Just woke up and started crying. No not crying, full on wailing. I can’t get back to sleep.
I’m a mess. I pushed genuine people away who wanted to be my friend. I’ve kept friends who don’t put any effort into our friendship. I’m alone.
I’m putting myself out there, but what if it doesn’t work? What if I can’t make friends? What if I can’t find someone.
I’m distraught.
what happened to texting back when you are invited to a party? Im so sick of “friends” taking days, weeks, to reply to invites. It’s ridiculous.
I have a friend I consider my best friend, but she is horrible for texting me back. She says I’m one of her best friend, but it doesn’t feel like it when she takes weeks to respond. (I think I know this deep down).
Right now she’s going through a tough time (her grandfather recently passed) and she’s said she’s not in the most socializing mood, which I can completely understand. However, she’s known about this party I’m having for months (it’s a Eurovision watch party I’ve been doing the last few years). I sent the formal invite out 2 weeks. I had lots of people I consider acquaintance reply back that they couldn’t make it because they are working, traveling etc. all good. It’s now just a few people coming, which I’m fine with. It’s going to be a nice chill watch party. Nothing crazy.
I’ve sent her check in texts to see how she’s doing? Ive texted her that if she wants to go for a nice walk, a movie, if she needs anything from the grocery store, etc. during this time. No reply
She finally replied to me at 11:45pm that she’s having a rough time lately and she wants to have a quieter weekend. I’m just….
Am I overreacting? I’m just hurt with the late response. I know she’s grieving. But just an update text like a week ago saying you can’t come would have helped. I don’t know how to communicate this though.
I feel like I’m going above and beyond for this friendship and it’s not being reciprocated. I don’t think I’m asking much. Am I?
I want to make new friends, but I’m worried I won’t be able to. I’m in my late 20s and I feel like that ship of close friendships has sailed away. Idk.
Any advice here would be greatly appreciated.
I’ve been in a couple wedding parties, but they have been for family. For each of them the groom had a couple of their best friends as groomsmen.
The reason I’m bringing it up, is because if I ever get married, besides my brother/cousin. I don’t have any close male friends. 😔
Like I did during high-school, but after graduating, life happened and we lost contact. I went to Uni and just struggled.
Wtf happened to me? I have some online friends, a close friend, but she’s going through a lot so she’s been distance. I have some other people I consider friends, but I can’t really reach out to them. But even then, I don’t have a group of close friends.
Going out tonight with some of my cousins guy friends was so fun. I just feel that ship to make close guy friends has sailed. I’m in my late 20s. God I’m a failure. Did I miss this class? Was a sick the day they taught us how to make close friends.
I’m not even in a relationship or engaged. This thought just came into my head. I just want physical friends that I can go and do things with. If I had 2-3 close friends I’d be set I feel. Idk. 😔
They even wanted me to stay out longer, but I declined because I had plans tomorrow morning. God I think I made a mistake. I hope they don’t think I didn’t want to spend time with them, cause I do, I was just stupid for choosing to drive. Damn it.
I haven’t gone out for drinks in ages, especially with other guys. Why do I always do this! 😣😔
How did I end up like this. I’m always ruining friendships.
The loneliness hits when you have no one to say good morning to. When there’s no noise besides you getting ready. Homes when you are by yourself are like tombs to loneliness.
I miss the chaos and noise growing up. Everyone getting ready, fighting for the bathroom mirror, morning television on in the background. Dashing around the kitchen making something quick before flying out the door.
Now it’s just silence and my only companion is this loneliness. 😔
Like what’s the point? I had all these dreams and expectations of what I want my life to be. But here I am alone.
I’m trying to do the work, I’m trying to put myself out there. But at the end of the day. I’m still going to sleep alone.
I’m still not someone’s number one. Everyone around me has someone. All my coworkers, family, etc.
I’m just here. Alone.
I wish I had a best friend. That’s really all I want at this point.
I’m just rambling now. 😔
Does anyone know any good weekend adult clubs, leagues, classes, etc. for adults in their late 20s/early 30s?
Trying to look for something fun and make some friends my age. ☺️
Thanks in advance.
28m. I’m putting myself out there. Joining clubs, going to work events, asking people to hangout, etc.
But god…the thought that’s always in the back of my brain is “you’ve already failed, you are behind, you won’t find anyone to love you.” Etc.
I’m trying to stay positive. Not to listen to that voice.
But right now this morning….I’m struggling. 😔
Is that voice right?
That is all.
Hope you had a restful sleep. Today is a new day. You got this! ☺️
Looking for a summer choir to join? Any recommendations?
I really want to believe that I won’t be alone forever. I just feel so far behind in my late 20s.
Does anyone have any success stories? I need to know it’s possible. 😔
I’ve started going to clubs and classes. It’s been great, I’m meeting people, trying new things I have a blast when I’m there. But….
I get this extreme sadness when I think about how much time I’ve wasted being alone and depressed. 😔 I feel like I’ve missed out on so much, because I was too afraid to do it.
I’m gonna keep going to things. I just have this sadness of what could have been.
Does anyone feel like this? Or have any advice for dealing with this feeling. I would really appreciate it.
One of my favourite moments in the series is when Shirley is staying with Abe and Rose during Moishe’s health scare. they talk about if Rose goes before Abe and they go back and forth about all these things, but it ends with the poignant moment where Shirley says to Abe: “If Rose goes before you, I’ll be there for you.” And Abe looks at her and says “thank you”.
Usually these couples are at each other’s throats. But when it really comes down to it. They are always in each other’s corner. 🥹
Considering money is tight for a lot of people. I was wondering if anyone knew any affordable or free fun things to do in Victoria that y’all would recommend. ☺️
Something my therapist and I have been doing in sessions is getting me to focus on good things I’ve been doing to help take care of myself or improve my life. It doesn’t have to be big, can be something super small.
So like today, yes I’m sad and lonely, but I was able to make myself a really good lunch and had a good career growth meeting with my manager. ☺️ I’m happy I did it, so good for me.
I think it’s a good practice to do to help change one’s perspective and fight back against the loneliness/negative talk.
Thought I’d share with the subreddit. 🙂
I’d also love to hear anyone’s “Good for me” as well. ☺️
I keep the TV on while I work from home. Helps to hear other people in the background. I mostly have on Downton abbey, gilded age, and I just finished the righteous Gemstones.
Anyone else have any good recommendations? ☺️
Sleeping alone in a place at night just makes the loneliness worse.
Families going to be away for a few days and I’m dreading it.
When I was younger, I didn’t care because I had my pet dogs around so I wasn’t technically alone. But now….
The place is so quiet. It just makes the loneliness worse.
I’m also not looking for a partner or anything.
It’s just an observation I’m noticing. The silence at night makes it worse.
Does anyone have any advice on how to not feel so lonely when going to sleep at night.
I hate WFH by myself. I live in a basement suite below my parents, but they are out and about during the day. Should I get a pet (cat or dog) for my loneliness? I’d just like to have the companion so I don’t feel so lonely. I had dogs growing up and loved it, so I know how to take care of them. I’m just wondering if I’m being selfish wanting a pet to help with my loneliness.
Trying to make a list of good healthy, easy, snacks/meals I can buy at the grocery store, so that I’m not just eating junk food. Anything will help.
I have a few things already, but I find I need to switch things up ever so often so I can remember to eat something. I’m trying to also get into shape, so healthy easy meals I can meal prep would also be great.