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▲ 13 r/AskSeattle

Where do the 30+ Stoners hang out? Are there events I can go to?

I tried being friends with some cool folks near the pier and they seemed a wide range of ages, but wondering if there's any green based events in the city coming up?

I have surgery soon and I cannot wait for this "break" to be over because I have chronic pain. And when it's done I just want friends again and to socialize.

Folks I met near the pier asked me my age more than three times, while flattering, doesn't really help the fact i wish I had friends my own age (31) who don't think current memes are weird.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 1 month ago
▲ 0 r/AskMeAnythingIAnswer

Disabled Intersex Tomboy Who Left a 9 year Relationship, Living in the Gayborhood in Seattle, AMA

I'm 31, Black, and pretty short 5' 5", ama.

Gender, sexuality, and more idk what people want to ask. I'm originally from NYC.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 2 months ago
▲ 11 r/AutisticAdults

This is How I Mask, and it is Tiring

This is How I Mask, and it is Tiring 😫

How I get anyone to like me, and it's so tiring because being myself is not accepted. I'm too negative. So this is how I mask. I alternate between the 3 techniques.

*Agree and Amplify / Repeat: you validate and repeat what someone says to stay in control before you pivot or refuse their request. Good for PDA, and they get less mad.

*Normative Conformity + Compliance: when you change your behavior or opinions to match a group + do what people ask you to do.

*Mirroring (3 types are useful):

-Body Language: Subtly matching posture, hand gestures, or open/closed stance after a brief delay so it feels natural.

-Vocal Mirroring: Adjusting your speaking volume, tempo, or pitch to match the other person's calm or enthusiastic energy.

-Verbal Mirroring: Repeating the last two to three words of what someone just said (e.g., "Too high?") to prompt them to elaborate.

There. That's how I get people to like me. I just don't do that on here. It is very difficult to explain that even if people like all this, they never will be close to me. Not sure how to have any real friends. Being myself without these techniches for 21 years is why I gave up and just researched.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 2 months ago
▲ 1.2k r/SeattleWA+1 crossposts

Have Y'all Seen the Cats on a Boat in Tacoma Yet

I hope we can get an answer and that they will be safe!

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 2 months ago
▲ 102 r/bisexual

Posted in a lesbian reddit and they called me bi and said to post here

Every time I vent about how much coercion I've been through nobody cares. They call me bi. I am Autistic and no one cares about my feelings they never care they just tell me to go to therapy and shut up. My therapist never helps me because she's fucking straight. I cannot find a lesbian therapist.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 2 months ago
▲ 0 r/blacklesbians

Dating is So Awful I hate Every Part

I will clarify that I only let men speak to me because I was trying to get money and bi and straight girls kept gassing me up saying their men paid for stuff and I was broke and desperate and all these men wanted was sex and no provision. In reality, every date with a man ended up with me vomiting in the shower because they wanted to touch me. I kept forcing myself to stick it out just for the chance I could get a bill paid. I'm a mf idiot.

I'm 31. I left a 9 year relationship 2 years ago. She was abusive as hell and actually covertly racist. I think I tried dating here in Seattle (moved back in January) but only men send that they are interested on dating sites. I'm not interested in men, but I was gathering data for how these creatures behave.

I am not appealing to other women for many reasons, either:

- broke

- short

- intersex

- don't want sex at all

Otherwise people have consistently said I'm a great material for a partner. I have a plethora of hobbies, and date ideas I used to take mt ex on. People online have said she didn't deserve me but I just wish i never met her unstable self at all.

Most women can overlook both negatives (height and money) if you have a kind personality and can give them an O. I'm just tired of people wanting intimacy to "try you out". I'm Disabled, and use mobility aids. People refuse to hire me despite me getting multiple interviews. I was top seller at my last job. I get 0 people interested in a QPR here. Despite so many Queer people living here...

I'm told people would like me more if I went out more. But I'm too poor and lowkey shouldn't actually be dating because of my finances.

Also most women never care what I want either. They think I'm a bottom. I really need folks to *communicate* instead of assuming things. I'm femme-ish and tomboi-ish. I have a strap I never use because women wanna fold me like origami, but never wanna be folded. FFS.

I am a TOUCH ME NOT. A STONE. People HATE Stone Fems! I'm so tired and weary.

All people open with is physical compliments, and I'm Autistic so it feels weird/manipulative/fawn adjacent but I put up with it because of social norms.

I "dated" this one guy at another lady's suggestion for 3 months before I moved, completely online. I was miserable because:

- I am not attracted to men

- all he did was speak about my appearance and he STILL does even though when we were dating I told him to STOP because it made me uncomfortable and UNHAPPY and he couldn't even listen, and still cannot help but ply on compliments on my appearance

- He is not bright. He's 30 and JUST learned what a hysterectomy was because I said i was getting that in about 2 months

- I was starving and he asked me for money twice and the second time he got scammed by a girl he knew irl who said she needed help. Meanwhile he always talks about what he's eating and stuff even when i was emaciated in November around my birthday, I couldn't even get a present from this dude when I sent him money...

