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I’m 29F, working in taxation for 1+ year. I’m currently in Mumbai and considering an internal transfer to Ahmedabad.
I was recently diagnosed with prediabetes and I’m overweight with PCOD. Due to intense work pressure and long hours, I barely get time for proper meals, exercise, sleep or self-care.
My manager says this is “normal,” but my doctor warned me that neglecting my health could progress to diabetes and advised me to reduce weight and manage stress.
Would requesting a transfer to Ahmedabad be reasonable, given that I can continue in the same taxation role? I’m also unsure whether my boss would support the transfer or expect me to resign.
What would you do in my situation?

If a family expects the woman to work and contribute financially, while also expecting her to handle most of the cooking, cleaning, childcare, and household responsibilities, I genuinely don’t understand how that is supposed to be fair.
You can’t want the benefits of a traditional relationship while only applying the traditional expectations to one person.
If someone wants a completely traditional setup, that’s their choice. But then the responsibilities and expectations should be traditional too. And if both partners are working, then both should contribute to running the household.
I also think we sometimes ignore the fact that men and women aren't physically identical. There are things women can do that men biologically cannot, like pregnancy and childbirth, and there are physically demanding tasks where men may, on average, have advantages. That doesn't mean one gender is “better” than the other—it means relationships should account for differences rather than pretending they don't exist.
This becomes especially interesting in the arranged-marriage context. A lot of people say they want a “traditional wife,” but simultaneously expect her to have a career, earn money, manage the home, raise the children, and somehow do all of it without expecting much from the husband beyond earning his salary.
If both people are contributing, shouldn’t the partnership reflect that?
Curious what others think—especially people who are married or navigating arranged marriage.

Hi!
I'm a 29-year-old woman based in Bangalore, working as a Tax Consultant with an annual package of ₹11 LPA.
A little about me:
Love cooking , tarot reading and travelling.

Family-oriented and believe in long-term commitment.

I'm overweight, and I'd rather be upfront about it than surprise anyone later.

I've never been interested in casual dating or short-term relationships. From the very beginning, I've always believed in finding one person to build a meaningful life with.
I was in one serious relationship, but it ended due to emotional manipulation. While it was a difficult experience, it taught me the value of honesty, healthy communication, and mutual respect.
I'm looking for someone who is emotionally mature, transparent, consistent, and genuinely ready for marriage. Someone who believes that trust, loyalty, and open communication are the foundation of a happy relationship.
If you're looking for the same kind of partnership, feel free to reach out. Wishing everyone here the best in finding their person. ❤️

Looking for a Female Replacement – 2BHK near Doddenakundi Lake (No Brokerage)
I'm looking for a female replacement for a room in a 2BHK apartment near Doddenakundi Lake.
Details:
💰 Security deposit: ₹30,000

🏠 Rent: ₹9,500/month (10% annual rent increase may apply)

🚫 No brokerage

🧺 Fridge, washing machine, and stove are already available (chargeable)

👩 Female tenants only

If you're interested or have any questions, please DM me!

🏠

Hi everyone!

I am female working professional looking for a flat and are ready to move in from 5th September .

Looking for:

• 1 BHK, or

• 1 RK

Budget: Up to ₹12,000

Preferred locations: Near Bagmane Tech Park (CV RAMAN NAGAR) or nearby areas.

If you have any leads or know someone renting out a place, please DM me. Any genuine leads would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! 😊

I cleared one of the toughest professional exams, but instead of feeling proud, I feel broken. My dad was disappointed with my score and keeps questioning me, which has made me feel like nothing I do is ever enough.
My mom often tells people that she's unwell because of the stress of me not being married yet. Hearing that repeatedly makes me feel like I'm a burden and the reason for everyone else's unhappiness.
I'm unhappy in my career, constantly afraid of losing my job, and struggling with the feeling that I'm disappointing everyone around me. No matter what I achieve, it never seems to be enough.
Lately, my mental health has become very bad. I've been having thoughts about not wanting to live anymore, and it's scaring me. I'm not posting this for attention—I genuinely feel overwhelmed and don't know how to cope with the pressure, expectations, and constant feeling of failure.
If anyone has been through something similar, I would appreciate hearing how you got through it. Right now I feel very alone.

