u/Intrepid_Owl7991

Im 25F and he's 30. He was Palestinian. We hit it off and we were both seemingly serious about marriage. Talked for a month and he promised right when my dad got out of the hospital he would ask for my hand without even seeing me in person since I told him I don't do that or date.

I told him we can as adults talk respectfully and if we align we can do things the halal way and my dad will allow you to meet me with his knowledge and a mahram.

I believed him....of course he couldn't stand it. He started becoming annoyed I don't facetime him...I told him I wanted to sstay away from fitnah and it's not osmehting I can do without there being something more offical.

He started pulling away...then there it was. I was blocked. When I asked him why he blocked me and played me like that, he said he never wanted to see or hear my voice again and that I disgust him...I was hurt and cried a lot. My friend knew. She's nonmuslim. She added him on snapchat and wanted to see how his character is to give me the closure I needed (I didn't ask her to).

I sat next to her ballling and she showed me. He right away flirted with her like crazy. He then told her "he is down for whatever with her" "are you looking for something real or just a hookup"....this man was out here commiting zina openly and freely.

I dodged a bullet. But it hurt.

We planned a life together now I am blocked

I was speaking to a potentially with intention of marriage for about a month. He planned to talk to my family before the summer and ask for my. hand once my dad is out of the hospital.

Things went south. I honestly had a major crashout. We had a small argument and he shut down and ignored me for 30 hours. I confonted him about his change and ignoring me all day and said there's something wrong and i made dua if hes speaking with anyone else may allah deal with him. He ignored. I sent to him saying he's still hung up on his ex who he dated for 6 years and then her family rejected him. I told him his attachment style and shutting down and being fine with losing me and ignoring me in arguments for days isn't normal and then he blocked me on every single thing. He couldn't stand that I spoke about her.

I then reached out to him saying im shocked and why were u playing me and saying I love you and planning a life and planning to speak with my dad in two days once he leaves the hospital and u won't even talk and u block me???? He blocked me again. I called him. He said he never wants to see or hear from me again and blocked me.

I am coping with his loss. I wish I could go back in time and control myself from talking. I wish I didn't feel so deeply. I know he was my person. I blew it.

We planned a life together now I am blocked

I was speaking to a potentially with intention of marriage for about a month. He planned to talk to my family before the summer and ask for my. hand once my dad is out of the hospital.

Things went south. I honestly had a major crashout. We had a small argument and he shut down and ignored me for 30 hours. I confonted him about his change and ignoring me all day and said there's something wrong and i made dua if hes speaking with anyone else may allah deal with him. He ignored. I sent to him saying he's still hung up on his ex who he dated for 6 years and then her family rejected him. I told him his attachment style and shutting down and being fine with losing me and ignoring me in arguments for days isn't normal and then he blocked me on every single thing. He couldn't stand that I spoke about her.

I then reached out to him saying im shocked and why were u playing me and saying I love you and planning a life and planning to speak with my dad in two days once he leaves the hospital and u won't even talk and u block me???? He blocked me again. I called him. He said he never wants to see or hear from me again and blocked me.

I am coping with his loss. I wish I could go back in time and control myself from talking. I wish I didn't feel so deeply. I know he was my person. I blew it.

We planned a life together now I am blocked

I beat myself up about it. We have been dating for a month seriously and we are both muslim so we wanted to get enagged and do things the right way in our culture. He planned to talk to my family before the summer and ask for my. hand.

Things went south. I honestly had a major crashout. We had a small argument and he shut down and ignored me for 30 hours. I saw his snapscore continue to increase. I crashed out. He blocked me. I reached out to his bro and roommate. He said he never wants to see or hear from me again and blocked me.

I am coping with his loss. I wish I could go back in time and control myself from talking. I wish I didn't feel so deeply. I know he was my person. I blew it.

We planned a life together now I am blocked

I beat myself up about it. We have been dating for a month seriously and we are both muslim so we wanted to get enagged and do things the right way in our culture. He planned to talk to my family before the summer and ask for my. hand.

Things went south. I honestly had a major crashout. We had a small argument and he shut down and ignored me for 30 hours. I saw his snapscore continue to increase. I crashed out. He blocked me. I reached out to his bro and roommate. He said he never wants to see or hear from me again and blocked me.

I am coping with his loss. I wish I could go back in time and control myself from talking. I wish I didn't feel so deeply. I know he was my person. I blew it.

We planned a life together now I am blocked

I beat myself up about it. We have been dating for a month seriously and we are both muslim so we wanted to get enagged and do things the right way in our culture. He planned to talk to my family before the summer and ask for my. hand.

Things went south. I honestly had a major crashout. We had a small argument and he shut down and ignored me for 30 hours. I saw his snapscore continue to increase. I crashed out. He blocked me. I reached out to his bro and roommate. He said he never wants to see or hear from me again and blocked me.

