u/JazzlikeMistake9237

Hi 👋, how are you all?, I hope you're all doing great ☺️.

Well, this is something I ponder and ask myself a lot of times, especially when visiting a typology website like pdb,

there will be a lot of debates about those types, and basically the page would be a complete mess lol, and literally when I watch the show and try to examine the characters,

I can actually get mixed feelings like these two types are possible for that character, I Don't know for sure, and it makes me think that it is not big of a deal maybe,

like we all can get access to our 8 functions, and I know it won't be easy like using our main 4 functions, so I actually do believe that maybe xnfp and xsfp despite having fi can command good fe,

and the same for xsfj and xnfj both can have a good command of fi, but I think difference lies in the priority of usage, so maybe that's why they get confused and mistyped as eachother 🤔?.

I don't know actually, but I am curious about what you all think? Maybe I am missing something I don't quite understand about this after all 😅.

And I hope you all have a great day 😊.

Whenever there is someone that is so lovely and everyone loves, I just become so so happy and joyous for them, like yes please stay your beautiful joyous self and infect us with your happiness, haha 😂.

And at the same I truly get inspired by them, wish to be like them and so work on myself to be just as lovely as them, because I love them and wish to be loved and accepted just like them.

So do you guys also feel this way?, and how do you approach the feeling of admiration for other people?

Also off topic but I absolutely adore esfj and enfp so much, you guys are so so lovely and your existence is a blessing truly , I hope you will be always happy just like you make others happy 🥹❤️.

Hello guys, how are you ? I hope you're all doing well 😊.

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Well, I just need a little help to try to be more comfortable using my thinking and intuitive functions, rather than relying entirely on my feelings and sensing functions, and could you please give me real life examples to take notes for it.

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And thank you in advance, and I hope you all have a great day 😊.

Hello guys 👋, How are you?, I hope you're all doing well 😊.

Well, I have a question please, so a few days ago I did a post to discover my socionics type, and it was a mix between Eii and sei, and when I read about both I found that I relate to both equally, and now I am conflicted a bit so I will try to describe myself a little bit.

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1- I am actually an emotionally sensitive person who can understand their feelings as well as the feelings of others,

and found that experiencing emotions is beautiful, makes us human, and fosters bonds between people,

but to be honest I can say that certain emotional expressions should be expressed in certain circumstances and manners in my opinion,

like yes it is okay to be mad at the waiter who confused your order or forgot something in it,

but for me it is too much and unnecessary to belittle him/her and cause a scene,

and besides everyone makes mistakes from time to time anyways, and there can be other peaceful solutions that can be offered.

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2- I really love being in a group, where I peacefully blend in and everyone is having fun, exchanging exciting and useful ideas,

also in the back of my mind I always say to myself this will be a core memory for me,

that I can talk about it to someone else and repeat the cycle of memorizing those cozy memories.

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3- I can say yes I am a moralistic person, because I want peace and harmony and sometimes I find morals to be a means to that,

also I can be justice based depends on the severity of the actions, cause I feel the need to stop it from happening; due to the irreversible damage that it can do to people.

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4- I don't know if I do forgive easily or hold grudges, as I think It depends on the situation and the circumstances of the situation,

I think some things I can forgive easily and some things I may struggle to forgive,

but I don't bother myself with such emotions to be honest, I just shove it aside and try to distract myself from it.

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5- I do enjoy making life easier and more light hearted for me and for people around me,

I also enjoy providing emotional and financial support, but can be reluctant to do physical support,

because I am not very confident in it and also get exhausted quickly from it,

as I don't have great stamina unfortunately, but still try to help them the best I can.

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6- I really don't know If I read the room professionally or not,

but all I can say is that I can fit in quite normally without many tensions,

and if tensions happen I tend to resolve it quickly as much as I can.

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7- I really love trying new things and having new experiences,

and also love to share that with others,

but sometimes I can be scared or indecisive to try it,

unless there is some encouragement and good research for it.

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8- I tend to be efficient in case I do something that I dislike and don't want to do to stop and relax,

however if something I do enjoy I tend to take my time enjoying it and may encourage others to enjoy it with me,

also I am not very much a perfectionist, I just do my best and make sure that I do the correct thing that's it

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9- I can say that I can get bored easily, If I am stuck on doing something for so long, that I tend to relax and distract myself from time to time,

and I don't dislike routine but I just love to try something new from now and then to stop my mind from being stagnant and rotten,

as I can crave novelty and experience sometimes.

