u/JordanB173

I’m 23, male, and from the Midwest. I work 60 hours a week, with people who are all 30+ with kids, and everyone I know seems to have their person. I feel so alone and I can’t keep feeling this way.

I’ve tried everything, from dating apps, to becoming a regular at places. I don’t get responses on apps, never see anyone regular around my age, and I don’t have a lot of friends to meet mutuals.

I just don’t know. I have no clue how to meet people or to make things work. I’m not a party person, and I don’t do clubs. And the job I work is 5pm to 5am, 5 days a week. It’s just that my time is limited to what I can do, and on top of that I just don’t know how.

I love deeply, and I try to be as kind and as caring as much as possible. I don’t see women in some sexual way, and I only want someone who loves me and chooses me. Not someone to chase, or to prove myself to. Someone that I can experience life with, and hold close.

I sit here, listening to fireworks going off outside and I think about how much I used to love holidays. And now I don’t. I can’t, even though I try.

Im 23. I’m single (we split 5 months ago,) I’m starting a new well paying job, I have my own place and a dog. I collect things, but wouldn’t spend my last dollar on anything. I don’t have many friends my age, and I definitely don’t really talk to anyone my age either. Anything I should be doing in general or that guys around my age should be doing?

I’m a 23m who’s always been a bit of a loner, and I’ve spent most of my adult time on helping my family or working. My weekends are about to free up a bit and I feel like I want to get myself out there and start building my own life. But I have no idea on how to meet people, and I’m not someone who really starts a conversation easily myself. Once it’s going though, I can usually get into it pretty easily. I don’t ever really go out much, so I’m pretty inexperienced in the area. Any suggestions for places or things to do? Thank you :)

Edit: I do appreciate the replies and the reaching out, and I would like to elaborate a bit. I did say dating, but that’s not my main goal right now. I’m mainly just looking to talk to people, make a few friends, and possibly date too at somepoint. I should have specified a bit more on what I meant lol. Thank you all though.

Also, I’d like to say that my interests are pretty limited at the moment, and I would like to expand them a bit. Currently, I fish quite a bit. I am a bit of a nerd, I collect lego builds, and I like watching movies. I like archery, and love going for late night drives. I know that’s all singular person stuff, and it’s why I wanted to look into doing NEW things that would introduce me to people. Random things are all welcome too!

Hi, I’m a 23 year old guy. The last few months have been pretty rough. I’m not saying things were great before hand, but they’ve definitely gotten worse.

In mid February, my girlfriend left due do a depressive episode. We hadn’t really had any issues before hand and it caught me horribly off guard. Her leaving has weighed on me horribly, as we had been really really close, discussing marriage and our future. She was the love of my life.

A week later my father got horribly sick. He still is, and I don’t think he’ll make it through the year.

A week later, a family dog died by getting hit by a car.

A few days after that, another family dog died from age.

That same day, my childhood dog was put down due to a blood pocket she had formed.

Around this time I started having panic attacks at work when we were busy.

My aunt discovered a tumor in her brain that seen week. Severe seizures and horrible issues. She has 3 young children too.

Financial problems started happening for me, and I now make half as much as I used to.

My drug addicted brother was mad at me for not letting him move in with me, so he called the police and filed false charges for harassment. I had to go to court, talk to attorneys and take off work. Got it dismissed luckily.

My mother got bronchitis, and can’t afford to go to the hospital.

Then, on Thursday I woke up to what looked like a murder scene. My own 3 year old Australian Shepherd had sprayed bloody diarrhea all over the place.

She started having just straight blood come out too. I got her into the vet, and they got her on medications and confirmed it wasn’t parvo, or an infection or parasite.

After they gave me the medications, and when I was about to pay, I blacked out and hit the ground. I went pale as a ghost, woke up and threw up, couldn’t stand or walk, and didn’t know what was going on. I also bashed my head.

They called paramedics and I got checked out. My blood sugar and blood pressure were low, and my heart rate was extremely high though. I also had a concussion from hitting my head on a wall, door, and the floor.

I’m not in a good place and I’m scared for myself.

I had a girlfriend for 5 months, and we talked for 2 months before that. During the relationship she told me about her childhood, assault that she had faced, multiple previous relationships full of lust, her mother that was emotionally unreliable, and her father who wasn’t really present.

Between the two of us, we never really fought or had any issues/arguments. I also would buy her lunch every day and dinner most nights, because her mother wouldn’t supply that and she didn’t get paid a lot where she worked.

We got really close, and also unfortunately suffered a miscarriage too. That was in mid November, and in the beginning of December she went into a depression. There has been a lot of stress, plus her mother wouldn’t let her leave home often. She felt controlled with no outlet. I didn’t see her at all in December, when we had been seeing each other every day.

I saw her again in January. I gifted her a silver and diamond necklace.

“What? Why? I’m just… me…”

That was the response I got, and I’m sure that was the moment when she felt how real this was becoming.

We had talked about kids, marriage, wants and a bunch of other stuff prior to this. I know it was early, but we had really great chemistry and connection.

So, in January I only saw her one more time after that for a double date, and I talked to her 4 times over calls. I asked if she was okay because she seemed to be distant, and would leave me on read for days at a time. She apologized and said she had a lot going on.

February 3rd was her birthday. I came over, and everything was great. We stayed close all night too, and she looked at me very happily all night long. I stayed till 6 in the morning. That was the last time I saw her.

Over the next 9 days she texted a lot more, sent selfies, and said “I love you” all of the time. Everything was great.

On February 12th, I got a text that night. She wanted to break up, and said we were “too different.” I begged her to talk to me, and she just got cold. Over the next month and a half we argued about once a week. I would tell her she never loved me, or that she used me by the end of it. She’d get upset, I’d apologize, and it would repeat. At the end of march, we had been good for about 2 weeks and I felt like things could reconnect and tried to talk to her about it. She went cold again, and even told me we aren’t really friends either.

I broke down and told her that all she had done was hurt me. I told her about a bunch of problems I had recently and she said she was sorry, then said she was going to block me. I told her was sorry too, and that I just feel so much don’t know what to do. She said the world “is giving you shit after shit, but I can’t stand by this.” I asked if we can work it out, she said “I don’t think so.” I said okay. I told her I love her, I don’t regret her.

She didn’t block me and I sent a message that night saying everything I missed about her and that she was everything to me. She read it and made a post online about being “over it all.”

We didn’t talk after that, and she has made posts and reposts over the last month that show her happy one day and completely depressed the next. She claims to not be anyone’s first pick, that her friends don’t really like her, or that everyone now just lusts over her and doesn’t love her. She is having sex with a guy to feel close to someone, but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. Then he discarded her, and then took her back.

She goes up and down a lot, but the other day she put out there “I used to be someone’s good night text.”

I don’t know what to think. I’ve tried to move on and haven’t been looking at her stuff over the last week. It’s hard, and I miss her more and more as days go on. I don’t know what to do. I know she had problems, but she was genuinely one of the sweetest and most accepting people I’ve ever met.

I just want her back.