Can anyone please do reading for me on my career ? 29F… working as tax consultant… idk where my career is heading! I’m lost and anxious!!

I’m getting married at the end of this year and will be starting my wedding shopping soon. I’m trying to decide between Delhi, Mumbai, and Kolkata for shopping for my bridal lehenga and outfits for other functions (sangeet, mehendi, haldi, reception, etc.).
A few things about my preferences:
I love traditional handwork and craftsmanship over machine embroidery.

I understand genuine handwork is expensive, but I’m looking for the best value for money rather than paying only for a designer label.

I’m open to both designer and non-designer stores.

I prefer timeless, elegant pieces over heavily trend-driven outfits.

Some questions:
Which city offers the best balance of quality handwork and reasonable pricing?

Is Delhi's Chandni Chowk really worth the hype for bridal shopping?

Are there specific markets or boutiques in Mumbai/Kolkata that specialize in authentic hand embroidery?

How much should I realistically budget for:
Bridal lehenga

Sangeet outfit

Mehendi/Haldi outfits

Reception outfit

What are the biggest mistakes brides make while shopping?

Any tips on identifying genuine handwork vs machine work?

How many months before the wedding should I start shopping?

Would love to hear experiences from brides who shopped in any of these cities, especially if you were looking for handcrafted work on a budget.
Thanks in advance! 😊

I am living in a shared rented flat in Bangalore and have been facing ongoing issues with my flatmate. Over time, the living environment has become extremely stressful for me due to repeated rude, dominating, manipulative, and intimidating behavior.
The situation has affected my mental health significantly. I feel anxious whenever she is around, and I often stay locked in my room to avoid interactions and conflict. I no longer feel comfortable using the common areas of the flat. The constant stress has impacted my daily life, and at times I have experienced suicidal thoughts because of how overwhelmed I feel by the situation. I am not in immediate danger, but I am actively trying to remove myself from this environment.
As a result, I have decided to move out. My rental agreement requires a 2-month notice period, which I am willing to serve in full.
The issue is that my flatmate insists that I am responsible for finding a replacement tenant before leaving. However, I have reviewed the rental agreement and there is no clause requiring me to find a replacement. My ₹30,000 security deposit is held by the owner, not the flatmate.
The owner's response has been that this is a matter between the tenants and they do not want to get involved.

I'm relatively new to Bangalore and wanted some advice regarding a rental situation.
I am a co-tenant on a rental agreement along with my flatmate. Both our names are mentioned in the lease. The lease is due to end in June, and I do not wish to continue after the current term.
My flatmate is telling me that I need to find a replacement tenant before I can move out. However, I couldn't find any clause in the rental agreement that specifically says an outgoing tenant must arrange a replacement.
A few details:
Both tenants are named on the agreement.

Security deposit is ₹60,000.

The agreement mentions a 2-month notice period.

The deposit is stated to be refundable by the owner after applicable deductions.

I paid my share of the deposit to my flatmate, who then paid the landlord.

My questions are:
If a lease is ending and I don't want to renew, am I generally required to find a replacement tenant?

How is the deposit usually handled in Bangalore when one co-tenant leaves?

Should I speak directly with the landlord regarding notice and deposit settlement?

Would appreciate any insights from people who have dealt with similar co-tenant situations in Bangalore.
Thanks!
This keeps the discussion focused on what Bangalore renters can actually help with: lease, deposit, notice period, and replacement tenant norms.

I’m in Jodhpur and flying to Bangalore soon. Want to take some local food/sweets for office colleagues.
Looking for items that:
travel well
don’t spoil easily
easy to share
Any quick suggestions on what to buy (and what to avoid)? 🙌