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10- people do tend to perceive me as peaceful,sensitive, kind, stubborn, doormat and lazy.

People also tend to either love me and feel relaxed in my presence,

or just indifferent to my presence that sometimes they may forget that I exist,

and then some exploit me thinking that I will always tolerate their actions,

which I tolerate to a certain point and then just explode or leave after reaching my limit.

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11- I can say that I am actually deceive person, I do know what I like and dislike, but not too vocal about it, in order not to rock the boat and get negative attention towards me, as I am pretty much withdrawn person, and I mostly socialize to have fun and good time with people. ---------

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And thank you guys in advance, and I hope you all have a great day 🥰.

Hi 👋, how are you guys?, I hope you're all doing great 😊.

So, I am new to socionics and I am curious to know what type do you think I am based on my answers, and I hope it is easy and not very long for you to read, amen 🙂‍↕️.

Personal concepts

1-What is beauty? What is love? 

I think beauty can be subjective sometimes, like for every culture, it has its own unique beauty, and I love the diversity of cultures, it makes the world more meaningful and colorful.

As for love, I think it is comfort, safety, happiness, a sense of belonging and deep bond between people, for me I think love is universal thing, you can love anything or anyone deeply, and it doesn't have to be romantic at all, like it can be platonic love, parental love, agape love, anything you can imagine.

2-What are your most important values? 

For me it is kindness, harmony, agreeableness, friendliness, fairness, mindfulness, and knowledge.

3-Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?

Yes, I am a very religious person, for me religion gives me a purpose to live my life, like I know why I am here, and I feel safe that I know that there is a great god that is all knowing, that I can pray to when I am stressed or happy to bless me with my prayers.

   

4-Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?

I really don't like war, wish if there were always peaceful solutions, where everyone is safe and sound, but I get it sometimes is used as a preservation tactic against injustice and terrorism.

Interests

1-What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why? 

Hmm, I really don't know, because i speak about a lot of things with many people, so yeah I can speak about politics, sports, fashion, music, things about the past, present and the future, basically anything that interests me or people around me, i truly love hearing about people's thoughts and opinions about various things in life, as it is fun, engaging and I feel i can learn alot from our discussion together.

2-Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?   

Yes, because i truly care about the wellbeing of myself and others, I hate to see anyone in pain or experiencing pain myself, and i always try to look for ways to make our lives better, by researching about these topics.

And yeah, I would say I am focused on my comfort, my safety and health, so yeah I try to take care of my body the best I could.

3-What do you think of daily chores?

I think it is okay, and it is part of the life cycle, sometimes you have to do certain things over and over to maintain stability and sustainability, but I also crave trying something new from now and then to break the cycle of stagnation of the routine.

4-Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. 

Well, I unfortunately don't read alot or watch movies that often, but i love to watch live documentaries about real life events, also love to watch series about human nature and connection, I sometimes love to watch conspiracy theories videos, as it broadens the possibilities of what if and it makes my mind wander in alot of different ways, like where is the truth in all of that, it helps me being curious and vigilant, to navigate myself through life.

5-What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why? 

The things that make me cry are exclusion, injustice and violence, as it makes me feel uneasy, hurt, angry and anxious.

The things that made me smile is inclusion, being remembered, given warm compliments and hugs, saying that I am important and loved, as it eases my feelings of loneliness, alienation and helps me feel like I truly belong somewhere.

6-Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?   

I don't know to be honest, like I try my best to fit in and belong to any place I am, as long as I feel comfortable, safe and happy.

Evaluation & Behaviour

1-What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?   

Hmm, maybe being lazy and sensitive, I don't know, but yeah I guess these two things lol 😂.

2-What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself? 

I think my kindness, easygoing and helpful attitude, and I hope to always bring love and comfort not only for myself but for others as well.

 

3-In what areas of your life would you like help? 

I think emotional support and deep emotional connection with people around me, as I sometimes feel isolated from humans and human nature, it feels that I cannot recognize myself and feel that there is a void inside myself, that I just need someone or something to remind me that I am normal and I belong somewhere.

4-Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.  