Another reason why dating sucks, period:

- all men do is ask for pictures when i have them up on my profile. I don't want to play into their power play of saving intimate photos "just for them" but women do it half as much, too. I look the same irl. See me irl!!

- everyone wants sex, even Asexual women people tell me "it's just a hobby" so like. I don't wanna indulge in your hobby?

- everyone wants to move fast and touch me. No one cares if I'm Autistic, they just wanna touch me without asking

I hate everything to do with dating, dates, intimacy, and more. I have opted out forever. I hate it all. I'm always crying because I feel like i lost the one girl who would put up with my sexual trauma and no one actually cares. I'm so alone all the time.

Every time someone asks me out I feel like I'm prey. 😔💔

Picture is related because I watched this a few hours ago then sobbed because someone told me recently that they think the reason I have such a hard tome getting my needs met is that I'm attractive to a certain degree and as a result it means that peolle think i have power and will try to rip that away any way they can. Despite being called ugly for decades, I'm seeing it now and I really hate this.

I got called ugly for more than 28 years. Now people are suddenly saying I'm attractive and they treat me just as shit because I cannot leverage this Privilege in any way because it makes me feel ill, like a liar, user, manipulator, r*pist. It is the worst feeling in the world trying to act "normal" to get anything i want in a relationship. I wish I could disappear sometimes.

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 2 months ago
▲ 113 r/blacklesbians

failure at flagging? 😔💔

Hey, Autistic lesbian here and just wanted to ask folks for tips because ever since moving to r/Seattle I've had the issue of apparently not looking gay enough at all despite my best efforts. Men endlessly hit on me. I do not know how to flag more! but like in a friend way. not in a "hit on me" way, I'm looking for community, friends, etc. Lol. OK, flirting would be nice but I'm chronically single by choice.

I never had this problem in r/nyc ever. Men absolutely avoided me and it was glorious. Wonen talked to me, they were sweet, and now I move to the West coast and it feels like nobody even thinks I'm gay.

I have tried looking masc. I have tried looking femme.

I cannot figure out what it is. Is it my feminine makeup? When I try to be masc, idk i feel like I look like shit. I used go get braids and look kinda cute but rn the budget is a line up, at most.

I have no idea what is flattering for my face, for makeup or a short hairstyle. I haven't dyed my hair in a year and the texture is so different I'm shocked. 🙃

Bleach had made my curls go completely wavy, like Ramen noodles lmao 🤣

Its looking a lot curler and healthier but I think I messed up my curl pattern forever by making it green for almost 7 years.

I have no idea how to do makeup that flatters me/matches my skin, yet I draw all the time. It is embarrassing but if anyone has tutorials that you think would fit me the best idk! I'm usually good at art, I'm good at this dress up game Infiniti Nikki, but I cannot style myself in real life and it is probably just due to my Autism, I have no idea what else it could be.

I think style plays so much into socialization, that it's just gotten me excluded for no reason but how I come across.

I wish I knew how exactly I look vs. How i want to look/come across. Or what even fits me. Please offer advice if you can, I'm just tired haha.

My main aesthetic is wearing red/gold accents because it paired with my green hair to make me a sentient walking strawberry (i used to do gold or yellow nails to be the "seeds") but I don't think anyone wanted to hang out with me when I did that 90% of the time. A little saddening but maybe I can rework it to be more palatable/flattering/less off putting to my fellow sapphics?

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 3 months ago
▲ 24 r/Seattle

White Volkswagen nearly hit pedestrians at Boren & Pine.

My friend, her child, and I were almost hit by a white Volkswagen at the intersection of Boren Ave and Pine Street today, right in front of where the Piroshky Piroshky is.

The driver entered the intersection after the light had already turned red. Traffic was already backed up and partially blocked by other vehicles. As we were crossing in the crosswalk, the driver suddenly accelerated instead of stopping. They narrowly missed the child first, then my friend, and then me.

We're filing a police report. There are Flock cameras and other traffic cameras in the area, so we're hoping the vehicle can be identified. I already memorized the license plate.

If anyone witnessed this incident or happened to have dashcam footage from around that time (3:47 PM is when I sent my friend the license plate so only seconds before.) People have recently treat crosswalks like optional decorations sometimes, and it's going to get someone killed if this keeps up.

This is also also a few days after a Lime scooter also did a similar thing when we were walking to the 7-eleven off Minor Ave. I'm sick of etiquette being optional. I already use a cane because of inconsiderate people (injury from sports then also car accidents where I was a passenger) it really is disappointing.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 3 months ago
▲ 9 r/AskSeattle

Resources for a friend dealing with unsafe housing, DV, and legal issues?

