago and I'm 10 years longer as I've mentioned before. Ill be stuck in this house with him for another decade at least so anyone have any suggestions? Am I the a-hole?

I became friends with a new girl in my class (not using real names so let's call her Chloe) because I didn’t want her to feel alone. We grew close really fast, and I genuinely thought I could trust her because she had shared so much with me. Though, she started getting angry at me over tiny things, and I was constantly apologizing even when I didn’t fully understand what I’d done wrong because I liked having someone to talk to. I ignored all of the red flags, like how she was always surrounded by drama and conflicts with others, but I ignored them because I cared about her and didn’t want to lose the friendship.

Months later, when I opened up about feeling uncomfortable around another girl, (we are going to call her Olivia), Chloe completely blew up on me. She dismissed my feelings, called me names, and made me feel stupid for even sharing how I felt. Even after everything, I still apologized and tried to fix things, hoping it would go back to how it used to be when we first met.

Almost a year later, drama, and rumors had won. Chloe twisted my words to convince Chloe I had been talking bad about her, turning a normal conversation we had into me “talking bad about Chloe, and made it seem like I was some untrustworthy person who had been given “too many chances,” even though that wasn’t true at all. It broke my heart, and it hurt more because I had tried so hard to be understanding. Eventually, I blocked both of them because they and their friends were quite literally harassing and bullying me.

Now they’re telling people I blocked them for no reason. Because Chloe is popular, she’s being treated like she did nothing wrong, while I’m being pushed aside and losing friends. I feel heartbroken, embarrassed, and angry at myself for ignoring the red flags and apologizing for things that weren’t my fault. I’m left trying to pick up the pieces and figure out how to move on from friendships that completely broke my trust. 

Edit:

This all happened around late September and October last year. I have absolutely reached my breaking point because it seems everyone I approach knows about the situation. I was on my way to class a few weeks ago they were pushing me around and pulling my hair. I continued walking like I didn't care but it's hard to ignore people who are literally pushing you around. I think it's time that I confront or text Chloe because this can't continue to happen. Let me know what the right choice is. I could use some advice; please point out anything I can work on/ do better in a respectful way!