Yeah, particularly in toxic relationships with people, where I was afraid to be separated from them, because I was already attached to them, or really feel responsible about them, and they used to take advantage of that, manipulate and guilt trip me all the time, but when I did that to them they were furious and unforgiving, saying that they were special case and that they were victims and hurt lol, glad I am not with them anymore.

People & Interactions

1-What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with? 

What I like about people is = kindness, cooperativeness, humor, altruism, and warmth.

What I dislike about people is = cruelty, racism, insensitivity, and selfishness.

2-How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?

Hmm, I think it is a part of life to have/need someone where you can pour your love unto and receive love from, so yeah I hope one day to be married to the one who loves me and who I also love.

And the qualities I look for in a partner are warmth, kindness, empathy, patience and love of course.

3-If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?

I will be concerned about their comfort and happiness, so I will try to make sure to give them what they want and need and be their safe space to be themselves, and shower them with love and support.

4-A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs.What is your inward and outward reaction?   

Well maybe conflicted, I might be angry or upset even internally, but I will compose myself and try to understand their claim to see if it is correct or not, and if it is correct I am more than happy to reconsider my thoughts, but if not true then I will calmly ask to shift our attention to something else.

5-Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one. 

Hmmm, to be honest I don't know, I am pretty neutral most of the time, but yeah a lot of things do anger and upset me such as racism, segregation and sexism, as a lot of injustice happens because of that, which is totally nonsense and avoidable if we just look at things outside of ourselves with more objectivity.

6-How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?

I think when I feel comfortable around them, like I am drawn to easygoing, warm, generous and intelligent people, where I can speak and listen to anything and be safely curious with them without tensions.

7-How do you behave around strangers?   

 

I am polite and sweet with them, a little bit shy but still engaging and talkative, if they allowed that.

Hello guys 👋, how are you doing?, I hope you're all doing well 😊.

So yeah as the title says, i feel quite aimless and bored, and kinda need inspiration and somewhat mental stimulation,

and i heard you guys love it and are open minded to discuss it, so i want to discuss things with you 😃,

as you being the opposite axis of me truly intrigue and fascinate me, and I feel i can learn alot from you.

So discuss anything you like or something that recently caught your attention, you can give me advice, or just joke and send meme here, i just want this post to be fun, engaging and informative.

And I hope you all have a great day 😊.

Hi, how are you guys? I hope you're all doing great 😃.

This is the first time into attittudinal psche typology and curious to know what type i am, so i will try to answer these questions the best i could.

1. What is your current plan for the next 5 years of your life? If you do not have one, explain why not. How do you feel about planning out your life long term?

I don't know yet, but hopefully having a stable job with good salary, married and having a lovely family.

2. What are your thoughts on language? Do you notice the intricacies in grammar? Does dissecting communication fascinate you?

Yes, i truly love learning languages very much, as it broadens my knowledge and help me connect more deeply and effectively with other people, for me to learn and speak others languages, is like honouring them and their culture, and yes i try to understand the underlying meaning of sentences like learn idioms, novels and poems.

3. How do you find physical comfort? Are you good at finding it? Would you take advice from others on the subject?

Yes, i value my physical comfort so much, that i won't eat, drink or do anything that harms me in a bad way, as i dislike pain and enjoy the finer things in life, and i don't know i might take someone's advice yes, but i would try to make sense for it first and try to find if it is suitable for me or not.

4. Are your feelings obvious to you? Do you feel that you properly handle your emotions? Why or why not?

Yes I am aware of my feelings and i do understand it for the most part, so yes i can handle it properly for the most time, as i am usually even tempered, but sometimes my emotions can be too strong when pushed too far that i just need the help, empathy and advice from others.

5. How do you feel about authority? Should you listen to it? Should others?

I don't know but i think it is important to keep order in place and ensure harmony and efficiency, and i think yes we should listen to it if it is not dictatorial and ensures peace, order and harmony

6. Do you believe you have strong reasoning skills? How about others? Are you willing to argue about facts and data? Why or why not?

I don't know really i am not sure, i think yes i do have good reasoning skills but also like to listen to others thoughts and opinions and i might change my mind if they stated something more reasonable than me, for me i don't care if i am or they are right or wrong, i just want ro know the truth.

