u/Jazzkat224

the topic is in the title, everything else is just extra context. feel free to share anything else that has helped u, provide specifics into ur preferences, or what works well for u from what i listed.
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recently tried energy drinks again. celsius, specifically, works especially well and helps me move at a normal human speed. also ofc gives me the much needed energy. i want to incorporate this into my daily routine—or at least on work and school days—and no, i don’t want to cut out weed. life is stressful enough as it is, and knowing that i get to smoke before bed is like a little reward that pushes me to get through my day.

adhd meds help a lot but i was always tired regardless if i slept 8, or even 12 fucking hrs. drank not even half a celcius during a shift at my new job and i knew i found what i was missing.

had a friend crush on this girl in my class who i thought fs was gay.

today she was talking to her seat partner during lab when the class was kinda quiet and slipped in a “my boyfriend” mid sentence.

i was so surprised (and also a little disappointed tbh).

anyways. how can u tell if a girl is gay?

edit: i reposted this to other subs for more responses and wow people are lowkey passive aggressiveee 😭 i was just curious about how other girls signal or flag that they’re gay, and thought it’d be fun/helpful to make a post is all. if it makes any difference, this is all new to me so im pretty much blind to all of it unless they present masc or have a carabiner or smth (but ofc neither of those are always reliable). the girl that inspired this post is fem but had certain traits that seemed fruity—omg bro it’s so hard to tell cus indie girls and queer flagging have sm overlap like the venn diagram is dead ass just a circle atp 😭😭

i made a short post earlier today and ended up deleting it shortly after getting a negative comment—which, in hindsight, was unrelated to the context of what i had asked.

i responded right away and said that i was open to constructive criticism, and they replied by critiquing my “spelling and grammar”.

i reread through my post again, and my spelling and grammar were all correct—perhaps they were referring to the way i used “ur” instead of “your”?? 😭

decided to check out their profile and took a brief scroll through their recent comments; it was all the same type of negative/nit-picky input, similar to what they had left on my post.

it seems more like this person isn’t happy w themselves and is using reddit as an outlet to take it out on other people (even if it’s just through small, negative comments).

i like her sm but it’s so complicated and all so ambiguous. pls tell me ur success stories so that ik there’s light at the end of the tunnel 😀

preferably wlw but im happy to hear all!

looking for positive experiences and happy love stories!

never dated anyone cus i’ve always been scared to be vulnerable. also never really felt fully connected or could see a realistic long term future w anyone beyond initial attraction—don’t want to get hurt or waste my time, nor anyone else’s.

after learning more about my autism and now having a better understanding of myself, i’ve recognized that i need to be w someone that is also audhd or adjacent. i think i’ve found my person.

please tell me ur success stories! :D

looking for positive experiences and happy love stories!

never dated anyone cus i’ve always been scared to be vulnerable. also never really felt fully connected or could see a realistic long term future w anyone beyond initial attraction—don’t want to get hurt or waste my time, nor anyone else’s.

after learning more about my autism and now having a better understanding of myself, i’ve recognized that i need to be w someone that is also audhd or adjacent. i think i’ve found my person.

please tell me ur success stories! :D

looking for positive experiences and happy love stories!

never dated anyone cus i’ve always been scared to be vulnerable. also never really felt fully connected or could see a realistic long term future w anyone beyond initial attraction—don’t want to get hurt or waste my time, nor anyone else’s.

after learning more about my autism and now having a better understanding of myself, i’ve recognized that i need to be w someone that is also audhd or adjacent. i think i’ve found my person. how did u know when u found urs?

please tell me ur success stories! :D

looking for positive experiences and happy love stories!

never dated anyone cus i’ve always been scared to be vulnerable. also never really felt fully connected or could see a realistic long term future w anyone beyond initial attraction—don’t want to get hurt or waste my time, nor anyone else’s.

after learning more about my autism and now having a better understanding of myself, i’ve recognized that i need to be w someone that is also audhd or adjacent. i think i’ve found my person.

please tell me ur success stories! :D

my step dad keeps making weird ass comments at my mom and it’s making me so fucking uncomfortable. i can tell she’s uncomfortable too, even tho she tries to play it off. she kept trying to change the subject and he kept circling back to it. eventually, she rejected his advances several times and he still continued. idk what to do.

is there even anything i can do? he says it openly in front of me (20F) and his kids (14F and two 13M)—sometimes with my mom around, other times even when she’s not around. it’s fucking disgusting. i don’t think his kids catches on cus they don’t really speak or understand our native language.
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we saw a bear earlier this evening digging for food in the parking lot of our hotel as we were looking for parking. a few hrs later we (me, my mom, and my step sister) decided to walk around downtown for a bit. he insisted on tagging along. as we were making our way back to the hotel after walking around, the encounter with the bear got brought up again and he “joked” that, “if the bear gets food, he’ll be nice; if he’s hungry and he doesn’t get any, he won’t care to be nice”. he was making comments the whole time we were walking around so i had distanced myself a bit by walking ahead. hearing ts genuinely made me want to turn around and sock that fucker in the face.

mind you, it’s like 11pm atp, dark asf, no one else is around; anyone saying i’m overreacting must not be a woman.