Hi all. I'm trying to help a friend navigate honestly, a whole pile of interconnected problems, and I'm hoping someone knows of resources we've missed?

She was laid off in November and has been interviewing constantly ever since, but hasn't been able to land a job despite having years of experience in catering/food service, and security. She's also epileptic and the primary caregiver for her child, so job hunting has been incredibly difficult. She's spent a lot of money just getting to interviews by bus without anything sticking. She was finally approved for childcare assistance, which starts next month, so we're hoping that'll make employment much more realistic.

She even took a peer counseling course but those jobs are going to current social workers, apparently.

At the same time, she's been renting from an awful landlord. The bathroom ceiling eventually collapsed after months of begging for repairs, and after inspection the City of Seattle told her to stop paying rent because of the condition of the unit. Unfortunately that means she's now around $13,000 behind on rent, and I think she's going to need legal help to navigate everything and potentially sue.

We've already looked into tenant resources, but are there any tenant attorneys, legal aid organizations, or peer advocates in Seattle that people have personally had good experiences with?

She's still dealing with the financial fallout from an abusive marriage. Debt tied to her ex-husband is still affecting her credit, which has made finding a new place nearly impossible. Are there any domestic violence organizations or legal clinics that help survivors with financial abuse, divorce-related debt, or repairing their ability to rent?

At this point I'm looking for any direction:

Tenant attorneys or legal aid

DV organizations that help with financial abuse

Peer advocates or case managers

Organizations that help people navigate multiple systems at once

She's genuinely trying. She's been interviewing, applying everywhere she can, and doing everything she's supposed to do, but every obstacle seems to feed into the next one. I'm just trying to help her find the right people who know this system better than we do. I have been struggling myself and unable to do more.

Thanks for any recommendations. I really appreciate it.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 3 months ago
▲ 7 r/AskSeattle

Where to Donate Pastries/snacks?

Hi, all, I know folks are all about community, so I wanted to ask what organizations need quick snacks and pastries and cookies and cakes? I was in a thread on threads that was asking folks to support the CID since they are struggling and I decided to post under it asking folks for a favor myself. The thread owner was nice and offered to donate 100 worth of pastries and snacks and I am not sure where to drop them! It is best to ask the locals what is needed and where, so where currently needs food and will food banks accept home baked items from two former chefs?

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 4 months ago
▲ 13 r/SeattleWA

Smashed Car Windows off of Melrose Trail

I was walking with my friend and her kid to Safeway and we saw 3 cars with smashed windows, and one glass repair guy. All three cars were broken into. It would feel weird to post random people's cars, but I wouldn't park off that trail if you don't have to. The view walking down the other connector was nice, though.

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 4 months ago
▲ 18 r/AskSeattle

What are Seattle Jobs for Disabled People that don't assume about my Mobility?

I am running into a problem where I am very qualified, to the point I can do multiple interviews within a week, but when they ask about my cane, they seem very off-put by it. I was the number one seller at my old job, 1.25 million in sales within 6 months.

Recently, I applied for a door greeter position for a retail spot due to my mobility, and she offered me the salesperson interview instead, but still seemed hung up on the fact I used a cane. It has never stopped me from carrying 50lbs, or doing my shift.

I've been to interviews for 6 months, and so far I haven't figured out why I am not getting hired. I am always a great worker and this is the longest I've ever been without a job since I was 15. I've never had a gap in my resume this bad since the pandemic.

Does anyone have any ideas/guaranteed places?

I'm manager level for coffee and food service, but I still consider myself entry level for sales. I also have done training. Am I overqualified somehow? I don't know.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 4 months ago
▲ 33 r/AskSeattle

Is there an unspoken Seattle hangout rule?

To preface this I i'm very, very confused about a lot of social things, because i'm autistic. I'm trying to see if thid is a me problem or just an affect of Seattle Culture/socialization. But for some reason, this has happened at least four times.

I agree to hang out with somebody, i'll make a post that says something like "let's go out for drinks", "grab a bite to eat with me" and people *do* show up, yes. But when i go to order for myself they shut it down and say no, they aren't hungry/thirsty. I understand if this was a date or another outing that if people think they are going to pay for me, but this is a platonic meeting. As buddies. And I'm ordering my own thing. It has happened with all genders, too.

Does Seattle have like a stranger mooching problem? Because I have no issues paying for people because I'm the one who invited you out, but its weird that people have canceled my food and drink plans not just once but multiple times.

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 4 months ago
▲ 0 r/AskSeattle

Hi, Seattle, What are Your Favorite "Buy Nothing" Groups and Exchanges?

