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I am looking for a local videographer/cinematographer in Chicago for an upcoming intimate filmed conversation.
The style is quiet, warm, and cinematic, more like a beautifully shot conversation than a traditional interview.

It will be a small setup in a home, with a strong focus on natural emotion, storytelling, and thoughtful framing.
I’m looking for someone who:
Is based in Chicago
Has experience filming interviews, documentaries, or narrative-style conversations
Has a strong eye for lighting and composition
Can work comfortably in a small, intimate production
Ideally has their own camera and audio equipment

Women videographers/cinematographers are especially encouraged to reach out, as the project centers women’s stories and intimate conversations.

If you are interested, or know someone would recommend, please send me their portfolio/website and rates. Thank you!

I am looking for a local videographer/cinematographer in Chicago for an upcoming intimate filmed conversation.
The style is quiet, warm, and cinematic, more like a beautifully shot conversation than a traditional interview.

It will be a small setup in a home, with a strong focus on natural emotion, storytelling, and thoughtful framing.
I’m looking for someone who:
Is based in Chicago
Has experience filming interviews, documentaries, or narrative-style conversations
Has a strong eye for lighting and composition
Can work comfortably in a small, intimate production
Ideally has their own camera and audio equipment

Women videographers/cinematographers are especially encouraged to reach out, as the project centers women’s stories and intimate conversations.

If you are interested, or know someone would recommend, please send me their portfolio/website and rates. Thank you!

My friend is about to have her second baby, and this has been the most challenging pregnancy for her.
She is also going through a major career transition. For years she was an amazing salesperson, but lately she keeps telling me she doesn’t feel like herself anymore.
She misses who she was before kids. She misses dressing up. She says she barely has the energy to take care of herself the way she used to, and it’s heartbreaking to watch. She keeps telling me she wants the baby out. Her first child's birth was hard and she disassociated after birth and it was hard but she is such an amazing mum.

I really want to do something meaningful for her after the baby arrives.
I was thinking about putting together a gift box just for her not the baby. Maybe a pair of beautiful heels or wedges (she loves them), a dress for her birthday (it’s only a few weeks after she gives birth), a postpartum massage gift card, and framed photos of her, both from before motherhood and some beautiful maternity photos we recently took together.
I also thought about getting her a beautiful work-friendly and beautiful bag that isn’t just a diaper bag but reflects her identity as a working mom because I know part of what she’s grieving is feeling like she’s lost pieces of her identity.
But then I stopped myself because I have never had a baby, maybe I am projecting what I think she needs instead of what she actually needs. I feel like everyone naturally thinks about the baby, but I’m wondering what it looks like to care for the woman who just became a mother.
So I wanted to ask working moms:
Looking back, what is something someone did, or could have done, for you after having a baby that made you feel seen as a woman, not just as a mother?
Or, if you could have received one gift, experience, or act of care that was truly for you, what would it have been?
I’m much more interested in caring for her than buying another gift for the baby because I know everyone else will probably do that.
If you could go back, what would have made you feel seen not just as a mom, but as yourself?
In essence, how do I make my friend feel seen after the baby comes especially because she really wants to be able to celebrate her birthday after not for the last two years. Also, when she feels like she is struggling with het career, something that matters a lot to her
Thank you all so much.

My friend is about to have her second baby, and this has been the most challenging pregnancy for her.
She is also going through a major career transition. For years she was an amazing salesperson, but lately she keeps telling me she doesn’t feel like herself anymore.
She misses who she was before kids. She misses dressing up. She says she barely has the energy to take care of herself the way she used to, and it’s heartbreaking to watch. She keeps telling me she wants the baby out. Her first child's birth was hard and she disassociated after birth and it was hard but she is such an amazing mum.

