u/Kalachnikov_

Just so over it. I’ve always been the outsider, I never fit in literally anywhere, my young life is getting away from me and I have a condition causing chronic pain, I’ve secured a surgery in a years time to try and rectify the issues and it’s a bit risky but I don’t feel I have much to lose. I am tired of chronic pain, I’m tired of existing and I’m tired of being a nobody. I don’t feel like I have reasons to be alive, I have severe mental health struggles and no one could ever want to be with me or be my friend or anything. I want it all to end and be over so I don’t have to feel what I feel all the time.

Hi, I recently brought a water filter and it has changed the way I taste my coffees which is overall a good thing because previously I was using tap water for my pods without knowing it changed the way Nespresso pods taste (or any coffee anyway would taste different) but now I use filtered water the coffee flavour is more true however my milk amount is drowning out my coffee taste in most espresso shots, I’m using the Creatista frother for all my milk in hot coffee which is what I drink mostly. I fill it to just a little lower than the min like in the milk jug, I would need to use less milk in my espresso shots to get the full flavour, does anyone else have milk left over and what do you use it for? I don’t want to discard it as it seems pretty wasteful, also I’ve been close to some fern latte art which I won’t be able to try on espresso shots if I don’t use all of the milk.

Any tips appreciated

Hi, I’ve been using Nespresso for a few years now and I’m from Australia and wondering what other Aussies use for sweeteners aside from standard sugar, (which is what I’ve been using ever since starting using Nespresso) I drink mostly hot coffee with milk and some iced coffees in summer. My favourite pods are Livanto for the original line and Bianca Doppio for the vertuo line.

Thanks for all suggestions.

having a disability seems to make it impossible as a man to have any sort of love life or even a date. I have chronic pain from my disability and my disability is largely invisible but when people know I can’t really work because of my pain they basically disregard me as a human being altogether as worthless at least that’s how it feels, not even just in dating but in general. No one wants to know someone vulnerable. The past 3 months have been some of the lowest in my life, I’ve never felt mentally worse ever before. Everything seems hopeless and even though I’ve got a potential surgery in future to try fix my condition it is risky and irreversible. If surgery is successful I will have to learn how to live normally again after years of not being able to. Now you’d think that’s so exciting and happy but it’s not. I’m scared of life, my disability has protected me from the real world and its difficulties because of the difficulties it brought me with its debilitating effects. If I end up being able to live a normal life again then I might find a partner but it will never feel right because I was never ever loved or accepted the way I am now. No one valued me or would ever remotely think of loving me while restricted by disability. It’s all so overwhelming and depressing and scary.

I am trying to get DSP because of chronic pain and severe mental health issues, I got rejected when doing it myself the first time and now I’m working with an agency to help me apply with all the right wording and things that should help get me on it as I’m unable to work normally.
My question is that it says you can work 29 hours a week when on DSP but also I saw that after 2 years they assess you to see if you’re able to work 15 hours a week since you need to not be able to work 15 hours to receive DSP, is this true and if so do they kick you off DSP at the 2 year review if you’re working say 18 a week?

I can’t understand why that would be the case since after 2 years it seems you can work over 15 hours a week and not over 30 anyway so why is it that way and not just always not able to work over 15 hours a week?

I have struggled for so many years with depression and anxiety and it’s on a serious level, for the past 3 months I have been having an on and off panic attack with severe anxiety and depression.
I have a physical condition that causes chronic pain and I can’t work because of the amount of pain I get but the government rejected me for disability benefits so now I am trying again to re apply but I am so tired, if I got a surgery that could fix my pain then it’s a huge surgery and so many complications can happen or even more pain later on down the line from the surgery. It all feels utterly hopeless and if the surgery did work and I could work at some point I don’t know how I’d go since I’ve never even worked a proper job and my mental health is so incredibly bad and I don’t think I could ever sustain a job, I’d end up homeless no doubt one day.
I’m at the point where I don’t see any value in life and I don’t see any way to continue at all. I now more than ever understand why people take their own lives and escape this reality. My mental health is having a bad effect on my only support person who is my family and I live with. I have no siblings and no real connection to my other family. If I’m alone with no support one day which will happen I just know I won’t survive it. If I get disability support it is only just enough to survive and you have to budget so carefully, my mental health isn’t even up for doing that it’s all so hard and really unsustainable in terms of living.

