Hello,
I am looking for a restaurant/brasserie which is kind of out of the city. Something a bit romantic, cozy and calm. Looks like both low effort but special. Better if it is in the nature or something. After dinner we can take a small walk also if it is the case. Additionally, it doesn’t necessarily have to be in Den Haag directly, surroundings are also fine.
Thank you very much.
Hello,
The guy I am flirting with texted me ”je bent leuk.” and put a kiss emoji in the end.
When I literally translate it, it is like “you are nice.” which is not a romantic thing at all. What does it really mean and how can I reply this?
I have started dating with my coworker, we said we will take it slow and see where it will go as we are coworkers. He had said to me that he has feelings for me. He is very attentive, loving, looking forwards to make plans with me. Very open to meet spontaneous too. But his messaging style is also a bit weird. He texts me in the morning, in the night, sometimes in the day but always there are hours of gaps which I do not find normal so I was suspicious.
Today we were talking about different countries and how the food tastes differently everywhere (for example McDonalds). Anyway he suddenly said ”my girl…“ and he stopped. He was kind of stressed. Then he continued “my girlfriend can only eat xxx from yyy country.”
English is not our first languages so I first though he meant a “woman friend” but then I thought why would a person make this kind of mistake. What do you think, did he accidently reveal it or is it just a mistake?
It feels super weird to ask “hey, by the way, do you have a girlfriend?” So how can I clarify this?
I have started dating with my coworker, we said we will take it slow and see where it will go as we are coworkers. He had said to me that he has feelings for me. He is very attentive, loving, looking forwards to make plans with me. Very open to meet spontaneous too. But his messaging style is also a bit weird. He texts me in the morning, in the night, sometimes in the day but always there are hours of gaps which I do not find normal so I was suspicious.
Today we were talking about different countries and how the food tastes differently everywhere (for example McDonalds). Anyway he suddenly said ”my girl…“ and he stopped. He was kind of stressed. Then he continued “my girlfriend can only eat xxx from yyy country.”
English is not our first languages so I first though he meant a “woman friend” but then I thought why would a person make this kind of mistake. What do you think, did he accidently reveal it or is it just a mistake?
It feels super weird to ask “hey, by the way, do you have a girlfriend?” So how can I clarify this?
I am a woman in my 30s so messaging is an instant thing for me. I am kind of in communication with a 50M who claims to have a romantic interest in me. The way he writes me with a lot of hours not replying seem suspicious for me. Can you let me know if this is normal? I started to feel like a side chic.
18:00 him: (a video of his garden)
19:00 me: some compliments on his garden and some playful words (message not read until 01:00)
01:00 him: Did you get home safe?
09:00 me: Yes blabla
18:00 him: Super blabla. When do you have time for us to meet?
20:00 me: At this day or this day or that day?
23:00 - no answers yet.
I’ve had a colleague who has been clearly flirting with me for 1.5 years that everyone noticed he is into me. At some point, he found out I had been on a date with someone else, and after that he casually invited me to watch a movie together. During that evening, he joked that it was our “first date” twice.
I asked him if he was serious or joking, and after some conversation, he said he did mean it as a date. He also said I’m “too beautiful” for him, that he’s “too old” for me, and referred to me as a kind of “forbidden fruit” he can’t really reach.
After that, we agreed to take things slowly and just see where it goes, since we work together. In our discussions before he mentioned that he only dates one person at a time otherwise he can not build something.
That same evening, he kissed me twice and held my hand. He also told me that for the first time in years he feels something for someone again, and that it’s a very positive and rare feeling for him.
But now I’m feeling confused. I believe he is still dating other people, although he hasn’t said this directly. His weekend schedule sometimes looks blocked, and when I ask about his plans he says he doesn’t really have anything. He had been blocking his calendar only for dates, yes I noticed the pattern without him knowing. At the same time, he continues to be very warm with me, messages me, says he misses me, and wants to see me again.