Please post your favorite buy nothing groups locally! Just asking for your personal favorites and where you found your most precious finds. (Bonus points if you post a picture, I'm very nosey sorry!) I am settling into my new apartment, coming from having no furniture/couch surfing for about 4 months. So far I've got a bed and a chair but I'm looking for a desk and couch if anyone was getting rid of either. Also feel free to ask me anything as well. Just trying to figure out where the neighbors swap things, please be kind ✨️

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u/IzukuLeeYoung — 5 months ago
▲ 114 r/okbuddyviltrum

We Deserve an Alternate Timeline where Battle Beast and Conquest Fight Terrifying Beings, while being Cat and Humanoid Bestiez

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 5 months ago
▲ 85 r/Seattle

Last Thursday Afternoon on the Northbound 150

I think a lot of folks don't know what community is, and it's hard to describe. Last Thursday I was on the way from a doctor's appointment and got onto the Northbound 150. I sat down behind a group of laughing people near the front, in the row behind the first set of horizontal rows. They were laughing, but it wasn't actually funny. I had sit down in the middle of a tense situation.

A man was sitting in front of me. Across from us was a woman. He reached out to touch her arm, asking for her number, and she shrugged it off.

"Here," she said, handing him a lollipop. And he threw it away like a child.

It flew through the gap in the chair, bounced against the wall, and hit my feet.

She then replied that that was way he wasn't getting her number.

I picked up the lollipop and asked her if I could have it. She said "well if he doesn't, you benefitted!"

He tries to talk to the lady sitting in priority seating, asking why she won't.

Then. He started going "well my number is 206--"

He repeated it at least 4 times with her ignoring it. He reached out again. She implies she has a knife in her bag so stop touching her. She asks if he has been drinking. He goes yes.

He starts repeating his number again. I start repeating it behind him at the same time as him. He looks back, turning as he does. This is the first time he notices me. I repeat his number back.

"Well who are you?" He asks, his breath smelling like banana rum. His left eye is bloody, like someone had already suckerpunched him.

I introduce myself. He asks if I knew his number and I repeat it. He is amazed. He asks where I'm from. I say. He says he's from Alabama. His LA snapback makes even less sense now.

The lady asks me how I like Seattle. We are all still kind of nervously laughing and joking in between. She asks if I got friends I can send his number too. I say "yeah I got some..." knowing full well I'm just gonna gripe online and not doxx the man. She said she was going to zips. So she needed to be on the bus a lot longer than him or me.

I continue with the distraction until I see people get off and the lady moves to the back. He asks where she's going.

Another older gentleman replies "away from you" a real "and then they clapped" moment. The bus actually does burst out laughing.

I am still distracting this guy. He asks for MY number. I say I'll text him but my service is weird because of my NY phone/number. He insists on seeing me text him.

"But you won't get it, I say, you said 3 times your phone died, sir." He seems both happy that I remember, but sad that it is true. We're passing by, I think the fedway mall, and I say: "you could probably get a charger if you hurry up"

The suggestion does make him leave the bus.

Why am I telling this story?

Because I really as much as he was a nuisance to everybody on that bus, I didn't want to see an old man get stabbed for harassing Somebody. I didn't want to see this lady harassed. So will I proverbially deflect it just like you're supposed to do? Like most of my hr manuals have told me: distract.

I feel like that's part of being in community with others. Diffusing the situation instead of escalating.

Yesterday I encountered the lady from the very front that he also was trying to hit on. She walked up and started to say "my number is 206--" and I recognized her immediately. We cackled for a bit, had a short chat and she went on to do her errands.

I think I did the right thing. He also did in fact text me back... but I won't be answering lol. I still have not eaten the lollipop.

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 5 months ago
▲ 10 r/lnkyverse

Perspective: This Derranged MC is the only reason I ever Believed Femcels exist At all, But Sadly, I Never Found Kuroki-san IRL or Even Online, Is there any Justice in this world? WILL THERE BE JUSTICE?

Why didn't we meet in High School

Why didn't we meet in High School

Why didn't we meet in High School

Why didn't we meet in High School

Is there any weird 30 year old women like this at all? Who listens to weird audios? Not very social, and likes anime? Hasn't been to very many places and open to cosplay? Asking just please please please please please please

If Femcels don't exist then why would anyone give us any hope? Why hypothesize about beings that never would, or could, exist?

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 5 months ago
▲ 96 r/Seattle

Update on the pole that fell onto the tree outside Pie Bar in Capitol Hill: they fixed it insanely fast

This was a faster fix than anything I’ve ever seen in New York City 😭

Look at Washington holy crap ✨️🚧🏗

Love it here.

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 5 months ago
▲ 35 r/Seattle

Stumbled into a local explaining what happened. I asked her what she saw, and asked her permission to post this!

What an interesting and wild week. On Monday, I get the full community being kind and offering help, Next day we have a small incident near City Market, and now Lines are falling on trees. Never a dull moment, at least!

Stay safe out there, Seattlites.

u/IzukuLeeYoung — 5 months ago