At what point is it okay to finally give up and be at peace? I can’t go through all my life feeling this way and suffering and or being homeless one day. I can’t cope and I want a way out of all this. Life is incredibly hard and harsh I just can’t bear it now let alone for all the rest of my life which is a lot of years ahead, far far too many.

I’m really struggling to watch my life pass by and miss out on the best parts of it that abled people can do and have. I always wanted to fall in love and be with a woman who loves me and I can love her equally and spend life together in a relationship, partnership, friendship and marriage all in one but in recent years I’ve come to realise there is no hope for that when living with a disability. I have chronic pain with my disability, it’s hard to get out and do things for long and most activities cause a lot of pain, so even if there was someone who would overlook my disability and love me I probably wouldn’t get to meet them. I’m still young enough to find someone but I know that the chances are so small. I have too many negatives to me for any woman to love, the biggest one being lack of finances. Is there any way at all to be at peace alone and knowing you’ll never be loved?

I am a mid 20’s man, I have had a few decent friends before back when I was still in high school but they all faded away or backstabbed me in the case of my former best friend. My closest friend now is a really great guy and he’s not the backstabbing type but he lives far away so I can’t hang out with him much ever. I’ve had a few girlfriends again back when I was not as run down by this condition, now it’s been 7 years since my last heartbreak and I’ve never had interest from anyone since. If you’re a man with an unfortunate condition and you struggle you have no hope in this whole world. I had a lot of potential, I had strengths physically that would have carried me far in life and I could have had a completely different life to what I have now and I am just watching the time go by helplessly. If I ever try do things in my life I’m reminded by my chronic pain that there’s no way to change my situation. It’s the loneliness and being so unwanted by everyone that hurts the most. I’ve been reduced being something that people aren’t used to seeing and here and there I get a comment about my height. I am tall and that’s usually a good thing but it’s the very reason I ended up with chronic pain from my condition so it’s not as good as it sounds. Aside from those small comments here and there I am entirely invisible. I desire to have a wife and spend my life in love with a woman who loves me equally but I know there’s no hope I can’t provide much at all financially with my condition. I’ve looked at every option. I’ve asked for surgery and been told no and yet that means living in pain for my whole life, surgeons seem to think I’ll have just as much pain even with a surgery and need more surgeries later so I can’t win.

I just want to feel like others and have a normal life without always being in pain and invisible because of it. I want a fair chance like everyone who doesn’t have conditions have in life.

I have a strange disability that effects my life a lot. I’m in my mid 20’s and I have Kyphoscoliosis which is a curve in my spine plus arthritis in my lower back spinal area probably as a result of the curve above. This has resulted in severe anxiety and depression both also diagnosed. I struggle to work due to pain but this condition won’t likely cut my lifespan by much (which is meant to be a good thing but it upsets me) I struggle to be independent much at all and my mother is extremely kind and understanding. She also is my only person who cares and understands me but I am an only child sans she has me a bit later than normal. I’m really scared of when she is gone what I will do and how I will live any sort of a normal life, I won’t have anyone to turn to unless I had a partner which is my next point that I don’t think I’m going to find anyone. In my country your partners income is considered as joint with the disabled persons income in a marriage and so the disabled person gets no benefit with a full time working partner and minimal for any work at all. I am open to dating a disabled woman too of course, someone that understands the hardships it could be a good thing and even just getting by on benefits together would work as I have a fully paid 3 bedroom house left to me in future which is very fortunate. However finding someone seems to be the issue. Ever since I’ve had this condition no one has really been interested in me and I can understand. Men are supposed to provide and I can’t at the moment and very possibly never.
Is it possible to find a loving partner who would look past my disability for who I am? I don’t expect anyone to want to but I would love if it was possible.

I feel quite cheated in life, I know a lot of people like to live a long life even when they have a disability but I don’t have those same feelings. The way life looks for me ahead I don’t want to face it and go through it and be so lonely throughout.

So I’m mid twenties now and I’ve been battling with pain and trying to find options to reduce pain since surgeons have told me I will not be able to get surgery (destroyed my mental health entirely) so I am late to come to try work but I have to try something soon for some money to have at least even if just a little. The issue is I have a lot of pain when doing activities and standing for long periods is impossible with it, the other side of the problem is I despise desk work it is unbearable mentally to be looking at a computer screen for work all day.

Does anyone have any job ideas? I’d consider self employment I know a lot people do that but I’m not very confident so I don’t know. Any helpful and supportive ideas welcome because I need the help.

Might not respond for a while as it’s late I’m going to sleep will see any comments in the morning and thanks for any help that can be given.