My question is: is this normal in dating culture or would you also see this as mixed signals? And what should I do?
I’m struggling to understand what is real and what isn’t, because his words and his actions sometimes don’t seem to fully align.
Thanks for reading.
Ik heb al een tijdje een collega die duidelijk met mij flirtte. Op een gegeven moment hoorde hij dat ik met iemand anders op een date was geweest en daarna vroeg hij mij spontaan om samen een film te kijken. Tijdens die avond zei hij als grap dat het onze “eerste date” was.
Ik vroeg hem toen of dat een grap was of serieus. Na wat praten zei hij eigenlijk dat hij het wél als een date bedoelde. Hij zei dat hij mij “te mooi” vindt en dat hij “te oud” is voor mij, en dat ik voor hem een soort “verboden fruit” ben dat hij niet echt kan bereiken.
Daarna hebben we besloten om het rustig aan te doen en elkaar gewoon te zien en te kijken waar het naartoe gaat (we werken samen, dus heel langzaam en voorzichtig).
Diezelfde avond heeft hij mij twee keer gezoend en mijn hand vastgehouden. Hij zei ook dat hij voor het eerst in jaren echt iets voor iemand voelt en dat dat hem heel gelukkig maakt.
Maar nu begint het verwarrend te worden voor mij. Ik denk dat hij nog steeds met andere vrouwen aan het daten is, maar hij zegt dat hij “geen plannen” heeft. Zijn agenda lijkt soms geblokkeerd in het weekend en ik heb het gevoel dat hij dat niet deelt. Tegelijkertijd blijft hij wel warm en attent tegen mij, appt hij mij en zegt hij dat hij mij mist en mij weer wil zien.
Mijn vraag is eigenlijk: is dit normaal in de Nederlandse dating cultuur als je nog niet exclusief bent? Of voelen jullie dit als mixed signals?
Ik vind het lastig om te begrijpen wat echt is en wat niet, omdat zijn woorden en gedrag soms niet helemaal overeen lijken te komen.
Dankjewel voor het lezen.
Hoi allemaal,
Ik ben een buitenlandse vrouw die in Nederland woont en sinds kort aan het daten is. Ik merk dat de datingcultuur hier best anders is dan in mijn eigen land, dus ik ben benieuwd hoe Nederlanders hier meestal mee omgaan.
Ik weet natuurlijk dat iedereen anders is, maar ik ben benieuwd naar jullie ervaringen.
Ik ben benieuwd naar zowel de ervaringen van jullie. Alvast bedankt.
I am the 32F one. He is my coworker. For 1.5 years there has been an undeniable chemistry between us. Not only sexually, but the kind that made our eyes lit when we see each other. All those times I thought I was making this up in my mind because he never made a real move except our flirtings, touches and him saying somethings “jokingly.”
I decided to move forward and one day I told him I started dating with a person. He was already dating with others. I think he got jealous and immediately asked me out to see a movie. We went out, there he joked that “its our first date” twice, then I asked him if he was purely joking or if there are hidden meanings behind it. After a lot of talks on different days, he finally said that he has feelings for me, he had been married for 18 years and last 8 years were not a marriage anymore, after so long time he feels again, it is so beautifu and makes him so happy. He also said that he wanted it to be a date but he thought I am the golden apple that he wanted but could not reach (because he said he is too old and I am too beautiful). In the end we said that we can slowly go on dates and see where it goes. We said that during this time we will keep this as a very top secret. We could not go on a real date yet as we are on holidays now but we are exchanging messages and wrote things like “Looking forward to seeing you soon, I missed you”
Now I like him but I don’t know what to expect. What kind of problems we might see? What does a 54 year old man wants? I strongly believe that he still did not kill his other dates yet and he doesn’t tell me about those ones. Is this a red flag?
tl;dr what do you think about this age gap dating?
Hello dear men,
Question is in the title. Would you date multiple women at once if you started dating with the woman you have feelings for a long time?
