I always wear make up to my 9-5 job. I can’t imagine going in with a bare face. But lately as I get older (I’m 36) I’m starting to feel I care less and I feel it could be quite freeing to go in with no make up. Looking around my office, I actually realised that many women don’t wear make up in.

At the same time, I don’t want to “let myself go.” I feel good when I wear make up, but I’m starting to feel drawn to going without.

Curious to hear about other women’s choices regarding make up in the work place. Do you wear it, or no?

I always wear make up to my 9-5 job. I can’t imagine going in with a bare face. But lately as I get older (I’m 36) I’m starting to feel I care less and I feel it could be quite freeing to go in with no make up. Looking around my office, I actually realised that many women don’t wear make up in.

At the same time, I don’t want to “let myself go.” I feel good when I wear make up, but I’m starting to feel drawn to going without.

Curious to hear about other women’s choices regarding make up in the work place. Do you wear it? Or do you not?

Where’s your favourite place to get a nice bit of food and good coffee?

I’ve been really struggling with HIT. I’m in the middle of a flare that doesn’t seem to be improving. Today, I noticed that along the bottom of one of the walls in my bedroom there’s black mold. There’s also mold under my bed (I have an ottoman). Could this have been contributing to my HIT? Potentially the cause? I’m sleeping in a different bed tonight but would really appreciate any thoughts/advice. My GP knows nothing about HIT.

Hi all, I have revised my recent poll to include the experience of trauma as an adult and in childhood. Both of which I have experienced myself, and as pointed out by other users this should be included as an option in the poll for clearer results.

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I experienced a sudden trauma about 5/6 months before I became symptomatic. My doctor thinks it’s highly plausible that this trauma led to my POI. I also experienced quite a lot of trauma and neglect in childhood.

I’d be interested to hear if anyone here had a similar experience? There are so many environmental factors that could contribute to POI, and I know it’s complex. But I’m quite interested in the role of trauma in the development of POI.

If you feel comfortable doing so, feel free to share your experiences. 🩷

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I experienced a sudden trauma about 5/6 months before I became symptomatic. My doctor thinks it’s highly plausible that this trauma led to my POI.

I’d be interested to hear if anyone here had a similar experience? There are so many environmental factors that could contribute to POI, and I know it’s complex. But I’m quite interested in the role of trauma in the development of POI.

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I’m 36 and I just can’t believe it. Feels like only yesterday I was 25, with so much energy, travelling, meeting new people, carefree…

Don’t get me wrong, life is good. Good career, wonderful partner and our own home. I’m
so grateful for my life. But my parents are aging, I have wrinkles, people close to me have died, and I find myself ruminating on how quickly the years go by and how much it scares me.

I’ve been feeling melancholy and longing for times and places that no longer exist. There is so much from my past that I would give anything to relive. I dunno. It’s almost like I thought I’d be young forever and now I’m… not. And I’m only going to keep getting older. Maybe this is just my current state of mind. Hoping it gets better.

I posted this on the T Females sub but it was removed for some reason.

I’m on HRT and doing really well. But I still have no libido, at all. And I don’t feel 100%.

My doctor has said T is an option but I should wait for my E dose to settle as this will convert to T and could give me what I need in terms of libido/energy. My labs show that T is normal, but a little on the “low normal” side. SHBG is 85.

I’m just a bit confused by it all. I thought T was a pretty important hormone to replace during perimenopause? Any thoughts or advice?

I don’t feel I want to have kids. I don’t have the maternal urge. I don’t want to be left broke, with no freedom and the stress of it all.

But I love my partners niece, SO much. She’s 6 and she’s just a bundle of joy. It makes me wonder if I’d feel that way with my own child. When she came to stay with us recently our house felt so sad and empty when she left. For the first time I realised what I might be missing with having a child.

But maybe with my own child it wouldn’t feel that nice?

I’m 36 so I need to decide, soon. My partner could go either way, but we’re both leaning towards being CF. The unknown scares me. What if I didn’t like my child? My partner’s sister is a pretty horrible person and I’d worry about our daughter inheriting those genes.

I don’t know what to do or how to decide. Probably rambling too much now… Any advice?!