u/JordanB173

Hi! My name is Jordan, I’m 23, and I’m from Kansas. Recently I’ve been feeling like it’s time for me to try and start a relationship again, as it took me a bit to steady myself after my last relationship. I love hard, and absolutely refuse to fake it. I want to give my all into a relationship, and would really love for someone to show me the same back.

A little about myself:
I’m 5’8, 165 lbs, white, I have brown hair and my beard grows in a copper color. I have hazel eyes and wear glasses.

I am a night owl, but I also am okay being up during the day too. I’m not too picky on my sleep schedule, as long as I can function at work. I do work nights too.

I am a nerd all of the way, in a more “classic” sense I guess. I like Marvel and Star Wars, and that kinda stuff. I collect Lego builds and mini-figures too. I don’t really touch anime or anything like that BUT I’m not against it. Plenty of people I know do love that stuff though.

I love outdoors too. Fishing and archery are two things that I love the most, but I also would LOVE someone to go hiking and maybe camping with. Walking trails is also really fun too :)

At home I like to game a bit too, and I’m really open to using that to connect if you are! Currently I’ve been playing Palworld, BO7, and Rivals. I love finding new games though to play, and I also own or have played a decent amount of the more popular games of recent. Minecraft, Fortnite, Helldivers… that kind of stuff. Open to also getting back into those or others, and my FAVORITE game of all time is Terraria. So much lore and so many different avenues to venture on that one!

Rock Band 4 also has a special place in my heart ❤️

I’m not too picky about music, as long as it’s not someone singing about vile actions in detail. I grew up on mainly older country, and I found out myself that I love classic rock. I actually just got to see Bryan Adam’s and Pat Benatar recently, and that was really fun. I’ve always loved them both and to see them in the same night was a great experience. I really like Guns N’ Roses, Bon Jovi, and Journey also.

A bit off my day-to-day life information; I live alone in a two bedroom house. I have an Australian Shepherd, and she is my world. I keep a small friend group, with some others who come and go. Not opposed to growing a friend group, I just have always been a little introverted so I haven’t tried too much. I have 3 brothers, one older and two younger.

Mainly, I’m looking for a long term relationship with someone around my age who lives kinda close. Hopefully, within my time zone. I am only interested in people from the US though, sorry. It’s just easier that way. Personality wise, I really like when someone can play back and forth with a partner, and pick at each other. In my mind a relationship should be fun, mutual, honest, and SAFE for both partners. I love being there for someone and giving advice, being there to listen, or just being a shoulder to lean on. You will always have my full honesty and heart, and all I ask is the same back. If there’s ever something that bothers you, please let me know.

My DM’s are open if anyone would like to talk. I really hope to see you there, and if not I hope you find what you’re looking for. You deserve love, and I hope you find it and hold it close. In the words of Bo Burnham;

“We all deserve love, even on the days when we aren’t our best. Because we all suck; but love can make us suck less.”

I know a lot of us stay home, but I’ll be honest that I feel a little lonely at night. Do any of you find comfort outside of the house or have somewhere to go? If not, what do you do to entertain yourself if you’re not working?

I eat between 1-3 am during my shift and I’m wondering what yall classify that as? I understand both arguments, but I’m curious. Also, best late night/early morning meal? Today it was homemade French toast and bacon. 11/10, definitely recommend m.

Learn to communicate after it ends. For those of you who haven’t been through it or haven’t been in psychology, it is psychological TORTURE or even manipulation to cut off a partner. Even if they act like it doesn’t bother them, it does. Unless they have physically hurt or threatened you, talk to them and explain why. Be kind and understanding with them. Yes, YOU OWE IT TO THEM. I don’t care if you believe you don’t, but this person wanted to give you themselves and everything they have. You don’t deserve to hurt them. You don’t deserve to leave and not hear about it or to not FEEL it.

It’s nothing personal. Relationships are messy. There are valid reasons to leave and not look back, but if you’re someone who just walks out when everything feels like it’s going good, you need to do better. If you refuse to be better, well than I guarantee that the person you left will someday sleep better knowing they are a better person than you.

I’m 23, male, and from the Midwest. I work 60 hours a week, with people who are all 30+ with kids, and everyone I know seems to have their person. I feel so alone and I can’t keep feeling this way.

I’ve tried everything, from dating apps, to becoming a regular at places. I don’t get responses on apps, never see anyone regular around my age, and I don’t have a lot of friends to meet mutuals.

I just don’t know. I have no clue how to meet people or to make things work. I’m not a party person, and I don’t do clubs. And the job I work is 5pm to 5am, 5 days a week. It’s just that my time is limited to what I can do, and on top of that I just don’t know how.

I love deeply, and I try to be as kind and as caring as much as possible. I don’t see women in some sexual way, and I only want someone who loves me and chooses me. Not someone to chase, or to prove myself to. Someone that I can experience life with, and hold close.

I sit here, listening to fireworks going off outside and I think about how much I used to love holidays. And now I don’t. I can’t, even though I try.

Im 23. I’m single (we split 5 months ago,) I’m starting a new well paying job, I have my own place and a dog. I collect things, but wouldn’t spend my last dollar on anything. I don’t have many friends my age, and I definitely don’t really talk to anyone my age either. Anything I should be doing in general or that guys around my age should be doing?