With my colleague that we have been flirting for 1.5 years, we very recently agreed that we can slowly start getting to know each other and go on dates and see where it goes. He said he became very happy, because he had been to a very bad marriage and years later for the first time he feels something again and this feeling is so beautiful and makes him happy.
But he is still dating other women I suspect. Is this normal?
He has been flirting with me for 1.5 years increasingly. We really get on so well. It just clicks. He is always around me in the office and everyone notices and mentiones that his interest is very obvious.
Some weeks ago I told him I started dating again and been to a date already, he immediately asked me out to see a movie then mentioned twice that it was our first date during the date, half jokingly. Then I wanted clarification from him like if he was joking or not.
After a lot of back and forth, 2 days ago he took me to the beach in the night, we walked and talked for 2 hours. He said that he really wanted it to be a date, mentioned he likes me very much, he has been married for 18 years, last 8 years were not a marriage anymore, he is now divorced for a year and he said that after so long time he feels for someone again and it makes him so happy, this feeling is so beautiful but I am a forbidden fruit for him. I told him that we can take it very slow and see where it goes. He was very happy, hugged me, kissed me 2 times on my cheek and he held my hand.
The way he looks, talks and acts seems so sincere but on the other hand, he is still going on dates with other women. I know it because he marks them on his work calendar as ”private appointment” and he had a few of them again this weekend. and when I asked him what He would do in this weekend, he said “nothing planned yet.”
I am very unhappy with this situation, I started to think he is only a player and I feel like I am being played. How to manage and clarify this and get out of this situation?
He has been flirting with me for 1.5 years increasingly. We really get on so well. It just clicks. He is always around me in the office and everyone notices and mentiones that his interest is very obvious.
Some weeks ago I told him I started dating again and been to a date already, he immediately asked me out to see a movie then mentioned twice that it was our first date during the date, half jokingly. Then I wanted clarification from him like if he was joking or not.
After a lot of back and forth, 2 days ago he took me to the beach in the night, we walked and talked for 2 hours. He said that he really wanted it to be a date, mentioned he likes me very much, he has been married for 18 years, last 8 years were not a marriage anymore, he is now divorced for a year and he said that after so long time he feels for someone again and it makes him so happy, this feeling is so beautiful but I am a forbidden fruit for him. I told him that we can take it very slow and see where it goes. He was very happy, hugged me, kissed me 2 times on my cheek and he held my hand.
The way he looks, talks and acts seems so sincere but on the other hand, he is still going on dates with other women. I know it because he marks them on his work calendar as ”private appointment” and he had a few of them again this weekend. and when I asked him what He would do in this weekend, he said “nothing planned yet.”
I am very unhappy with this situation, I started to think he is only a player and I feel like I am being played. How to manage and clarify this and get out of this situation?
He has been flirting with me for 1.5 years increasingly. We really get on so well. It just clicks. He is always around me in the office and everyone notices and mentiones that his interest is very obvious.
Some weeks ago I told him I started dating again and been to a date already, he immediately asked me out to see a movie then mentioned twice that it was our first date during the date, half jokingly. Then I wanted clarification from him like if he was joking or not.
After a lot of back and forth, 2 days ago he took me to the beach in the night, we walked and talked for 2 hours. He said that he really wanted it to be a date, mentioned he likes me very much, he has been married for 18 years, last 8 years were not a marriage anymore, he is now divorced for a year and he said that after so long time he feels for someone again and it makes him so happy, this feeling is so beautiful but I am a forbidden fruit for him. I told him that we can take it very slow and see where it goes. He was very happy, hugged me, kissed me 2 times on my cheek and he held my hand.
The way he looks, talks and acts seems so sincere but on the other hand, he is still going on dates with other women. I know it because he marks them on his work calendar as ”private appointment” and he had a few of them again this weekend. and when I asked him what He would do in this weekend, he said “nothing planned yet.”
I am very unhappy with this situation, I started to think he is only a player and I feel like I am being played. How to manage and clarify this and get out of this situation?