I am coping with his loss. I wish I could go back in time and control myself from talking. I wish I didn't feel so deeply. I know he was my person. I blew it.

I beat myself up about it. We have been dating for a month seriously and we are both muslim so we wanted to get enagged and do things the right way in our culture. He planned to talk to my family before the summer and ask for my. hand.

Things went south. I honestly had a major crashout. We had a small argument and he shut down and ignored me for 30 hours. I saw his snapscore continue to increase. I crashed out. He blocked me. I reached out to his bro and roommate. He said he never wants to see or hear from me again and blocked me.

I am coping with his loss. I wish I could go back in time and control myself from talking. I wish I didn't feel so deeply. I know he was my person. I blew it.

My ex who I have been with for a month blocked me on everything. I called his work and he told me this is insane give me a second and I will call you on my number. He unblocked me and callled.

When I tell you I crashed out and balled my eyes out. This man cost me a year of my life I have to redo in my Phd program because I stayed up all night listening to his sob story regaridng his mom instead of sleeping ad I flunked an important test and was placed on a leave. He told me the day befoe he blocked me he loves me and painted a life together. He said hed come ask for my hand. We are both muslim. Long story short- next day I was blocked on everything after a small argument.

I sent to his brother and roomate on instagram. They both blocked me too. I called his job- I wanted closure and to understand why why why why lie why blcok me why use me like that and be the reason I repeat a year too.

He said he never wanted to hear my voice again after I balled my eyes out and was crying just asking for whyyyy he did that and why lie why even play me out of all people like that. How can one say u love me the night before then block me over something so msalll. I didnt matter u didnt love me whyyyyy lie.

I didnt get closure. He toldme to calm down, drive my two hour drive home then text him. I made it home and I was blocked.

I am so beyond hurt. I cannt believe him.I havee so many unanswered questions and I beat myself up for trusting or beliving him...I cannot believe he did that to me we were so close and he felt like home. I loved himm he put me over the moon....he doesn't fear god clearly.

I was speaking to a potential. After 2 weeks of talking, I told him the hard truth. He said he loved and talked to a girl since he was 15-21. He felt like he oculdnt get over her for a while- she married someone else when her family rejected him within months.

So I told him the truth. No one is forced into a marriage. She could have said no to the guy, said she dind;t like him, etc. He was a family friend the guy she got married to. So I told this potential you need to move on because the truth is she didn't want you enough and no one is married by force. She isnt forced into that marriage. She could have said no to her family or even acted bad with the guy and made him say no. You can't convince me.

He blocked me. Mind u he is 30 years old. This is years ago. I am so confused and hurt. mind u this man said he loved me and had plans already for marriage this summer.

Salam alaykum,

What made you regret losing that girl later? What type of revenge did she get for it? It can be she moved on and became successful. It can be she got married to someone you know and theyre happy. Tell me a bit about what hurt you and made you regret it after you were the one who hurt and rejected her initially after a talking phase.

I am in my late 20s. I have no confidence. I don't think I am pretty. I get why I am not married until now. I went to therapy due to my dad abuse that continues until today. I have a lot of self hate. I used to be very confident, until people broke me down with stuff theyd say.

I don't know how to love myself. I wish I would die everyday. I can't stand even looking at myself. It's really bad guys. I am suffocating. Every rejeciton in everythijng in life reminds me of how much I hate myself.

Salam everyone

I was talking to a potential for about two weeks. We are both in our late 20's. I felt there started to be a change. He says it's due to work stress. When we argued once he ignored me all day and night. I reached out the next day and called and he said he shuts down whenever there's issues and we talked completely normal and told me how I am the only one who understands him and he is gonna get engaged to me before the summer etc and said he can't imagine his life without me etc.

Anyways, we got into another argument a weeks later. You won't believe why. It was over him saying I don't trust him that's why I don't keep him on any of my social media. I told him he can follow me on instagram but he said no i dont' want to. I said why- he said then video call me. you never want to facetime or anythign and u don't trust me.

I said unless we are engaged I won't video call or any of that, there are boundaries because I want this to be as halal as possible. He left me on read. I messaged him it was about 7 pm and said if you leave me on read and decide to ignore me consider this done and there is nothing between us. He left me on read of course and completely ignored me. It's been two days.

I know what you guys will say, move on. I feel extremely hurt and like I meant nothing. I hate that I invested time and energy into this person. There are no muslims in my area, so when I get a suitor who wants to get to know me for a bit before they ask for my hand, I talk. I am pushing 30 and I don't want to be alone and single so don't come at me for getting to know a guy with intentions of marriage.

I don't know how to act. I really did have deep feelings for him. I feel like I am suffocating and he didn't care to lose me. Should I remove him from my social media and move on? Or give him time? Please note his mom abandoned him when he was young and he has major trust issues and shuts down. I don't know anymore.