I’m a 23m who’s always been a bit of a loner, and I’ve spent most of my adult time on helping my family or working. My weekends are about to free up a bit and I feel like I want to get myself out there and start building my own life. But I have no idea on how to meet people, and I’m not someone who really starts a conversation easily myself. Once it’s going though, I can usually get into it pretty easily. I don’t ever really go out much, so I’m pretty inexperienced in the area. Any suggestions for places or things to do? Thank you :)

Edit: I do appreciate the replies and the reaching out, and I would like to elaborate a bit. I did say dating, but that’s not my main goal right now. I’m mainly just looking to talk to people, make a few friends, and possibly date too at somepoint. I should have specified a bit more on what I meant lol. Thank you all though.

Also, I’d like to say that my interests are pretty limited at the moment, and I would like to expand them a bit. Currently, I fish quite a bit. I am a bit of a nerd, I collect lego builds, and I like watching movies. I like archery, and love going for late night drives. I know that’s all singular person stuff, and it’s why I wanted to look into doing NEW things that would introduce me to people. Random things are all welcome too!

Hi, I’m a 23 year old guy. The last few months have been pretty rough. I’m not saying things were great before hand, but they’ve definitely gotten worse.

In mid February, my girlfriend left due do a depressive episode. We hadn’t really had any issues before hand and it caught me horribly off guard. Her leaving has weighed on me horribly, as we had been really really close, discussing marriage and our future. She was the love of my life.

A week later my father got horribly sick. He still is, and I don’t think he’ll make it through the year.

A week later, a family dog died by getting hit by a car.

A few days after that, another family dog died from age.

That same day, my childhood dog was put down due to a blood pocket she had formed.

Around this time I started having panic attacks at work when we were busy.

My aunt discovered a tumor in her brain that seen week. Severe seizures and horrible issues. She has 3 young children too.

Financial problems started happening for me, and I now make half as much as I used to.

My drug addicted brother was mad at me for not letting him move in with me, so he called the police and filed false charges for harassment. I had to go to court, talk to attorneys and take off work. Got it dismissed luckily.

My mother got bronchitis, and can’t afford to go to the hospital.

Then, on Thursday I woke up to what looked like a murder scene. My own 3 year old Australian Shepherd had sprayed bloody diarrhea all over the place.

She started having just straight blood come out too. I got her into the vet, and they got her on medications and confirmed it wasn’t parvo, or an infection or parasite.

After they gave me the medications, and when I was about to pay, I blacked out and hit the ground. I went pale as a ghost, woke up and threw up, couldn’t stand or walk, and didn’t know what was going on. I also bashed my head.

They called paramedics and I got checked out. My blood sugar and blood pressure were low, and my heart rate was extremely high though. I also had a concussion from hitting my head on a wall, door, and the floor.

I’m not in a good place and I’m scared for myself.

I had a girlfriend for 5 months, and we talked for 2 months before that. During the relationship she told me about her childhood, assault that she had faced, multiple previous relationships full of lust, her mother that was emotionally unreliable, and her father who wasn’t really present.

Between the two of us, we never really fought or had any issues/arguments. I also would buy her lunch every day and dinner most nights, because her mother wouldn’t supply that and she didn’t get paid a lot where she worked.

We got really close, and also unfortunately suffered a miscarriage too. That was in mid November, and in the beginning of December she went into a depression. There has been a lot of stress, plus her mother wouldn’t let her leave home often. She felt controlled with no outlet. I didn’t see her at all in December, when we had been seeing each other every day.

I saw her again in January. I gifted her a silver and diamond necklace.

“What? Why? I’m just… me…”

That was the response I got, and I’m sure that was the moment when she felt how real this was becoming.

We had talked about kids, marriage, wants and a bunch of other stuff prior to this. I know it was early, but we had really great chemistry and connection.

So, in January I only saw her one more time after that for a double date, and I talked to her 4 times over calls. I asked if she was okay because she seemed to be distant, and would leave me on read for days at a time. She apologized and said she had a lot going on.

February 3rd was her birthday. I came over, and everything was great. We stayed close all night too, and she looked at me very happily all night long. I stayed till 6 in the morning. That was the last time I saw her.

Over the next 9 days she texted a lot more, sent selfies, and said “I love you” all of the time. Everything was great.

On February 12th, I got a text that night. She wanted to break up, and said we were “too different.” I begged her to talk to me, and she just got cold. Over the next month and a half we argued about once a week. I would tell her she never loved me, or that she used me by the end of it. She’d get upset, I’d apologize, and it would repeat. At the end of march, we had been good for about 2 weeks and I felt like things could reconnect and tried to talk to her about it. She went cold again, and even told me we aren’t really friends either.

I broke down and told her that all she had done was hurt me. I told her about a bunch of problems I had recently and she said she was sorry, then said she was going to block me. I told her was sorry too, and that I just feel so much don’t know what to do. She said the world “is giving you shit after shit, but I can’t stand by this.” I asked if we can work it out, she said “I don’t think so.” I said okay. I told her I love her, I don’t regret her.

She didn’t block me and I sent a message that night saying everything I missed about her and that she was everything to me. She read it and made a post online about being “over it all.”

We didn’t talk after that, and she has made posts and reposts over the last month that show her happy one day and completely depressed the next. She claims to not be anyone’s first pick, that her friends don’t really like her, or that everyone now just lusts over her and doesn’t love her. She is having sex with a guy to feel close to someone, but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. Then he discarded her, and then took her back.

She goes up and down a lot, but the other day she put out there “I used to be someone’s good night text.”

I don’t know what to think. I’ve tried to move on and haven’t been looking at her stuff over the last week. It’s hard, and I miss her more and more as days go on. I don’t know what to do. I know she had problems, but she was genuinely one of the sweetest and most accepting people I’ve ever met.

I just want her back.