7. Describe something you find aesthetically pleasing. What would make it more pleasing? How about less pleasing? Do you take your opinion seriously?

I will accept it as it is without changing it much and become very happy with it, and yes i want things to be beautiful and comfy around me.

8. Do you trust your internal reactions towards people? Do you find yourself to be judgmental? Do you wish your way of being was different?

No i don't trust it very much, because i like to give people the benefit of the doubt and give them tons of excuses until i confirm their toxic patterns and then i would judge them and cut them off from my life, and i don't know if i want to change that, but maybe not as some people truly mean well but fail to convey it properly sometimes.

9. How does it feel to think of the future? Is there a purpose you are trying to align yourself with?

I am hopeful and optimistic about the future, and i align myself to be successful and have a loving stable life and starting a family

10. How do you organize information? How does it feel during the process? Is it enjoyable or not?

I don't know, i don't think i organize information that much, i think i can sometimes be scattered searching here and there to get the full picture and exploring multiple possibilities.

11. Do you have a daily routine? Is it ideal? Would you change it for others?

I do have a routine yes for the most part but enjoy doing something new from now and then, and i don't know if it is ideal or not i just accept things as it is lol, but yeah i will try to change for others if they wanted that from me but it would be difficult and i would need some time to adjust it.

12. Describe one of the best moods you have ever been in. What made it the best? How about the worst mood? Is this exercise easy or difficult for you?

Best mode= when i am included, remembered, complimented, shown that i am loved, trying something new and enjoyable, living in peace and harmony and being happy with others.

Worst mood= being excluded, criticized harshly and unfairly, exploited, taken advantage of, controlled, laughed at.

13. What is your greatest strength? How do you show this to others? Use examples if possible.

My greatest strength is my empathy and understanding, as i try to understand others and help them feel comfortable, safe and loved, and i try to do that by asking them to tell me about themselves what they like and dislike, what are their dreams, what are their opinions and thoughts about various topics, i just love to listen to people in general i feel i can learn alot from them and feel connected with them

14. In what ways are you resilient? In what ways are you an inspiration to others?

I think my resilience is coming from my optimism, i am always hopeful that things will turn out to be good, and for the most part it is, and I try to inspire others to remind them to be grateful for what they have and try to chase their dreams and happiness, and encourage them to try different things and pleasures in life untill they find themselves and their satisfaction within life.

15. What is your biggest fear? How do you deal with this fear?

My biggest fear is losing my autonomy, freedom and my place in my society, and i try to deal with it by either withdrawing and having limited interactions with the outside world, or just have interaction but i am polite, sweet and cooperative, so that i don't get negative attention.

16. What feels like a waste of time to engage in? How would you get through it?

For me i think what feels wasting time is when we think of negative thoughts that is out from our hand to control, like it is what it is, and it is just the past, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger not weaker, and we should learn from our past mistakes and move on, as life goes on and on.

17. Are you a leader? Explain what qualifies or disqualifies you as one.

No i am a follower actually, i don't mind leadership for the most part, but don't like it at the same time like it is too much responsibility for me, and i have alot of responsibilities already.

18. When do you feel the most collaborative with others? Does this happen often?

Alot yes, and i would be very happy and engaging, enjoy and cherishing the moments of oneness with others.

19. Do you overcome doubt and hesitance? Explain why or why not.

Sometimes yes and sometimes no, and i try to overcome it by research, good discussion and encouragement from others, trying to look at multiple things and trying to think of multiple possibilities to make sure that i am prepared.

20. Do you yield to others? If so, in what situations do you do this? How do you feel about it?

Yes i do that alot, as i trust others and their judgement on most things, and also because i don't want tension, aggression, and separation from others, so even if i don't internally agree or don't want it, i will still comply, because i do want to feel included, told what to do, and the responsibility of deciding is not weighted on me.

21. What are you looking to get out of the typing process? Do you have ideas for your type(s)?

I am curious to be honest to know more about typology in general, i found it interesting, fascinating and helpful for growth and connecting with others even more effectively, and i have no to little idea on what type i am until this moment and curious to know what type i am.

And that's all and i hope you all have a lovely day ☺️.

1• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.

25 F, that's all lol.

2• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?

I don't know to be honest, but I used to have bad intrusive thoughts that were obsessive like ocd, that I used therapy to overcome it, and thanks to god I am a lot better now.

3• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?

Yes I did have a somewhat restrict upbringing, because I am a girl, so it was not acceptable to come home late, wasn't acceptable to talk to strangers, didn't go anywhere without an adult with me, was not acceptable to laugh normally as I have to muffle my laughter, and I am okay with that to be honest I feel well protected by that and suffocated at the same time but can't complain it is all good lol 😂.

4• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?

I used to work in customer service and it was very stressful; because it was fast paced, customers complained about serious issues that i couldn't help with, due to either company's policy or the unrealistic queries from customers, also when I did finally memorized scripts to use it, it will usually change and I would have to start over again which was just extra work for me lol, but they used to compliment my handling skills as I was very patient and gentle with customers.

5• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?

I don't know to be honest, maybe at the beginning I would be happy and refreshed, but then I think I would get bored , lonely and scared, so I would likely hangout with my loved ones or friends to keep company.

6• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?

Hmmm, I like discussing various topics and hearing people's opinions and thoughts, and just have a good time with people, and I don't do sports, and I like indoor and outdoor activities equally, but do indoors activities more, as I am more of a home girl myself.

7• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?

I don't know, I am not always curious, I just accept most things as it is and question it a bit but not obsessively all the time, but yeah I love knowledge and hope to be someone that is knowledgeable to help myself and others around me more effectively and accurately, and I like to dream about better and more fun future, where everyone is happy, fulfilled and safe.

8• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?

I don't know and I don't think so, I don't like it very much, I am more happy to be a follower than a leader, cause leadership is a great responsibility for me, and I already have tons of responsibilities to take care of lol 😂.

9• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?

I think yes, I do like to work with my hands, such as writing, making origami, fixing something, drawing, and knitting.

10• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.

Yeah I like art, and like to understand the reasons and messages conveyed through art, also like to notice the details to appreciate the hard work of the artists, and yeah sometimes I like to draw just for fun and try something new.

11• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?

For me the past is a lifelong lesson that we need to pay attention to, the present is the current state where we apply our past experiences, and the future is the hope for a better life to come true and be present.

11• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?

Well, I would of course help them, but first I need to know why, how and when they need my help or support, as I need to be prepared to help them more effectively and in a way that makes them feel satisfied, without overdoing the work, exhausting myself, or disappointing them.

12• Do you need logical consistency in your life?

Yeah, I need to figure out if I am doing the right and reasonable things in my life, without biases.

13• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?

I think yeah, it is quite important and I try my best to do productive things, but the thing is I am more laid back and chill, taking my time and just trying to enjoy what I am doing rather than beating myself up to do more.

14• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?

No and I dislike to do it, I don't like to pressure someone to do something that they don't want to do, but I rather encourage others to do the things that they want or just ask politely for favors from them and try my best not to get upset if they refused, because I keep telling myself that I have to respect people's boundaries, so that they accept my boundaries as well.

15• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?

I don't have many hoppy or sustainable ones, as I like variety, so I like listening to music, chatting with my loved ones about various topics, like to watch TikTok or YouTube, and painting.

16• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses ?

I use memorization, like I can memorize something and try to make sense of it by looking into similarities and differences to recognize patterns and generate possibilities from it, I actually struggle to learn with someone or a team, I need to learn alone as I take my time learning in my solitude without pressure from someone to just understand things fast, because I understand things slowly and deeply.

17• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?

I genuinely don't know, maybe both at times.

18• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?

To be a good and safe person for people around me, I want to be someone that inspires others and makes them happy and comfortable, and I want to make positive contributions and significance into their lives.

19• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?

Being exploited and taken advantage of, losing my autonomy and freedom, and people hating me and excluding me from their life, because it hurts to be controlled and ostracized from society and looked down upon while I am trying my best to do good and being cooperative, also I don't want to have a bad image at all.

20• What do the "highs" in your life look like?

Feeling light and happy, chatting and laughing a lot with my loved ones and friends.

21• What do the "lows" in your life look like?

Withdrawn, cry a lot and vent a lot, intrusive thoughts about hurting myself and ending my life 😅.

22• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?

Well I am somewhat in between, sometimes I am very attentive to details around me in the now and here and it is usually when I am okay not stressed or sad, but when I have negative emotion I daydream to escape the harsh reality to soothe myself and stay hopeful.

23• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?

I think I will just daydream about my fantasy world to escape my boredom.

24• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?

Hmmm, yeah I think I need some time, good research, discussion and encouragement from trusted loved ones to make the decision, and I think yeah I do change my mind if something is more reasonable and accurate.

25• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?

Well emotions are a part of life, I just accept it and make it flow, because to me it just comes and goes, so I don't fight it, but I am cautious to let it out in order to keep the peace, but I do sometimes feel it somewhat strongly, but most of the time I am even tempered, but sometimes I just wish to intensify my happiness sometimes, I want to be very happy and make others happy around me.

26• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?

Yes a lot lol 😂, and I don't know why even, maybe I am encouraging them if they talk to me about their dreams, just trying to attentively listen to someone else's venting to help them out, and lastly because I don't want to argue or cause tension between people so I just agree to keep the peace and people's aggression away from me lol, don't need extra drama into my life 😅.

27• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?

This is hard for me to decide, but I do like to think that I follow the rules or at least try my best to follow the rules, but at the same time just try to question why is It there just to make sense of it and see if we can further improve it, and about challenging authorities I don't know really but to be honest we still have to somewhat question it first before conforming completely to it, this is what I think after all.

Hi, how are you guys?, I hope you're all doing great 😊.

Just a question about high fe and te users please, like why are they impatient and mean when someone is in distress in the group,

like I understand that you guys want peace, harmony and efficiency in your environment, I am an fe aux I get it, but what I am confused about is the blaming of that individual and demonizing them,

like yes I will be annoyed if we are having fun and someone just keeps trauma dumping on us, but like instead of blaming I just ask why and was it necessary for them to say that, for me everything happens for a reason,

so instead of blaming them I just ask and try my best to get them on the same level/ page as the group, for me as an si user I view everything in details before I look after the big picture, for me the group consists of individuals and so feels obligated to understand each one individually to find the common ground between all of us to have harmony together,

and to be honest I know that what I will say can be quite controversial but I hope you can see what I mean is that anyone of us can be prone to break down in public no matter how good their self control are as we all are humans and have limits,

also there are people who are literally physically and mentally disabled and just need our patience, help and encouragement, as they all need empathy and understanding,

so to me saying someone who might be stressed due to vacation, job or whatever lazy or selfish is just I don't know cruel, like they didn't choose to feel this way there is an underline issue here that needs help to be fixed in a gentle way that makes everyone feel safe and sound,

for me I think of it like a mom whose kid is throwing a major tantrum in a restaurant or a mall of course everyone would unfortunately be annoyed and disrupted by the tantrum normally, but is it the kid's fault? no, is it the mom's fault? Also no, there are many nuances for things around us that we don't know or are unaware of ,

like this kid might be overstimulated, is scared or even upset for not getting something he/she did want and the mother also maybe tired, irritated or just sick and needs to rest, and there comes empathy and compassion,

instead of treating and scolding those individuals with the troubled behavior, I try to connect with them and understand why they have this behavior, what and how can I help to prevent or even minimize that from happening,

there were countless of times when I successfully helped toddlers and babies stop crying and throwing tantrum just by being present, attentive and playful with them, it is me saying yes I see and hear you too your not alone I am with you, which made a lot of babies and children to love me and that's why a lot of people did make me babysit their babies haha 😆, and god this was very exhausting yet was very rewarding and I cherish those memories a lot.

So what do you think guys? I hope that I am not alone in this, but I understand if you disagree, because again everything is within context and circumstances, but what I am just saying here is that instead of jumping for judgement we can just set back and understand the why of the situation, before doing the full judgement that's all I am saying to be honest and I just want everyone to feel safe and happy around me.

Hello 🤗👋, how are you guys doing?, I hope you all are doing well 😊.

Well right now I have another typology crisis haha 😆, where I cannot type myself either e4 or e2 for my heart type, I feel I do behave like both in certain ways, so I will try to explain my motivations and behaviors for you in order to help you and hopefully you can figure out my heart type correctly 😌.