I really want to do something meaningful for her after the baby arrives.
I was thinking about putting together a gift box just for **her**, not the baby. Maybe a pair of beautiful heels or wedges (she loves them), a dress for her birthday (it’s only a few weeks after she gives birth), a postpartum massage gift card, and framed photos of her, both from before motherhood and some beautiful maternity photos we recently took together.
I also thought about getting her a beautiful work-friendly bag that isn’t just a diaper bag because I know part of what she’s grieving is feeling like she’s lost pieces of her identity.
But then I stopped myself because I have never had a baby, maybe I am projecting what I think she needs instead of what she actually needs. I feel like everyone naturally thinks about the baby, but I’m wondering what it looks like to care for the woman who just became a mother.
So I wanted to ask moms:
Looking back, what is something someone did, or could have done, for you after having a baby that made you feel seen as a woman, not just as a mother?
Or, if you could have received one gift, experience, or act of care that was truly for you, what would it have been?
I’m much more interested in caring for her than buying another gift for the baby because I know everyone else will probably do that.
If you could go back, what would have made you feel seen not just as a mom, but as yourself?
In essence, how do I make my friend feel seen after the baby comes especially because she really wants to be able to celebrate her birthday after not for the last two years.
Thank you all so much.

My friend is about to have her second baby, and this has been the most challenging pregnancy for her.
She is also going through a major career transition. For years she was an amazing salesperson, but lately she keeps telling me she doesn’t feel like herself anymore.
She misses who she was before kids. She misses dressing up. She says she barely has the energy to take care of herself the way she used to, and it’s heartbreaking to watch. She keeps telling me she wants the baby out. Her first child's birth was hard and she disassociated after birth and it was hard but she is such an amazing mum.

I really want to do something meaningful for her after the baby arrives.
I was thinking about putting together a gift box just for **her**, not the baby. Maybe a pair of beautiful heels or wedges (she loves them), a dress for her birthday (it’s only a few weeks after she gives birth), a postpartum massage gift card, and framed photos of her, both from before motherhood and some beautiful maternity photos we recently took together.
I also thought about getting her a beautiful work-friendly bag that isn’t just a diaper bag because I know part of what she’s grieving is feeling like she’s lost pieces of her identity.
But then I stopped myself because I have never had a baby, maybe I am projecting what I think she needs instead of what she actually needs. I feel like everyone naturally thinks about the baby, but I’m wondering what it looks like to care for the woman who just became a mother.
So I wanted to ask moms:
Looking back, what is something someone did, or could have done, for you after having a baby that made you feel seen as a woman, not just as a mother?
Or, if you could have received one gift, experience, or act of care that was truly for you, what would it have been?
I’m much more interested in caring for her than buying another gift for the baby because I know everyone else will probably do that.
If you could go back, what would have made you feel seen not just as a mom, but as yourself?
In essence, how do I make my friend feel seen after the baby comes especially because she really wants to be able to celebrate her birthday after not for the last two years.
Thank you all so much.

This is just my observation based on what I’ve seen over the past two years watching Thai GL.

It seems that GL couples who are closer in age tend to have more effortless on-screen chemistry than those with larger age gaps. I am just saying the chemistry seems to come more naturally, at least from my perspective.
Maybe it’s because people who are closer in age are often in similar stages of life. Maybe people at similar life stages justmeet each other differently, emotionally.

I am in my early thirties, and from my own experience talking to and being around younger women, there’s often a huge difference between someone who’s 23 and someone who’s 30. That doesn’t mean one is better than the other, but they often approach life, relationships, and emotions differently. Maybe that translates on screen, not in terms of acting ability, but in how naturally the chemistry develops.

Also, Thai GL is a little different from many Western productions. These pairs don’t just film a series and move on. They often spend months or even years together doing fan service, and building genuine friendships. I think that level of familiarity can influence on-screen chemistry especially in how they come to view and relate to each other over time. Oh! throw in the lack of an intimacy coordinator and imagine kissing someone based on how you relate to them.

Of course, there are exceptions when it comes to age gaps. I am just talking about the overall pattern I’ve personally noticed.

I would love to hear your thoughts. Influence or De-influence my opinion 😀