i was so fucking fed up from all the bs he had been saying all day. there were plentyyy of other comments—the bear thing was just the fucking cherry on top. i started speed walking and then running into the hotel and up the stairs. they picked up their speed and ran after me, all the while he continues making more comments pressuring my mom.

he also had a taser on him—again, it was late and no one else was around—ik he wouldn’t do anything in front of his sons to taint his image, so i just wanted to get back to our hotel room and be out of that situation as quickly as possible.

when we got a moment alone, i told my mom to be safe. he walked in and the convo got cut short.

she was helping me fill up my water bottle cus i didn’t know how to work the water dispenser (it’s one of those 2.5 gallon jugs but it had a weird faucet). he insisted on helping even tho we had already figured it out—he goes, “you have to keep pulling on it until it’s long” (btw all of these comments are in our language, not english). all the kids were there, and so was my grandma. i was so uncomfortable i wanted to cry. i didn’t say anything and just walked to my room. she followed and asked me what i meant when i said to be safe (she knows i don’t like him so we don’t really discuss their relationship). i brought up the comments he was making and she tried to brush it off, but i could tell she wasn’t sure of herself.

we’re on vacation rn and im sharing a room with my step sister. after i came out of the shower, she was still in our room instead of hers. i asked her again if everything was okay. she said, “yes…if not, i’ll just put in my airpods” (for anyone confused, she’s basically implying that if he tried anything, she’ll just put her airpods in and disassociate). i started panicking and she tried to play it off again and “reassured” me that what she meant was, “he snores loud, so if it gets too loud, i’ll just turn on some buddhist music”.

obviously a very taboo thing to discuss—especially within our culture, and even more so with your own kid.

i understand that’s their personal business but gd have some fucking respect. talk abt it in private. why the actual fuck are you talking about ts in front of everyone and tryna guilt trip her. genuinely what the actual fuck is wrong with you. men ain’t shit. i’m so frustrated and sad and feeling all sorts of emotions for my mom and idk what to do.

my step dad keeps making weird ass comments at my mom and it’s making me so fucking uncomfortable. i can tell she’s uncomfortable too, even tho she tries to play it off. she kept trying to change the subject and he kept circling back to it. eventually, she rejected his advances several times and he still continued. idk what to do.

is there even anything i can do? he says it openly in front of me (20F) and his kids (14F and two 13M)—sometimes with my mom around, other times even when she’s not around. it’s fucking disgusting. i don’t think his kids catches on cus they don’t really speak or understand our native language.
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we saw a bear earlier this evening digging for food in the parking lot of our hotel as we were looking for parking. a few hrs later we (me, my mom, and my step sister) decided to walk around downtown for a bit. he insisted on tagging along. as we were making our way back to the hotel after walking around, the encounter with the bear got brought up again and he “joked” that, “if the bear gets food, he’ll be nice; if he’s hungry and he doesn’t get any, he won’t care to be nice”. he was making comments the whole time we were walking around so i had distanced myself a bit by walking ahead. hearing ts genuinely made me want to turn around and sock that fucker in the face.

mind you, it’s like 11pm atp, dark asf, no one else is around; anyone saying i’m overreacting must not be a woman.

i was so fucking fed up from all the bs he had been saying all day. there were plentyyy of other comments—the bear thing was just the fucking cherry on top. i started speed walking and then running into the hotel and up the stairs. they picked up their speed and ran after me, all the while he continues making more comments pressuring my mom.

he also had a taser on him—again, it was late and no one else was around—ik he wouldn’t do anything in front of his sons to taint his image, so i just wanted to get back to our hotel room and be out of that situation as quickly as possible.

when we got a moment alone, i told my mom to be safe. he walked in and the convo got cut short.

she was helping me fill up my water bottle cus i didn’t know how to work the water dispenser (it’s one of those 2.5 gallon jugs but it had a weird faucet). he insisted on helping even tho we had already figured it out—he goes, “you have to keep pulling on it until it’s long” (btw all of these comments are in our language, not english). all the kids were there, and so was my grandma. i was so uncomfortable i wanted to cry. i didn’t say anything and just walked to my room. she followed and asked me what i meant when i said to be safe (she knows i don’t like him so we don’t really discuss their relationship). i brought up the comments he was making and she tried to brush it off, but i could tell she wasn’t sure of herself.

we’re on vacation rn and im sharing a room with my step sister. after i came out of the shower, she was still in our room instead of hers. i asked her again if everything was okay. she said, “yes…if not, i’ll just put in my airpods” (for anyone confused, she’s basically implying that if he tried anything, she’ll just put her airpods in and disassociate). i started panicking and she tried to play it off again and “reassured” me that what she meant was, “he snores loud, so if it gets too loud, i’ll just turn on some buddhist music”.

obviously a very taboo thing to discuss—especially within our culture, and even more so with your own kid.

i understand that’s their personal business but gd have some fucking respect. talk abt it in private. why the actual fuck are you talking about ts in front of everyone and tryna guilt trip her. genuinely what the actual fuck is wrong with you. men ain’t shit. i’m so frustrated and sad and feeling all sorts of emotions for my mom and idk what to do.