For e4: I admit that I sometimes can be melancholic, feeling empty and feeling that life is not fair and that I am behind and everyone around me is achieving things and doing something meaningful and I wish to be like them doing meaningful and significant things in real life, I want to share with others my achievement also just like they share with me, as I sometimes feel that I got some deficiencies in aspects of life as in Financial and mental sometimes telling myself I wish if I was rich and smart like them, then I will buy what I want without no anxiety or fear and will discuss any topics with confidence, but then tell myself that I am not less than anyone and everyone has their struggle and I just need to work on myself, but unfortunately I don't have enough willpower, lol that's on me and I am trying to do better don't worry 😅.

For e2: I am a warm and affectionate person, love giving and receiving love, always asking people what their likes and dislikes are, and try to be accommodating for them the best I can, also I try to be a safe person for people to rely emotionally on and enjoy bringing care and comfort to other people, as I feel when others are in peace I am also at peace lol, I am also generous and try my best to be one but truly crave for reciprocation, I don't know why but I was unlucky in the past of having toxic friendship, that consumed me so much, that I myself couldn't finish it because I was too much focused on their feelings not my feelings, until my beloved mother may god protect her literally saved me from my misery lol 😂, and I am in much better place now thank God.

I need to say that I am not a dramatic person at all, I am quite passive, easy going and withdrawn ( probably my e9 core), so I am peaceful until something stressful happens to me many times that I broke and cry a lot and in these times I just don't need advice only or advice first, instead all I need is listening ear, empathy and just validation that I am not crazy for having those big emotions in time of distress, and that's because I do the emotion support all the time with all people and just hope that they will reciprocate that to me, and I am surrounded by people who whines and vent a lot to me lol, so it actually become a habit of me as well, and so I love to whine and vent a lot lol 😂.

Hello everyone, how are you? I hope you're all doing well 😊❤️.

I am just asking because Cinderella is one of my favorite characters of all time, she is kind, gentle, supportive, and responsible despite all the mistreatment she endured through, I always took her as an example to always choose kindness and forgiveness to everyone around me including myself and that's why I feel that I somewhat kin her and find her bringing me so much comfort.

With that being said, I saw her on pdb typed as an isfj, but there are also good arguments for infp to be honest, like how she chose to go to the party behind her stepmother, falling in love with a prince she just met, and they say that links to fi ne functions, and to be honest I quite agree to that, as an isfj if someone told me not to do something I will just not do it out of respect to them or just try to persuade and convince them that this is what I need and if they refuse I just swipe it under the rug until there is an opportunity to me to get what I want, also I am quite skeptical to the concept of love In the first sight for me I need to examine someone closely and carefully in order to know if we are compatible with each others or not; in order to save our feelings and energies.

So yeah that's just what I think and I am glad to discuss her type with you, maybe there are some things that I have missed so far, it has been years since I watched the film but still remember lots of it, haha 😆.

Hello 👋 how are you guys? I hope you're all doing well 😊.

Well just a few questions please as now I know I do have

e7 in my tritype and the more I read about it I discovered

that it is actually a frustration type meaning wants to

implement specific ideals into reality instead of conforming to it and this also can be said for e4 and e1 as well;

so that's why people may confuse them at least in my case of being mistyped with those types, the thing about gluttony is whenever I have something that makes me happy I just want more and more,

I don't only want to be happy, no I want to be the happiest spreading joy and kindness wherever I go,

but the thing is I can get crushed by reality and responsibilities that keep me grounded but I keep yearning for new experiences, possibilities and opportunities not only for me but for others to escape the pain and limitations that are forced into us,

I guess people with e7 in their tritype do have some rebellious qualities when it comes to their pleasurable live styles.

So what do you think guys?, is being e7 different than that?, I get that e7 is a head type represent fear and I think that the fear is fear of pain, deprivation and limits as far as I know and which I relate to actually.

Hello everyone, how are you doing? I hope you're doing great 😃.

So, I finally found out my type after years of being mistyped as xnfp but instead I am xsfj so/sp 927, but I want to discuss it a bit further with you, please. And this is just some venting as I feel quite guilty and want to express my feelings about my type.

1- I am really not that selfless to be honest, I am somewhat selfish in my desires, however feel guilty for that and try to compromise in that area, but the thing is I am selfish as a self preservation tactic more than staying true to myself kind of thing, it is instead saying this is dangerous, stressful or not suitable for me so I tell myself that I have to refuse doing them.

