u/Low_Wedding_7516

So...me and my boyf both virgins at that time had our first sexual encounter 2 weeks ago and it was in my 10th day of my cycle

But my cycle length is 33-35 days long so my ovulation also generally happens late i think cuz my cycle length is long

But we did use condoms correctly and the condom didn't even tear during sex and during sex since it was our first time due to performance anxiety after i gave him a bj and he came during the bj , he was semi-hard during sex so he didn't orgasm during sex and even I couldn't orgasm but we did enjoy it

And like the condom didn't tear we did check it and after the sex within 9 hours I also took I-pill ( it's like an emergency contraceptive pill only to be taken in emergencies since it has strong hormonal effects and other side effects )

Ik I shouldn't have taken the emergency contraceptive pill but me and him were so scared and worried , we took all the precautionary contraceptive measures , I didn't really get any side effects of that pill but yeah I won't take it anymore since it's not even good for health

Did we do everything right...?? 😭😭Cuz ngl I'm really worried what if smth happens 😭😭

We would be safe right?? Since he didn't ejaculate , the condom stayed on the whole time and didn't tear and I took the emergency contraceptive pill too ( it was not necessary but our fear made me take it )

So...me and my boyf both virgins at that time had our first sexual encounter 2 weeks ago and it was in my 10th day of my cycle

But my cycle length is 33-35 days long so my ovulation also generally happens late i think cuz my cycle length is long

But we did use condoms correctly and the condom didn't even tear during sex and during sex since it was our first time due to performance anxiety after i gave him a blowjob and he came during the bj , he was semi-hard during sex so he didn't cum or orgasm during sex and even I couldn't orgasm but we did enjoy it

And like the condom didn't tear we did check it and after the sex within 9 hours I also took I-pill ( it's like an emergency contraceptive pill only to be taken in emergencies since it has strong hormonal effects and other side effects )

Ik I shouldn't have taken the emergency contraceptive pill but me and him were so scared and worried , we took all the precautionary contraceptive measures , I didn't really get any side effects of that pill but yeah I won't take it anymore since it's not even good for health

Did we do everything right...?? 😭😭Cuz ngl I'm really worried what if smth happens 😭😭

We would be safe right?? Since he didn't ejaculate , the condom stayed on the whole time and didn't tear and I took the emergency contraceptive pill too ( it was not necessary but our fear made me take it )

So me and my boyf both adults we have been together for 3 years and now since we are both adults...we finally decided / consented to have s*x , we both are virgins😭 , we had earlier decided we would wait until we are adults nd when I'm completely comfortable and okay with it and now I am okay with it...

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We have talked about it many times now since a month , we have been planning and yes he has been checking up on me multiple times if I'm completely okay with it and he reassures me a lot that at any point if I feel even slightly uncomfortable, he won't force me at all and will take care and cuddle with me..

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So since for both of us , we would be each other's first so ofc we have 0 experience of how things r done😭we have watched porn together to see how it's actually done...

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We bought condoms , we will also buy I-pill incase any accidents happen like condom breaking and all but everywhere I hve heard that I-pill is very harmful for women and it should not be a regular pill , ofc we won't do it regularly but just incase to be safe we will buy an I-pill , we bought water based lube too..and non-flavoured condoms so irritation doesn't happen inside the V 😭 , also we will do it with condom on a safe day of my cycle.

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Him and me both hve consented to it and yeah I do feel emotionally safe and comfortable with him to do this and we do love each other a lot

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But ngl man we both are afraid and very shy 😭he is very very shy even more than me so I might have to make the first move 😭👉👈

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All the people in here who have done it , can u pls help me out😭with the following queries :

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1. Does it hurt a lot during first time even if lots of lube is used ?

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2. We have bought Durex and manforce condoms both , which one is the best and most reliable to not tear?

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3. If in an accident like condom breaking happens , will taking an I-pill only once be very harmful to my health and will I get a lot of side effects by taking it only once ? ( incase the condom breaks )

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4. How do we ensure that the condom doesn't break at all or the condom isn't left inside ?

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Any other geniune advice please ur welcome to give , it would help us a lot 😭🙏

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I'm not here to karma farm anything , I'm geniunely asking for advice because I'm totally inexperienced in all of these things.

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Ur help would be appreciated a lot 🙏

Last night , when me and dad were sleeping because AC share kerna hota h raat mai , achanak se my dad told me ki - " ik you will survive in every harsh situation/ condition and tu apne aap and life ko manage ker legi tere andar voh himmat hai "

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And meko smjh ni aaya papa ne Aisa kyun bola because I hve never been able to make my parents proud of me...

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I have always been an avg student in school hamesha 80s mai aate the final exam ki percentage and kind of bas 10th mai hi 95 aaye the ek baar baaki 12th pcb mai 89 ,

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I did participate in interschool basketball competitions and science competitions and school dances and other extracurricular activities but yeah still I wasn't ever able to make them proud of me....

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they never said it to me , they were always dissapointed in me specially now because they wanted me to do MBBS and become a doctor but

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I have never been interested in becoming a doctor nor do neet nor mbbs...

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so I stopped studying for neet too because it was making me go into severe depression , I'm still in depression and have been since 3 months now , specially after neet got cancelled this year , I also took a drop year for them only...

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but I have different plans for me and my life and I'm confident in my plan so I'm going to follow that , I finally gathered courage to share my plan with my parents a few days ago , and yes I have been telling them since class 11 only that MBBS and Doctor isn't my dream or passion...but ofc yep they r dissapointed in me ,

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my mom cries almost every single day idk why and it breaks me , but I'm sorry I really really really can't do MBBS at all , I will definitely 100% suicide in MBBS because it will really break me apart...

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So i gathered courage and explained my whole plan to them a few days ago , my goals and dreams and everything...

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But jab maine unhe hamesha dissapoint hi kiya hai toh fir papa ne kyun bola aisa meko smjh nhi aaya

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When I asked him the reason he said - " you have that fire in ur eyes to live ur life acc to ur own terms and tum mai zindagi Puri jeene ki himmat and strength hai and meko pta hai tum smbhal logi apne aap ko "

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Yeh sunke toh meko rona hi aagaya😭😭😭🙏🙏i didn't know what to feel during that time because I was in depression since so many months and many times I thought about ending it all but I didn't do it...