2- the thing that I am truly selfless in is feelings, meaning I care about others feelings more than my own a lot of times, that I even compromise my values to cater to someone's emotions even though I am right and they're wrong but I just cannot stand hurting or harming someone, I want to be a safe person for others to rely emotionally on, and I am quiet prideful in that, but it gets draining so much that I isolate myself so often to protect myself.

3- I have a moral compass that changes every time I hear something new that shifts my perspective on things, like I know not everything is black and white, and so I found some compromises to be reasonable in some aspects in life.

4- I actually try my best to make others comfortable around me so that I can be comfortable as well, I don't like when others and I are not on the same page, and I enjoy making others laugh so much that I can use self deprecating humor and still not take it personally lol 😂.

5- I am actually not empathetic all the time, most of the time I am apathetic but pretend to be empathetic, to avoid troubles and tensions as I don't like drama and know that others need someone to understand them and ease their pain, so I try my best to help them, but I get burnout quickly and easily so I just keep isolating myself😅🥹.

So yeah this is just how I feel about my typing to be honest. So do you guys relate to that ? And I hope I am not making a bad impression with you guys, just curious in what you think to be honest and I love hearing your opinions and thoughts.🥰❤️

Hello everyone, how are you doing? I hope you're doing well 😊.

So yeah, as the title suggests I am trying to find out my type more, to be honest with you a few years ago I typed myself xnfp but considered xsfj as well as these types can be somewhat similar and also my enneagram is 974 or 972 still not sure about e2 and e4 in my tritype but will manage don't worry😅.

So I will try my best to describe myself as briefly as possible

1- I am an emotional affectionate person, when I love someone I just say it and try to know what they like to do it for them and what they dislike and try my best to avoid it, although externally I appear somewhat cold and detached but actually is really warm and enthusiastic once you get to know.

2- I am a stable, practical person meaning if I know anything useful will just do it, and often ask what's the purpose of learning a specific subject if we cannot implement it into reality, and don't get me wrong I love imaginative creative pursuits of course, but I love it more to put it in reality other than metaphorically.

3- I am quite empathetic if I saw someone I know crying I immediately talk to them to help them and would be hurt if refused my help but always remind myself that everyone needs their space lol 😂, and if someone is excited and happy I can be excited and happy with them as well, but the thing is most of the time I am detached from reality due to burnout so I can also be quite apathetic not feeling anything inside, but pretend regardless to empathize with in order not to hurt someone's feelings.

4-The thing that I crave deeply is love, acceptance,affection, peace, and emotional support, I try my best to love and be loved, so I am polite, sweet and supportive as much as I can.

5- I can say confidently that I am an ambivert, I truly enjoy having good times with others making beautiful meaningful memories together, and at the same time really like to be by myself chilling in my solitude lol.

6- I love emotional expression, but don't like drama or pettiness, although I can be that but control myself immediately I don't want to trouble myself or anyone with negative attention, and the emotion I hate expression the most is anger, as I get fight or flight when someone gets angry or when I become angry, I just hate it and want peace and harmony in my environment.

7- I am very religious and moralistic, want to do what is right and avoid doing what's wrong, and do have strong moral code, but I am not sure if it is internal or external though, I guess it is both, as I try to filter morals as a whole logically, like what makes the most sense to me.

8- people tend to love me and find it easy to talk to me, and I also love talking to people and know how to get to know them, but the thing is people consume me unfortunately, either by being clingy refusing to give me time for myself, or just straight up use me for their personal gain، and then just bunch of people ignore me like I am a ghost 😅, all that hurts so that's why I distance myself from people even if I love them dearly🥹.

9- I can be quite blunt and straightforward with someone only when I get irritated from them for stepping boundaries for too much, I am very patient and forgiving but do have limits as any human being, but I regret it immediately and just apologize a lot, because I unfortunately can get ruthless when pushed too much, people get scared of me because of this side and I try to control it the best I could, but it just slip from me and I feel guilt and shame; because I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings as I know what feeling hurt feels like and I don't want people to experience the hurt that I went through.

So yeah, this is it, I hope it is not too long for you to read and also if you do have any question you can of course ask I will love to hear your thoughts and opinions.

And I hope you all have a wonderful day 🥰❤️.